Precious Predicaments

Forgiving yourself or someone else is not always easy. As a child many of us was taught to believe that when someone says that they are sorry that they meant it. Or perhaps the pain would go away. Many have learned that such is not the case as many will say the word yet lack a clear meaning of their action or the devastation that it has caused. This in turn can leave individuals feeling hurt, abandoned, betrayed or feeling deceived just to name a few. However, many do not know how to release the pain. And will carry the pain despite the consequences or destruction that it carry. Leaving one to make others pay for the behavior caused by another.

Join me and my callers as we discuss when to forgive. I will also provide  practical skills as to how to forgive. By forgiving we learn how not to drink the poison while waiting for someone else to die. It will also set your mind free so that you can move on to much bigger and better things. Monday 7/24/17 at 12pm Pacific.

When it comes to parenting where would you rank? Some just like their parents. While others strived to be different. There are many perceptions and interpretations when it comes to parenting styles, techniques and discipline. One may also have grown up with a Toxic Parent and did not even realize it.  This subject matter can also become very difficult when such behaviors are brought to ones attention. However Toxic Parents exist.

The Department Of Children And Family Services is no joke. And that old saying I brought you into this world I will take you out now has consequences. Toxic parenting is something that can leave individuals including children as they have come to realize that something was not right about what they experienced as a child once they reach adulthood. The toxicity can become such a difficult, hidden, self-blaming matter and can result in psychological trauma if the areas of concern are not addressed.

Many parents strive to do their best as a parent. We have also come to realize that there are many types of parents. Now one must come to realize that no parent is perfect and that there are many different kinds of toxicity. It has also a known fact that parental abuse damages countless lives. Evidence has also shown that many parents who were abused as children often go on to abuse their children. In met cases unknowingly

If you would like to know if you are or were a Toxic Parent join me on 7/17/17 at 12pm Pacific. The goal is not to throw parents under the bus. Let's put an end to Family Dsyfunction by stopping old behaviors, acknowledge and take responsibility for our wrongs, and  hold individuals accountable. It is also important that we make sure that the new parents do not repeat the old behaviors. When we know better we can do better. We may be hurting our children without even realizing it.

When it comes to our health many individuals take it for granted. However, when an individual is informed that they have issues regarding their mental health life can become more challenging. Mental Health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how one think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how one handle stress, relate to others, and make decisions. There are millions of individuals that are struggling. Millions of family members are also clueless as such is causing a concern for many. I can recall as a child being told that individuals were either too happy or just in a bad mood. Then  I learned of the word Anxiety and Depression. The new word is now Bi-Polar. 

If you or someone that you know is living with this disorder join me and my special guest as we provide valuable information to educate, inform and provide comfort by way of resources to individuals and their family members. 

Depression and Anxiety has met its match. Let's end the confusion regarding the lows and the highs. Let's also stop being afraid and self medicating. Depression and Anxiety affect about 12.3 million people in the United States. And as many as 60 million people worldwide.Half of all patients begin seeing symptoms between the age of 15 to 25. There is no cure but for many people the symptoms can be controlled with treatment.

Bi Polar can present with many symptoms. This can also leave the individual and others feeling helpless, emotional and out of control. There is hope once one obtain a better understanding. Sometimes an individuals can try to help only to hurt and become confused or codependent. Let's talk about this emotional roller coaster. Call 516 387-1914 if you want to share or have questions. You can also listen at anytime.

Did you know that having a conflict or disagreement with someone could actually bring you closer to that person? Conflicts are often common yet many often lack the skill to resolve them. A conflict can be viewed as a serious disagreement, argument, dispute, clash or quarrel.

Many indivuals try very hard to avoid conflicts. Yet others may constantly look to engage in conflicts. Whether one is having a conflict within themself. Or perhaps the conflict could be with another. The question is what is one to do? It is ok to disagree with another. However, why does the disagreement have to turn into a verbal argument, fight, loss of a job, break up of a relationship and in some cases death? 

It also seems like today we are living in a society where there is constant disrespect. Being polite and effective communication skills is becoming a thing of the past. When individuals have the ability to resolve conflicts quickly and painlessly, mutual trust can develop and flourish. Let's learn how to respect one another. Express your wants and needs in a non- threatening manner. When one learn how to manage their emotions effectively and not personalize things then avoiding conflicts will not be necessary. Stop running from conflicts let's discuss how to deal with them.

Join me and my special guest as we provide Conflict Resolution Skills to assist individuals as they engage in their everyday life. The conflict could be with themself, another, or within a relationship. Skills are important to have yet they need to be shared and utilized. All callers and situations are welcomed. The conflict will only fester if not addressed. A problem could also be considered a chance of a lifetime.

Many individuals continue to question whether they are doing or living the way they are suppose to be living? Constantly questioning what is my purpose in life? Am I just comfortable or afraid to step out on faith? Many individuals have also lived most of their lives mindless regarding the clear thoughts behind their actions and decisions.  We also have our youth that are searching to define their purpose in life only to be met with negativity and lack of support. To have a sense of whether you are living the life as your higher power has designed for you there are somethings to take into consideration. Take a look at your values, your belief and what you stand for. 

Why is it that some individuals are a natural at what they do? Our gifts and our purpose can go hand in hand. We all have unique abilities, talent, and gifts. Question is what is yours? And are you using it? If so are you using it for the benefit of others to make the world a better place? Or are you just using those talents to benefit yourself? When God gives you a talent, he expects you to use it like a muscle. If you use it, it will grow. If you don't use it you can lose it. It is also said that if you use it wisely God will give you more. 

Join me and my special guest Cedric Boyd and others as we discuss how to recognize your purpose and utilize your God given gifts. Monday 6/26/17 at 12pm Pacific. All callers are welcome 516 387-1914. Let's talk and share your gifts, godly wisdom, fears and frustration

A good father makes all the difference in a child's life. He is a pilar of strength, support, discipline and wisdom. It is often said that anyone can be a father however it takes a real man to be a daddy. In honor of Father's Day join me and my special guest Cedric Boyd author of The Good Wolf and Dr. Davis R. Inniss author of Being The Dad I Never Had: Lifelong Lessons For Fathering After Fatherless as we give honor where honor is due and help those due better that are struggling with being a father. In most cases we parent as we were parented. However when we know better we can do better. 

Listen, share or join me live on Monday 6/19/17 at 12pm Pacific by calling 516 387-1914. Your stories, insight and tips are highly welcomed

Children today are not what they use to be. Today many parents are struggling with trying to figure out why their child is angry, not listening, lying, disrespecting authority, their parents and others? This is leaving parents feeling helpless, hopeless and desperate. One might say let's go back to the good old days. Others might say a whooping did not kill me. And I recall telling my daughter just redirect the behavior. 

Anger is a valid emotion. Yet when it is coming from a child many become confused especially when there is Child Protective Services on one end and children killing their parents and others on the other end. So where do we draw the line. How can we determine if an emotional outburst or defiant, aggressive behavior is beyond the normal temper tantrum?

Join me, my special guest, parents and professionals as we discuss this topic. The goal is to provide insight into childhood anger, address defiant behaviors, educate parents and family members. We will also provide resources and assistance for struggling children and their parents. A pill will not solve all of your child's behaviors. As parents we can also either continue to ignore our child's behavior or pay later

When should a child be separated from their parents? Today's show is about Parental  Alienation which is a term developed by Richard A. Gardner in the early 1980's. This term refers to what is described in which a child on an ongoing basis, belittles and insults one  parent without justification. This could also be due to combinations of factors, including information that is given to the child by the other parent which is what happens in most cases. There are different levels of alienation and up to eight symptoms that can become present in the child. 

No parent is perfect. And children do not get to choose their parents. And in many cases what we are seeing is a rise in parents breaking up which also effects the children. Most children whose parents live apart from each other long for a good relationship with both parents and want to be raised by both parents. However when their is constant fighting, abuse or addiction where does one draw the line? And in some cases one parent may just be upset about the break up and will alienate the child from the other parent. 

Join me and my guest as we discuss this important topic. It is very important that we raise happy, productive and emotionally stable children. If your marriage or relationship failed let's not fail in parenting ourchildren by learning how to Co-Parent and let's put an end to Parent Alienation.

The term codependency has been around for decades. Originally it applied to spouses of alcoholics. Later it was revealed that it was more prevalent in the general population  than was previously imaged. As the term was later explored it was later believed that if one was raised in a dysfunctional family or had an ill parent one could also be codependent. Then relationships with individuals were explored and symptoms and behaviors became questionable. 

Anyone can become codependent. If you believe that you are someone you love continues to engage in codependent behaviors. Or perhaps you want to know if you are in codependent relationship join me and my callers as we discuss the signs, symptoms and behaviors of codependency. We will also provide tools and resources to discontinue such behavior so that you can stop the dysfunction and live a healthy life. I will be on live Monday at 12PM Pacific. You can also call in if you want to share

Living with your adult child can come with many challenges. In some cases your adult child may have moved out of the home but is still driving you carzy. Or perhaps they went to college, married or had children and now wants to return home. What is a parent to do? All parents say that they want the best for their children. Yet when they become adults and start to challenge your authority many parents do not know what to do? Join me as I will be live on Monday 5/22/17 at 12 PM Pacific as I provide parents tips on how to Set Boundaries With Your Adult Children. Many parents are co-dependent, enabling, and hurting their adult children. Many parents have tried to teach their children how to be responsible yet they were not taught how to be held accountable for their lives. Then they want to return to your home with drama, children and perhaps broke. I understand that every situation is different however for those that feel like they are living in hell, stressed out, having problems in their marriage or relationship due to their adult child returning home you do not want to miss this show. And if you are an adult child living at home this show may also help you obtain resources to transition out of your parents home so that you can live a productive life. The goal is to teach parents and their adult children how to develop a healthy relationship as the parents learn how to set and develop boundaries with their adult children.