Precious Predicaments

Guilt is an emotion and should not be a life sentence. Guilt arises when an individual become aware of failing to be the best they could have been. Guilt can come or go. Guilt can also be debiliting resulting in depression, shame,  manipulation, or other inappropriate behaviors. 

Have you ever questioned your parenting style or skills? Are you constantly being reminded by your children, family members or others about your parenting skills or lack there of. Later to start having the following run through your mind: My child went into the Child Welfare System. I wasn't there enough. I did not listen to my child. I was not affectionate enough. I went to jail. I left the other parent. I failed to protect my child. I was a single parent not by choice. I could not financially provide for my child.

If we continue to let those words ring in our head others will be able to control , abuse, extort us. Guilt can be a waring sign or a nudge in the right direction. However when guilty parents become stuck in their pain it could cause more problems for themselves, their children and the rest of their family. They will forever try to make their children happy as they suffer in pain and silence.

Join Dr. Lisa Romain and myself as we discuss this topic. Many parents are remaining silent yet acting and parenting out of guilt either knowingly or not. Let's break the silence and forgive ourselves. Let's discuss healthier ways to manage your guilt or shame. No parent is perfect. Children can learn from every experience in their lives even the mistakes of their parents. Some parents are overcompensating, driven to make their child have a pain free lifestyle or perhaps have been abandoned by their adult child. Let's discuss the challenges, frustrations of being a parent. Let's demonstrate compassion instead of guilt. Monday 5/15/17 live at 12:00 PM Pacific.

Whatever happen to respecting your elders? Or honor thy mother and father so that thy days will be longer here on earth. Mother's Day is approaching on May 14th. I myself lost my mother ReJean Brooks AKA Precious to breast cancer in 2008 before she could even become age 65 to be consider a Senior Citizen. I also have many friends that have also lost their parents and grandparents. There is a Silent Crime Against Seniors that is on the rise. Each year thousands of seniors 65 and older are abused, neglected and exploited. However few report it because they are afraid. Many seniors cannot take care of themselves. In most cases they rely on family, trusted friends and spouses to help meet their needs only to become abused byway of physical, psychological, emotional, financial, sexual, neglect, abandonment, self neglect, institutional abuse, and domestic violence. 

The key to prevention and intervention is having the ability to recognize the warning signs and get some help.

Is you are caring for an aging parent, concerned about how your neighbor, friend or family member is being treated join me and my guest as we provide information, resources and assistance to Stop Elder Abuse. Monday  at 12pm Pacific. You can join the conversation by calling 516 387-1914.

In in the voice of my mother, "Keep Living". Sick days and old age comes to everyone

Many individuals may find it had to believe that they may be their biggest enemy. While it may be easier to blame others for our problems, failed relationships and missed opportunities. The true problem is that many self sabatoge things. How many times have we acted against our self interest then later asked ourselves why did we do that? Self sabotaging thoughts and behaviors are perpetuated by an inner critic that we all possess. When we learn to move ourself out of the way we will then learn to open ourselves to great opportunities. 

Join me and my Special Guest Barbara Jefferson Devers as we discuss this topic on Monday 5/1/17 at 12pm Pacific. Or you can click to listen later. Also call 516 387-1914 if you would like to share or join in on the conversation

As many of us know relationships comes with a host of challengages. However as human beings we want to be emotionally and sometimes physically connected to another. By nature we all should want to be loved, respected, understood and appreciated. Often times when interacting with some individuals or relationships it may lead tohaving one question is it really worth it? Relationships take work. And some relationships are more difficult and require way more than we may be willing to give. Therefore how is one to know if they should continue to work it out or throw in the towel. Let it be known that it takes two individual to have a toxic relationship. This is a relationship that is not safe, characterized by insecurity, self-centeredness, dominance, control at best dsyfunctional. So why stay? 

Join me and my special guest Charles Kahalifa King as we discuss this sensitive topic. Be it a marriage, dating relationship, working relationship or family member. Toxic Relationships can be dangerous. the goal is to provide awareness, insight, resources and a possible solution regarding Toxic Individuals and Toxic Relationships.

April is Child Abuse Awareness Month. Join me and my special guest Kim from Hannah's Children Homes and Dr. Lisa Romain as we discuss and educate individuals regarding Child Abuse which consist of physical, sexual, psychological, neglect, and emotional abuse.   The term child abuse and child maltreatment are often used interchangeably. However there is a distinction between them. Different states have different laws however the aftermath can last a very long time. 

Did you know that every ten seconds a report is made about a child being abused?And about four children die every year as a result of abuse. It is also known that many children are being horribly mistreated every day by adults who are meant to love and care for them. With that being said the effects can last well into adulthood especially without intervention leading to depression, anxiety, disassociation, PTSD, eating disorders, addiction, suicidial thoughts, personality or attachment disorders. 

The show is not designed to make parents feel bad. The goal is to teach individuals how to recognize the signs and symptoms, provide information regarding the courts, social services responsibilities, court referred programs and community resources. 

Let's put an end to Child Abuse. I understand that times have changed and many still believe that a good whoopin did not kill anyone. Yet today many parents are losing custody of their children. Children are confused and becoming angry at their parents. The Courts and Social Services are struggling to figure out what to do. And the Aftermath of abuse is effecting individuals in many ways including their relationships. 

If you have something to share call 516 387-1914 to share your experience or a creative solution to this issue.

Many have had the experience of giving birth. Others have also had the experience of watching a love one bring a bundle of joy into theirfamily. But what we may not understand is that childbirth can trigger a vast plethora of powerful emotions in both parents ranging from excitement and delight to anxiety and depression. Join me and my special guest as we provide information regarding Postpartum Depression. We will explore the symptoms and provide resources. Many are not aware that Postpartum Depression is a severe form of depression occurring after childbirth and pregnancy. One study found that out of ten thousand participants one out of seven mothers with newborns have experienced Postpartum depression. The symptoms may present itself anytime in the first year of birth. 

If you are a new parent, family member or friend join me and my guest on 4/10/17 at 12pm Pacific as we will be discussing this important topic.

Tuesday April 18th is the tax filing deadline. Many have already filed yet some are still awaiting to see if they are going to get a refund. Question is, What's In Your Purse or Wallet?" And how much did you save or invest. There is a difference in being poor, working poor, ghetto rich, middle class, being rich or having wealth. Everyone was not born with a silver spoon in their mouth.  Most of us had hard working parents yet many of us were not taught the true meaning of finances. One might say more money less worries. And when it comes to relationships 7 out of 10 couples report that money causes tension and often results in fights and divorce. Men and women also have different views when it comes to money. Are you insured? Do you have a living will or trust? Are you waiting to retire or to obtain a social security check?

Join me and my special guest Diana Jo Executive Vice President and Co Owner of PHP Agency as we educate individuals regarding their finances. Let's learn how to earn more, spend less and invest the rest. Let's also strengthen our relationships as we learn who to communicate with our partners regarding community property, personal finances and the future for our children. Monday at 12pm Pacific. Call 516 387-1914 if you have any questions or want to share how money is effecting your relationship.  Is money really power?

Sexual assaults affect many lives both directly and indirectly. It is a crime that spans age, sexual orientation, religion and gender, and affects people of all socialeconomic backgrounds and educational levels. It is estimated that one in five and one ine 71 men are raped in the US. That is more that 23.6 million survivors. Sexual Assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs withou the explicit consent of the recipient. This can be sexual assaults, sexual activities as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling and attempted rape or forcible rape. Men as well as women, adults, teens and children have been victim an assault. The incident can occur in the home, schools, community, workplace including the military. Sometimes the assault is committed by a stranger. Most often it is committed by someone the person may know. Sexual violence is always wrong. Individuals that are sexually abused may suffer serious health problems and develop mental health symptoms. Many individuals are still holding onto their trauma. This however can continue to have a negative impact on their personal life and effect their personal relationships with others. One may also exhibit behavioral problems. Let's End The Slience And Heal The Wounds. Join me Jeanette Abney and Catherine McConnell as we discuss this topic.

If you have been molested, assaulted or raped, or perhaps you are dating married or related to an individual that has experience the tramatic event this show will be well worth listening to. The show is designed to educate, empower and provide resources so that you can release your pain in a healthy way. If you was told that No Body Will Believe You. Or perhaps you have been holding on to this secret for too long we are here to help. And if you have healed or would like to share what has helped you please share what helped you get through with others. The number to call is 516 387-1914.

Whatever happen to being faithful? Is being in a monogomous relationship to difficult? 90 percent of Americans believe infidelity is unacceptable yet 30 to 40 percent of people engage in it. Cheating and infidelity is associated with adverse outcomes such as depression, domestic violence, divorce, children out of wedlock, sexually transmitted diseases, and even homicide. Considering these negative effects, why do people cheat? Join myself Jeanette Abney, Dr. Lisa Romain, Alicia Taverner, and Danielle Metcaf also known as Ms. Hitch as we discuss, "Why People Cheat? 

As you can see we have several professional that have a wealth of personal experience and information to share with you the listeners. We however also want to hear from cheaters and those that have been cheated on to obtain the prospective of others. The show may be painful for some and can be a solution for others. Infidelity is something that must be explored. Many individuals have trust issues and others get blamed for what was done to their partner or spouse by another.

Before we can accuse oneof cheating we must first acknowledge what type of relationship we are in. The show will explore different types of  relationships: Single And Ready To Mingle; You Said You Was My Boo. I Thought We was In A Committed Relationship; You Lied To Me In Front Of God And All Of My Friends. 

Call 516 387-1914 at 12pm Pacific to share your story.

After last weeks show I received several comments as many wanted more information regarding love, sexual behaviors and the flesh. Many individuals have their own views and attitudes as it pertains to sex and sexual behaviors. This topic is of interest because many do not feel comfortable talking about sex. Information is constantly surfacing in the news regarding inappropriate behaviors. A statement was made regarding how sex and the silence of the church is crippling God's People. If parents don't know how to talk to their children about love, sex, sexual behaviors and the flesh what is the church suppose to do to address this matter? Many individuals have deviated from the church and others may have never entered into a place of worship. This show is not to expose sexual behaviors. The purpose is to educate, provide information and resources regarding this topic. Join me, my Special Guest Heather Sequin a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction  from Clear Choice Counseling and Pastor Larry Sauls of Atmospher Of Faith Christian Center in Vista, California. This episode will also Include a discussion regardinghealthy and unhealthy sexual behaviors. The Flesh can be weak however knowledge is power. Please call 516 387-914 if you want to join in on the conversation on 3/13/17 at 12pm Pacific.