Preggers Can Be Choosers

When Enough is Enough and its TIME TO LEAVE.

Big Bold Trigger Warning

One of our peeps is in a bad scene, so this episode contains domestic violence, alcohol abuse, and in general a feeling of being scared for our girl and her kids. It's enough that Katelin, our current host, asked me (Rowan) to get this up ASAP.

So here you go. 

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Links Links Links

Houston Domestic Violence Hotline ~ https://www.domesticshelters.org/help/tx/houston

Alanon ~ https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings

 Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #bewell #covid #domesticviolence #alanon 

After Birth 2/23/21 "Is This as Good as it Gets?"

"Google: What do I do when I feel like shit?" ACTUAL QUESTION from Eli. 

When is #postpartumdepression just straight-up #depression?

So we put on our thinking hats, and start sharing like a mofo, Bev especially walks us through her journey with medication, and how she thinks waited too long to take them. HINT: #intrusivethoughts

talk therapy ~ Mental Health Match or Punk Rock Psych Doc

daily fitness ~ outside, walking, 20 minutes

supplements ~ Aviva Romm says this 

Your peer support beezies ~ that's us, we your beezies. sign up for text reminders 

Rowan mentions that Courtney from Mommastrong.com is an advocate (and by advocate we mean gets on Rowan's ass about it) of #zerotasking, which leads into a hilarious convo on men "relaxing." HAHAHHAHAHHA.

Concerned about medications? Mothertobaby.com

we never made it to talk about vaccines. Oh well, next Tuesday.

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #Marfa #socialmedia #waterbirth #birthcontrol #tubestied #tubal #community

AfterBirth 12/1/20: He Mad. The Birth Control Episode. 

Well hello there.

#CovidThanksgiving check-in starts us off!

And then we are up and rolling when with a bang when Sarita tells us why her MD is refusing her access to a tubal.

Also up for discussion are ways to decrease cortisol, Sam plans her birth team and a general convo about birth providers working more effectively together.

We review who is doing what for birth control, Looking for nonhormonal options. 

and Tiff gives a shout out to how she is dialing back social media, The Social Network. Watch this if you haven't yet.

And Rowan wants everyone to try her Preggers Prebiotic Porridge 

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #Marfa #socialmedia #waterbirth #birthcontrol #tubestied #tubal #community 

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group 

Take Your Baby to Work Jobs ~ 

3 Types of Mom Jobs. Private CNA,  Meal Prepper, Preschool Teacher. 

What's working, what's not.

'Basically, I'm fucked next paycheck." ~ Bev, and right at the end of the episode she gets terrible news. 

Where's Rowan ~ the Lincoln Bomb Shelter 

We talked about Equanimity ~ https://www.tenpercent.com/meditationweeklyblog/the-power-of-equanimity Cause being the calmest person in the room makes you the most powerful.  

The Preggers Prebiotic Porridge that Rowan wants everyone to try. Recipe to try out. WHY? Eliminate breakfast decision fatigue, promote gut health, and its cheap and easy to make. WIN

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #breastfeeding #breastisbest #fedisbest #momjobs #backtowork #singleparent #covid

AfterBirth 10/27/20: Worse than Labor?!!! Afterbirth Pains!

Sarita has baby Autumn, tells her birth story. 

Rowan chimes in as her provider. 

We also talk poop and pushing. 

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #DropDeadFred #BananaSuit #breastfeeding #breastisbest #fedisbest

Afterbirth 10/6/20: My Baby's Birthday Makes Me Cry

"Instead of being happy with my kid's birthday, it brings up birth trauma and grief for what I didn't get get".  ~ this in from new member Lindy

Points of talking were:

and how this plays out negatively and positively in almost all birth environments. 

Miscarriage brings up "the what if spiral" and how the not knowing of why this happened is one of the worst aspects of a rough time for many.  Also compassion to Chrissy Tegan and her family during this hard time. I appreciate her sharing her raw AF grief and shining a light on a horrid time that often gets hid. 

 The grief box ~ https://twitter.com/LaurenHerschel/status/946888649781608448

Tiff and Katelin say schedule time on the reg that is the same time so that you prioritize, and even if you don't have anything to do, hide in your room with a locked door and read a book. Whatever going on outside that door is a plastic ball that will bounce. 

Wait, what?

Rowan heard a great analogy attributed to Nora Roberts about dropping balls when juggling the work/life balance. When juggling balls, one or more is going to fall, like this is a given. Which ball s plastic, and will bounce and be fine.  Which is glass and won't bounce.  Spoiler alert: Moms and postpartum folx are treated as disposable styrofoam when instead, YOU are the glass. Article link https://twitter.com/jenlynnbarnes/status/1220182162118451200?lang=en

This is the song on repeat in my head, our group anthem. https://open.spotify.com/track/79qxwHypONUt3AFq0WPpT9?si=vvCx_FI4SNOZBbjFoUYNcg

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #DropDeadFred #BananaSuit #breastfeeding #breastisbest #fedisbest

Today's theme:

"Fuck everyone trying to tell me what do."

"If it doesn't work out in a week, I'm going to let this go" from Bev,  "cause, the toll on my health is going to be way bigger than formula on her health."

Resources for Milk Shares 

Formula food delivery in Houston https://www.formula911.com/

Good idea alert! Fundrasing for birth services: This is the link for the "gift registry" for the birth photographer that Sam mentions http://kedocumentary.com/gift-registry

When I (Rowan) asked if things felt big, Kayshia talks about being scared of  leaving the baby,

Maggie's family is "overspoken" on her breastfeeding, not enough, too much,  and needs more sleep.

And there were tears, tips for increasing supply, and camaraderie galore. So, a good day. 

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #DropDeadFred #BananaSuit #breastfeeding #breastisbest #fedisbest 

After Birth 9/15/20 It's Overwhelming.

Afterbirth, the Fourth and more Support Group.

Its overwhelming, why?

kids are sick and needy, and being pregnant is sucking the life out of you in third trimester

And why is asking for help such a bitch? 

Pinterest pages, on what to ask for help with day by day, were helpful for Katelin

Not knowing that some things are not as instinctual as they say ~ Katelin

How not to hate yourself when you ask for help and it doesn't go the way you want it. 

Back pain while preggs tips:

Tens Unit 

cold

heat

Massage ~ for North Houston Birth center Pts 

Fertile Alchemy Magnesium oil  

Chiro in Houston who took Tiff's Medicaid ~ Pace Chiro Pt https://pacechiropt.com/ 

Boric acid capsules get a shout out, used for healing chronic yeast and BV ~ https://preggers.rocks/boric-biz/ to learn more, or order here

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #SpinningBabies #SpinningBabiesAwarePractitioner #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #DropDeadFred #BananaSuit

Afterbirth, the Fourth and more Support Group.

Heavy emphasis on the MORE today. We were all over the map today, chatting Halloween, Drop Dead Fred and Rowan thought she was gonna get canned from North Houston Birth Center (seriously y'all, I would of fired me.)

Boric acid capsules get a shout out, used for healing chronic yeast and BV ~ https://preggers.rocks/boric-biz/ to learn more, or order here

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #SpinningBabies #SpinningBabiesAwarePractitioner #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections #DropDeadFred #BananaSuit

After Birth 8/25/20: Online School is a B!TCH

Comparing notes on school, and how to make any of this work,

Spoiler alert, it doesn't.

Bev talks about kids on the spectrum, trying to be in 5 places in once wth online school.

Tips on doing the best you can with what you have.

Katelin's kid is doing in person mostessori school.  She tells us how it its going.

Sarita and Tiff are on the same page of opting out becuase they feel lie there is low ROI for a preschooler. 

Maggie weighs in on long term implications for social development, what will this mean in ten years for our kids and society. 

Boric acid capsules get a shout out, used for healing chronic yeast and BV ~ https://preggers.rocks/boric-biz/ to learn more, or order here

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Links that may help are: Call the PSI HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

Text Support: send a message to their Helpline at 503-894-9453

AfterParty in the  FB group~ https://www.facebook.com/groups/PCBCAfterBirth/

Text reminders so you can join us LIVE, Tuesdays at 11 am central right here https://tapit.us/zeep18

All things Preggers at https://preggers.rocks/

Alert ~ Be wary, we are a little sweary. Get your earbuds if you are concerned about tender ears and sensibilities.

#postartumdepression #houston #love #preggerscanbechoosers #thisiswhathealinglookslike #AfterBirth #4thtrimester #postpartumdoula #love #toddler #pandemic #family #biting #xmidwifex #straightedge #midwife #doula #SpinningBabies #SpinningBabiesAwarePractitioner #postpartumsupportgroup #12step #addiction #bewell #covid #autism  #blacklivesmatter #blackmorbitity #surgicalbirth #JJWAY #medicaid #birthcenter #BV #yeastinfections