Probably Poly

This episode opens with a quick update to our Episode 21, following updates released by the survivor pod calling out Franklin Veaux (relevant links below).

We then move into discussing how defining what we consider knowledge in the context of relationships helps create a shared dialogue and avoid common pitfalls of relationships. We hope you enjoy.

Survivor Pod Update: https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/light-shadow-and-movement-c970165e4b86?fbclid=IwAR3nt944mliiVQzDm32lEASn066z-pz3JwH8uC2Pp7yqS6MdweVzW9DcMcY

Public Tracking Document: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1IIZtz6HyI-bRZs26DwNTWwYtQ_l5R4Il9zj2PKEflas/edit?usp=sharing

Screenshot of Franklin’s Original Quora response: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1khw2k9JUfES3ymj5JE-TWNzE0SI4VYay/view

Franklin’s Facebook Post: https://www.facebook.com/franklinveaux/posts/2451865108160282

Writing by Eve Rickert

It Was Never About the Nail: https://brighterthansunflowers.com/2019/02/23/it-was-never-about-the-nail/

To the Next One: https://medium.com/consent-culture-a-conversation/to-the-next-one-e92f62915281

Public post from the Survivor Pod Explaining their choice of liaison: https://www.facebook.com/iwantlifeineveryword/posts/10162514616460354

This week instead of theory we talk news. As many of your know by now Franklin Veaux has been accused of abuse by a six member survivor pod. You can, and should, read their statement (link below). We do our best to discuss this extremely important and complex topic and have linked many helpful and illuminating articles below.

Links:

Survivor Pod Statment: https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/on-light-and-shadow-polyamorys-metoo-411e0275c2fe?fbclid=IwAR0b7fYPlkG4tBjPuCOQ81_p-rcZLtA2F2ewg-WHaSXYB5YIY39JVDMylRI

Eve Rickets Abuse Description: (possibly connected, unclear): https://ourbetternatures.wordpress.com/2018/11/08/guest-post-anger-management/?fbclid=IwAR3JRffiwA3rHAs9v9jS5RX-7hvdhMRhdE6z-_oYiMtyFbuajaPkWfRkgHs

Redit Repost of Franklin’s February 11th response on Quora with original link (now deleted) and official response from survivor pod representation: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/aph1uq/on_light_and_shadow_polyamorys_metoo_franklin/eg8imc0/

Additional Article on Background Work: http://louisaleontiades.com/polyamorys-metoo/?fbclid=IwAR2MkHf3CbLlGNJbRJrbGR_zlA4ZwqkiF1GwQiwYqo4gLu1Qe6PJUeIb420

Only a couple of days before Valentine’s Day we know, but we still think it's helpful and whatever you learn this year you can still use next year. Join us to hear about why people care about celebrating holidays on their “official day”, other alternatives, and how to have those discussions.

Ever wondered what gives an action, or person, their moral worth? Do you wonder where our own values come from? Or, how to check in on if you are upholding your own ethics? Well then, join us this week on a deep dive to some of the foundational questions that any ethical project must answer.

In the sister episode to “Opening up Our Relationships” we focus on the methods and tools we suggest for having the safest and most ethically sound relationship transitions. Make no mistake, however, this episode is about much more then “opening up”. It is, at base, an episode on navigating difficult conversations through the lens of opening up.

We bumbled through it ourselves, but we’re hoping you won’t have to.

Join us, for what may be the best episode so far. We evaluate how to communicate with, and your family int the most difficult of circumstances — the holidays. Hear about our best and worst experiences and the strategies we have developed for improving communication outcomes.

So join us as we discuss the complex world of interconnected wants and needs that is any given holiday.

Join us this week to hear our thoughts and stories on opening up our own relationships, well Mandee and mine at any rate. Sarah, hasn’t opened up a relationship so she just asks insightful questions.

What’s the difference between ending a relationship and transitioning one? If you do transition a relationship what are your options? How does navigating the end or transition of a relationship differ between polyamory and non-monogamy. Join us this week for the answers!

We at Probably Poly are proud to present our first Outtakes episode. Come listen to just a few of the sound files we’ve had to cut for time and get a behind the scenes look at our process, and hopefully some laughs.

What does it mean to you? Is it different for monogamous and non-monogamous communities? If so how? What is the difference, if any between commitments to sexual partners and non-sexual friends? This week on Probably Poly we talk commitment and try to answer these questions and more.