Project Love

Hi lovely,

We are coming to the end of 28 Days of Love, our self love challenge that we have been running since Valentine’s Day. And in this week’s episode, we talk about what we have each learnt from doing this self love challenge, particularly during lockdown and after almost a year of living in a global pandemic.  If you have been doing 28 Days of Love with us (yayyy!) then we would love to hear how it’s been for YOU and what lessons you are taking away from it. And if you would like to start the challenge then you can do it anytime - simply head over here and download your free PDF guide to getting started (plus you’ll also find a big list of lockdown-friendly ideas to get you started on your self love journey). It’s a great one to do with friends! Whether you are new to self love or you are wanting to deepen your self love practice, we hope these lessons and insights will inspire you on your own self love journey 💖💖💖 We hope you enjoy the episode! So much love,Selina & Vicki X

Hi lovely,
I have a gorgeous episode for you this week! I got to interview my dear, wonderful friend Eve Lewis on all things meditation and mindfulness.
Eve is a mindfulness and meditation teacher and she is the director of Meditation at Headspace. 
I have a real soft spot for Headspace, it is the app that taught me how to meditate, around 10 years ago. It’s one of my favourite apps and a firm staple in my self love toolkit 💕
If you’re familiar with Headspace, then you will likely recognise Eve’s voice in this episode as she’s one of the teachers in the app! 
Eve and I met around 10 years ago when we both worked in advertising. We actually just celebrated a decade of friendship on a recent zoom date. And on that date, we each took a moment to connect with our younger selves and to celebrate the journey’s that we have both been over this past decade. 
Mindfulness and meditation have, without a doubt, played a huge part in my self love and self development journey over this past decade. The practice of meditation has supported me through all kinds of ups and downs in my life and it’s had a big impact on how I relate to myself and how I relate to others too. 
In this episode, we talk about:

Here is the link to the study I mentioned, on the correlation between mindfulness and lower levels of attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance (fascinating!). 

Here are the brilliant dating meditations that Eve did for Hinge. 
The two attachment theory episodes I mentioned can be found here and here.
And finally, head here if you’d like to try Headspace for free. 
I loved recording this episode so much. 
I hope you enjoy it too!
Love, V xx
PS looking for more resources, support and inspiration on all things dating? Pop your name down here and I’ll send you my Sunday love letter each week! ❤️

Hi lovely,
It’s Selina here today, bringing to you what I feel is such a powerful and important conversation about a topic that many of us (myself included) really don’t talk about enough. And we need to.
In this episode I had the wonderful opportunity to talk to Anna Lyons and Louise Winter, authors of ‘We All Know How This Ends - Lessons about Life and Living from Working with Death and Dying’. 
Anna is an end-of-life doula and Louise is a progressive funeral director and together they have written an incredible, practical guide to navigating death, dying, grieving, losing ones we love and supporting those that have lost a loved one. 
They teach us how and why we all need to think about death in a radically different way and why it is important for us all to talk more about it more.
And so that is what we did in this episode. We talked about death and dying. From arranging funerals and the creative ways you can do it, to end-of-life care and how wonderful hospices in the UK are, to the best way to support someone when they are grieving the loss of a loved one, to the importance of us all getting more used to death by talking about it. 
I cannot recommend their book more. I was hooked from the moment I started it. It really is one I think we should all read. You can pre-order it here.

Find out more about the work that Anna and Louise do here: https://www.lifedeathwhatever.com/

And follow them on instagram here @lifedeathwhat

Hope you enjoy this episode and find it as fascinating and valuable as I did.
Lots of love, Selina x

Hello lovely!
If you’ve been following us for a while then you’ll know that we like to challenge the modern day narrative that love is something that comes from that one special romantic partner in life. This is one of the reasons why we like to hijack Valentine’s Day and use it to celebrate love in all its forms. And this year is no exception! 
On Sunday we kicked off the start of our self-love challenge, 28 Days of Love and if you’re not already taking part, we’d love to invite you. This is our sixth year running it and it is always such a gorgeous four week journey, but this year, it feels like we all need it more than any other (right?!).
If you’re worn out from global pandemics, lockdown, homeschooling, working from home, not going on holiday for over a year...then self-love is the balm that will help you recover, reclaim your energy and navigate the Coronacoaster. 

If you’d like to join us then head over here for all of the details (it’s totally free!)
And to get you in the mood we have pulled out one of our favourite podcast episodes from the archives: LOVE: it’s not just for Valentine’s, recorded two years ago at Liberty London. It is one of our favourite podcast episodes and so this week we are bringing it back from the archives!
In this episode we talk about: 

Why we are so passionate about busting the modern day myth that love is something that comes from that one special romantic partner in life

    We are sending you the biggest cuddle and we hope to see you over on Instagram for 28 days of love. 
We hope you enjoy the episode 💕
Love, Vicki and Selina xxx

Hi lovely,
Vicki here - I hope this email finds you safe and well ❤️
In today’s episode, I answer some of your questions on dating and relationships (thank you for sending those in!)
Really loved creating this episode for you. There were lots of questions relating to attachment theory (which is great as it is my favorite topic to talk about!).
Specific questions that I answered in the episode:

This is the gorgeous TED talk that I mentioned - The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan.

Here is the wonderful book on Attachment theory that I mentioned - Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. 

Ooh and I wanted to also share this brilliant video from The School of Life on ‘How to Cope With an Avoidant Partner. 

And lastly, how would you like to receive a (free) weekly love letter from me on topics like the ones explored in today’s episode? 
Every Sunday, I am talking about topics like; dating for your attachment style, compatibility, the appeal of the unavailable ones, how to spot the red flags of relationship availability and lots more! 

Really hope you enjoy this Q&A episode 😍😍😍
So much love, Vicki x

Hi lovely, It’s Selina here 👋 and today I have my dear friend, the truly wonderful Nova Reid, back on the podcast for the third time to dive into the topic of racism, anti-racism and the work Nova does with white people to show them how to unpack their inner racism and white privilege and become good allies.  Nova is a diversity and anti-racism campaigner, writer and TED speaker. She regularly appears on BBC News, Sky News and BBC Radio as an expert on race and diversity matters and her book, the Good Ally is coming out at the end of this year! While I’ve had Nova join me previously on the podcast to talk about white privilege and anti-racism and microaggressions and hidden racism, particularly in the workplace, this time I wanted to invite her back to share what 2020 was like for her, as an anti-racism educator and black woman living in Britain, in the wake of the murder of George Floyd and the Black Lives Matter movement. I feel that people often don’t realise how hard, how painful and how traumatic doing this work often is for Nova. For me she truly is one of the strongest, smartest, most extraordinary, compassionate and powerful people I know. Doing her course ‘Anti-racism and White Privilege’ was life changing for me and I cannot recommend it more to any white person wanting to do the essential work of unpacking their own inner racism and learning how to become a good ally. So dive into this episode where we talk about all of this and more. And don’t forget to pre-order Nova’s book ‘The Good Ally’, at Waterstones, WHSmith or Amazon.  X Selina

Hi lovely,
How are you doing this week? Here in the UK things have not been easy. A lot of people are really struggling with this latest lockdown, including us! So if you’re one of those people, then know that you are not alone. This is tough and while resilience, resourcefulness and inner strength will help us get through this, sometimes you have to stop being the strong, resilient one. If you tend to be the one that is often there for others, if you identify with being a good coper or pride yourself on being strong in times of struggle, then sometimes you need to drop all that and let yourself feel all the feelings, without judgement. And NO telling yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling that way because other people have it much worse than you. Your feelings need to be acknowledged and felt. Suppressing them and brushing under the carpet DOES NOT WORK. 
In fact I have a whole section on that in my new book Burnt Out and I share how one tool, in particular, in there has really been helping me over the past few weeks.
And talking of my book!...I have a VERY exciting announcement! 
The wonderful team at Octopus feel that the world needs ‘Burnt Out’ NOW and so rather than making you all wait until 15th April when the paperback book comes out, they have released the ebook version of it TODAY!!!! So if you’re an ebook lover (or even if you’re never tried an ebook before) you can get ‘Burnt Out’ this minute for just £4.99!
The eBooks are available through Amazon, Apple, Google & Kobo, short links below:Amazon: https://amzn.to/2KyNoRW

Google: http://bit.ly/3nVs7iH

Kobo: http://bit.ly/39OLa9o

 If, like me, you’ve never read an ebook before, you can easily download an ebook reader for free on your laptop, tablet or smartphone. I’d never read an ebook before and am now a total convert!  And of course if you do buy Burnt Out as an ebook while you wait for the paperback, then it would make my year if you would leave a review.  Personally the section in the book on managing your Emotional Energy has really been helping me get through these past few weeks and that is where you will find the ‘Emotional Check-in’ tool that I talk about in today’s episode.
Let me know if you use it! 
Lots of love, Selina x

Hi lovely,
I have a fascinating episode for you today!
I got to speak to Margee Kerr and Linda Rodriguez McRobbie about their new book, ‘OUCH!: Why Pain Hurts, and Why it Doesn’t Have To’. 

In this episode, we talk about:

I loved this conversation with Margee and Linda. 
Really hope you enjoy it too!
Order your copy of ‘OUCH!: Why Pain Hurts, and Why it Doesn’t Have To’ for the UK, Aus and US.
Love, Vicki x

Hi lovely,
How are you doing this week? The general mood here in the UK seems to be 😳😤😫😖😭🤪🤯, so if you’re having a challenging time of it at the moment, know that you are not alone and we’re sending you big virtual hugs. 
And I have a real treat for you with today’s episode. Just before Christmas I got to interview the wonderful and inspiring best-selling author and founder of the Numinous, Ruby Warrington who has just released her third book ‘The Sober Curious Reset: Change the Way You Drink in 100 Days or Less’, a follow on from her previous best-selling book, Sober Curious. 
The book is brilliant, with lots of space to journal as you go through, but it was after this interview with Ruby that I felt compelled to actually DO the Sober Curious Reset.  I’m two weeks into it and while it has been a little challenging (particularly on Friday night!) I am absolutely loving it. I think this really could be a life changer. 
So tune into this week’s episode to hear about Ruby’s own journey with alcohol and why she is such an advocate for breaking free from the cult of drinking and how The Sober Curious Reset can help you to transform your own relationship with alcohol and drinking. 
Order your copy of The Sober Curious Reset here.
Lots of love, 

x Selina

Happy New Year lovely,
We are so happy to be back on the podcast 🎙🤗
This week, we’re reflecting on the insights and lessons that came out of doing our Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journals - and boy was it powerful! 
Listen in to hear us share our 2020 reflections, the new discoveries and lessons we’ve learnt from this past year and what our 2021 intentions are going to be! ✨
We found recording this podcast to be just the tonic to help us to get excited about this brand new year (despite still being in the pandemic and the UK being back in lockdown). We really hope that this episode nourishes you, like it did us. 
If you haven’t done your Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal yet, then don’t panic, you have plenty of time. And if you have done your Goodbye Hello journal, then come and let us know over on instagram @loveprojectlove what your focus for 2021 is. We can’t wait to hear!
Join us on ZoomYou can also join us on Zoom next week for our quarterly love-in (next Weds 13th Jan, 6.30-7.30pm GMT) and you can share your intention with us live (and get a virtual hug from us). Sign up here to join us (it’s totally free and we’d love to see you there).
And also - more delicious free resources can be found below!:

• Selina’s Monday Crew Podcast and Weekly check-in - The Monday Crew is a weekly Monday podcast and a Weekly Check-in Tool that helps you to design a life you love, one Monday at a time! It’s totally free to join and you can sign up here.  

• Vicki’s Sunday Love Letter newsletter - The Sunday Love Letter is a newsletter on all things Love, Dating and Relationships, designed to soothe, support, comfort and inspire you, each and every Sunday! It’s free to join and you can sign up here (tick the box when you sign up for Vicki's free dating audio workshop too!) 

Lots of love, Selina & Vicki xxx