As a follow up to our Thanksgiving episode on going home for the holidays while deconstructing, we are back with another chat about navigating the holidays while or after deconstructing. In this week's episode Becka shares about how she has slowly reclaimed holiday rituals and built a deeply meaningful set of family traditions that are outside of religion for herself and her family. Amber shares how she is doing during her first Christmas season that feels different, and both hosts share about the core values of the season that feel the most important to them that they are focusing on this holiday season. If you have been dealing with sadness or grief around Christmas and how to celebrate it when you feel disconnected from the nativity story or rituals of your childhood, we hope this episode is a light for you to begin navigating your way through and to give you hope that you can find deeply beautiful ways to celebrate that make you excited for the season!

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We took this last week and weekend off to celebrate the holiday with our families so there's no new full episode today. But in its place we have two very special offerings to announce to you! Listen in and then use the links below to RSVP:

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In this week's episode, we are talking about the elephant in the room: going home for the holidays. In every deconstruction community we are in and in our own coaching practices we hear it almost unanimously that people are nervous, stressed out, and feeling sadness about the impending family time over the holiday season. We knew we wanted to talk about this because it's been true for each of us, it is something we have found ways to heal but also that we still can struggle with. We hope this conversation gives you permission to enjoy your holidays, set boundaries, and navigate the messy situations that might arise. Just remember now matter what, you're going to be okay, you WILL find ways to make the holidays beautiful and special for yourself through trial and error, and you have people who understand what you're going through right here in this little podcast family.  Listen in and let us know your thoughts, stories and wonderings as well for our response episode next week.

Your hosts: Amber Humphries @amberhumphries www.amberhumphries.com

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In this week's COFFEE CHAT episode, in which we share a question or comment from one of you and then have a casual round table conversation about it, we are talking about MODESTY. We share a question from a listener about modesty and how our deconstruction of modesty has or has not changed our relationship to our bodies. What an incredible question! We ran the gamut talking through this one because modesty is such a wide topic that covers more than just bodies and clothing (pun intended!)

How Becka reframed sensuality to reclaim it

Size discrimination in purity culture and other confusing, unspoken modesty rules 

How purity culture's stance on modesty affected Vanessa's self image as a young girl and how it perpetuates self loathing for women

The divine feminine and what it means to us

And more!  

Your hosts: Amber Humphries @amberhumphries www.amberhumphries.com

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In this week's episode, we are so excited to share with you an extended conversation on energy work. Is it safe? What is it exactly? How can you take baby steps into it if you are deconstructing but curious? How can it serve you? We have each had experiences with various energy workers but we also each have had moments during our deconstruction journey's when the idea of energy seemed so woo woo.

Is energy work evil?

How the experiences of energy work and breath work can be felt physically

Our guest Vaughn Pierro shares how she realized her gifts as an energy worker

Amber shares her experience working with Vaughn

How to baby step into breath work and energy work

And more!

Guest speaker Vaughn Pierro can be found on instagram @vaughnpierro and at https://www.vaughnpierro.com

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Join us for our second "Wonder With Us" response episode where we chat about your reactions to Wondering About Enneagram (season 2 episode 3). In this episode we share more about the enneagram and deconstruction, reconstruction and how we can use it as a tool in our journey. We cannot wait to have more conversations with you about these topics of deconstruction and reconstruction. You can submit your own voice messages to us via the button on our askptw.com page.  

In this episode, we are interviewing our very own Vanessa Fernandez about the work she does as an enneagram coach and teacher and about the enneagram in general and how it can come into play during seasons of spiritual growth. Vanessa shares the history of the enneagram, how it relates to the world religions, how it sparked her own deconstruction along with her own return to herself and how she has used it in her own reconstruction and healing journey as well as how she helps others do the same! If you've ever wondered what the enneagram is beyond what you've seen in internet memes, you'll love this deeper dive full of heart and a religious trauma informed perspective. 

In this episode...

Deconstruction and the enneagram

Guest speaker (and co-host) Vanessa Fernandez can be found on instagram @theenneagramworkshop and at @theguidedexpansion

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Wonder With Us! We are really excited to bring a new style of episode to you this season in the form of these response episodes where listeners like you can submit your thoughts, questions, and wonderings about each main episode topic and we will be able to share those remarks and respond to them in an episode just like this one. Join us for our first response episode where we chat about your questions to Wondering About Mental Health (season 2 episode 1) and see what we mean. We cannot wait to have more conversations with you about these topics of deconstruction and reconstruction. You can submit your own voice messages to us via the button on our askptw.com page.

Welcome to SEASON TWO!

Bible verses that can cause confusion about mental health

Shame and mental health

The morality of feelings

Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT)

Therapy and Privilege (and some helpful options for anyone with less access)

Sovereignty and autonomy in therapy

How binary belief structures can be so toxic to our mental health

How hard it can be to recognize the signs of a mental health issue

Practices to check in with ourselves on our mental health

Feeling guilty about feeling joy during reconstruction

Guest speaker Kristi Rowles can be found on instagram @fullandfreeenneagram and at @enneagramuniversity

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Vanessa, Amber, and Becka bring the light back in with a conversation on what happens AFTER the dark night of the soul, a spiritual awakening, or deconstruction. In the last episode of season one, we share about the shift that happened in each of our journeys where we felt the pull to begin to sort through the pieces, clean up the mess, and begin to rebuild and move forward. Reconstruction can feel daunting but it is such a beautiful and hope-filled part of the cycle. Listen in to hear our tips for anyone who is at the same stage, not who you used to be but not quite sure what to do next.

Amber shares some insights from recent life coaching sessions and her where she's at in her own reconstruction.

Vanessa shares how we are co-creators of our life and how stepping into that role takes the pressure off of having to do everything perfectly.

Becka shares how nature became her reconstruction mentor teaching her the beautiful impermanence of things and to stop fearing the cycles of life, death, and transformation. 

Season two coming soon.