Psychology of Unlearning

DISCLAIMER TO LISTENERS: this episode can be triggering to some as this episode discusses trauma, abuse and mention to suicidal ideation. If you need help as a result of suicidal ideation, seek immediate help and call 9-1-1 , the suicide hotline at 988 or 1-800-656-4673 for sexual assault. In this episode my guest speaker Kylie and I discuss the effects of sexual trauma. We discuss how how it manifests, challenges with healing, and the road to healing and its process. We do not discuss all varieties and sources of trauma nor all possible negative coping strategies or effects of trauma that effects survivors. I want to thank Kylie for her vulnerability and courage to speak about her life experiences and share with our listeners. Psychology Today is a valid website to access therapists near you. Call 1-800-950-6264 for the Mental Health hotline. You are not alone, access help if you are in need, there are those who can help.

Kameron discusses his reflection of the past year as a new year has begun. This episode covers the topic of building a secure relationship with yourself as we move forward into a new year and consider new years resolutions and new years goals. Kameron discusses reflections on what a secure relationship with his self looks like and the journey he has taken to obtaining security within himself. Kameron discusses how he had to unlearn the search for external security in the pursuit of internal security with self through building self love, self confidence and self image.

Amanda and I discuss the importance of effective boundary setting to protect you emotional, mental and physical health and speak to the guilt often associated to boundary setting. Boundaries are essential in protecting the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual currencies we all have to successfully navigate and participate in our lives.

Amanda and I discuss the roles we take on to engage our environments and meet societal expectations. We discuss roles from wife/husband, parents, the workforce and much more. Amanda and I discuss the value of these roles we play and engaged and the reason and purpose they play in our current lives or past. Amanda and I discuss what roles we have adopted and whether unlearning these roles are necessary to adopt chosen updated versions in our present moment.

This episode discusses the topic of conflict within our lives and how we tend to approach conflict by providing psychological theories and explanations to deconstruct our habits and perspectives in the face of conflict. This episode discusses stone walling as one of the four horsemen of conflict and attachment theory and insecure attachment styles. Amanda and I share personal experiences in which we encountered conflict, how we approached it and how we later came to unlearn in order to learn

Warning: this episode makes mention to suicidal ideation, be mindful if this is a potential triggering event. If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health and suicidal ideation, please, seek immediate help by calling 911, crisis hotline number of 988 for suicidal ideation or seeking mental health services. You are not alone and help is available.

Special considerations to Julie Menanno and her Instragram of The Secure Relationship and the book HOW WE LOVE by Milan and Kay Yerkovich

Introduction of your hosts Amanda Rodriguez and Kameron Krumdick