Purpose Through Pain

This is a very special episode, Joseph James was interviewed by Dwayne Staten, the host of the Power of Forgiveness Podcast.

They talk about how Joseph felt like he could never do anything to win in life in the eyes of his father, how he came to forgive him, and how they became best friends. They also talk about rejection, not being able to say sorry after someone passes away, and how people can come to forgive others, but they may not forgive themselves. 

They also talk about something very important and unique, unforgiveness. Unforgiveness can affect your body, your relationships, your life, and its is something that many people need to learn about to recover from. 

In this episode:

• How joseph dealt with rejection from his father
• How joseph delt with rejection from dating
• How joseph put himself back out there to date
• The definition of unforgiveness 

Key takeaways:

• The 2 main parts of forgiveness
• How to forgive yourself

Tweetable Moments:

• “Its okay to not be okay”
• “When you take the step to forgive someone, you may not hear what you want to hear. Do not take that personally.”
• “When we dont forgive ourselves, our bitterness and resentment bubbles up.”
• “Our brains are wired to scout for the bad stuff”

Connect with Dwayne Staten:

Dwayne's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwaynestaten/

Power of Forgiveness Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-power-of-forgiveness-with-dwayne-staten/id1505118249

Connect with Joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

In this episode, Joseph dives deep into the two key elements that can help you create a successful culture, be it in your business, marriage, or family relationships. Get ready for some powerful insights that can set you up for success in every area of your life.

• Joseph shares his personal journey which has evolved into the transformative Alpha Leadership program.

• Joseph reflects on a powerful experience he had with an organization that mastered the art of building a winning culture.

• He emphasizes that creating a successful culture involves more than just creating an atmosphere; it's about shaping the environment in which you want to thrive.

• Joseph also delves into the impact of trust and vision in building winning cultures.

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Key Takeaways:

1. “Pain is a part of life, but with the right guidance, you can turn that pain into purpose.”

2. “Something that to win in life, you have to reinforce winning cultures.”

3. “Strategy is your plan if everything goes right.”

Connect with Joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/purpose-through-pain/id1561912895

What is worse than Losing? It's winning at something that doesn't matter. In this episode we are going to discuss 3 ways to build a legacy worth winning for.

Key Takeaways:

• Winning at what truly matters: The episode emphasizes the importance of prioritizing relationships with family, friends, and God over mere accomplishments or material success.

• Having a clear vision and prioritizing what truly matters allows us to focus on actions and decisions that align with our values and long-term goals.

• Legacy is not just about leaving a name on a building or receiving accolades but making a positive impact on others' lives. It involves empowering and helping others to grow.

• Great leaders not only lead by example but also empower others to succeed, guiding them to achieve their goals and aspirations.

• Time is a finite resource, and how we invest it matters. Prioritizing our time with family, building relationships, and leaving positive impacts becomes crucial.

• Having a well-defined life plan that encompasses various aspects of life, such as faith, family, relationships, and career, allows us to live with intention and purpose.

• Rather than focusing on winning at trivial pursuits, focus on winning at meaningful aspects of life, such as personal growth, relationships, and spirituality.

• Legacy is built through consistent positive actions and experiences that impact others' lives, leaving a lasting impression.

• Be a leader who not only leads but also lifts others up, enabling them to achieve their potential and contribute positively to society.

• Recognize the value of time spent with loved ones, especially children. Create positive memories and experiences that will resonate throughout their lives.

• Regularly assess your actions and decisions to ensure they align with your values and the legacy you wish to leave behind.

Tweetable Moments:

1. “Clarity requires priority.”

2. “There's nothing wrong with winning as long as we're not losing at something.”

Connect with Joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

God commanded us to love one another as Christ has loved you. This is not only a model of leadership but also a test of our own character.

In this episode:

• Joseph emphasizes the significance of understanding how we influence people and the responsibility that comes with it.

• Joseph delves into the dynamics of relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and even our relationship with ourselves. He shares personal insights on conflict resolution, maturity, and the power of love in transforming lives.

• He encourages listeners to embrace the commandment of loving one another, drawing inspiration from the model of Jesus' leadership and his relationship with his followers.

• Joseph explores the transformative power of love, forgiveness, and personal growth in the context of relationships and influence.

Key Takeaways:

1. Influence and upbringing shape our choices.

2. Self-perception affects relationships.

3. Leadership style and influence.

4. The importance of genuine influence.

5. Winning in relationships.

6. Changing oneself and others through love.

7. Responding with love and maturity.

Tweetable Moments:

1. "We are nurturing our relationships with the people, and Jesus has called us to love one another."

2. "When you are going through tough times, you know who you can count on. You also get to know and truly understand who shares the same beliefs as you do."

3. "We are born into a world of selfishness; that's how we come into it."

4. "Immature people interpret every interaction based on what is in it."

Connect with Joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

In this episode, Joseph dives into the topic of being the spiritual head of the home. He emphasizes the importance of taking on this role even before entering a relationship and shares personal experiences of rushing into relationships without fully developing himself as a leader. Joseph reflects on his journey of understanding that being a spiritual head starts with being a spiritual head of oneself. Joseph explores the concept of serving and sacrificing as a leader, drawing from biblical references and highlighting the need for effective communication with God. He encourages listeners to spend time in quiet reflection and develop a deep relationship with God, as this foundation will help them navigate the chaos and noise of life. Joseph also discusses the importance of serving and supporting one's partner in a relationship, emphasizing that leadership in the home is a shared responsibility. He addresses the misconceptions around leadership and submission, stressing the importance of mutual respect and the ability to fulfill different roles within a relationship. Joseph concludes by encouraging listeners to invest in their own personal growth and leadership development, as this will ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and blessed life. Tune in to this insightful episode as Joseph provides valuable insights on being the spiritual head of the home and the benefits it brings to relationships and personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Being the spiritual head of the home starts with being a spiritual head of oneself.

• Leadership in the home is a shared responsibility.

• Effective communication with God is crucial for understanding His guidance and direction.

• Leadership is about serving and sacrificing, following the example of Christ's love for the church.

• Building a strong foundation as a leader and cultivating personal growth is essential.

• Alone time and self-reflection are valuable for personal and spiritual growth.

Tweetable Moments:

1. “A lot of times God will give us the answer to something before we ever even have the question.”

2. “Leaders create what we want through people.”

3. “This is where the model of leadership starts. It starts with us knowing and understanding that we've going to communicate with God.”

4. “If you'll learn to spend time with God in the quiet times and learning to hear his voice in the quiet times, you will not struggle to hear His voice in the chaotic times.”

Connect with joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

Do you find yourself struggling with triggers? In this episode, Joseph James explains how he recently learned what triggers are and how to communicate with someone who struggles with them.

Through the process of learning, he was able to understand how to be sensitive about others' triggers, as well as how he was able to acknowledge his own triggers to work through his past.

Key Takeaways:

• Triggers are teachers that show us what we need to heal.
• Triggers disclose areas where we need to heal.
• Learn what triggers others and focus on the root cause, not the symptoms.

Tweetable Quotes:

1. “Ask what happened and WHY it happened.”
2. “Triggers are teachers.”

Connect with Joseph James:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

On This Episode:

• Learn how to get out of the “funk” created by troubles life brings.
• Discover how you can create SMART goals.

Key Takeaways:

• Think about the results you want to see.
• Create SMART goals
• Write your goals down.
• Create an action plan
• Create a timeline.
• Take action.
• Re-assess.

Tweetable Quote:

1. Without vision, people perish.
2. Our eyesight is distorted. Vision comes from the heart.
3. We have the ability to create the atmosphere within which we want to live.

Connect with joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

Seth Morozowski is a former K9 Deputy and has started two companies. He was a devout atheist for many years but has seen a radical transformation over the past few months.

On this episode:

• Seth shares how he was never taught how to process his emotions.
• Hear how growing up in a difficult home environment helped direct Seth’s journey into law enforcement.
• Joseph and Seth discuss the hardships of the faith journey.
• Seth opens up about his struggles with alcoholism and the deep depression he found himself in.

Key Takeaways:

1. Sometimes you have to see the monster within to truly change.
2. Build a support system around yourself.
3. Christ forgives you, and you can forgive yourself - but don’t forget where you came from.

Connect with joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

In this captivating episode, Joseph delves into the challenging task of leading oneself. Whether it's leading in a marriage, business, or as a parent, we all encounter situations where we need to lead others.

In this Episode:

• Joseph shares his personal experiences, drawing from his leadership style developed in the Marine Corps and influenced by his upbringing.

• He reflects on the difficulties he faced in leading himself, emphasizing the crucial role it plays in effectively leading others.

• Joseph explores three key principles of leadership exemplified by Jesus, applicable to all regardless of their beliefs.

• Joseph encourages listeners to place trust in God's provision rather than succumbing to worry and anxiety.

• Joseph emphasizes the importance of prioritizing God's kingdom over worldly possessions, encouraging listeners to evaluate their priorities.

• Joseph shares personal anecdotes, including his own struggles and growth in leadership, underscoring the necessity of self-reflection and transformation.

Key Takeaways:

1. Leading ourselves is the hardest form of leadership. Before we can effectively lead others, we must first learn to lead ourselves.

2. Character matters in leadership. Our actions and behaviors, both in private and public, reflect our character. It is important to strive for integrity and authenticity, as our true character will eventually be revealed.

3. Trusting in God and surrendering our worries is crucial. We often carry burdens and stress, especially in areas of provision and significance.

4. Putting God's kingdom above our own agenda is a key aspect of leadership.

5. Leadership begins with ourselves. We need to assess our character, address our worries, and prioritize our relationship with God.

Tweetable Moments:

1. "Your character will reveal the things you do; they will find you out."
2. "The way we act behind closed doors will become public knowledge and manifest in other areas."
3. "Leaders worry because they bear weight."
4. "You are the hardest person to lead—yourself. However, you are the only one who can work on yourself. It's all a matter of choice."

Connect with joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en

In this episode:

• Joseph opens up about his personal journey and the transitions he has experienced with the podcast. Joseph has embarked on a transformative path over the past several months.

• Joseph shares his faith and emphasizes the importance of understanding the purpose behind life's struggles.

• Joseph introduces his coaching program, Alpha Leadership, clarifying that it isn't about control or dominance but about being a servant leader.

• Joseph discusses the challenges he faced after the loss of his wife and how he searched for answers and healing. He shares his toxic relationship and the struggles they endured, acknowledging societal pressure to separate but recognizing the voice of God guiding them to remain together.

• Joseph encourages listeners to seek healing and self-discovery in their own lives, whether it be in relationships, parenting, or business.

• Joseph emphasizes the importance of alignment with God's design for marriage and becoming alpha leaders within their families, emphasizing that it's not about hierarchy or dominance but about fulfilling their unique roles as called by God.

• Discover how you can experience a blessed, prosperous, and love-filled life, even amidst challenges, by embracing the principles of alpha leadership.

Tweetable Moments:

1. “Triggers are nothing more than wounds that are coming to the surface that have not been healed.”

Connect with joseph James at:

Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadership

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en