Purpose Through Pain

“If you had a chance to relive today, would you have lived it the same way?”

In this episode, we have a special guest Regina Gulbinas. She will share her life journey and how she overcame her struggles and got to where she is today.

Regina experienced a toxic relationship and a very abusive marriage. And trying to get out of this marriage, she raised two children while also dealing with over 2 million in debt. She has a phenomenal story to talk about today. Not only able to get out of it but how she's been able to help and coach businesses that have gone through very similar situations, struggles, pain, challenges, and adversities and help them grow to get out of it. Another life-changing topic that we will hear as Regina shares knowledge and many values with us today.

Key Takeaways:

• It's okay to grieve. You're going to have those moments, and it's inevitable. You go through an abusive relationship or major debt, or you go through somebody trying to destroy your life, but take the moments, be strategic about it and have a plan.

• It's okay to walk away, and it's okay for people not to agree with you, for people to dislike you, and for people not to understand. All of these are okay if you know you're doing what you're doing for the right reasons.

• Stop asking people what they think about how you should live your life because they're just projecting their unresolved stuff onto you.

Tweetable Moments:

1. "It takes a lifetime to get to a decision, and then it takes a second to make it."

2. "When you're walking through the fire, only two things can happen. It can destroy or refine you, and the choice is ours."

3. "If you had a chance to relive today, don't live the same way.”

Connect with Regina Gulbinas at: [email protected]

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/regina-gulbinas-82423120/

Connect with Joseph James:

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On This Episode:

• Joseph and his brother, Michael, discuss their abusive childhood and the things they’ve taken from it.
• Learn what drove Michael to become entrepreneurial.
• Michel discusses how travel impacted him.
• Michael opens up about his divorce.
• Hear how cycling helped Michael’s mental health.
• Learn how to stop quitting.

Key Takeaways:

1. Don’t allow your pain to stick to you.
2. You have to be able to stop erosion before you have a full flood.
3. We have everything we need to succeed. We just need to take the consistent, correct, steps.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Make it a priority every day to do SOMETHING.”
• “You’re either eroding or growing.”
• “We quit in small stages.”
• “We’re built to make a difference.”
• “You can’t be grateful and hateful at the same time.”

Connect with Michael:

MichaelJamesRemodeling.com

Connect with Joseph James:

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Aren't we on our deathbeds right now if our days are numbered? The difference is we're walking throughout life and not lying still.

In this episode, Joseph talks about "If you were on your deathbed," which was held in an Ultimate Speaker Competition. He shares his story, the breakthrough, trials, and tribulations.

As you walk through life, how you're spinning your time? Are you just going throughout your day, your head buried in your phone, pacing back and forth, or are you living it purposefully?

On the deathbed of life that we walk through just doing our own thing, not paying attention, we're missing out, and we're living in regret of not being able to go back to spend time with the people that are no longer here. So when we're going through life and have the chance, don't wait until you can't move anymore.

Key Takeaways:

• If you can create memories with your loved ones, do it, and don't waste time until it's too late.

Tweetable Moments:

• "Regret is always at the end."

Connect with Joseph James:

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

When you're going throughout your life, ask yourself, is fear holding you back from your intended purpose, or are you connected the way you're supposed to, to allow energy to flow?

On This Episode:

• Joseph talks about the topic given to him during the Ultimate Speaker Competition: The People You Meet.
• Learn the power of letting your fear go.
• Hear why the connection is decisive for your purpose.

Key Takeaways:

1.   The power and the ability to use your proper purpose all have to do with one thing, connection.

2.   Let go of your fear to get you unstuck.

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

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"I believe that we go through life's hell in the hallway or life's circumstances so that we can touch other people, because I believe deep down inside, we cannot touch what we cannot feel."

In this episode, Joseph discusses the power of words. As a speaker, he tackled this topic at an Arizona event. It is the two most powerful words on Earth, followed by everything. It can help anyone change and formulate someone's life.

He also shares his journey growing up in a very abusive home, where he dealt with rejection, feeling abandoned, constantly seeking approval, and limiting beliefs. 

When you're in that circumstance, in that predicament, in that challenge, it's not you versus the world and you versus you. It is you becoming an Alpha Leader.

Key Takeaways:

• The two most powerful words that will change your life.
• Flipping the script is just nothing more than taking something you can feel negatively and flipping that same thing into something positive.
• Alpha is not about domineering. Alpha is about taking control of who you are.

Tweetable Moments:

• "When you begin to lean on the circumstances, you can pull yourself out of what could have been a very dark and long road."
• “Our words can speak life, but it can also speak death.”
• "So just like the example of the dog, we cannot be affected by the world around us."
• "Pain is life's greatest teacher and also life's biggest crutch."
• "I am who God says I am."

Connect with Joseph James:

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Lady Krystylle Richardson is an entrepreneur who was born in Flint Michigan, a wealth innovation strategist, and an ordained minister. She's teaching people and corporations how they can have at least ten sustainable and substantial streams of income, which is called Element 10, and creativity to cash flow.

She is also the author of The 51 Powerful Ps of Public Speaking. Lady Krystylle wrote this book to give the reader insight and wisdom, not just opinion. It also helps to work through the fears and frustrations based on real techniques that worked based on the people she has interviewed and heard speak.

She went from a rough journey to realigning herself. Lady Krystylle talks about the impact of wealth and teaches people how to reimagine and re-image themselves with what they need in this life, and it's not all about money. It's about having where they have abundance in their life, not all about money.

In this episode:

• Lady Krystylle and Joseph talk about their upbringing and their journey in childhood of getting bullied that led them to where they are today.
• Lady Krystylle and Joseph discuss why people get stuck.
• Know the definition of FEAR "Fresh, Energy, Awaiting, Reset" by Lady Krystylle Richardson.
• Learn how resetting our mind can relate to abundance.
• Lady Krystylle’s tips for self-acceptance.
• Introducing Lady Krystylle's book The 51 Powerful Ps of Public Speaking.

Key Takeaways:

• Once we accept ourselves, it doesn't matter who accepts us. We have that confidence.
• We have to have our do list, our stop list. And the stop list, once you put it in eviction, you can't go back there.
• Once we know who we are and accept who we are, then the possibilities are endless.
• Regardless of whether your belief system is spiritual or not, you're still a powerful individual and a genius. You are creative.
• We have to be who we are, and we have to be honest with ourselves and accept ourselves. And then just let God do the rest.

Tweetable moments:

1.   "Your voice should be heard. You shouldn't be silenced in any part of your life."

2.   "Creativity breeds creativity."

3.   "Speak the negative things out there because it loses its power."

Connect with Lady Krystylle Richardson:

Website: krystyllerichardson.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KrystylleRichardson/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkrystylle/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/krystylle-l-richardson-5b8903/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/iamkrystylle

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In this episode:

• Joseph will talk about Alpha Leadership part 2 and the acronym of ALPHA.
• Learn what flipping the script is.
• Joseph will share his journey and how he flipped the script in his life story.

Key Takeaways:

• Your thoughts, good or bad, lead to emotions, emotions lead to choice, your choice leads to habits, and your habits lead to your character. Your character leads you into your destiny.
• No matter where you're or what you believe, you have a way out of everything that has been said and spoken over you that's caused you to disbelieve in who you are and feel something other than genuine.
• We can't get rid of things or conquer these negative thoughts, lies, or beliefs unless we confront them.

Tweetable Moments:

1.   "When we verbalize things, two things can happen, it can lose its power, or it can gain power."

2.   "Pain is life's greatest teacher. It's also life's biggest crutch."

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjjames

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In this episode, Joseph will talk about a title that is the creation of their leadership coaching and the launch of their book called Alpha Leadership. Joseph will tell us what Alpha is and is not and the acronym of ALPHA. Alpha leadership is based on Joseph's experiences as a young man who grew up in a very abusive home. He went through many different things in life, and because of those things, he learned.

We learn from the good experiences, we learn from the bad experiences, and we learn from the indifferent experiences. We can take those experiences and learn from them to create better opportunities. We have a choice to be a victim or a victor. It's up to us.

Key Takeaways:

• When walking through the fire, we have one of two choices: it can either destroy us or refine us. The choice is ours.
• When we are being authentic, it allows the true self to be what we have claimed we are.
• Your "I am" statement may push you to greatness and ignite a fire inside of you. It will teach you how to take your word and become a daily habit to create the alpha leader within yourself.

Tweetable Moments:

1.   "We have a choice to be a victim or a victor. It's up to us."

2.   "Pain can be the crutch that gets you stuck, or it could be the thing that launches you into your destiny."

3.   "I am can recreate, reinvent, restructure your mindset to becoming who you called to be, and that is to be authentic."



Connect with Joseph James:

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Your story is too big to play small, and everyone's story can help heal not only yourself but other people.

Dr. Michelle Mras is a very impactful executive coach and a speaking coach, an author of 16 books, a host of two podcasts, and a powerful icon helping people formulate their stories and walk through healing by telling their stories.

On This Episode:

• Dr. Michelle shares her experiences in life and how she overcomes her traumatic journey.
• Dr. Michelle discusses how she went from pain to purpose or tragedy to triumph from her upbringing.
• Learn how Dr. Michelle's coaching as an executive coach and as helping people formulate their stories.
• Dr. Michelle shares what happened after her brain injury and her mindset through that journey.
• Hear how forgiving yourself can help you lead and work in the world.
• Joseph and Dr. Michelle discuss the trauma and tragedies they had in life and how they used that as a tool for their healing journey.
• Dr. Michelle shares her book, Hold My Crown: Women of Grit Share Stories of Resilience. The stories of women and the miracle of life happen in their stories.

Key takeaways:

1.   Be able to forgive because you do need forgiveness for yourself.

2.   Your inner critic isn't holding you back. Your inner critic challenges you to prove

how badly you truly want something.

3.   When you walk in faith and trust the opportunities that are open to you, when you listen to that voice in your soul, there's nothing you can do wrong.

4.   Remember that when someone's holding you back, they're not holding you back, they're afraid of losing you.

5.   Eat dessert first. The small things in life are the things that you will regret more than anything when you miss them.

6.   Remember, when you're not protected and alone, God's protecting you another way. He's enabling you to encompass that learning experience, that you can utilize it somehow in another lifetime or at another time. But remember that you're never alone.

Tweetable Quotes:

"Life's too short to play small. Life is too short for taking little or petty things and making them big."

"The difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions." -Ellen Glasgow.

"Your power is the power in your brain that can either make or break you, and it's your choice."

"The best thing that's going to happen is another door of opportunity to where you want. It's going to be there, so stop being the adult."

Connect With Dr. Michelle Mras:

Website: https://michellemras.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellemras/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/MichelleMras

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

On This episode:

• Michael shares his story about the childhood trauma that he went through.
• Joseph and Michael discuss their journey of learning different ways around survival.
• Michael comes across how to create a healthy body and mind.
• Learn about Joseph and Michael's discussion about being the change you want to see in the world.
• Joseph and Michael will talk about helping people get past their childhood trauma and becoming a hero of their own stories.

Key takeaways:

1.   You thrive in chaos because when you were in your developmental years, your brain

started to look at and assess the situations and scenarios you were in for

safety. After all, the brain serves one purpose, safety.

2.   Confidence does not come from how your body looks. The confidence comes from the intention and effort you put in daily to move towards your goals.

3.   Thrive in peace, compassion, empathy, sympathy, grace, companionship, joy, and love.

It's not that you can't have the ability to have resilience in the chaos because

you kind of need that, but that's not where you should thrive.

Tweetable Moments:

"If you want something in life, you have to earn it." 

"What are you willing to do to have the life you want? No excuses, just results!"

"Authenticity is the highest vibrating frequency known to man."

 "Action is a cure-all."

Connect With Michael Unbroken:

Website: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/episodes/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichaelUnbroken/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelunbroken/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC95YX4cZdz39HHIaLZYFsGA

Connect with Joseph James:

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