Purpose Through Pain

On this episode, Joseph shares about how pain can become the thing that inspires and launches you.

Key Takeaways:

1. The reason for our pain is different for everyone.
2. You can walk with God and still feel hurt.
3. We experience pain in life so we can share the experience with others.

Tweetable Quotes:

• We cannot touch what we cannot feel.
• Pain is life’s greatest teacher but it can also be life’s greatest crutch.
• Vulnerability is not something to be afraid of, it’s something to be empowered by.

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Vinay Chary is the owner and Chief Instructor of Triumph Krav Maga/Monkey Bar Gym in New Orleans. He also holds a Krav Maga Worldwide 2nd Degree Black Belt and a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Purple Belt under Professor Matthias Meister. 

On This Episode:

• Vinay shares his experiences growing up as an Indian in a majority white area.
• Learn how Vinay spiraled into alcoholism and the history of addiction in his family.
• Hear how a toxic relationship worsened Vinay’s addiction and habits.
• Joseph and Vinay discuss the rehab process and trying to be sober in New Orleans.
• Hear how learning self-defense can help you emotionally in addition to protecting yourself physically.
• Find encouragement to overcome the ups and downs of life and business.
• VInay explains why they sold everything they own and began traveling.

Key Takeaways:

1. You have to tackle problems like addiction with no half measures.
2. Community is a necessary asset when overcoming addiction and trauma.
3. Learning to defend yourself is secondary to the confidence it builds.

Tweetable Quotes:

Everyone wants to talk about success, no one wants to talk about the small things. – Joseph James

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In This Episode:

• Learn what action steps you can take to overcome pain and rejection.
• Joseph opens up about his negative experiences in his childhood and the searing pains of loss he has experienced.
• Learn the danger of seeking approval and constantly trying to fix everything.

Key Takeaways:

1. Forgive yourself.
2. Create goals, dreams, and visions for your life.
3. Take time to grieve.
4. Find someone you can help.
5. Find a way to help them.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Forgiveness requires healing.”
• “Without action, your goal is just a thought.”
• “Change your mindset, change your world.”

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In this episode, Joseph sits down with Shawn Oddo. Shawn is the founder and owner of Valhalla Training Grounds.

Valhalla is Louisiana's FIRST and ONLY private, hardcore, training facility among an abundance of mediocre corporate gyms. They have created an environment for those serious about their health and fitness goals, without the distracting non-sense found at other gyms.

In This Episode:

• Shawn talks about growing up under extreme mental and physical abuse.
• Shawn explains why he associated money with unhappiness
• Learn why Shawn decided to take the leap and open up his own gym.
• Joseph and Shawn talk through depression and suicide.
• Joseph gets real about rejection.

Key Takeaways:

1. Don’t let other’s limitations become your limitations.
2. Keep an eye out for unexpected resources.
3. If you’re still here, you can keep going.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “All the small things add up to big shit.” – Shawn Oddo
• “Whatever energy you put out is what you get back.” – Shawn Oddo
• “We can either use pain to leave us stuck like glue or pain can launch us into our destiny.” – Joseph James

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(replay) Struggling to establish a morning routine? Joseph shares the benefits and the practical steps to establish one that will help you heal.

Before we can reach our goals and create a positive vision, we just need to start small. We need to stop thinking about all the negative things in our lives and think about our future goals.

Download Joseph's Free Morning Routine ebook: https://witty-artisan-3809.ck.page/e99d552ce1

In this episode:

• Morning Routines can heal you.
• It is easy to get stuck in a negative routine.
• The lack of a routine gave Joseph panic attacks.
• How to use the SAVERS strategy in your day.

Key Takeaways:

• Get up 15 minutes early so you can devote time to your morning routine.
• Don't sabotage your sleep or your morning with negative thoughts.
• Create a specific space in your home to begin your morning.

Tweetable Moments:

• "Get specific on what you want to see happen."
• "Time heals wounds if you take action to heal."

Recommended Resource:

Hal Elrod's The Miracle Morning: https://www.amazon.com/Miracle-Morning-Not-So-Obvious-Guaranteed-Transform/dp/0979019710

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Has your kindness been used against you? Then you need to hear this. 

The best revenge is a life well-lived. It is so easy to care for people that we have relationships with and neglect the most important person, yourself. 

In this episode, Joseph speaks with Sarah K. Ramsey about how to design a life that you deserve, after surviving a toxic relationship. Sarah is a life strategist, toxic relationship specialist, dream builder, heart-centered healer, and intuition empowerment expert. She is a best-selling author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof and host of the Toxic Person Proof podcast which reaches thousands of listeners around the world.

We can be toxic to ourselves. Toxic relationships are not limited to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, it can also be with parents, co-workers, bosses, truly anyone who we have relationships with. 

Key Takeaways:

3 ways to heal from a toxic relationship

How to come up with a healing strategy 

A lot of people suffer from Smart Girl/Guy Syndrom - thinking you can fix everything with enough hard work 

Tweetable Moments:

“When people tell you who they are, believe them” - Maya Angelou

“My good behavior does not change someone else’s behavior” - Sarah K. Ramsey

“The best revenge is a life well lived” - Sarah K. Ramsey

“Not letting people steal your power, that’s integrity.” - Sarah K. Ramsey

Connect with Sarah:

Sarah’s Website: https://sarahkramsey.com/

Sarah’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bouncebackcoaching

Sarah’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bouncebackbetter/

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In this episode, Joseph wants to retell his story. This podcast is growing so rapidly, Joseph would like to reconnect with his listeners! Message Joseph on Instagram (@meetjosephjames) or on Facebook (Joseph James or facebook.com/meetjoejames)

On This Episode:

• Joseph shares how he learned to deal with feelings of abandonment, rejection, and abuse.
• Learn the danger of trying to always be a fixer in your relationships.
• Joseph shares how he always sought approval from others.
• Hear Joseph’s vision for the future of the Purpose Through Pain Podcast.

Key Takeaways:

• The number one place you need to look for help is within.
• The pain we experience has a reason for it.
• We can’t touch what we can’t feel.

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Michael Fabber is a guy who doesn’t know how to sit still. Originally from New York, Michael grew up in a relatively normal family. When his brother, a veteran, committed suicide, it turned his life upside down. Now, Michael works with individuals and businesses to help them achieve their goals. He specializes in those who are seeking fulfillment and bringing their purpose and passion into their careers. Read more about his story on www.coachmikefabber.com.

On this episode:

• Michael shares how his life experiences as a 10-year old turned his life upside down.
• Know what emotional toughness looks like. 
• Hear the question that made Michael evaluate his existence. 
• How Michael lived from being the villain, the damsel in distress to being the own hero of his story. 

Key Takeaways:

• Your story is your own power.
• You’re the only one who can save you—be the hero. 
• You choose the character you want to play in your own story.
• Be thankful for both the journey and destination because you can’t love the destination if you hate the journey. 

Tweetable Quotes:

• Our story is our power.
• Our life is a movie and we’re playing the characters in our movie. Make sure you’re playing the character that you want.
• You have to be the hero of your story.
• Vulnerability brings healing.
• Go through it to grow from it.

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• Twitter
• Website

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When you take charge of your words, you are in control of your life. In this episode, Joseph James shares positive affirmations that have changed his life. 

Words can destroy, words can build up, words can inhibit, words can build you up, words can make you do whatever you put power into. 

Your words can make or break you mentally and physically. 

If you are going through something in your life at the moment, Joseph highly recommends that you start using positive affirmations. 

In this episode:

How positive affirmations changed Joseph’s life

When Joseph spoke negative words to himself, he saw a negative impact

Why you should NOT believe the things other people say about you 

Key Takeaways:

The words you speak can have a positive or negative impact on your life.

Once you start speaking affirmations consistently, they will become a part of your life and will change your life forever.

Your mind is programmed to do what you say, and that is why positive words are so important.

Tweetable Moments:

I use my failures as my stepping stones

I have the power to change my story

I have the courage to say no 

I am good enough 

I am handsome/beautiful

I inspire and motivate others

I am a person of value and worth and no one can make me feel inferior 

I am smart 

I am not lazy

Success will be my driving force 

I love myself 

We want to hear your feedback! Please send your feedback and positive affirmations to Joseph on Facebook, Instagram, or email!

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Christina Patterson Wood is a dance instructor and directs one of the studio outreach programs that work one on one with at-risk youth. She also does admin support for Lousiville, Kentucky ministry that helps incarcerated men transition out of prison and back into society. Christina has the heart to use the arts to help at-risk youth around the world. Christina is a long-time friend of mine whom I just reconnected with after she shared her story about sexual assault that happened in a past relationship. We talk about how she, and many women, suppress their sexual assault experiences for years until something happens that triggers the memories, and they are faced with confusion, denial, and ultimately the truth of what happened to them. 

Christina was in denial of the fact she was sexually assaulted by her ex-fiance 20 years ago. In her mind, sexual assault only happened by strangers in an aggressive way and not in relationships, not by someone you are in a relationship with. This misconception in her mind suppressed her mind kept her questioning what really happened. In the dance industry, there are many women coming out years later and joining the #MeToo movement by talking about their instructors who abused them as students, children, and young adults. 

Years later she was triggered. Seeing her well her husband treats her made her realize how badly she was treated in the past. She realized what happened to her years ago, and came out with her story publicly because she wants people to know that they deserve to be loved, not treated unwell.

On this episode:

• Christina shares her experience of realizing she was sexually assaulted
• How she told her husband, and he showered her in love, care, and support
• Why do many women keep quiet about their sexual assault
• Why many women question if what happened was sexual assault 
• The Me Too Movement and how prominent it is in the dance community
• Why Christina stayed quiet for so long, and her fear that if she told her story people would minimize it. 
• Her work in the at-risk youth community
• How she helps her ministry support men transition out of prison and back into the community

Key Takeaways:

• You deserve to be loved, not treated unwell
• How telling your story can help others tell theirs
• Finding a purpose in your pain to help others 
• Why we say getting into a new relationship can help you heal from a past relationship

Quotable Moments:

• “The painful things we experience have a purpose, so changing the question of what was the purpose of that happening to me, to how do I find purpose through it changes the perspective a lot.” 
• “You deserved to be loved, you deserve to be loved well, and in the way that God loves you”
• “He was my fiance, he said he loved me, this is not the context of how sexual assault happens”

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