Purpose Through Pain

You don’t have to have all the answers to make a difference. Kary Youman is a heart-centered facilitator and mindfulness coach dedicated to creating brave spaces for people to discuss and explore complex topics. 

Facilitating change through workshops on diversity, equity, inclusion, communication, radical kindness, mental health, and mindfulness, he is helping shift the way organizations view their culture and team dynamics. 

He is on a personal mission to empower and inspire others to live their best lives through the virtues of kindness and mindfulness, helping people from all walks of life overcome limiting beliefs that have led to transformational changes both personally and professionally.

Using the humility and perspective that his life experiences have given him, Kary helps his clients discover their purpose and create a more meaningful life. From toxic masculinity and alcoholism to spirituality and meditation, Kary is here to talk about these experiences and how they influenced the course of his life and led him to where he is today.

On This Episode:

• How growing up in a toxic environment changed the way Kary viewed his parents
• The consequences of growing up thinking that only women are allowed to share their emotions
• The surprising gut punch that changed Kary’s life
• The intensity of Kary’s twenties as a functional alcoholic
• How Kary’s spiritual quest led him to a silent ten-day meditation retreat
• The seemingly crazy marketing scam that turned out to be true
• The event that turned Kary into a mental health advocate
• Taking the mysticism out of meditation

Key Takeaways:

• Judgment and animosity make breakthroughs and connections impossible.
• There’s always more to the story.
• When you’re in a dark place, there’s nothing wrong with asking for help, but only you can do the inner healing work.
• Self-love goes a long way.

Tweetable Moments:

• “Sometimes you can get drunk on the positivity because you’re not allowing yourself to experience what you’re experiencing.” - Kary Youman
• “It’s important to bounce back and to have a positive outlook, but sometimes you just really gotta deal with some shit.” - Kary Youman
• “Eventually, if you train yourself to walk through the dark, you start to recognize that you’re the light.” - Kary Youman

Connect with Kary:

Website: https://kyouman.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karyyouman/

Connect with Joseph James: 

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

On this episode:

• How I managed to create a peaceful environment amidst a toxic environment as a child.
• The difference between controlling yourself in the midst of a situation and controlling the situation.
• Learn how to act or choose to react in the midst of the situation instead of trying to control the situation.

Key Takeaways:

• Focus on how you are handling the situation instead of focusing on other people.
• We can’t make people change or control other people. 
• We’ll better off walk through our own healing and recognize our own triggers if we learn how to control ourselves in the midst of the situation.

Tweetable Quotes:

• We have the ability to change the atmosphere in which we want to live.
• Triggers are teachers showing us what needs to be healed.

Connect with Joseph James:

• Facebook Page
• Facebook Group
• Instagram

In This Episode:

• Learn what action steps you can take to overcome pain and rejection.
• Joseph opens up about his negative experiences in his childhood and the searing pains of loss he has experienced.
• Learn the danger of seeking approval and constantly trying to fix everything.

Key Takeaways:

1. Forgive yourself.
2. Create goals, dreams, and visions for your life.
3. Take time to grieve.
4. Find someone you can help.
5. Find a way to help them.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Forgiveness requires healing.”
• “Without action, your goal is just a thought.”
• “Change your mindset, change your world.”

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

(Replay) Rachel Jones is a journalist and communications pro who hosted Black and Today on Nola.com from 2012-15.

On this episode:

• Rachel shares how she became a fan of the Saints going to games with her dad.
• Learn how Rachel began pursuing her career in journalism, and how her dream job slipped away.
• Discover the way to navigate difficult transitions.
• Rachel opens up about her diagnosis with epilepsy.
• Discover how to build a support system.

Key Takeaways:

1. Everyone goes through transitions.
2. GIve yourself room to grieve.
3. FInd someone to help and help them.

Tweetable Quotes:

• You can't fill a full cup. Pour into others.
• We hold the key to our own healing.

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In this episode, Joseph speaks about a personal issue he is having at the moment. In a current relationship, he is learning that effective communication is key. He admits, he is no expert, but he is trying to learn. 

Joseph is a helper and is realizing that finding a solution to people's problems is not always what people want in conversation, sometimes people just need to let things off their chest. 

Tweetable Moment:

• “It’s not that the mistakes are worth it, but the journey is worth it.”

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: instagram.com/meetjosephjames

Michael Fabber is a guy who doesn’t know how to sit still. Originally from New York, Michael grew up in a relatively normal family. When his brother, a veteran, committed suicide, it turned his life upside down. Now, Michael works with individuals and businesses to help them achieve their goals. He specializes in those who are seeking fulfillment and bringing their purpose and passion into their careers. Read more about his story on www.coachmikefabber.com.

On this episode:

• Michael shares how his life experiences as a 10-year old turned his life upside down.
• Know what emotional toughness looks like. 
• Hear the question that made Michael evaluate his existence. 
• How Michael lived from being the villain, the damsel in distress to being the own hero of his story. 

Key Takeaways:

• Your story is your own power.
• You’re the only one who can save you—be the hero. 
• You choose the character you want to play in your own story.
• Be thankful for both the journey and destination because you can’t love the destination if you hate the journey. 

Tweetable Quotes:

• Our story is our power.
• Our life is a movie and we’re playing the characters in our movie. Make sure you’re playing the character that you want.
• You have to be the hero of your story.
• Vulnerability brings healing.
• Go through it to grow from it.

Connect with Michael Fabber:

• Facebook Page
• Twitter
• Website

Connect with Joseph James:

• Facebook Page
• Facebook Group
• Instagram

Struggling to establish a morning routine? Joseph shares the benefits and the practical steps to establish one that will help you heal. Download Joseph's free ebook to help you take your morning to the next level: https://witty-artisan-3809.ck.page/e99d552ce1

Key Takeaways:

1. Get up 15 minutes early so you can devote time to your morning routine.
2. Don't sabotage your sleep or your morning with negative thoughts.
3. Create a specific space in your home to begin your morning.

Recommended Resource:

Hal Elrod's The Miracle Morning: https://www.amazon.com/Miracle-Morning-Not-So-Obvious-Guaranteed-Transform/dp/0979019710

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Joseph James sits down with Debbie Freeman. Debbie opened a dance studio at 19 years old, danced for the Atlanta Hawks, and became a dance captain with the world-famous Radio City Rockettes. Debby found herself in a mentally abusive marriage, gaining over 100 pounds. Since then, she has lost the weight and has gone on to become Miss Nevada 2021 at the age of 50.

On This Episode:

• Debbie shares how she surpassed pain by dancing.
• Debbie talks about her traumatic background with her father as a child and how that affected her into adulthood.
• Joseph and Debbie discuss the importance of finding your worth.
• Hear the story of Debbie’s difficult relationship with her abusive, alcoholic husband.
• Discover the importance of building community.

Key Takeaways:

1. You can acknowledge your pain, but you also need to learn from it.
2. Allow forgiveness.
3. Life is not a rehearsal, the show must go on.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Walking through life with hate is like hiking while wearing a big backpack. You can’t go any further."

Connect with Debbie:

instagram.com/eatrightnfit4life

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Dealing with unresolved and unhealed trauma from youth is not easy, but so important for personal growth. In this episode, Joseph speaks with Davette Wheat about her trauma from her first love and how she uses numerology to better understand her life purpose.   

She had an amazing childhood and grew up in a family where her parents deeply loved each other, but she found herself in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. This caused her to become very self-destructive and destructive in her own relationships.

She met her ex-husband in high school. She believed that him being emotionally abusive was just him caring about her. The relationship became abusive, and he hit her when she was pregnant with their second child. She held resentment for him for 14 years. 

After this abuse, and heartbreak from the man she dated after her husband, she realized she didn’t want to take anyone’s bs anymore. She is now a coach for women and is a Christian numerologist. She has found her purpose and reason for life by understanding numbers. Numbers and numerology are all over the bible, and it ties into who we are. There is a reason you were born, and she has found that numerology is the best way to find out. She uses numerology in her past job as a collector and now uses it in her coaching program to help people in a way that will help them. 

On this episode:

• Why your life path number is so important
• How to find your life path.
• Realizing that it is not her job to stay with an abusive man. 
• Realizing that you don’t need anybody. You can function without anyone. They are not your identity
• You can’t change people, only the holy spirit can change people. 

Key Takeaways:

• She didn’t know it was okay to put herself first. 
• She now teaches her daughters to set their boundaries. 
• She didn’t know it was okay to put herself first, but slowly she learned that it is okay. 

Tweetable Moments:

• “A huge thing for me was learning to love myself.”
• “I am grateful to have gone through the fire and to find where the light was”
• “There is so much freedom when you take off that jacket and realize, that was not your identity.”
• “You can want someone to be the best more for someone than they want it themselves”
• “The only way we can influence people is if we change ourselves for the better”
• “Sometimes the best change for people is letting that individual go.”

Connect with Davette Wheat:

Davette's website: https://www.davette.net/

Davette's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DHypnotherapy/

Davette's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davette777/

Women’s Only Facebook Group “Be Boss 777” https://www.facebook.com/groups/beboss777

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Whether we want to admit it or not, we all need rest. We need to give ourselves a break. 

Those with a workhorse mindset may feel like resting is a negative thing, but it is so crucial. In a previous episode, Joseph talked about Mental, Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual rest.

In this episode, Joseph addresses Social Rest, which can be taking a rest from social interactions, or surrounding yourself with people who energize you. He also addresses Creative Rest and Sensory Rest. 

We are constantly present, following people online and updating people about our lives. We overwork ourselves and under rest ourselves.  

This episode builds on episode 040: Solo | Debunking the “I’ll Rest When I Die” Myth.

Key Takeaways:

• American’s don’t take enough rest time. 
• There are 7 ways to rest.
• When you don’t rest, you burn out and burn yourself out. 

Tweetable Moments:

• “Allow yourself to be artistic for inspiration” 
• “Get into a place where you can shine”
• “Take a rest from your environment”
• “The strongest individuals take a 30-minute break to give themselves a break, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually” 

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjjames

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/