Purpose Through Pain

Has your kindness been used against you? Then you need to hear this. 

The best revenge is a life well-lived. It is so easy to care for people that we have relationships with and neglect the most important person, yourself. 

In this episode, Joseph speaks with Sarah K. Ramsey about how to design a life that you deserve, after surviving a toxic relationship. Sarah is a life strategist, toxic relationship specialist, dream builder, heart-centered healer, and intuition empowerment, expert. She is a best-selling author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof and host of the Toxic Person Proof podcast which reaches thousands of listeners around the world.

We can be toxic to ourselves. Toxic relationships are not limited to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, they can also be with parents, co-workers, bosses, truly anyone with who we have relationships with. 

Key Takeaways:

• 3 ways to heal from a toxic relationship
• How to come up with a healing strategy 
• A lot of people suffer from Smart Girl/Guy Syndrom - thinking you can fix everything with enough hard work 

Tweetable Moments:

• “When people tell you who they are, believe them” - Maya Angelou
• “My good behavior does not change someone else’s behavior” - Sarah K. Ramsey
• “The best revenge is a life well lived” - Sarah K. Ramsey
• “Not letting people steal your power, that’s integrity.” - Sarah K. Ramsey

Connect with Sarah:

• Sarah’s Website: https://sarahkramsey.com/
• Sarah’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bouncebackcoaching
• Sarah’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bouncebackbetter/

Connect with Joseph James:

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames
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When you are disciplined, get your life in order so when you aren't, everything doesn’t fall apart. 

In Joseph’s life, there have been times he has excelled at being disciplined, but in times of grief and pain, he has failed. Joseph has been a member of the marine corps, law enforcement, homeland security, taught self-defense, has a dog training business and is a solopreneur. This does not mean that he has self-discipline all the time.

If you need discipline for eating better, doing better in school, getting better at work, going to the gym, etc, this episode is for you. 

In this episode:

• Joseph shares the best and most effective ways to get disciplined, even when it seems impossible
• Why you need to be disciplined
• How to plan ahead for a better life, when things are going wrong

Key Takeaways:

• Challenge yourself to finish
• Plan ahead
• Create an atmosphere in which you want to thrive and be successful,
• There is no such thing as perfectionism 
• Celebrate yourself, even if everything goes wrong.

Tweetable Moments:

• “It's very easy once you’ve done something to find an escape route, this is just an easy excuse”
• “Becasue of the fact I am human, I go through stuff.”

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Connect with Joseph:

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On This Episode:

• Caleb shares the difficulty of growing up as a “P.K.” (Pastor’s Kid.)
• Learn about the incredible bond Caleb has with his twin brother.
• Joseph and Caleb discuss the difficulty of having a strained relationship with strict fathers.
• Caleb felt like no one understood him growing up and the desire to commit suicide as early as 4 years old.
• Discover how Caleb set healthy boundaries with his father.
• Caleb shares how bodybuilding helped him heal.

Key Takeaways:

1. You must forgive the one who hurt you and yourself to receive closure.
2. Be patient and things will happen as they are supposed to happen.
3. Put yourself in other’s shoes.

Tweetable Quotes:

“There’s a difference between being a father and being a dad.”

“If there is a possibility for a spark of love in this world, why am I not grasping for that spark?” – Caleb Peterson

“Turn your losses into lessons.”

Connect with Caleb Peterson:

The Ignite Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ignite-podcast/id1556970430

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_ignitepodcast/

Connect with Joseph James:

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On this episode:

• What vulnerability truly means and Joseph James's own experience of being vulnerable. 
• How Joseph has been practicing learning from what he has been teaching since I was a kid.
• What revelation looks like and how it helps him preach to himself. 
• Why we shouldn’t just practice what we’re learning but instead, live what we’re learning.

Key Takeaways:

• True vulnerability is when you’re not comfortable talking about something to someone.
• Learning how to live what you learn means you’re going to mess up.
• We teach what we need to learn.
• Preach to yourself.
• Learn how to live what you learn instead of just practicing it. 

Connect with Joseph James:

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Serena's father was the leader of a Satanic cult, and sexually abused Serena as a young child.

She spent the early years of her life in the witness protection program, 9 different foster homes, and experienced teenage addiction, homelessness, and – just last year – her husband's suicide.

Despite her challenges she has found her purpose.

On This Episode:

• Learn how Serena has helped others find their purposes.
• Find out what purpose through pain means to Serena.
• Hear about Serena’s struggle to connect with different foster families and her inability at a young age to adapt.
• Learn how childhood trauma impacted her adulthood.
• Serena shares how she met her husband and the betrayal that she experienced.
• Learn how fear became the driving factor in Serena’s decisions.
• Discover how you can actually unpack.

Key Takeaways:

1. Forgiveness is for you.
2. You can’t earn love, it has to be freely given.
3. Don’t drown in other’s expectations. You have to fill your own void.
4. Pain and the journey behind the victory is where the inspiration lies.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “You find joy in the suffering.”
• “You’re never really alone.”
• “Healing is an ongoing process.”
• “You can’t heal when you hide.”
• “We are as sick as our secrets.”

Recommended Resource:

The Bloom App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/bloom-cbt-therapy-self-care/id1475128511

We’ve all experienced deep wounds that can last a lifetime. When we don’t practice forgiveness, we prevent healing and become the ones who are hurt in the long run.

On This Episode:

• Joseph James shares the physical abuse he experienced as a child.
• Walk in a mindset of forgiveness, even when you’re in the heat of it.
• Joseph warns how trauma can control your actions and lead you to hurt others.
• No human being can bring healing to you. You have to make the decision.

Key Takeaways:

1. Make the decision to change.
2. Recognize the value of forgiveness.
3. Identify what needs to heal.
4. Acknowledge your emotions.

Tweetable Quotes:

"You win by forgiveness."

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

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Vinay Chary is the owner and Chief Instructor of Triumph Krav Maga/Monkey Bar Gym in New Orleans. He also holds a Krav Maga Worldwide 2nd Degree Black Belt and a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Purple Belt under Professor Matthias Meister. 

On This Episode:

• Vinay shares his experiences growing up as an Indian in a majority white area.
• Learn how Vinay spiraled into alcoholism and the history of addiction in his family.
• Hear how a toxic relationship worsened Vinay’s addiction and habits.
• Joseph and Vinay discuss the rehab process and trying to be sober in New Orleans.
• Hear how learning self-defense can help you emotionally in addition to protecting yourself physically.
• Find encouragement to overcome the ups and downs of life and business.
• VInay explains why they sold everything they own and began traveling.

Key Takeaways:

1. You have to tackle problems like addiction with no half measures.
2. Community is a necessary asset when overcoming addiction and trauma.
3. Learning to defend yourself is secondary to the confidence it builds.

Tweetable Quotes:

Everyone wants to talk about success, no one wants to talk about the small things. – Joseph James

Connect with Vinay Chary:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vinay-chary-684068102/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

You have the power to change the atmosphere in which you want to live. While growing up, Joseph James lived in a very toxic household, and would often turn to worship music to calm himself down, and create a more peaceful environment in his household.

In this episode, Joseph shares some ways that you too can change your atmosphere, and as a result of your work, change your life.

On this episode:

• How Joseph James managed to create a peaceful environment amidst a toxic environment as a child.
• The difference between controlling yourself in the midst of a situation and controlling the situation.
• Learn how to act or choose to react in the midst of the situation instead of trying to control the situation.

Key Takeaways:

• Focus on how you are handling the situation instead of focusing on other people.
• We can’t make people change or control other people.
• We’ll better off walk through our own healing and recognize our own triggers if we learn how to control ourselves in the midst of the situation.

Tweetable Quotes:

• We have the ability to change the atmosphere in which we want to live.
• Triggers are teachers showing us what needs to be healed.

Connect with Joseph James:

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In this episode, Joseph James speaks with Erin and Sarit. They help people get their confidence back through weight loss and body transformation. They run a fitness, nutrition, and lifestyle mentorship business.

Many people struggle with confidence when it comes to their bodies. Through their own journey of failure, Erin and Sarit help others be their true self on the inside and outside.

On this episode:

Erin shares how her own experiences changed her perspective on health.

Learn how to shift your mindset.

Discover the beauty of inner transformation.

Hear how you can grow simultaneously as a spouse and as an individual.

Get the key to defeating the "funk."

Key Takeaways:

Find ways to see your situation from new experiences.

Your mess can become your message.

You're responsible for where you are.

Tweetable Quotes:

You are the problem but you're also the solution.

What you say is what you do and what you do becomes your legacy.

Connect with Erin and Sarit:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erinandsarit/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In today's episode, Joseph James shares his story of getting out of your rut and finding yourself. Everything we go through in life prepares us for something better.

There is always someone out there to keep you from your destiny.

Know when you are in a slump. Take ownership of what you are going through. Learn to work harder on yourself than you do at your job.

1. Work your plan, even if it is baby steps.
2. Activate the thinker in you! Don't stop at what you are doing just because it has been unsuccessful. Failures are nothing but life lessons.
3. Get clarity on what you want to do.

Tweetable Moments:

"Everything I am going through is not going to stop me from where I am going to."

"Everything I go through prepares me for my destiny."

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/