Purpose Through Pain

This is a very special episode. Jenny Lisk interviewed Joseph James about living through the death of his wife on her podcast, The Widowed Parent Podcast. 

Joseph and Jennifer talk about how Joseph raised his children alone, how his children dealt with the death of his wife, and navigating life as a single parent. 

Joseph shares about his morning routine, you can find the free ebook here: https://witty-artisan-3809.ck.page/e99d552ce1

In this episode:

• How joseph death with becoming a single parent
• How he taught his children about death and grief 
• How he became a better dad
• Joseph’s morning routine 

Key Takeaways

• Surround yourself with supportive people who can help you through tough times. 
• You are not alone, even if you are widowed, there is a whole community to support you.
• Create a morning routine (link below for Joseph’s morning routine free ebook)

Tweetable Moments:

• "As I grew as an individual, I was able to process grief” - Joseph James
• "It's okay to grieve, just don't get stuck in it” - Joseph James
• "Take your time to grieve" - Joseph James

Get Joseph's free morning routine ebook here: https://witty-artisan-3809.ck.page/e99d552ce1

Connect with Jenny Lisk:

The Widowed Parent Podcast: https://jennylisk.com/podcast-main

Jenny Lisk's website: https://jennylisk.com/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Jane Epstein was sexually molested as a child over a period of years by her sibling when she was 6 and her brother was 12. At 50 plus years old, she is sorting it all out and sharing her story to empower other survivors to handle their emotions.  God has called her to share her story. She knew she needed to share her story so other people did not feel alone

She was suicidal, a stripper, lost her first husband, but by no accident, got gave her tools to be where she is today. 

Before Jane could heal from the trauma, she had to forgive herself before she could forgive her brother. 

This is a much more common issue than many think. In this episode, Jane goes into the statistics, but if your family experiences this, her advice is for the parents to “breath, remain calm, and get both of the sibling’s help.”

In this episode:

How Jane began to heal from sexual trauma from her brother

What to look out for in your own family

Sibling Sexual Assult Statistics

Prevention and awareness of sibling sexual abuse 

Key Takeaways:

Strategies to do if your family experiences sibling sexual molestation 

How to talk to your kids about sibling sexual molestation 

How to protect your kids from sibling sexual molestation 

Tweetable Moments:

"Understanding grief is a huge gift."

Connect with Jane:

Jane’s Website: https://www.complicatedcourage.com/

Jane’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/janepepstein

Jane’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Complicatedcourage

Jane’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jane_complicatedcourage/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

(Replay) Your words directly correlate to what you think about yourself. What you say becomes your reality. Your pain can craft an identity that you don't want.

You can listen to what others say, and make that your reality. In this solo episode, Joseph shares how you can take control of your identity and write your own story.

Key Takeaways:

• Our beliefs create patterns.
• Be mindful of the stories you tell yourself.
• You have the power to choose which voices you believe.

Tweetable Quotes:

• I have the ability to write my own story.
• Don't let pain become an identity that keeps you stuck.

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

At the age of 16, Alison Leitheiser was diagnosed with a virus in the spinal cord that left her as a quadriplegic but did not let that define her life. She experienced seizures, fatigue, organ damage, and paralysis. She did not give up, she wanted to be a contributing member of society once again and do what she loved, being active. 

As a child, she loved gymnastics and wanted to go to the Olympics. That was her coping mechanism to stress in life, and at the age of 13, she had to give it all up. 

She asked God time and time again, “Why did you give me a sidelines body, but not give me a sidelines heart”. She learned to build her body back up as a friend and ally, and love it regardless of the struggles and pain.

She went on to compete in American Ninja Warrior, finishing a triathlon, and other athletic endeavors. 

She now helps others heal emotionally, physically, and spiritually through her clinic. She started her road as an alternative health care practitioner in 2002, started her own clinical practice in 2009, and today she loves working with people's health challenges and helping them find their way to wellness. Now she wants to give that experience of feeling better, help others participate in life more, and reclaim your health!

Key Takeaways:

• Not allowing adversities to define your life
• Allison’s strong desire to continue participating in life. 
• The power of feeding your faith and starving your fears 
• How music can lift up our mood and use as therapy 
• How to move from a place of overwhelm to calmness so you can show up and connect with yourself 

In this episode:

• How Alison was a gymnast before becoming a quadriplegic
• How she coped with the dark thoughts, including listening to worship music and motivational speakers
• How difficult if was for her when she became a mom because her body was not always consistently there for her 

Tweetable moments:

• “I had to be easy on my body and love myself.”
• “Every moment is a choice, and I get to make those choices every day.”

Connect with Alison:

https://home.inner-restoration.com/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

(Replay) Time and life can pass us by very quickly. Are we making the best use of it? That is the topic of today's solo episode.

Time is the one thing that every living being on this planet has in common. None of us know exactly how much time we will have here on this planet, but it is up to us to make the most of it. Time is so easy to take advantage of, but if you don't use it wisely, it will go away and you can never get it back.

On this Episode:

• Joseph shares about the loss of his wife and how he recognized he didn't make the best use of his time.
• Learn how to make your relationships count with the time you have.
• Discover the difference between being driven and being available to those most important.

Key Takeaways:

• Don't become so driven you to become dismissive of people.
• You can be in the same room as others and still not be present.
• You never know how much you have time.

Tweetable Quote:

• "If you will change your mindset, you will change your world."

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

This is a very special episode, Joseph James was interviewed by Dwayne Staten, the host of the Power of Forgiveness Podcast.

They talk about how Joseph felt like he could never do anything to win in life in the eyes of his father, how he came to forgive him, and how they became best friends. They also talk about rejection, not being able to say sorry after someone passes away, and how people can come to forgive others, but they may not forgive themselves. 

They also talk about something very important and unique, unforgiveness. Unforgiveness can affect your body, your relationships, your life, and its is something that many people need to learn about to recover from. 

In this episode:

• How joseph dealt with rejection from his father
• How joseph delt with rejection from dating
• How joseph put himself back out there to date
• The definition of unforgiveness 

Key takeaways:

• The 2 main parts of forgiveness
• How to forgive yourself

Tweetable Moments:

• “Its okay to not be okay”
• “When you take the step to forgive someone, you may not hear what you want to hear. Do not take that personally.”
• “When we dont forgive ourselves, our bitterness and resentment bubbles up.”
• “Our brains are wired to scout for the bad stuff”

Connect with Dwayne Staten:

Dwayne's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwaynestaten/

Power of Forgiveness Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-power-of-forgiveness-with-dwayne-staten/id1505118249

Connect with Joseph James:

Joseph's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Joseph's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

(Replay) Happy Thanksgiving! In this episode, Joseph shares the 6 ways on how we can start forgiving ourselves as part of our own healing. It can be hard to stay thankful for everything positive in your life when you are in the middle of the bad, but a good way to start feeling thankful again is by forgiving yourself.

In This Episode:

• 6 ways to start forgiving yourself
• How to start healing from trauma

Key Takeaways:

• We cannot forgive ourselves when we project our pain onto others.
• We judge and shame others as a distraction from our fractured relationship with ourselves.
• Forgiving ourselves is part of our healing."

Tweetable Moments:

• "It's not about letting the pain go, its about forgiveness."
• "We are so quick to blame ourselves, but we are not so quick to forgive ourselves."
• "Your are not your mistakes from your past."

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In this episode, Joseph James speaks with Sharron Keogh a women’s wellness expert who shows professional and entrepreneurial women transform their relationship with themselves so they can enjoy more clarity, have a greater sense of self-worth and self-belief, significantly improve wellness, and deeper connections with themselves and those around them. 

She has experienced the highs and lows of maintaining physical and mental health, working full time, having multiple side businesses, and having a social life! 

When Sharron was a child she was sexually abused, and this caused her to carry guilt and shame for years. As an adult, she had to learn how to let love in and let go of the shame. 

They speak about how we all have a reason that we are here, we just have to uncover it. Finding our purpose is where our ultimate happiness will come from. It starts with talking about our emotions.

In this episode:

How her childhood sexual abuse led her to become suicidal in her teen years. 

How she reestablished herself after hitting rock bottom.

How she mentally processed 2 miscarriages in 6 months.

How she found herself in a time where she had nothing going on, so she followed her passion. 

Key Takeaway:

Growing up with shame and finding ways to cope.

How she learned to make her pain worth it by helping others.

We all have a reason that we are here, we just have to uncover it. That is where our ultimate happiness will come from. 

Tweetable moments:

“How you look at things helps you process and move through things more powerfully.”

“We are all so unique. From our DNA to our personalities we are all here for a reason.”

“It’s so important to normalize talking about the uncomfortable parts of life.”

“I can create a new me.” - Joseph James 

Connect with Sharron Keogh:

Website: http://www.sharronkeogh.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theSharronKeogh

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesharronkeogh/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharronkeogh/

Download a FREE Self Care Guide

https://www.sharronkeogh.com/selfcareguide/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In this episode, Joseph James shares how pain can become the thing that inspires and launches you. He tells a very personal story and how he turned his pain into purpose.

While we do not know what others go through, we can support others by sharing our personal stories. You never know who you can help by sharing your story. It may open a door for someone who needs it.

You will never hear Joseph compare his pain to another person's pain. Pain is pain. It all hurts. No one's story is more important than someone else's. It's not a competition.

Key Takeaways:

The reason for our pain is different for everyone.

You can walk with God and still feel hurt.

We experience pain in life so we can share the experience with others.

Tweetable Quotes:

We cannot touch what we cannot feel.

Pain is life’s greatest teacher but it can also be life’s greatest crutch.

Vulnerability is not something to be afraid of, it’s something to be empowered by.

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejames

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

This is a very special episode. Joseph James was a featured speaker at the Self Love Revolution Summit that was streamed worldwide. 

Joseph tells his whole story, including how he overcame hatred with his father and how he found the real purpose behind his pain. 

He is interviewed by Jonathan Troen, a self-love mentor, life mastery coach, and creator of the Self Love Revolution Summit. He preaches self-love. Self-love is a skill you teach yourself and perfect, it is something that we need to work on daily. 

The Self Love Revolution Summit was a free online event from November 3rd - 7th, 2021. You will meet the experts who have mastered the art of self-love and learn how to enhance your relationships, find financial freedom, and start living a happier, more loving life.

Tweetable Moments:

“Sometimes we forgive others, and never forgive ourselves.” - Joseph James

“A lot of people going through pain just need someone to talk to.” - Joseph James

https://www.selfloverevolutionsummit.com/

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/