Purpose Through Pain

We’ve all experienced deep wounds that can last a lifetime. When we don’t practice forgiveness, we prevent healing and become the ones who are hurt in the long run.

On This Episode:

• Joseph James shares the physical abuse he experienced as a child.
• Walk in a mindset of forgiveness, even when you’re in the heat of it.
• Joseph warns how trauma can control your actions and lead you to hurt others.
• No human being can bring healing to you. You have to make the decision.

Key Takeaways:

1. Make the decision to change.
2. Recognize the value of forgiveness.
3. Identify what needs to heal.
4. Acknowledge your emotions.

Tweetable Quotes:

"You win by forgiveness."

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Vinay Chary is the owner and Chief Instructor of Triumph Krav Maga/Monkey Bar Gym in New Orleans. He also holds a Krav Maga Worldwide 2nd Degree Black Belt and a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Purple Belt under Professor Matthias Meister. 

On This Episode:

• Vinay shares his experiences growing up as an Indian in a majority white area.
• Learn how Vinay spiraled into alcoholism and the history of addiction in his family.
• Hear how a toxic relationship worsened Vinay’s addiction and habits.
• Joseph and Vinay discuss the rehab process and trying to be sober in New Orleans.
• Hear how learning self-defense can help you emotionally in addition to protecting yourself physically.
• Find encouragement to overcome the ups and downs of life and business.
• VInay explains why they sold everything they own and began traveling.

Key Takeaways:

1. You have to tackle problems like addiction with no half measures.
2. Community is a necessary asset when overcoming addiction and trauma.
3. Learning to defend yourself is secondary to the confidence it builds.

Tweetable Quotes:

Everyone wants to talk about success, no one wants to talk about the small things. – Joseph James

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

On This Episode:

• Joseph tells a story about blaming himself for the death of a fellow athlete.
• Hear why Joseph struggled with guilt after his mom passed.
• Learn the one thing you can do that will help you through your pain.

Key Takeaways:

1. You can’t blame yourself.
2. Realize what happened is over.
3. Forgiving yourself is the first step until healing.

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Growing up with a father who was unwillfully drafted in the Army to serve time in Korea, Shā Sparks inherited her father’s “I don’t have a choice” mindset. Later she realized she did have a choice and overcame abuse, addiction, depression, anger, low self-worth, being a bully and being bullied. Today, she has proactively changed that fear-based phrase “I don’t have a choice” into determination inspiring others to make fearless choices. She guides leaders to re-ignite their passion into a more aligned purpose and transform it into increased profit. She knows that if she can take her own traumatic experiences and transform them into a treasure, then so can you!

She is the CEO (Chief Excitement Officer) of Sparks of Fire International, a Certified Fearless Living Coach and Trainer, host of The Power of Investing in People Podcast, host of “Hey Shā, What Do I Say?” Facebook Live Show, author of “How to Get Your Voice Back”, and Co-Founder of #FIRESTARTERS Book Project.

Connect with Sha Here:

• Website www.shasparks.com
• #FIRESTARTERS Book Project https://firestartersbookproject.com/ 
• LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/sha-sparks 
• Facebook https://www.facebook.com/iamshasparks/ 
• Podcast on all platforms: The Power of Investing in People

In This Episode:

• Sha explains how she made choices involving her pain and the feeling of hopelessness.
• Sha explains her biggest pain point.
• Learn how acupuncture helped Sha.
• Discover where fear comes from and how you can take it on.
• Hear how parents impact our development.
• Learn how to identify healthy love versus unhealthy love.
• Discover the difference between responding and reacting.

Key Takeaways:

1. You have a choice of how you respond to pain.
2. Fear’s job is to protect you, but it can also stop you when it shouldn’t.
3. Familiar isn’t always what’s healthy.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Trauma is what happened, fear is the reaction.”
• “We can’t rely on someone else to heal us.”

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In This Episode:

• Learn what action steps you can take to overcome pain and rejection.
• Joseph opens up about his negative experiences in his childhood and the searing pains of loss he has experienced.
• Learn the danger of seeking approval and constantly trying to fix everything.

Key Takeaways:

1. Forgive yourself.
2. Create goals, dreams, and visions for your life.
3. Take time to grieve.
4. Find someone you can help.
5. Find a way to help them.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Forgiveness requires healing.”
• “Without action, your goal is just a thought.”
• “Change your mindset, change your world.”

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

In this episode, Joseph sits down with Shawn Oddo. Shawn is the founder and owner of Valhalla Training Grounds.

Valhalla is Louisiana's FIRST and ONLY private, hardcore, training facility among an abundance of mediocre corporate gyms. They have created an environment for those serious about their health and fitness goals, without the distracting non-sense found at other gyms.

In This Episode:

• Shawn talks about growing up under extreme mental and physical abuse.
• Shawn explains why he associated money with unhappiness
• Learn why Shawn decided to take the leap and open up his own gym.
• Joseph and Shawn talk through depression and suicide.
• Joseph gets real about rejection.

Key Takeaways:

1. Don’t let other’s limitations become your limitations.
2. Keep an eye out for unexpected resources.
3. If you’re still here, you can keep going.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “All the small things add up to big shit.” – Shawn Oddo
• “Whatever energy you put out is what you get back.” – Shawn Oddo
• “We can either use pain to leave us stuck like glue or pain can launch us into our destiny.” – Joseph James

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

On This Episode:

1. Joseph shares how he learned to deal with feelings of abandonment, rejection, and abuse.
2. Learn the danger of trying to always be a fixer in your relationships.
3. Joseph shares how he always sought approval from others.
4. Hear Joseph’s vision for the future of the Purpose Through Pain Podcast.

Key Takeaways:

1. The number one place you need to look for help is within.
2. The pain we experience has a reason for it.
3. We can’t touch what we can’t feel.

Connect with Joseph James:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpn

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/

Serena's father was the leader of a Satanic cult, and sexually abused Serena as a young child.

She spent the early years of her life in the witness protection program, 9 different foster homes, and experienced teenage addiction, homelessness, and – just last year – her husband's suicide.

Despite her challenges she has found her purpose.

On This Episode:

• Learn how Serena has helped others find their purposes.
• Find out what purpose through pain means to Serena.
• Hear about Serena’s struggle to connect with different foster families and her inability at a young age to adapt.
• Learn how childhood trauma impacted her adulthood.
• Serena shares how she met her husband and the betrayal that she experienced.
• Learn how fear became the driving factor in Serena’s decisions.
• Discover how you can actually unpack.

Key Takeaways:

1. Forgiveness is for you.
2. You can’t earn love, it has to be freely given.
3. Don’t drown in other’s expectations. You have to fill your own void.
4. Pain and the journey behind the victory is where the inspiration lies.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “You find joy in the suffering.”
• “You’re never really alone.”
• “Healing is an ongoing process.”
• “You can’t heal when you hide.”
• “We are as sick as our secrets.”

Recommended Resource:

The Bloom App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/bloom-cbt-therapy-self-care/id1475128511

The introduction to the Purpose Through Pain Podcast.