Queendom Come

Personal intro

• Having to move back from Puerto Rico has reminded me that no matter where I am, WHO I am, is a Queen.
• Who is a queen?
• • They believe they are queens, they show up for themselves as Queens.
• In tarot, my personality card is the Empress, the Queen of Queens
• • I choose every day to be the Empress, whether or not I feel it
  • My feelings don't define me. I define me. 
  • • Queens can feel everything, because they know that the feelings will pass, and who they are is consistently a Queen.

Carmindy Interview

• Safeguarding your energy is key to living in your Queendom. 
• Allow yourself to take a day, without making excuses to justify your choice.
• Carmindy grew up in Southern California and was bullied relentlessly for being overweight and for her looks.
• She found her escape through art and nature
• In the beginning she was covering herself in makeup, in an attempt to change herself. And then as her self-esteem grew through art, she started seeing the power of highlighting the natural beauty in herself and others
• Grew up reading "A Course in Miracles," her mother studied astrology and so Carmindy did too. She was a spiritual seeker early on
• •  Read "Creative Visualization"; read "7 Spiritual Laws of Success"
• She combined the two, to make sure every woman would feel empowered, and her  spiritual background helped her relate to every woman
• Love is theme of her work, not proselytizing
• "What changes the game is a woman who's 42, with 3 kids, newly divorced, just survived breast cancer..if i can make her feel beautiful, that's changing the game."  
• The more advanced and powerful we're becoming as women, the more insecure we're becoming about our physical appearance.
• • That insecurity multiples in women's heads in their relationships
• Mirror mantras!
• • What passes through your lips is powerful
• How has your growth and self-confidence shifted your romantic relationships?
• • Carmindy always knew she didn't want to have children, so the ticking clock was never a factor
  • "If I made decisions based on the heart over the ticking clock, I'd be a lot happier"
  • Long history of bad relationships, even though she had fantastic role models in her parents and brother
  • She would choose "projects" in the form of manboys
  • A lot of women either give their power to a man who controls them, or give their power away by trying to fix them
  • Her new relationship is about living in the moment, which is a direct result of her self-confidence. 
  • The question to ask is, "Are we happy, today?"
• Do certain parts of self-confidence only come with age?
• • Yes it comes with age, but you can also learn by listening to more confident elders
  • There is no time limit!
• Being driven by ambition or trying to control everything makes you miss out on the moment of beauty that is right now.
• Don't give a shit! Stop caring about what anyone else thinks! What do you think?
• How do you live in your Queenliness, when you're in a season that is a dark night of the soul?
• • Abusive relationships
  • • Many queens get into abusive relationships almost to challenge ourselves to see how powerful we really are...and then we get out.
  • Reach out to other Goddesses and Queens
  • • Queens need their court! They don't do it alone.
  • Go through the fire
  • Creative visualization. Keep visualizing, don't doubt it.
  • Pivot, reshape, play with clay, but don't give up.
  • If you don't fail, you won't grow
• In the Ancient Egyptians' burial ceremony, to get to the afterlife, you had to fight the demons to go to where the gods live. 
• • That's  what happens in our life on earth.
• Going through her dark night of the soul has brought Carmindy to the happiest, strongest, most empowered place in her life.
• "Why?" is not always the best question. Things aren't happening to you, they're happening for you. 
• • "What?" is a better question. What are you going to do with the situation?
• Once you're through the fire, don't look back.
• • Ex: After her divorce, Carmindy's view is that alimony isn't alimony anymore, it's a student loan from "love college."
• You can look at one thing and see it three,four, five different ways. Why not choose the positive, funny way? It's better, it's lighter, it's happier.
• From this moment forward two things could happen in the world:
• • fear= new world order, masculine
  • Positive collective consciousness=new order, feminine 
• What seeds do you want to plant with our audience to "Grow the Queendom?"
• • Create your own destiny. 
  • "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, live the life you have imagined." Henry David Thorough

Q&A

• Gladys "how are you going to decide for yourself how you're going to be beneficial in this time?"
• Here's why I love this question: Just by asking the question, you're putting other people first.
• When you shift your focus to other people, and how you can serve them, everything else shifts.
• When you focus on yourself, without remembering that you're part of a bigger whole, you fall deeper into isolation and depression.
• Two pillars for getting through quarantine
• • Get the focus off yourself, how are you going to be of service?
  • What's a healthy way to focus on yourself? Orgasm at least once a day.
• Send in your questions: [email protected]; IG and FB- @queendom.come.podcast
• Online video coaching with me through BEAM+Flow "Embodied Flow Sessions" (bodywork, feelings, hormone balancing, creative coaching). IG and FB- BEAM+Flow

Moment of Flow

• "Something New" by Cleo Wade

Intro- Personal intro to show

• What is "Queendom Come?" and What is "The Age of the Divine Feminine?"
• Everything in the universe exists on a spectrum of energy.
• • Two opposite poles on the spectrum, flow and containing (feminine and masculine)
• This show is a space for us to practice dancing together, between these poles
• Avoid toxic femininity
• How do we do this dance?
• What does it look like to be a Queen  when you feel like shit?
• Energetic poles: Maro/Micro; individual/cosmic; institution/intuition; containment/flow; consistency/change;
• • There is a dance of these energies happening within us all the time, and how do we tap into that, use it to create our Queendom?
• Whether you're a King or a Queen, there's at least a little bit of Queenly energy in you, and this show is for anyone looking to nurture those energies within themselves
• It's our time. It's our time to learn how to do this dance with grace; and love, and play, and fun. So we can teach by example, by our fun, by our joy, by our play, the masculine in all of us to embrace some of that feminine practice, to embrace some of his own Queendom as we step into ours.
• By stepping into your own queendom, you give space for kings to rise, you show other queens that they can do it too; you start changing the shape of the world so that it is more round, more feminine in flow to balance millenial of twisted masculine energy. 
• Every episode will include 
• • Personal update
  • Interviews with bad ass reinas, and kings who love queens and want to grow the queendom with us
  • BEAM+Flow questions, from my work helping people unwind chronic holding 

patterns, to help you step into the fullness of who you are. 

• Spoken word ("Moment of Flow")

BIANCA JADE INTERVIEW

• Danielle Nottingham question: on a scale of 1-10 how hard is it to put on lashes?
• • Strip Lashes are hard to apply. Buy the black glue because the white glue, even invisible glue, doesn't fully dissolve.
  • • Black glue can be found at Sally Beauty and sometimes Sephora
  • IG trick: apply black glue straight to lashline, and then apply strip lash on. Better because you're not smudging the glue on the eyelid if you don't get it just right.
  • I use argan oil to my brows, and Bianca does too
  • I use it soften my pubic hair, as a pube oil
  • Pubic hair or no pubic hair? Let's discuss (Listen to the podcast for more)
• Let's talk about sex in your 30s and 40s
• • Are the 30s the best decade for sex?
  • Community keeps us young, and, after coronavirus, that need for community will be a good thing for Bianca's sex life.
• Bianca and I met when she came in for a Brazilian Lymphatic Drainage session with me at HigherDOSE in Manhattan.
• • BEAM+Flow (Body, Energy, Awareness, Movement and Flow) is my wellness company.
  • • Detox is a way of life, because there is an energy within us that is constantly being recycled and renewed. When we tap into that, amazing clarity flows through.
• How do you stay in flow while hustling without burning out?
• • Everyone has their own approach, Bianca's mantra is "Go the distance."
  • Mine is "See the magic."
• "My way of being has turned off a lot of women and female friendships, because I have a lot of masculinity in my essence."
• • "My masculine energy helps me pay the bills, and keeps the brand growing."
  • Women don't always respect masculine energies in other women, until those women are super successful and famous
  • I asked Bianca how these former female friends would describe her?
  • • Blunt, aggressive, consumed with work--but these are friends who work in the same profession
  • Bianca was able to "change my ways of being to accepting that the roles that don't come truly were not meant for me"
  • • How to make peace with rejection or the unknown
    • How to give something an awesome try and let it go
    • THIS IS feminine energy
    • We're all a balancing act
• How did growing up in Saint Louis  shape your Latinidad?
• • Jew-tina, and the Jewish side dominated her upbringing
  • • Grew up identifying as white
    • When other people can't see it in us, we sometimes forget that we have it
  • College is where she began shaping her Latina identity
  • Now, it's everything. She tries to infuse her culture in all of her work.
• "What is your favorite thing to do alone"
• • She doesn't masturbate
  • Playing with her dog is her favorite
  • • @Fridadoggy is her dog's IG handle
• Words are like seeds of intention. The magic, the manifestation happens as we care for the spout. What seeds do you want to plant with our audience to "Grow the Queendom?"
• • Just BE.

Q&A

• Send in your questions: [email protected]; IG and FB- @queendom.come.podcast
• Online video coaching with me through BEAM+Flow "Embodied Flow Sessions" (bodywork, feelings, hormone balancing, creative coaching) 
• How to deal with anxiety when cooped up?
• • Journaling
  • Go for a walk or run outside
  • Yoga
  • Tapping
  • • Use index and middle finger to gently tap the following spots for about 3 seconds each:
    • • Crown of your head
      • Eyebrow (starting in the middle, nearest to the nose, then work to outer edge)
      • Side of the eye socket
      • Underneath your eye, above cheekbone
      • Underneath your nose
      • Underneath your lower lip
      • Under collarbone
      • Ribcage
      • Outside edge of your hand, fleshy part of under the pinky
• Online video coaching with me through BEAM+Flow "Embodied Flow Sessions" (bodywork, feelings, hormone balancing, creative coaching)- [email protected] IG and FB: @beam.and.flow or @chloecofresi
• During Coronavirus, all Embodied Flow sessions are pay what you can. If you're an essential worker, they're free!

Moment of Flow

• "Only Kings" written by Chloe Cofresi