Queen’s Behind the Scenes

Today, I'm combining a few of my favorite things: women, race, and true crime.

And we're going there.

The Lindsay Clancy case has generated enormous conversation about motherhood, postpartum psychosis, mental illness, criminal responsibility, and the deaths of three children.

But that's not the conversation I want to have.

I'm not here to decide whether Lindsay Clancy was criminally responsible. I'm interested in what happened around this case—particularly the extraordinary amount of compassion, curiosity, and complexity we've been willing to extend to Lindsay, and what happened when one Black juror saw the case differently than the other eleven.

It left me with a question I haven't been able to shake:

Who gets compassion?

Who gets to do something horrific and still have us ask, “What happened to her?” before we ask, “What's wrong with her?”

And would we be asking those same questions if the mother at the center of this case were Black?

In this episode, I'm talking about the Lindsay Clancy trial, the lone Black juror and the scrutiny that followed the mistrial, postpartum psychosis, the way Black women are often denied access to vulnerability, and why race can influence who we instinctively see as complicated, redeemable, broken—or simply bad.

And yes, somehow Michael Vick and the dogs make their way into this conversation too.

Because this isn't really an episode about Lindsay Clancy.

It's about us.

It's about the politics of empathy.

It's about our willingness to search for context for some people while allowing the worst thing another person has ever done to permanently define them.

And it's about something I think we should all interrogate:

Maybe the problem isn't that we've given Lindsay Clancy too much compassion. Maybe it's that we haven't learned to extend enough complexity to everyone else.

The Lindsay Clancy case and why I'm not interested in retrying it

Postpartum psychosis, mental illness, and criminal responsibility

The 11–1 jury split and the scrutiny of the lone Black juror

Why Black women don't always get access to vulnerability

The difference between compassion and access to complexity

What Michael Vick has to do with any of this

Why empathy may have more to do with identification than we'd like to admit

The question underneath the entire episode: Who gets to remain human after doing something we can't understand?

Nobody Is Coming to Discover You.

There are a lot of incredibly talented women who believe that if they keep doing excellent work, eventually somebody will notice.

Somebody will recognize their talent.

Somebody will put their name in the room.

Somebody will give them the opportunity.

Somebody will discover them.

Queens, nobody is coming.

And that might actually be the most freeing thing you hear all week.Stay Connected

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In The P.O.I.S.E. Method, Charise Beckett introduces a practical, research-informed framework for leaders who want consistent results and a healthy, high-trust culture. Built around five pillars: Precision, Optimization, Influence, Strategy, and Endurance. This audiobook shows you exactly how to align your goals, your team, and your systems so you can achieve sustainable success.

Step into your leadership journey with The P.O.I.S.E. Leadership Action Workbook, the ultimate guide designed to help leaders, managers, and aspiring professionals develop the skills necessary to lead with clarity and precision. Created by Charise Beckett, a leadership coach with over 20 years of experience in corporate, non-profit, and entrepreneurial settings, this workbook provides a structured approach to becoming a more impactful and effective leader.

What happens when the life you worked so hard to build is actually...good?

You got the title. You built the career. You make the money. You created some security. Maybe you have the house, the family, the trips, the things an earlier version of you was working toward.

And then one day you find yourself asking:

Is this still what I want?

In this solo episode of Queens Behind the Scenes, I'm talking about something I've been wrestling with in real time: what happens when ambition starts to change.

This isn't about being ungrateful. It isn't about blowing up a successful life because the internet told you to "choose yourself." And it definitely isn't me pretending money suddenly doesn't matter. I like nice shit. We're staying grounded in reality.

This is about recognizing that the woman who created your definition of success 10, 15, or 20 years ago may not get to define it forever.

We get into the competence trap, golden handcuffs, why being good at something doesn't mean you have to do it forever, the difference between wanting MORE and wanting DIFFERENT, and why I'm becoming much more interested in building a life with room in it.

I also walk through six questions I'm using for my own Success Audit:

• What am I still actively choosing?

Because maybe the next level isn't another achievement.

Maybe it's becoming much more precise about what deserves your ambition.

• Why getting what you wanted can create an entirely new kind of uncertainty

One question to sit with after this episode:

If I wasn't trying to prove anything to anybody, what would I want now?

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Lead with clarity. Perform with purpose. Endure without burning out.

In The P.O.I.S.E. Method, Charise Beckett introduces a practical, research-informed framework for leaders who want consistent results and a healthy, high-trust culture. Built around five pillars: Precision, Optimization, Influence, Strategy, and Endurance. This audiobook shows you exactly how to align your goals, your team, and your systems so you can achieve sustainable success.

Step into your leadership journey with The P.O.I.S.E. Leadership Action Workbook, the ultimate guide designed to help leaders, managers, and aspiring professionals develop the skills necessary to lead with clarity and precision. Created by Charise Beckett, a leadership coach with over 20 years of experience in corporate, non-profit, and entrepreneurial settings, this workbook provides a structured approach to becoming a more impactful and effective leader.

Nobody Is Coming to Discover You.

Being excellent and being visible are two completely different skills.

Next week, we're talking about what it looks like to stop waiting for someone to notice your work, recognize your potential or magically figure out what you want.

Not performative personal branding. Not "grind harder." Not turning yourself into a walking billboard.

We're talking about making yourself discoverable: asking, pitching, building relationships, creating visibility and learning how to advocate for what you want.

Because your work may be excellent.

But your work does not have a mouth.

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After some heavier conversations, we're doing a little palate cleanser this week. ✨

Join me at my vanity as we talk summer glow, the products I'm actually reaching for at 47, and the makeup, skincare, and little luxuries that are making me feel polished, confident, and put together this season.

No gatekeeping. No "you need 37 products" nonsense. Just a candid conversation about what I'm loving, what's worth the hype, and what helps me feel like the best version of myself this summer.

Because sometimes wellness looks like deep reflection... and sometimes it looks like bronzer, blush, SPF, and a good lip combo. 💄☀️

🎙️ A brand-new episode of Queens Behind the Scenes drops TONIGHT at 7 PM.

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Meet me at the vanity. We're talking glow. ✨

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📖 P.O.I.S.E.: The Blueprint for Escaping Burnout and Creating Your New Reality

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📱 Follow and connect with Charise on social media for leadership insights, executive coaching, and behind-the-scenes conversations that empower women to lead with confidence and authenticity.

What does it mean when a woman says she's tired of being amazing?

Inspired by a powerful line from All Her Fault, this episode explores the hidden burden of competence, resilience, and high achievement. For many women—especially those who have spent their lives proving themselves—excellence becomes more than an accomplishment. It becomes an expectation.

In this episode, Charise Beckett examines the "competence tax"—the often-unspoken reality that the more capable you are, the more responsibility, pressure, and emotional labor people place on your shoulders. She shares personal reflections on success, leadership, family, ambition, and the societal expectations that come with being the one who always gets it done.

This is not a conversation about rejecting achievement. It's a conversation about understanding the cost of carrying so much for so long.

• Why the line "I'm tired of being amazing" resonated with so many women

🌐 P.O.I.S.E. Leadership Ecosystem

📖 P.O.I.S.E.: The Blueprint for Escaping Burnout and Creating Your New Reality

📘 P.O.I.S.E. Workbook

🎙️ Corporately Speaking Podcast

📱 Follow and connect with Charise on social media for leadership insights, executive coaching, and behind-the-scenes conversations that empower women to lead with confidence and authenticity.

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, rate, and share Queens Behind the Scenes with a friend who may need the reminder that her worth is not determined by how much she carries.

Until next time, remember: you can be ambitious without being consumed, successful without being perfect, and strong without carrying everything alone.

This week on Queens Behind the Scenes, I’m talking about something I think a lot of high-achieving women are quietly experiencing:

Healing changes your tolerance level.

The healthier you become emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, the harder it becomes to sit in chaos you once normalized. Suddenly dysfunction feels loud. Overexplaining feels exhausting. Burnout stops feeling impressive. And relationships, workplaces, habits, and environments that once felt “normal” start feeling heavy.

In this episode, I unpack the emotional side of healing that people don’t talk about enough. We get into burnout culture, social media “soft life” performances, therapy language online, emotionally exhausting friendships, boundaries, workplace dysfunction, reality TV chaos, and why peace can actually feel unfamiliar when survival has been your normal for too long.

This conversation is honest, funny, reflective, and very real.

If you’ve been feeling different lately… this episode might explain why.

Also be sure to check out Corporately Speaking, my book and workbook, P.O.I.S.E.: The Blueprint for Escaping Burnout, Redefining Success, and Creating Your New Reality, and additional leadership and wellness resources through P.O.I.S.E. Consulting. All links are below.

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Welcome back to Queens Behind the Scenes.

Two episodes ago, I talked about the pressure women feel to maintain beauty, youth, and “having it together.” But after that conversation, I kept thinking about another layer we don’t talk about honestly enough… pretty privilege.

Because yes, I do believe attractive people are often treated differently. I think most of us know that on some level. But what I don’t think gets enough attention is the pressure attached to it.

In this episode, I’m talking about the emotional and social side of beauty culture, especially for women navigating visibility, leadership, social media, aging, and identity in real time.

I also dive into how this conversation hits differently for Black women and why beauty is often tied to professionalism, perception, and even protection in ways people don’t always acknowledge.

This is not a bitter conversation.

I enjoy beauty. I enjoy taking care of myself. But I also think women deserve space to question what we’re participating in and why.

We’re getting into all of it this week.

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P.O.I.S.E.: The Blueprint for Escaping Burnout, Redefining Success, and Creating Your New Reality

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🎧 Listen to Corporately Speaking with Charise Beckett & Mark Thompson

Everybody wants advice from millionaires, billionaires, and people whose lives look nothing like their own. But what if some of the most useful wisdom comes from women who are still building in real time?

In this solo episode, I talk about why I believe different women in different stages of life need different advice. I unpack the obsession with extreme wealth stories, the problem with one-size-fits-all success culture, and why practical guidance from women navigating careers, money, family, leadership, and everyday pressure may be more valuable than polished soundbites.

I also discuss why context matters, why many women are carrying more than people realize, and why some of the smartest voices are often not the loudest.

If you have ever listened to advice that sounded good but did not fit your actual life, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I discuss:

Sometimes the richest voice is not the most useful voice.

Sometimes the most relevant advice comes before millions.

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Welcome back to Queens Behind the Scenes.

In this season premiere, Charise Beckett returns with a powerful and honest conversation about the pressure women face to maintain youth and beauty — and what it truly costs.

This is not a conversation about rejecting self-care. Charise openly shares that she invests in herself — from skincare to beauty treatments — and enjoys feeling polished and put together. But she also embraces her natural, fresh-faced days. And somewhere between those two realities lies a deeper tension many women are navigating:

When does self-care stop being a choice… and start becoming a requirement?

In this episode, Charise explores:

This episode sets the tone for a bold new season — one rooted in truth, ownership, and redefining what it means to show up fully as yourself.

And next week, the conversation continues as Charise dives into the workplace — unpacking the conversation around visibility, presence, and promotability, including recent commentary from Emma Grede and why it deserves a deeper lens.

✨ P.O.I.S.E.: The Blueprint for Escaping Burnout, Redefining Success, and Creating Your New Reality

✨ The P.O.I.S.E. Leadership Action Workbook

🎧 Listen to Corporately Speaking with Charise Beckett & Mark Thompson

Believing in yourself is not confidence.

It is a daily practice.

In this season-finale episode of Queens Behind the Scenes, Charise Beckett explores why self-belief and self-liking are inseparable, how high-achieving women learn to abandon both in the name of success, and what it really costs to reclaim them.

Drawing from lived experience, leadership insight, and cultural truth, Charise breaks down:

Why believing in yourself is not optional if you want freedom, not just success

How chronic self-betrayal erodes both confidence and self-respect

The unspoken backlash that comes when you genuinely love yourself and others do not

Why self-love is not soft work, but disruptive leadership

Practical ways to activate self-trust, set boundaries, and stop playing small

This is not a motivational episode.

If you have ever felt successful on paper but disconnected from yourself, this episode is for you.

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If today’s conversation resonated, these resources are designed to help you go deeper and put the work into practice.

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Romanticizing your life isn’t about escaping reality or pretending everything is perfect. It’s about choosing intention, presence, and beauty inside the life you already have.

In this episode of Queens Behind the Scenes, we explore why romanticizing your everyday moments is not frivolous or naïve, but practical, grounding, and deeply sustaining. From small rituals and intentional routines to creating moments of care in the middle of real life, this conversation unpacks how softness, presence, and meaning can transform how life feels without requiring a complete overhaul.

This episode builds on the same philosophy explored in P.O.I.S.E.: The Blueprint for Escaping Burnout, Redefining Success, and Creating Your New Reality, where success is redefined beyond constant urgency and performance, and in The P.O.I.S.E. Leadership Action Workbook, which focuses on sustainable leadership, intentional living, and long-term endurance.

If you’ve been craving more joy, calm, and connection in your daily life, this episode is a reminder that you don’t need a new life to feel better — you need a different way of experiencing the one you’re already living.

This is an invitation to slow down, soften your days, and reimagine what it means to truly live well.