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If I were to rate my social skills on a scale of 1–10, I would give myself a solid 5. But I have an interview tomorrow and I want to boost that 5 to an 8. So what can I do? Any answer is appreciated. Thank you. :)

Pretend like a guy in a black mask has a gun to your back.

If you don’t act confident and be yourself, then he’ll pull the trigger.

“Clack!”

The hardest part of being social is getting over the fear of rejection, but if rejection means death, then it’s easy to act confident and happy-go-lucky.

I used this tactic last night talking to a cute girl. After a half hour of conversation, I knew I wanted to ask her out on a date.

Then, the worst thing happened.

I started thinking.

What if this goes wrong?

What if I feel like [insert imaginary painful experience] after I get rejected?

So much negative self-talk.

Time to stop.

I thought back to my toolbox of tips for taking action.

Ah, the gunman trick.

One second later.

“Hey, I’m going to this party with live music Wednesday night. You should cruise along. We’ll call it a date.”

It turns out she already had a boyfriend.

Still, it felt great - an enormous relief of pressure.

If I didn’t ask, I would’ve kicked myself the rest of the night over someone who already had a boyfriend.

The problem is that’s what many of us do.

This goes for most situations in life when we’re afraid to take action. We stop ourselves.

The people who land job opportunities, dates, and get salary raises, are those who take the many opportunities given to us.

These opportunities are in every conversation, handshake, and meeting.

And once you become an action taker, you’ll begin to see all of them.

To start, picture the gunman behind you whenever you feel hesitant in social settings.

There is this guy I have a crush on. We've never talked.

So I was wondering if I could manipulate the situation, by let him get interesting in me to. Like would it work out if I act shy and look down when we passing by each other? So he would start noticing me and gets interest in me too?

A very rich oil tycoon may pay a stunningly beautiful prostitute a large sum of money to have sex with him.

He may pay her a tremendous amount of money, to live at his mansion.(He may offer her $150.000 a year).

He may pay her one million dollars to get married to him.

He may pay her ten million dollars, if she signs a contract, saying she will not leave him during a period of ten years.

He may pay her twenty five million dollars, if she bears his child.

But no matter, how much he pays her, he will never be able to “buy her real love for him”.

That goes for manipulation as well.

Real love can only be on a voluntary basis.

A love won by manipulation, is no love.

A love attained by buying, by bribing the other person, is an empty gesture.

A forced love, a coerced love, is no love at all!

Greetings,

I had a friend in college who was the “headturner.” After talking to the headturner, I felt like I was a headturner. It lasted anywhere from an hour or two to a couple days, and then I returned to being boring. Talking to this guy literally leaves you feeling a combination of buzzed and elated. He’s constantly “stoked.”

Everyone else talked about the headturner. One day, after spending a day with the headturner, I was so excited by his charismatic personality that everyone I interacted with said “I” was the headturner. I’m not a headturner. A few days later they said, “what’s gotten into you? You seem so boring.” Not really, but something close to that.

His charisma was so great that he talked professors into giving him better grades, talked car salesmen into giving him a sports car for peanuts, and talked girls into late night tutoring sessions, when obviously they didn’t feel like studying.

A lot of people have said good answers so far, so I’m going to keep mine short and sweet:

Sleeping in different beds sometimes.

Do you have a couch or guest bedroom? Use it, even if you’re not fighting. Just sleep apart for no other reason than you want to be alone for an entire night. It works wonders.

I’ve learned, after 15 years with my wife, that I sleep a hell of a lot better when I’m alone. So does she.

It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other.

I’ve told this to some people, and they think it’s unromantic or will lead to a decrease in sex. Too late for us, I tell them. The three kids took care of those things for us.

i feel like am wasting my life on social media and boredom, i really hate routine and get bored easily but i cant keep wasting my time like that, what kind of activities can i do daily to feel more accomplished

• Spend a day doing nothing
• Just nothing. Sit idle. lay down. sleep. Repeat.
• You will start feeling bored of boredom.
• Grab a pen and list what you think the best version of yourself could be
• He would be fit
• He could play guitar
• He could speak 5 languages
• He should get a perfect 4 in the next term
• Or anything…
• Mark which one among those you can start doing now or is more urgent.
• Being fit is the most necessary.
• Learning newer things enhances personal growth.
• And so on…
• Don’t wait for motivation, give yourself a reason.
• Why you want to do it.
• To what extent you want to learn it.
• Never share your goal with anyone before achieving it. Let your success make the noise.
• People are good at demoralizing.
• Do not focus on your goal.
• Focus on the moment.
• Be proud of your journey.
• Pay it forward if you are contented with what you achieved.
• Write about it. Like I did.
• Be grateful.
• To the authors or writers or vlogers who helped you reaching your goal.
• Use social media
• It’s not always a waste of time.
• To keep on track with people who share your interest.
• To learn about newer things.

I kid you not. I overheard this conversation between some of my high school students.

Student 1: Did you just hear what he said?

Student 2: No, what?

Student 1: He said he’s going to Hawaii this summer.

Student 2: Okay?

Student 1: This SUMMER!

Student 2: I don’t get it.

Student 1: You can’t fly to Hawaii in the summer. The sun is too hot. The plane will blow up.

Student 2: I didn’t even think about that. Maybe they’re going to drive.

Student 1: What are you talking about? You can’t drive to Hawaii. Do you know how far Hawaii is? It would take forever to get there.

It depends on who asks.

If they are your co-worker, then tell them that you don't share that information.

If it is a prospective employer, then tell them but also reinforce that by indicating specific ways you are adding more value and ask for 10% more than what you make right now.

If it is a friend, tell them, but gripe about it for 15 minutes so they buy the next round of drinks.

If it is your parents, you say “enough to live comfortably, thanks for asking.”