I just don't get why nobody ever wants to be more than friends with me. I do everything I am supposed to. I am myself, sociable and easy to approach; however, I never get anybody interested and get rejected A lot. Maybe over 10 times. People I know have it way easier. Why is this?

I looked through your pictures. I can see where the problem is. You say you are easy to approach and sociable, you describe yourself on the good version of yourself. But the truth is, I’m sure if I’ll be in front of you you’ll not be as much as confident as you pretend to be.

Confidence is not something you can fake. Women use confidence as a radar to trust you. You also seem to lack charisma. I can see that your smile is not genuine. You don’t seem to be very happy in your life.

Charisma is very important and the good news is that you can work on it. It’s a magnet. It’s an aura. It changes everything. You appearance will not change, but you will feel different.

I would also try to learn good storytelling techniques. Start classes in improv, actingand theater.

Sure you can come here and say you are very good and asking why you don’t get anyone. The problem is not about where are you now. It’s about going further.

In life you either stretch yourself or you stay on your back. I can hear you complain about your situation. The truth is, it won’t change a dime about where you are now.

After taking a few classes in improv, acting and theater or even before. Go make mistakes.

You want to be good in social relationships. Well prove it. Go to a bar with a friend and give youself a challenge of speaking to at least 5 girls. You will get rejected. See if you can go further. Repeat that exercise every week.

If after 100 girls you approach you don’t get better, I can guarantee you. You message me, I give you my number and I’m paying you $1000.

Everything has to do with practice. But you must be able to take risks.

If you’re that serious about expanding your skills. Start writing. You’ll see the way you express yourself will change.

Everywhere I go even for tanking gas I can talk to the cashier. I make jokes, I have precise words tailored for every situation. Women laugh and are attracted to me. I’ve worked for it.

Start public speaking after speaking to more than 100 persons successfully, you’ll see individual relationships as a mere formality.

Communication is so vast, you could spend all your life on it. Yet you’ll still have something to learn.

You want to get better.

Prove it.

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Day 2

Tonight, a friend of mine texted me:

“I think being transgender is a choice, and here is why.”

They broke down all this research and all these theories and why they were so incredibly sure that this had to be the case.

I absorbed their words. I took in their arguments and ideas and what they had to say.

And you can bet your ass in two seconds flat I had 3 browser tabs of Jae Alexis Lee’s answers and another 4 of Wikipedia up because I was not going to accept that without challenging it.

We went back and forth, and eventually we both realized that we were talking in circles using information we didn’t quite understand and research we weren’t quite sure of, so we called it quits.

But damn it, if we didn’t try.

When someone presents you with new information or a new worldview, you have a duty to think critically about it and challenge it.

People who never form their own opinions shut up and absorb the world around them.

But people who truly want their values to improve and their opinions to change will shut up, absorb new information, and then hold it up to every test in the books to see if it stands.

Don’t be idle. Ask and argue and confront until you either affirm your current worldview or find your worldview changed.

That is the only way your opinions and values will change.

It's not that I'm playing hard to get. It's just that I'm working on myself and I don’t have much to offer as a person. I know it would be selfish to ask them to wait for me, but at the same time that's what I want. What should I do?

It's not that I'm playing hard to get. It's just that I'm working on myself and I don’t have much to offer as a person. I know it would be selfish to ask them to wait for me, but at the same time that's what I want. What should I do?

You should understand that you don’t work on yourself in a vacuum, and the idea that you don’t have anything to offer is just good old-fashioned low self-esteem theater.

I would recommend that you start working on yourself by working on your self-esteem. You do that by doing things that frighten you. Like asking them out.

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A few years ago I stopped and had a talk with kid who pointed a cap gun at my patrol car as I was driving by. I informed him that the only reason he did not have a real gun pointed back at him was because I recognized the realistic looking plastic revolver because it looked exactly like one I had when I was his age. I told him that another officer might have confronted him at gunpoint.

Today I would be a bit more hesitant to stop and just talk to the kid. Why? Because bad guys are painting bright orange tips on their guns to make them look like toys. Kids are painting the bright orange tips on their toy guns to make them look more real. You can buy real guns on the internet today built to look like toy guns, bad guys are building real guns into toy guns.

If the kid looked like a kid and if I was fairly certain the nerf gun was actually a nerf gun I would probably draw my gun, have it “ready “ but not pointed at him, and command him to put his down, and quite literally pray that his gun does not go bang because I would quite likely take the first round and hope it doesn't kill me before I start firing back. If the gun does not go bang then the kid and I and his parents are going to have a nice long talk.

• What changes have you made in your life that have enabled you to experience life in a better way?

• I stopped caring.

I realized that people don't give two shits about the boy you went out to dinner with, or if you told off the neighbor, or especially if you had sex with the neighbors daughter.

For 'people' or 'society' it's all about gossip. They don't have anything better to do. Once they find something more exciting than what you did last weekend, your 'mistake' will be forgotten and they will move on to something else.

Plus, the most important thing, that I've realized is that when someone's in trouble or they needed help of any kind, mentally, physically, emotionally, and/or financially; suddenly all the people who used to talk about you behind your back disappeared.

What did I learn from that? If they're not putting food on your plate, a roof over your head, or clothes on your back, you don't need to give a fuck about them. It's as simple as that. Do what you want, without worrying about what someone says.

When someone comes up to me to inform me of all the gossip they've heard about me, I say, "Really? Hmm, weird. I didn't know that about myself! Cool! I didn't know my life could be so mysterious and interesting."

If you care and worry about what people say, they'll say more stuff to make you feel like a bad person. They're negative energy, you don't need that in life.

• How and why I stopped worrying.

Something else that I realized was that I kept worrying about silly issues in my life that couldn't be controlled.

A great example of this would be my mom. When something doesn't go accordingly, she starts getting tense. She doesn't eat, doesn't drink, and doesn't take care of herself, which can ultimately lead to bad health.

One day, an idea came to me. This was something we were taught in school. We were taught to make pros and cons lists, if we were in a dilemma, which ultimately would help us take our decision.

I sat my mom down and made this list. It turned out that more good than bad was happening. This calmed her down for a little bit and I explained to her, and realized myself, that it doesn't matter if you sit down all day and cry, or worry about something that didn't work out. It won't fix itself automatically just because you're crying, not eating, and not taking care of yourself. 

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https://www.quora.com/What-changes-have-you-made-in-your-life-that-have-enabled-you-to-experience-life-in-a-better-way

One time I picked up this funky foreign girl in my Uber. She was going to some dance rehearsal and dressed like she was getting ready to sweat. I had my backpack on the front seat and told her I preferred passengers to sit in the back, but she insisted on sitting up front. So she brought with her one of those elastic band type things because she “needs to stretch out her leg muscles” before her practice. And the whole ride she’s stretching her legs, up in the air, on my dashboard, up in the windshield, over my shoulder. At minimum it was distracting, but potentially could’ve been a dangerous situation. And as she was blocking my view of the road and surroundings with her pudgy pulkies; she kept yapping about how she just doesn’t get it why some Uber drivers don’t prefer their passengers to sit up front.