Radical Learning Talks

Can parents really be friends with their children?

Many people believe the answer is no. They worry that friendship means giving up authority, losing boundaries or allowing children to "take over." But what if we've misunderstood what friendship actually is?

In this episode, we challenge one of the most common parenting beliefs: that parents and children shouldn't be friends. We explore how genuine friendship isn't about giving children all the power or avoiding responsibility. It's about building relationships rooted in trust, honesty, vulnerability and mutual respect.

We also reflect on power, adultism, secrecy, perfectionism and why authentic relationships make it more—not less—likely that children will come to us when they need support. Because perhaps the goal isn't to raise children who simply obey us. Perhaps it's to build relationships that last long after childhood is over.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• Can parents and children really be friends?
• Does friendship mean giving up boundaries or responsibility?
• Why trust grows when power is shared rather than controlled
• How vulnerability creates deeper relationships
• Why secrecy often grows out of fear rather than freedom
• Building relationships with our children that continue into adulthood

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Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

Can children really socialize without school?

It's one of the most common questions homeschooling and unschooling families hear. Many people assume that school is where children learn to make friends, build relationships and become part of society. But is that really true?

In this episode, we take a closer look at one of the biggest myths about learning outside school. We question what socialization actually means and whether spending every day in a classroom is the best way for children to develop meaningful relationships.

We also explore friendship, belonging, bullying, introversion, neurodivergence and the difference between simply being surrounded by people and forming genuine human connections. Because perhaps the real question isn't whether children can socialize without school—but whether school is the only place where authentic relationships can grow.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• Can children socialize without school?
• Do homeschooled and unschooling children make friends?
• What does socialization actually mean?
• Why school isn't the only place children build relationships
• Belonging, bullying and the pressure to fit in
• Why meaningful friendships don't always look the way we expect

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

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Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

Do you need to be a teacher to homeschool your child?

It's one of the biggest fears parents have when they begin questioning school. If you're not trained as a teacher, how can you possibly support your child's learning?

In this episode, we challenge one of the deepest assumptions many of us carry: that teaching and learning are the same thing. We reflect on our own experiences in school, the many things we learned without ever being taught, and why curiosity, relationships and real life often become far more powerful teachers than lessons or curricula.

We also explore the difference between teaching, guiding and learning alongside our children. Because perhaps our role isn't to have all the answers. Perhaps it's to create the conditions where learning naturally unfolds.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• Do you need to be a teacher to homeschool?
• Can children learn without being taught?
• Why teaching and learning aren't the same thing
• Supporting curiosity instead of delivering lessons
• Letting go of the pressure to know everything
• Creating a home where learning is part of everyday life

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

→ Follow us on Instagram and come hang out with us between episodes.

→ Check out our website and explore more of our work, resources, and support.

Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

Will unschooling prepare my child for real life?

It's one of the most common questions we hear from parents exploring unschooling, homeschooling and self-directed learning. If children are free to follow their interests instead of being pushed through a curriculum, how will they develop resilience? How will they learn to deal with disappointment, frustration and life's inevitable challenges?

In this episode, we explore why resilience doesn't grow through control or carefully designed hardships. It grows through agency, choice and having meaningful reasons to persevere. We reflect on the difference between imposed challenges and the ones children naturally embrace when they're deeply engaged in something that matters to them.

Whether you're new to unschooling, homeschooling or simply curious about self-directed education, this conversation invites you to look beyond academic achievement and ask a different question: What actually prepares a young person for life? We talk about fear, self-esteem, emotional regulation and why supporting children to know themselves may be one of the greatest gifts we can offer.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• Will unschooling prepare children for real life?
• How do children develop resilience?
• Why agency and choice build confidence
• The difference between imposed challenges and meaningful challenges
• Why play, curiosity and self-direction develop problem-solving skills
• Preparing children for an uncertain future by helping them know themselves

Should you push your child—or trust that they'll get there in their own time?

It's one of the hardest questions parents face, especially when our children develop differently from those around them. Whether it's social confidence, independence, learning or everyday life skills, it can be difficult to know when to step in, when to offer support and when to simply wait.

In this episode, Becka shares a deeply personal story about her son navigating an important milestone on his own. Together, we reflect on what it means to support a child without taking over, how fear and comparison can quietly shape our parenting, and why meeting each child where they are often requires us to let go of our own expectations.

We also explore neurodivergence, intrinsic motivation and the difference between preparing our children for life's challenges and pushing them before they're ready. Because perhaps our role isn't to decide the pace of our children's development—but to become thoughtful partners as they find their own way.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• Am I pushing my child too much?
• How do I know when to step in—and when to wait?
• Supporting neurodivergent children without taking over
• Why comparison creates unnecessary fear
• The difference between preparing children and pushing them
• Trusting your child's own pace while offering the support they need

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

→ Follow us on Instagram and come hang out with us between episodes.

→ Check out our website and explore more of our work, resources, and support.

Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

What's the difference between homeschooling and unschooling?

Many people use the terms interchangeably, but they aren't the same thing. While both involve learning outside conventional school, they often reflect very different beliefs about children, learning and the role of parents.

In this episode, we explore what separates homeschooling from unschooling—and why the difference goes far beyond curriculum. We talk about adult agendas, motivation, agency, consent and the tendency to recreate school at home without even realizing it.

Whether you're considering homeschooling, curious about unschooling or simply questioning the conventional education system, this conversation invites you to look beyond how children learn and ask a deeper question: What kind of life are we trying to create together?

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• What's the difference between homeschooling and unschooling?
• Why children often lose motivation when school is recreated at home
• The role of agency, autonomy and consent in learning
• Why relationships matter more than curriculum
• Questioning conventional ideas about education and success
• Supporting children to thrive through trust, curiosity and connection

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

→ Follow us on Instagram and come hang out with us between episodes.

→ Check out our website and explore more of our work, resources, and support.

Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

What if the most important part of your child's education isn't the curriculum—but the culture of your family?

Many parents spend countless hours thinking about learning, routines and educational approaches. But there's something even more fundamental shaping children's lives every day: the culture we create together.

In this episode, we explore what family culture really means and why it matters whether you're homeschooling, unschooling or raising your children within the school system. We talk about values, consent, autonomy, equity and the everyday interactions that quietly shape how we relate to one another.

Rather than asking, "What's the right educational approach?" we invite a different question: What kind of family do we want to become together? Because when we're intentional about the culture we're creating, our decisions become clearer, our relationships grow stronger, and learning naturally becomes part of everyday life.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• What is family culture?
• Why family culture matters more than curriculum
• How values shape everyday family life
• Building a home where children can truly thrive
• The role of autonomy, consent and equity in parenting
• Creating your family culture intentionally instead of by default

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

→ Follow us on Instagram and come hang out with us between episodes.

→ Check out our website and explore more of our work, resources, and support.

Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

One of the biggest fears parents have about unschooling is this: "Will my child find friends?"

In this episode, we talk with Zoe, an unschooling teenager, and Christian, a long-time staff member at Not Back to School Camp, about what happens when young people have the chance to build genuine community outside the school system.

Together we explore why connection doesn't have to happen in classrooms, what makes Not Back to School Camp such a transformative experience, and how trust, autonomy and shared values create the conditions for deep friendships. We also talk about workshops, music, belonging, neurodivergence, identity, conflict, and what it feels like to find a place where you can truly be yourself.

Whether you're wondering how your child will make friends, looking for community as an unschooling family, or simply curious about what happens when young people are trusted, this conversation offers a hopeful glimpse into what's possible.

Some of the questions and ideas we explore include:

• Where do unschooling teens find friends?
• What is Not Back to School Camp?
• Why is community so important for unschooling families?
• How do young people build deep friendships outside school?
• What makes a space feel safe enough to be yourself?
• Why do so many teens describe camp as life-changing?

Find out more about Not Back to School Camp

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

→ Follow us on Instagram and come hang out with us between episodes.

→ Check out our website and explore more of our work, resources, and support.

Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list

As we celebrate Pride month, join us for this deep and joyful conversation around authenticity and the right to be who we truly are!

We have Cuee in the house: a black trans man and hip hop artist that we got to know over a year ago in our Shift training in Puerto Rico. We chat about the importance of belonging to yourself instead of trying to fit in, and the difference it makes to grow up surrounded by people who love you for who you are.

We also discuss the fear parents can experience when they discover their kids are transgender, because they want to protect their young people from harm. And… we talk about how the best protection we can really offer our kids is to be loyal with/to them.

This is not only a conversation for parents, relatives, neighbors, friends and teachers of transgender kids. It’s for anyone who wants to focus on the joy of being alive in a world that needs and thrives on diversity.

How do children build healthy, meaningful friendships?

When we think about friendship, it's easy to focus on whether our children have enough friends. But perhaps the more important question is: What kind of friendships are they building?

In this episode, we explore what makes a friendship truly life-enhancing. We reflect on belonging versus fitting in, trust, boundaries, authenticity and why the healthiest relationships allow us to grow rather than ask us to become someone we're not.

We also talk about how our own experiences of friendship shape the way we support our children. Whether your child is unschooling, homeschooling or attending school, this conversation invites you to think beyond socialization and consider what healthy relationships really look and feel like—for children and for adults.

Some of the questions and ideas we discuss include:

• How do children build healthy friendships?
• What's the difference between belonging and fitting in?
• How can parents support children to navigate friendships?
• Why trust, boundaries and curiosity matter in relationships
• Can children build meaningful friendships without school?
• What does a life-enhancing friendship actually look like?

Looking for support as you navigate learning outside school? Explore free masterclasses, resources, and a community of parents asking similar questions → Join UN-SKOOL

Wondering what keeps shaping your reactions when parenting gets hard? → Discover Your Parenting Archetype

Have a parenting, homeschooling, or unschooling question? Send it to us and we may answer it in an upcoming newsletter: → Dear Sari & Becka

→ Follow us on Instagram and come hang out with us between episodes.

→ Check out our website and explore more of our work, resources, and support.

Radical Learning Talks was named the #2 Democratic Education Podcast to Listen to in 2026 by FeedSpot. See the full list