Relevant Links:

Carol Dweck on “Fixed vs Growth Mindset” https://fs.blog/carol-dweck-mindset/ 

https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/

Summerhill by A.S. Neill

Free to Learn by Peter Gray

Sudbury Valley School

LetGrow.org

Alliance for Self Directed Education

Tipping Points Press - Peter Gray’s four collections of essays

Education Research Reading Room podcast with Peter Gray

Kara and Tony review "The Eight Concepts of Bowen Theory", a useful model for navigating and nurturing family and relationships. The book addresses the emotional unit of a family, with tools for understanding differentiation of self, triangles, cutoff, family projection, multigenerational transmission, sibling position, and emotional processes of society. The special sections in each chapter for parents, coaches and leaders bring each concept home for different roles readers bring to the book.

Kara and Tony review the Aware Parenting workshop: “Helping Children Heal From Stress and Trauma” from Developmental Psychologist, Aletha Solter

Tony and Kara talk about their mutual love and admiration for Fred Rogers and the impact his work with Mr Rogers’ Neighborhood has had on countless children.

Excerpt: When you listen to your child’s upset, her feelings will become intense, last awhile, and then evaporate. Her topsy-turvy limbic system heals fastest when it has her full concentration, and yours, on these feelings. Then, feelings ejected and connection made, it rights itself.

Tony and Kara discuss The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child, by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson.

Tony Shawcross and Laura Turley discuss "The Explosive Child", Ross Greene PhD's "New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children."

Radical Honesty trainer and mother of a non-neurotypical child, Laura Turley shares the impact of implementing the lessons of this book with her daughter, Faye.

 links and resources referenced in the podcast:

Invisibilia Podcast: https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/378577902/how-to-become-batman

Peter Gray on Fear-Based Parenting: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201903/the-many-shades-fear-based-parenting

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/200907/play-makes-us-human-vi-hunter-gatherers-playful-parenting

The Culture of Childhood (We've Almost Destroyed It) Peter Gray: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201610/the-culture-childhood-we-ve-almost-destroyed-it

How to Raise An Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (Julie Lythcott-Haims) https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult

Janet Lansbury Podcast & Blog: https://www.janetlansbury.com/tag/podcasts/

Susan Stiffelman : https://susanstiffelman.com/

3 Ways to Stop Parenting out of Fear: https://medium.com/be-unique/3-ways-to-stop-parenting-out-of-fear-eebb785e9513

Aware Parenting Institute: http://awareparenting.com/

Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne: https://www.simplicityparenting.com/about-simplicity-parenting/about-kim-john-payne/

Free Range Kids: https://www.freerangekids.com/

Tony discusses the priorities and choices we make as parents with Tom Dyson, an undeniably radical parent, who recovered from divorce, depression, and a mid-life crisis by taking his family on a multi-year, round-the-globe trip that culminated in couchsurfing across over 30 homes in the US during the peak of COVID. Tom reminds us that the time we have with our kids is limited and precious and provides an inspiring example of a family that has prioritized that time together above all else.

 links and resources referenced in the podcast:

Invisibilia Podcast: https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/378577902/how-to-become-batman

Peter Gray on Fear-Based Parenting: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201903/the-many-shades-fear-based-parenting

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/200907/play-makes-us-human-vi-hunter-gatherers-playful-parenting

The Culture of Childhood (We've Almost Destroyed It) Peter Gray: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201610/the-culture-childhood-we-ve-almost-destroyed-it

How to Raise An Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (Julie Lythcott-Haims) https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult

Janet Lansbury Podcast & Blog: https://www.janetlansbury.com/tag/podcasts/

Susan Stiffelman : https://susanstiffelman.com/

3 Ways to Stop Parenting out of Fear: https://medium.com/be-unique/3-ways-to-stop-parenting-out-of-fear-eebb785e9513

Aware Parenting Institute: http://awareparenting.com/

Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne: https://www.simplicityparenting.com/about-simplicity-parenting/about-kim-john-payne/

Free Range Kids: https://www.freerangekids.com/

Tony and Kara discuss the significant and surprising impact our expectations and fears have on our children. Beginning with a 2015 Invisibilia podcast about a blind man who found that the expectations of his parents helped him develop the ability to see without his eyes, the discussion moves to Peter Gray, the unschooling champion who has written extensively about fear-based parenting and the ways our fears handicap our children… literally handicap them.

 links and resources referenced in the podcast:

Invisibilia Podcast: https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/378577902/how-to-become-batman

Peter Gray on Fear-Based Parenting: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201903/the-many-shades-fear-based-parenting

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/200907/play-makes-us-human-vi-hunter-gatherers-playful-parenting

The Culture of Childhood (We've Almost Destroyed It) Peter Gray: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201610/the-culture-childhood-we-ve-almost-destroyed-it

How to Raise An Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (Julie Lythcott-Haims) https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult

Janet Lansbury Podcast & Blog: https://www.janetlansbury.com/tag/podcasts/

Susan Stiffelman : https://susanstiffelman.com/

3 Ways to Stop Parenting out of Fear: https://medium.com/be-unique/3-ways-to-stop-parenting-out-of-fear-eebb785e9513

Aware Parenting Institute: http://awareparenting.com/

Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne: https://www.simplicityparenting.com/about-simplicity-parenting/about-kim-john-payne/

Free Range Kids: https://www.freerangekids.com/