Rainbows in the Dark

Sharks and cockroaches may have evolution all figured out—but humans? We’re still chasing infinity tasks and arguing with our asshole brains. In this episode of Rainbows in the Dark, I step into the endless loop of self-improvement, productivity, and ADHD-era attention spans…

What if some of your biggest emotional struggles… were never yours to begin with? 🤯

In this episode of Rainbows in the Dark, we rewind to before you were breathing air—when you were a tiny water-dweller in utero—absorbing every vibe your mom was running. Stress, fear, chaos? Your little nervous system felt it all.

The good news? Those old patterns aren’t set in stone. Awareness—and a little somatic magic—can help you finally release what was never truly yours to carry.

Want to dive in deeper - way deeper - into the topic of picking up family stress that predated your birth? Check out Mark Wolynn's excellent book, It Didn't Start With You.

#healingjourney #innerchildhealing #generationaltrauma #traumarecovery #mindbodyconnection

We’re all headed to the far side of the rainbow someday. In this episode, I’m talking about Swedish Death Cleaning, why it’s one of the most loving things you can do, and why it might be time to let go of all those random paper mementos cluttering your life. Spoiler alert: nobody wants your old Yosemite brochure.

Ever feel like you want to paint, dance, write, or make music…but tell yourself you shouldn’t because you’re “not good enough”? Or feel like if you can’t make it your career, then it’s not worth doing?

In this episode, I talk about why creative expression is not optional if you want a happy and fulfilled life. I’ll share thoughts on how to rediscover your creative spark, even if you think you’ve lost it—or never had it in the first place.

Plus, a little story about my lifelong obsession with writing letters (and playing post office as a toddler).

Go forth and art—and keep shining in the dark!

#PermissionToCreate #CreativeExpression #SelfCare #RainbowsInTheDark #HealingThroughArt #MentalHealth

On the day of San Francisco’s 21st Trans March, I reflect on showing up in times of rising hate, the unique compassion many trans people hold, and how transitioning gave me a deeper understanding of humanity.

I talk about the fear that often hides inside trans hate, why trans and nonbinary people are “bridge people,” and why it’s okay to sink into your own being and explore who you truly are.

Plus, a story about how my kid once asked what the rainbow flag means—and how the simple answer might be the truest one: Anyone can love anyone.

Keep shining in the dark. 🌈

In this bite-sized episode, I’m shining a light on the truth about your survival instincts.
Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn — there’s no wrong way to stay alive, no matter what your inner critic says.
So if you’ve ever shamed yourself for not fighting back… listen in, breathe deep, and thank your beautiful nervous system for having your back.
HUZZAH, my friend — you survived. That’s enough.

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You think you’re fine… but your neck is locked, your sleep is trash, and your fuse is about an inch long. So—how stressed are you really?

In this episode, we talk about the sneaky kind of stress that builds up under the radar and how it quietly wrecks your body, mind, and emotional bandwidth.
Enter: the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory—a decades-old psychological tool that actually quantifies your stress load based on major life events (good and bad).

Want to take the quiz for yourself?
👉 Click here to access the online assessment

Whether you're a low-key anxious overachiever or someone who swears “I’m not that stressed” while clenching your jaw like a pit bull, this episode is your gentle wake-up call.

🎧 Listen in, tally your score, and see where you land: Zen, Frazzled, or Danger Zone.

I went on a 2-week solo cruise to Alaska, fully convinced I’d write an entire book while watching glaciers drift by. Spoiler alert: I didn’t. Not even close.

In this episode, I share how this “unproductive” vacation turned into an unexpected rite of passage — the moment I realized I’ve officially become a real writer… because my brain refused to “work” on vacation.

This one’s for the creatives, the self-employed, and anyone who struggles with the blurry lines between rest and work.

💌 Includes: postcards, love letters, writer guilt, and a gentle reminder that doing nothing might be doing everything you need.

✨ Love and learn, friends. And keep shining in the dark.

When you're first self-employed, an empty calendar can feel terrifying. You dream of being "booked solid"—stable, successful, secure. But what if not being booked solid is actually where the real magic lives?
In this episode, I share how chasing constant productivity nearly burned me out—and how following excitement (instead of fear) changed my whole relationship with work, money, and life itself.

We’ve all heard the advice: trust your gut. But what if your “gut” is actually just your overcaffeinated monkey mind, spinning tales and hijacking your peace?

In this episode, Dr. Kim shares a painfully funny real-life story from a peaceful sunrise walk that turned into an unexpected ego smackdown.

If you’ve ever caught yourself judging strangers for imagined offenses 😬, this one’s for you.

✨ Learn how to tell the difference between true intuition and neurotic storytelling
🧠 Why your meat pudding brain doesn’t always have your best interests in mind
🌈 And how to gently re-center in love, presence, and compassion when you’ve gone full Ragey McJudgerson

Keep shining in the dark.
#RainbowsInTheDark