Raw Conversations with Corinne Blum

We’ve been told that the darkness is scary, that the shadow is bad, and that pain is something to avoid. But what we’re doing when we run away from our own shadow, is we’re running away from our ability to truly receive love.

In the dark is where we find light.

In the pain is where we find healing.

In staying with our entire experience, is where we find love.

We’re living in crazy times. In times that are requiring so much courage and courage requires care.

“The love you withhold is the pain that you carry.” - Alex Collier

The one fundamental thing we all need in life is love. The irony, however, is that the very thing we need—love—is often the thing we walk away from. Because we get scared. We’re afraid of pain and suffering so instead of walking towards love (and therefore towards ourselves), we walk away from ourselves. And then we wonder why we’re so often lost and confused: it’s because the very thing we need, we withhold from ourselves.

This is an invitation to walk towards yourself. To embrace your pain and your fear and alchemise them into love.

Now, more than ever, we are being required to do this. In an age of distraction, we are being pulled further and further away from ourselves and we’re suffering for it.

Turn towards yourself and come back home to love.

There you will find all you’ve been seeking because everything you’ve been looking for has always been right here.

The answers aren’t out there, they’re in here. Authority isn’t outside of yourself, it’s inside yourself.

We can support one another but it all has to come from within ourselves; much like a seed can’t be planted in thin air, it has to be placed deep into the soil in order for it to grow. We are no different.

Everything you resist is what you need to give attention to.

Everything you yearn for from the external, is what you need to give to yourself on the inside.

This is a firm yet loving invitation, to come back home to love.

With love,

Corinne Blum

www.corinneblum.com

@corinneblum

https://t.me/rawconversations

Yesterday I spoke about don’t “fuck the pain away.” Today I’m talking about how to actually do that in practice not in theory.

We don’t stay with discomfort because we’ve been taught to distract. We also don’t stay because we’re continually being told we’re not good enough as we are. So why then would we want to stay with ourselves if what we’d find beneath the surface is so flawed?

But that’s a false story.

Staying with discomfort is uncomfortable, yes. But if we can stay with it for even just three breaths before consciously moving onto something else, we not only create a moment of relief for ourselves, but we are creating just enough space between what we feel and what we do in reaction to that feeling, to make a choice. And when we can consciously make a choice with the understanding of what motivates our actions, well, then, we’re finally engaged with life. Life happens through and with us vs to us.

I explain this and more in this episode. I speak about staying with the discomfort, awareness, noticing our motivations and intentions for what we do and how to stay in the present vs getting caught in the story of the past or the projection of the future.

This and more...

With love,

Corinne

Don’t “fuck the pain away” no matter how much our society encourages us to. No matter how much it lures us into distraction, numbing and the constant pursuit of happiness.

Don’t “fuck the pain away,” because all that does is keep us in a relentless loop of dissatisfaction. The very thing we’re running away from, we’re producing.

Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away, it only keeps the chase forever going and one day, you will burn out.

The only way out is through. And pain, like any other emotion, is simply a messenger alerting us to our human experience.

Emotions are useful. They help us to understand the language of who we are.

And on a deeper level, they’re an indication of something within us that just needs our loving attention.

So don’t run, stay. Don’t numb, feel.

Give yourself the loving attention you deserve. It’s hard, I know. It’s painful, I know. But you deserve to find and embody the very thing you’ve been seeking: peace. Not happiness but peace.

Peace that shows you it’s ok to be who you are. To feel how you feel. Think what you think. There’s no more running. The chase ends.

But it requires courage and courage requires heart and heart requires vulnerability and vulnerability requires presence and presence just asks us to stay long enough to be aware of what is going on within and around us.

This and more in this episode...

With love,

Corinne

This is taken from a video I posted on my Instagram @theauthenticselfcoach

I get asked all the time by clients if doing the work, “works.” Does anything change? Does it get better?

I was laughing with a best friend of mine recently, asking ourselves the same question: does the work ever end?! Because it feels like a bottomless, never ending, pit sometimes.

I can say that yes, the work is so worth it because the true liberation we’re seeking, the “happiness,” the peace, only comes from the inside out.

So if you’ve been doing the work, take a moment to reflect and see how far you’ve come. And if you’re in the midst of it (because, truly, it is forever evolving) than know that it is worth it. It may be hard. It may be scary. But it is so, damn, worth it.

With love,

Corinne

‘The power of the mind’ might sound like a cliche but our thoughts have a profound affect on us. We can imagine a situation that isn’t even real and it can trigger an entire emotional and physical reaction in our body. I give an example of just this, in this episode.

We’ve all heard of ‘be careful of what you think/wish for because you might just attract that,’ and many schools of thought like law of attraction would encourage you to stay positive because negativity attracts negativity. But I would describe it less as what we attract and more of what we see.

If we only see that life is crap, then life will be crap 24/7. Of course there is crap in the world, but it’s not ALL crap. We can acknowledge its existence and we can also choose to see the beauty in the world as well.

My point is our perspective paints our reality. What we believe is what we see and when we get to know the language of ourselves more deeply, we recognise when we’re going into imagination. Into a projection rather than what is actually real, here in this moment.

This and more in this episode on the power of the mind and how our thoughts affect our emotions and physical body.

Take it or leave it as always.

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

Ps. Sorry for all the funny mic noises. I also want to correct the word “weird” for “interesting” when relaying the story at the beginning. The word “weird” can hold judgment and I had no judgment but intrigue, instead. I just wanted to clarify that. Thanks.

Being the expression of You.

Living in an Instagram society lends itself to comparison and competition. We’re measuring ourselves and our lives to something that often isn’t even real or true to life (with filters) or we’re only getting a snapshot of a moment which we weren’t even physically present for (sans filters) which means that however we feel about that snapshot, is a complete projection.

What if we were to celebrate our uniqueness? That even though we could say we all come from the same source, we are a unique expression of that source.

What if it was ok to be you? To stop focusing on what you’re lacking by comparison, by an external measure, and focus instead on your unique expression of existence.

What is it that you want to experience?

What do you have to offer?

How can you be of service? Contribute?

Maybe our homogenised culture isn’t really serving us. Maybe celebrating diversity would bring back a greater sense of collaboration rather than competition. Maybe we’d stop pointing the finger, telling others how they “should” live their lives and come back home to ourselves instead, and see what we want to give to the whole.

It’s an invitation to ask ourselves:

Who am I?

What has meaning to me?

It’s an opportunity to just be you.

What is it about loss and grief, about death, that makes us feel alone?

It’s the loss of the love we felt. The physical form we attached that love to. It triggers our fear of being alone. Our wounds. Our need for healthy attachment amidst a world that has told us to be independent from the moment we popped out of the womb.

We’ve been taught and told to not feel, don’t cry, be strong, toughen up. And yet we feel more lonely. More co-dependent. More insecure.

Today I invite you to stay. Just stay with your pain. Your loss. Your grief. Because we’re all going through a huge death right now. We’re losing our reality, our normal, the way life once was. We’re losing those we love be it through death or differing opinions. The polarisation is extreme.

But what if you could stay with the ache of it all. Stay. Breathe. Feel. And return to love.

Because love is who we are. It’s what we’re made of and when we tap into all that we believe to be empty, the space around us, we recognise that it is full. That it is holding us. That we are never truly alone.

With love,

Corinne