Today, we’re diving into the beautiful, brutal, and often misunderstood world of forgiveness because forgiveness is not one-size-fits-all. It comes in many forms. Join Becky Shaffer and Leslie Brooks as they dive deep and share personal stories of forgiveness.

Becky Shaffer and Leslie Brooks are back on Real Adult Wisdom for another powerful conversation—this time, diving deeper into “Boundaries.”Becky Shaffer and Leslie Brooks are back on Real Adult Wisdom for another powerful discussion—this time, diving deeper into “Boundaries.”These two dynamic life coaches break it all down: Why we struggle to set them, how somatic awareness plays a role, and what it looks like to enforce boundaries like a badass (without guilt) . Tune in for truth bombs, laughter, and the kind of real talk that helps you stop over-explaining and start owning your space. Because boundaries aren’t walls—they’re bridges back to yourself.

Today we’re talking about something we all do—but don’t always recognize: carrying the past into the present like an overstuffed emotional carry-on. Whether it’s childhood wounds, relationship trauma, or that one rejection in seventh grade that still stings… the past doesn’t always stay in the past.  There are Triggers that brings it out of that bag.  

So let’s open the bag and see what we’re lugging around—and how to finally set some of it down.

Today, we’re diving into the good, the bad, and the “Are you kidding me?” moments—the ones that cracked us open, called us higher, and forced us to grow in ways we never saw coming.

These are the moments that don’t always make sense when they happen… The moments that leave us breathless, heartbroken, or humbled—but become the turning points we didn’t realize we needed.

The good reminds us of what’s possible. The bad teaches us resilience. And the “Are you kidding me?” moments? Those are the ones that throw us off script, flip the table, and whisper, “You're not who you used to be—and that’s a good thing.”

Whether it’s a breakup that gutted you, a detour that turned out to be divine, or a season of stillness that made you confront your reflection, you’re not the same person you were before.

And you shouldn’t be.

"We grew up learning math, history, how to parallel park... but no one handed us a real guide for relationships. No one sat us down and said, 'Here’s how you recognize healthy love. Here’s how you set a boundary without guilt. Here's how you survive heartbreak without losing yourself.' "

"So today, we’re starting that conversation. This is about unlearning the myths we absorbed, rewriting the stories we've carried, and learning to love — starting first with ourselves."

"Because real love? It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence. It’s about connection. And it’s never too late to learn."

"Let’s get into it."

We are talking real talk—why boundaries matter, how they build you rather than box you in, and what it looks like to set limits that actually liberate you.

Tune in and start drawing the lines that honor your energy, your values, and your worth. You hold the line—because that’s what the most empowered version of you does.

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Becky dives into respecting boundaries without taking it personally.

You know that moment when someone says, “I need space,” or “I can’t help with that right now,” and even though you get it, something in you feels rejected or shut out? Yeah—been there.

But what if we flipped the script? What if someone else’s boundary wasn’t about you at all—but simply about them taking care of themselves? In this episode, we’ll explore how to reframe boundaries, stop internalizing other people’s limits, and show up in relationships with more grace, respect, and resilience.

Listen as we get into it.

If someone cares, they make it known. If they wanted to call, text, show up, commit — and they could — they would.

It saves you from overanalyzing mixed signals. Busy? Tired? Sure, we all are. But patterns tell you everything. If someone is consistently absent, that's information, not confusion.

Listen as Becky dives into the reality of effort, priorities, and capability in relationships, careers, and personal growth.

Without intention, transitions can feel overwhelming and uncertain. But with clarity, every change—whether it’s a new job, a move, a relationship shift, or a personal reinvention—can become an opportunity for growth and transformation.

As parents, the journey to raise and nurture our children is filled with purpose and connection. But when they leave their nest, it's normal to feel pride, loss, and uncertainty. Our goal is to get through this transition with empathy and encouragement. But first, we face the grieving process.