Real Life Mentoring

In today’s episode, Chris and Christina take an in depth and personal look into the life of Carl Gulley. Carl is a husband, father, pastor and speaker who is learning to embrace living with a non anxious presence. Alongside you, the listener, find out how Carl emerged from his family of origin with an alcoholic father and a saint of a mother into what he currently calls a season of restoration.

You will see the powerful impact of mentoring in his life and how one mentor changed the trajectory of his family by choosing to pour her life into the life of his Mom. Her influence laid the foundation for not only Carl to seek out mentors throughout his own life but also ensure his children were supported by mentors.

Carl discusses the last few years of his life referring to them as the dark knight of the soul. Walking with him were ministry mentors who knocked the question marks off from over his head. These mentors weren't just impressed with his accomplishments. They knew him and called out his identity.

Carol’s authentic interview is a beautiful story of restoration and reconciliation.

Resources:

Rhythms of a Disciple: A non anxious presence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tplz7H0iIXw&t=1835s

The Cure: What if God isn’t who you think He is and neither are you?; Bill Thrall, Bruce McNicol, John S. Lynch, Navpress, 2011.

Contact Carl:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/carl-gulley-930497249/

Just why is mentoring important? How does a mentor help a mentee? Today Chris and Christina will explore the answers to those questions. They will take a deep dive into the numerous benefits of mentoring. They will share from their own experiences how mentoring has helped shape them.

Find out how you can gain some tools for mentoring through a Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring workshop! Chris and Christina give an overview of what a mentoring workshop looks like and how you can get involved. Don't live in the Oklahoma City, Ok area? Not a problem. You can host an online workshop for your organization. Find out more by contacting Chris ([email protected]) or Christina ([email protected]), register for an upcoming workshop at cbmcok.com/events.

When you ask real questions, the answers can change your life. Let's normalize questions! Questions need to become part of our "normal". In today's episode, Chris and Christina discuss how questions can be used to help strengthen a mentor/mentee relationship. Why don't we ask them, how do we ask them and why should we ask them? Find out today!

Today, Chris and Christina finish The Six Areas. Part two of the emotional component of a person wraps up with today's discussion.

Chris and Christina will continue the six areas discussion, focussing on emotions. Today's discussion will shed some light into the very complicated world of emotions. Emotions include feelings and mood and are a vital part of a persons life. How do they affect us for the positive or negative? What happens when they are not in balance?

Resources:

Dr. Caroline Leaf https://drleaf.com/

Here's a great discussion starter:

1. How do you rate yourself emotionally on a scale of 1 to 10?
2. Why did you give yourself that rating?
3. What is your vision for your future with you emotional life? What would it take to move that number forward?
4. What is a natural next step you can take?

"The Six Areas" discussion continues as Chris and Christina dive into the topic of the professional/educational area. Real life mentoring looks at real life. Having a mentor discuss the areas of education is needed and necessary. Having a mentor discuss the issues, both good and bad, one the job helps a mentee process their profession. Each of the six areas affect the others. Start talking with your mentor about real life ... all of it!

Picking back up with the six areas, Chris and Christina jump back in with their discussion on relationships. Today, they will explore the effects of social media on relationships. The pitfalls, the advantages, it's all game for today's podcast. There is a generational gap that mentors need to be informed about in the area of social media. This episode will give you some tools to know what they are and how to build healthy relationships around them.

Chris and Christina jump back into "The Six Areas". Today they explore the area of relationships. How do relationships affect us positively and negatively? How do you grow in the areas of relationships? In this two part series, you will find what balance looks like in relationships and how to develop them when they are not.

In today's episode, Chris and Christina continue the discussion about "the six areas", focusing on the mental. How do we stay mentally healthy? How do we stay engaged mentally? What does it mean to renew your mind? These are the topics they tackle today. You'll gain some new perspective as you examine your own mental aspect.

Here's a practical tool to use when talking about the mental with a mentee:

1. How do you rate your mental status on a scale from 1 to 10?
2. Why did you give yourself that rating?
3. What is your vision for your future with your mental? What would it take to move that number forward?
4. What is a natural next step you can take?

Resources:

1. National Alliance for Mental Health, 1-800-950-6264
2. Text "helpline" to 62640
3. Podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves with Adam Young Counseling
4. Podcast, Being Known with Curt Thompson, MD