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Embracing Emotions: The Path to Genuine Happiness with Matt O'Neill
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant engages in a deep conversation with happiness expert Matt O'Neill, discussing the societal conditioning that discourages men from expressing emotions and the journey to reclaiming their natural happiness. Matt shares his personal struggles growing up with conflicting parental influences and how these experiences propelled him into darkness, only to resurface with a mission to spread joy.
Together, they explore the concept that happiness is hindered by suppressing emotions and emphasize the importance of awareness, gratitude, and meditation in overcoming negative beliefs. Personal anecdotes highlight how shifting focus from negative to positive thoughts can reshape one's mood and destiny.
They also discuss Matt's book, 'The Good Mood Revolution,' and practical strategies for cultivating happiness. The dialogue underscores the message that true power lies in vulnerability, and that happiness is attainable through inner work and self-awareness.
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:20 Introducing Matt O'Neill: Happiness Expert
01:10 The Journey from Darkness to Joy
02:45 Suppressing Emotions: The Impact on Happiness
06:32 Understanding and Overcoming Negative Beliefs
09:00 The Power of Choice and Perspective
19:26 The Eight Primary Bad Moods
23:40 The Bond Between Men and Dogs
24:05 The Impact of Pets on Mental Health
25:30 Finding Hope in Despair
26:11 Understanding and Managing Anger
28:20 The Power of Meditation
33:05 The Illusion of Being Right
37:30 The Journey to Writing a Book
40:33 The Importance of Gratitude
46:38 Conclusion and Resources
You are worthy of being happy.
Resources
Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness, Matt O'Neill
-- https://amzn.to/48atnYl
Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide, Andy Grant -- https://amzn.to/3zHzdDF
Homer the Hound Dog's Guide to Happiness: 6 Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog!, Andy Grant -- https://amzn.to/47Vno9w
The Secret, Rhonda Byrne -- https://amzn.to/3NaRhsG
Improve Your Life and Happiness with The Power of Gratitude (Course) -- https://www.udemy.com/course/the-power-of-gratitude/?referralCode=B74A64550F8336E24CA9
Links
Matt O'Neill -- https://MattONeill.com
Good Mood Revolution Podcast -- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-mood-revolution/id1617660263
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#RealMenFeel ep 322
Transformative Journeys and the Six Rules of Happiness with Ray Martin
Host Andy Grant interviews Ray Martin, a multifaceted entrepreneur, author, coach, and mindfulness teacher. Ray shares his profound journey of personal transformation, discussing the losses that led him to take a sabbatical, his experiences of running a marathon, and spending 14 years living out of a backpack.
He delves into the foundational principles and six rules of happiness he discovered and shares how mindfulness and meditation played a key role in his evolution.
Ray's inspiring story highlights the importance of living authentically, finding one's true path, and empowering others.
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:19 Introducing Ray Martin
00:45 Ray's Journey of Loss and Transformation
04:46 The Turning Point: Helping Others
09:45 A New Path: From Businessman to Actor
13:42 Guiding Principles for Life
18:36 Discovering Mindfulness and Meditation
21:19 Connecting Through Service and Adventure
23:32 The Marathon Dream
24:38 Fundraising Success
26:01 The Call to Write a Book
26:39 Learning to Write
27:50 Returning to the UK
30:42 Six Rules of Happiness
39:57 Intentional Relationships
41:00 Empowering Others
43:18 Conclusion and Resources
Resources
Life Without A Tie, Ray Martin
-- https://amzn.to/3Bl3kRD
The Untethered Soul: Journey Beyond Yourself, Michael Singer -- https://amzn.to/3Bngwpj
The Hero's Journey, Joseph Campbell -- https://amzn.to/4gKyj9V
Managing Transitions: Making The Most of Change, William Bridges -- https://amzn.to/3Bl3OqV
Links
Ray Martin -- https://LifeWithoutATie.com
Follow Ray on LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachraymartin/
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#RealMenFeel ep 321
Understanding and Strengthening Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses with Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, her expertise in trauma work and relationships.
Kristal shares her journey from avoiding marriage to becoming a leading authority in relational therapy. She insightfully states, 'I wanted my practice to reflect two things: tactical skills and a strength-forward approach.’
They delve into Kristal's STRONG model of relational therapy, which includes six pillars aimed at fostering healthy relationships.
The conversation also covers the evolution of relationships, the challenges men face, and the often overlooked issue of male sexual abuse.
Kristal notes, 'The experience of the intersection of pain and helplessness is often where trauma begins,’ emphasizing the transformative power of trauma-informed and attachment-based approaches in therapy.
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:20 Introducing Kristal DeSantis
01:18 Kristal's Journey to Therapy
04:34 Focusing on First Responders
06:54 Understanding Trauma in Relationships
09:56 The STRONG Model of Relational Therapy
19:53 Challenges Men Face in Modern Relationships
24:41 Redefining Modern Protection
25:56 Debunking Misconceptions About Men and Relationships
27:53 The New Relationship Paradigm
29:42 Navigating the Modern Dating Landscape
35:25 Men as Survivors of Abuse
43:50 Resources and Final Thoughts
Resources
STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, Kristal DeSantis
-- https://amzn.to/3Zw3IXu
The Abuse OF Men by Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, Ann Silvers -- https://amzn.to/3XxaEB1
His History, Her Story: A Survival Guide for Spouses of Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trauma, by Debra Warner -- https://amzn.to/4d8uZ5y
Links
Kristal DeSantis -- https://www.strong.love
Follow Kristal on IG -- www.instagram.com/atxtherapist
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#RealMenFeel ep 320
Overcoming False Accusations and Personal Growth: Ghasan Alesayi's Journey
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Ghasan Alesayi, an actor and filmmaker from Toronto. Ghasan shares his rollercoaster journey of dealing with false legal accusations and public scrutiny after being arrested for voyeurism while working with a dating coach.
He talks about his battle with fear, insecurities, and the lessons he learned about vulnerability, consent, and empathy during this challenging period.
Throughout the conversation, Ghasan emphasizes the importance of understanding one's emotions, embracing personal growth, and how he is navigating life after this experience, including his ongoing project—a documentary titled 'Uncancelled' that details his story.
00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel
00:19 Meet Ghasan Alesayi: Actor and Filmmaker
01:05 Ghassan's Rollercoaster Journey Begins
03:03 Facing Fears and Seeking Therapy
10:01 The Dating Coach Experience
18:11 The Arrest and Legal Battle
26:09 Facing Serious Charges
27:15 Contemplating the Future
28:19 Seeking Legal Help
30:57 The News Breaks
32:36 Support and Isolation
34:33 Impact on Career
38:27 Lessons Learned
41:23 Rebuilding and Moving Forward
48:36 Documenting the Journey
50:37 Final Thoughts and Resources
Ghasan discusses the impact on his life, the lessons he learned about consent, and his journey towards recovery and empowerment.
Links
Ghasan on Medium -- https://medium.com/@ghasan.alesayi/love-lies-and-legal-trouble-b6f853a7567c
Ghasan AKA Sam Al Esai -- https://samalesai.ca/
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#RealMenFeel ep 319
Rediscovering Humanity and Integrity: A Conversation with Colin Kingsmill on Real Men Feel
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Colin Kingsmill, a former Swiss banker turned healer and advocate for the Enough Already movement. They delve into topics such as success, worthiness, and the need for a deeper human connection.
Colin shares his personal journey from corporate success to fulfillment in serving others, highlighting the significance of living with integrity and confronting psychological suffering. They also discuss the role of corporations in society, challenges in modern spirituality, and the roots of a lack mindset.
The conversation underscores the importance of redefining success and fostering an abundant mindset through intentional daily practices.
"Enough Already is saying no to all of those things or saying yes to humanity. Yes to integrity. Yes to being fearless and no to psychological suffering and becoming free and untethered." - Colin Kingsmil
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:19 Introducing Colin Kingsmill
01:27 The 'Enough Already' Movement
02:57 Defining Humanity and Integrity
04:46 Colin's Journey: From Success to Self-Discovery
07:32 The Wake-Up Call
17:06 The Power of Service and Joy
20:18 The Challenge of Corporatism
24:24 Rethinking Success Metrics
24:50 The Awakening of Individuals
25:32 Challenges of Modern Life
27:49 Taking Local Action
28:33 Personal Worth and Acceptance
32:38 Financial Insecurity and Abundance
38:14 The Power of Intentionality
42:24 Final Thoughts and Resources
Resources
Mel Robins podcast on goalsetting --https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-29
The Power of Now, Eckhardt Tolle -- https://amzn.to/3Xfezm2
What The Bleep Do We Know?! on DVD -- https://amzn.to/3yZkvYn
The Secret, Rhonda Byrne -- https://amzn.to/3TmTB3A
Love Money, Money Loves You, Sarah McCrum -- https://amzn.to/3XzcqmE
Links
Colin Kingsmill -- https://colinkingsmill.com
Enough Already -- https://www.enoughalreadymovement.com/
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#RealMenFeel ep 318
Real Men Feel: Embracing Authenticity with Jason Lange
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. They discuss the origins and impact of nice guy syndrome, the importance of men's groups for growth and support, and the journey toward authenticity and emotional expression.
Jason shares insights into how nice guys are created, the significance of setting boundaries, and the role of men's work in fostering healthier relationships.
The conversation also touches on men's cultural conditioning to disconnect from their emotions and the need for men to rebuild their connection to their bodies and instincts.
Highlights:
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:20 Introducing Jason Lange
02:20 Understanding Nice Guy Syndrome
09:15 The Impact of Men's Groups
15:21 The Importance of Embodiment
21:13 Challenges Men Face
25:20 The Role of Men's Groups in Emotional Health
37:34 Nice Guy Recovery and Authenticity
44:39 Jason Lange's Podcast and Final Thoughts
Resources
No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Dr. Robert Glover - https://amzn.to/3ALB1eT
Dr. Glover on Real Men Feel - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-wrong-with-being-a-nice-guy/id1107137758?i=1000507430169
Links
Jason Lange -- https://evolutionary.men
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#RealMenFeel ep 317
Generational Healing and Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies with Gao Motsemme
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Gao Motsemme, a psychic surgeon and embodiment queen dedicated to helping individuals break free from patterns of generational toxic relationships. Gao discusses her journey into ancestral healing, energy work, and the importance of connecting with one's inner child and sexual energy. The conversation delves into the integration of masculine and feminine energies, the impact of generational trauma, and the significance of authentic leadership in both personal and professional settings. Listeners are invited to explore their own emotional and energetic landscapes to achieve deeper healing and self-awareness.
00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel
00:21 Meet Gao Motsemme: Psychic Surgeon and Healer
01:39 Understanding Generational Trauma
03:53 Gao's Personal Journey and Awakening
06:53 The Role of Ancestral Healing
09:36 African Ancient Quantum Medicine
15:28 The Power of Sexual Energy
22:27 Leadership and Presence
23:55 Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies
27:31 Connecting with the Inner Child
31:11 The Importance of Emotional Resilience
39:34 Conclusion and Contact Information
Links
Gao Motsemme -- https://www.gaomotsemme.com/
Book a complimentary call with Gao -- https://bit.ly/Orgasmicclarity
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#RealMenFeel ep 316
Exploring the Flavors of Emotions with Kim Korte
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant converses with Kim Korte, a sensory perception and emotion management strategist. Kim explains her unique metaphor for emotions, comparing them to flavors and cooking ingredients. They discuss how emotions are formed, the impact of memories, and the importance of acknowledging and working through emotions rather than suppressing them. Kim shares insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions' and discusses how external sensory perceptions and past experiences influence emotional responses. She also emphasizes the significance of emotional granularity and the benefits of being attuned to one's feelings to improve overall well-being.
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:32 Introducing Kim Korty
01:43 Exploring Emotions Through Food Metaphors
04:29 Understanding Emotional Processes
06:27 The Importance of Emotional Awareness
20:09 Practical Exercises for Emotional Insight
27:48 Personal Reflections and Impact
34:15 Final Thoughts and Farewell
Links
Kim Korte -- https://kimkorte.com
Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions -- https://amzn.to/46S79t6
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#RealMenFeel ep 315
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes pioneering coach and author Owen Marcus, who discusses integrating emotional physiology, attachment theory, and somatic therapies into men's emotional connection and leadership development.
Owen shares insights from his new community, MELD, which focuses on men's emotional leadership development. They explore diverse subjects such as rolfing, polyvagal theory, anti-fragility, and the importance of co-regulation and vulnerability in emotional intelligence.
The conversation highlights the significance of using somatic experiences for emotional growth and how men can improve their relationships and leadership skills through these practices. Owen also emphasizes the role of safe spaces for practicing emotional skills and the benefits of such spaces on men's personal and professional lives.
The episode wraps up with a discussion on the common challenges men face and how women can support men in their emotional journeys.
Topics and Highlights
00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:26 Introducing Owen Marcus
01:50 The Journey to MELD
02:38 Understanding Somatic Therapy
04:26 Exploring Rolfing
06:57 Men's Emotional Leadership Development
08:39 Polyvagal Theory Explained
11:28 The Importance of Vulnerability
14:09 Emotional Intelligence and Leadership
24:35 Challenges Men Face Today
26:17 MELD Programs and Offerings
28:40 Couples Retreat and Coed Programs
31:23 The Impact of Men's Groups
36:14 Advice for Women Supporting Men
42:08 Conclusion and Contact Information
Links
Owen Marcus & MELD -- https://meld.community
Resources
Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, by Dr Stephen W. Porges
The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe, by Dr Stephen W. Porges
Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Dr. Sue Johnson
Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families, by Dr. Sue Johnson
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#RealMenFeel ep 314
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews psychotherapist Marc Azoulay about the unique challenges and shortcomings of traditional therapy for men. Marc shares his personal journey from client to therapist, highlighting how his own struggles with addiction and identity shaped his approach to helping men.
The discussion delves into the importance of challenging men within a supportive community, the need for both masculine and feminine love in therapy, and the transformative power of male initiation rituals. Marc also introduces Men's Therapy Online, a community-based service designed to offer tailored support and foster meaningful relationships among men.
00:20 Meet Marc Azoulay: Psychotherapist and Founder of Men's Online Therapy
01:15 Marc's Personal Journey: From Client to Therapist
03:07 The Challenges Men Face in Therapy
06:09 Redefining Masculinity and Therapy
07:35 Marc's Addiction and Transformation
13:41 The Importance of Male Support Systems
16:06 Marc's Therapy Approach and Personal Experiences
18:07 Vision Quests and Fasting: A Deep Dive
18:53 The Importance of Initiation Rituals
20:03 The Power of Fasting and Survival
22:01 The Mankind Project Experience
24:50 Leading Wilderness Retreats
28:43 Men's Therapy Online: A Community for Men
31:32 Emotional Strength and Vulnerability
34:18 Conclusion and Resources
Links
Marc Azoulay -- http://www.menstherapy.online/
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