Real Talk With Amiri

A lot of times when we level up, we level out of relationships, we level out of friendships & connections.  Sometimes the commonality with that person is a toxic relationships....

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The Ugly Truth About People What I have learned about people 

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Who would ever think a married man could be gay or bisexual? Because a man is married, people just naturally assume he has a happy normal relationship with his wife. This is often the charade married gay or bisexual men use to cover up their alternate identity. Some have relationships with women because they ultimately want to live the lifestyle of a heterosexual married man. Many want children and all the benefits that come with marriage, when in fact they are living a lie. Others are hoping that heterosexual marriage will change their sexual preference.

Not only should you know the truth in order to protect yourself from sexually transmitted and possibly life-threatening diseases, you deserve to know the truth so you can make a decision regarding the future of the marriage. If nothing were wrong with your marriage, you wouldn’t be wondering about the sexual identity of your husband in the first place.

Online Activities
Watch your husband’s online activities. If he is secretive about his online activities, he more than likely has something to hide. Married gay or bisexual men sometimes look for like-minded individuals on the internet.


Mysterious Phone Calls
If your husband receives mysterious phone calls from men never previously mentioned or those never introduced, they may be more than friends. To the average person this may sound like unreasonable paranoia, but hindsight is truly 20/20.
Lack of Sexual Desire
If sexual relations occur less than 10 times per year in a marriage, that marriage is said to be “sexless”. If your otherwise healthy husband lacks sexual desire, and he seems physically as well as emotionally uninterested, he might be more interested in those of the same sex.
Many women unwittingly married to a gay or bi-sexual man go on for years thinking they are somehow at fault, undesirable, or not worthy of love and affection. Their self-esteem often becomes crushed. Many of these women are married for years and feel neglected, unloved, and ignored before figuring out the truth.

Body Language
The eyes are said to be windows to the soul. If you watch someone’s eyes and expressions, you can often tell what they are thinking. If you suspect your husband may be gay or bi-sexual, watch his actions in public.

Accepting the Truth
Everyone has a right to live the lifestyle they chose, but it is very unfair to deceive someone and deprive them of the total commitment and love they deserve in a marriage. It’s unfair to take years away from someone who thought they were marrying the love of their life, when in fact they were marrying a stranger.

Accepting and facing the truth after confirming your husband is gay or bi-sexual is very painful.

Check out Full Article Here>>>>Is Your Husband Secretly Gay or Bisexual? (stepbystep.com)

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It Takes A Village To Raise A Child...

All This Talk About Feeding Kids, which is the ultimate task... Now for those of you who are Christians..... I havent been to church in some years... But I know what I learned when I was there...

 Matthew 25:35

For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in:                                 

James 2:14-18

What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him? If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food, And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled ...

Proverbs 28:27

He that giveth unto the poor shall not lack: but he that hideth his eyes shall have many a curse.

1 John 3:17-18

But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.

Proverbs 31:20

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

Romans 12:20

Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.

Galatians 6:2

Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

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Dating in 2022:

1. Texting is the death of the first date.

2. You get what you allow.

3. Telling someone what you need is not needy.

4. You can always add dinner, but you can’t take it back.

5. If you don’t know, ask.

6. No one is a mind reader.

7. Everything short of finding “your person” is not a failure.

Even if we all implement just one of the seven tips above, then 2022 should be a more productive year for dating.

Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps others navigate the world of online dating. This column provided by Tribune News Service.
Make 2022 your best dating year yet with these 7 tips (bostonherald.com)

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From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Nick Cannon
Cannon in 2010
Born | Nicholas Scott Cannon
October 8, 1980 (age 41)

Nicholas Scott Cannon (born October 8, 1980)[2] is an American television host, rapper, actor, and comedian. In television, Cannon began as a teenager on All That before going on to host The Nick Cannon Show, Wild 'n Out, America's Got Talent, Lip Sync Battle Shorties, and The Masked Singer. He acted in the films Drumline, Love Don't Cost a Thing, and Roll Bounce.
As a rapper he released his debut self-titled album in 2003 with the single "Gigolo", a collaboration with singer R. Kelly. In 2007 he played the role of the fictional footballer TJ Harper in the film Goal II: Living the Dream. In 2006, Cannon recorded the singles "Dime Piece" and "My Wife" for the planned album Stages, which was never released.

Early life
Cannon was born on October 8, 1980, in San Diego, California. Cannon was largely raised by his paternal grandfather, whom both he and his biological father called "dad". As a child, Cannon grew up in Lincoln Park's Bay Vista Housing Projects, which is a gang-ridden section of Southeast San Diego. While in his teenage years, he was affiliated with the "Lincoln Park Bloods" street gang, but stated that he left behind his affiliations after losing a close friend.[3][4] In 1998, he graduated from Monte Vista High School in Spring Valley, where he was president of the African Student Coalition and participated in track and field.[5] Cannon received his first break doing stand-up comedy on his father's local cable access program.[6]

Having multiple babies by multiple women is not a healthy life, it produces fatherless families, who have issues growing up..   #zoomdad

Stop Making Wrong Right, & Right Wrong.

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Marriage is a powerful creator and sustainer of human and social capital for adults as well as children, about as important as education when it comes to promoting the health, wealth, and well-being of adults and communities.

Marriage promotes the common good by building families and raising children. Those of you who have children know that every day that goes by is about selfless acts in nurturing children.

Marriage is the foundational relationship for all of society. All other relationships in society stem from the father-mother relationship, and these other relationships thrive most if that father-mother relationship is simultaneously a close and closed husband- wife relationship. Good marriages are the bedrock of strong societies, for they are the foundations of strong families. In marriage are contained the five basic institutions, all the basic tasks, of society: 1) family, 2) church, 3) school, 4) marketplace and 5) government. These fundamental tasks, well done, in unity between father and mother, make for a very good marriage. 
Marriage and Health

• On average, husbands and wives are healthier, happier and enjoy longer lives than those who are not married.

• Men appear to reap the most physical health benefits from marriage and suffer the greatest health consequences if they divorce.

• Married mothers have lower rates of depression than single or cohabiting mothers, probably because they are more likely to receive practical and emotional support from their child’s father and his family.

Marriage and Wealth

• Married couples build more wealth on average than singles or cohabiting couples.

• Married men earn more money than do single men with similar education and job histories.

• Married women are economically better off than divorced, cohabiting or never-married women.

Marriage and Children

Children raised by their own married mother and father are:

• Less likely to be poor or to experience persistent economic insecurity

• More likely to stay in school, have fewer behavioral and attendance problems, and earn four-year college degrees

• Less vulnerable to serious emotional illness, depression and suicide

• More likely to have positive attitudes towards marriage and greater success in forming lasting marriages

Marriage and Crime/Domestic Violence

• Married women are at lower risk for domestic violence than women in cohabiting or dating relationships.

• Boys raised in single-parent homes are more likely to engage in criminal and delinquent behavior than those raised by two married biological parents.

• Married women are significantly less likely to be the victims of violent crime than single or divorced women. Married men are less likely to perpetrate violent crimes than unmarried men.

Marriage and Society

• The institution of marriage reliably creates the social, economic and affective conditions for effective parenting.

• Being married changes people’s lifestyles and habits in ways that are personally and socially beneficial. Marriage is a “seedbed” of prosocial behavior.

• Marriage generates social capital. The social bonds created through marriage yield benefits not only for the family but for others as well, including the larger society.

Sources: Why Marriage Matters: Twenty-Six Conclusions from the Social Sciences (Institute for American Values); Healthy Marriages, Healthy Lives: Research on the Alignment of Health, Marital Outcomes and Marriage Education (California Healthy Marriages Coalition); Testimony of Dr. Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, National Marriage Project, before the U.S. Senate Subcommittee on Children and Families

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Why are we so angry & violent in America Real Talk With Amiri Podcast
VIOLENCE is the primal problem of American history, the dark reverse of its coin of freedom and abundance. American society, or a conspicuous part of it, has been tumultuous since the beginnings of European colonization. But while seventeenth-century Virginia was a disorderly place, the Massachusetts Bay Colony was not, and though the South and the frontier and the black ghetto have known especially high levels of violence and disorder, rural New England and Mormon Utah have almost always been tranquil.

DO THESE DIFFERENCES SIMPLY reflect American pluralism? Perhaps New England was less violent because the godly Pilgrims and Puritans settled there. Perhaps Southern and Western communities were more violent because the presence of slaves and Indians aroused fear and encouraged people to carry guns. Such explanations go a long way toward accounting for the regional peculiarities of American violence, but they are not the whole story.

Men, especially young men, are at the heart of American violence. Their behavior is most dangerous in their teens and twenties, the years when they are likeliest to kill, riot, vandalize, steal, and abuse alcohol or other drugs. The surest way to reduce crime, the psychologist David T. Lykken of the University of Minnesota has remarked, would be to put all able-bodied males between the ages of twelve and twenty-eight into cryogenic sleep.

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Even if you believe you are not racist....You are still participating in a racist system reaping the benefits of a racist systme.
And you are doing nothing to  stop it.....

Even within our contemporary moment, those Black “police chiefs, mayors, Cabinet officials, members of Congress, professors, directors of human resources offices, chief executive officers, prison wardens, and president and vice president of the United States” continue to live within a country predicted upon anti-Black racism. Each of those occupied positions mean very little within a context of white supremacy.  a lot of trophies no real power..

https://thefrontierpost.com/why-are-white-people-still-racist/

https://www.salon.com/2015/03/04/10_ways_white_people_are_more_racist_than_they_realize_partner/

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/opinion/why-do-young-whites-kill-out-of-hate-schools-arent-teaching-nations-racist-past/ar-AAXlINP

1. College professors, across race/ethnicity and gender, are more likely to respond to queries from students they believe are white males.

2. White people, including white children, are less moved by the pain of people of color, including children of color, than by the pain of fellow whites. 

3. White people are more likely to have done illegal drugs than blacks or Latinos, but are far less likely to go to to jail for it.

4. Black men are sentenced to far lengthier prison sentences than white men for the same crimes.

5. White people, including police, see black children as older and less innocent than white children. 

6. Black children are more likely to be tried as adults and are given harsher sentences than white children.

7. White people are more likely to support the criminal justice system, including the death penalty, when they think it’s disproportionately punitive toward black people. 

8. The more "stereotypically black" a defendant looks in a murder case, the higher the likelihood he will be sentenced to death. 

10. A number of studies find white people view lighter-skinned African Americans (and Latinos) as more intelligent, competent, trustworthy and reliable than their darker-skinned peers.

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We are far and away the world leader in putting our own people in jail. Most of the people inside are poor and Black. Here are 40 reasons why.
40 Reasons Why Our Jails Are Full of Black and Poor People | HuffPost Latest News

The US prison system is the main source of punishment and rehabilitation for criminal offenses. The system incarcerates more people than any other country in the world. Currently, there are over 2 million people in prisons, jails, and detention centers. This number represents 25% of all inmates in the world even though the US population makes up only 5% of the global population. A common opinion is that this system is broken and in need of repair. The downturn began in the early ’70s when President Nixon called for a “war on drugs”, measures in this war were to include drastic prison sentences for drug-related crimes. Today, the prisons are overcrowded and understaffed which has opened the way for private, for-profit centers.  US Prison Population By Race - WorldAtlas

Incarceration Rates By Group

The problems with the prison system only continue when one looks at the obvious racial and gender disparities. For example, while black inmates make up nearly 40% of the prison population, they only make up 13.40% of the total US population. Native Americans represent 2.30% of the incarcerated population and only 1.30% of the population. 58.70% of the prison population is white, which includes Hispanic Americans. 

Are there more black men in prison than in college in the United States?

It's an oft-repeated claim that there are more black men in prison in the US than in college. It's a good statistic that apparently gets to the heart of the problem of inequality in the US, but is it having a negative effect on young black men? And, more importantly, is it true?

In 2007, before he became a presidential candidate, Barack Obama took to the stage to address The National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP)

"I know what you know," he said. "Despite all the progress that has been made, we still have more work to do. We have more work to do when more young black men languish in prison than attend universities and colleges across America."

The statement was greeted with cheering and applause. It was a rallying cry for the activists in the room to continue their fight against inequality.

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