Sometimes recovery is hard, especially when you’re faced with a history of people who coulda shoulda woulda been there with you and for you. But you’re not alone. And I hope you get up and keep moving forward.

It’s important to communicate what pleases you to your partner. A loving and caring partner will want to learn your pleasure and please you when you’re intimate; but they won’t know what that is unless you tell them.

You are responsibly for learning your own pleasure. To learn what you like and don’t like. To know what will bring you orgasms and what won’t. Today we’re learning how to figure that out.

An orgasm is a explosion of stimulation on nerve endings. We can learn the basics of orgasms and learn our bodies to know how to achieve them. And if you’ve been a victim of sexual assault and orgasmed, it’s not your fault. It was just a natural and response to nerve stimulation. It doesn’t mean you enjoyed it. Sex should always be consensual. Sexual assault is NEVER your fault.

Part of gaining our sexual freedom is taking responsibility for our sexual reproductive health so we can engage in fun and healthy sexual pleasure.

It’s time for resolution and peace and confidence!

So....that happened. And when we get caught in the pain we’re in this awkward middle place until we learn to heal and move forward.

Come meet me the middle where everything still hurts, it’s a little bit bitter, but we’re still moving forward.

Moving goalposts are meant to break down your self-esteem and establish your dependence on a toxic person...so fluff the house.

Sometimes we need to admit what we want to get to the underlying drives. Like when I’m craving sex in a bubblebath with chocolate and red wine...yeah that’d be nice. But really I can break that down and see that I want acceptance and comfort, the underlying drives.