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Hi friend,
When distance enters a marriage, encouragement and appreciation are often the first things to fade.
In this episode, David explores how small, intentional acts of honor and encouragement can begin restoring warmth and connection between you and your spouse.
You’ll learn how simple words, thoughtful gestures, and consistent appreciation create the emotional safety every marriage needs to thrive. Not through dramatic gestures, but through consistent, intentional moments of kindness.
This week’s courageous action will help you begin elevating your spouse through intentional words and actions.
Because what we nurture in a marriage often becomes what grows.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
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It’s easy to believe change will happen when circumstances improve—or when the other person changes first.
But lasting transformation often begins somewhere else.
In this episode, David shares why taking responsibility for your part in the relationship is one of the most powerful steps toward restoring connection and emotional safety in marriage.
You’ll learn how courageous ownership can shift the atmosphere of your relationship—even before external circumstances change.
This week’s CourageoUS Love Challenge invites you to lead with intentionality and humility.
Because marriage direction changes when someone chooses to move first.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
Connection often begins with perspective.
In this episode, David shares how changing the way he viewed his spouse—and his role in the relationship—began transforming the emotional climate of his marriage.
You’ll discover why empathy, understanding, and intentional perspective shifts can soften tension and rebuild emotional closeness.
This week’s courageous action will help you begin seeing your spouse through a new lens—one that makes reconnection possible again.
Sometimes, the shift you long to see in your marriage begins with a shift in your own perspective.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
Every marriage is shaped by the beliefs we carry—some bring hope, while others quietly create distance.
In this episode, David explores how limiting beliefs about your spouse, yourself, or your marriage influence how you show up, how you respond, and how you relate.
You’ll learn how identifying and replacing those lies with truth can begin restoring emotional safety, clarity, and connection.
This week’s courageous step will help you reset your mindset and create space for reconnection to grow.
Because when beliefs change, direction changes—and connection can begin again.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
Marriage drift doesn’t happen all at once—it happens quietly.
In this first episode of the CourageoUS Love Challenge, David shares the moment that brought the quiet drift in his marriage into focus—and the courageous choice that changed the direction of his home.
This episode kicks off an 8-week podcast journey designed to help you reset your marriage and reconnect with your spouse through one episode and one courageous action each week.
If you’ve felt more like roommates than partners, overwhelmed by life’s pressures, or unsure where to even begin, this is your starting point.
One episode.
Start here—then join us each week for the next courageous step.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
The men who came to David were united, disciplined, and brought provision—support that strengthened the mission. Marriage needs that too: unity, boundaries, and a wise support system. In this episode, we talk about building a “marriage circle” that protects connection: mentors, friends, family boundaries, spiritual covering, and practical supports that reduce load. You’ll learn how to fight the real enemy together and strengthen connection and stability in your home.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
The sons of Issachar were known for understanding the times and knowing what to do. Many couples don’t fail from lack of love—they struggle because they misread their season. In this episode, you'll uncover your current season (parenting, grief, relocation, rebuilding trust, burnout, financial pressure) and adjust expectations and strategies accordingly. You’ll get a simple “season check-in” framework to reduce tension and increase teamwork.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
David’s supporters weren’t only loyal—they were trained, ready, and dependable. What if your marriage didn’t just need more love, but better skills? In this episode, we connect 1 Chronicles 11–12 to practical marriage tools: healthy communication, repair after conflict, emotional regulation, and daily rhythms that keep love steady. You’ll learn how to “train for connection” so your home feels safer, warmer, and more united—even during stressful weeks.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
When marriage feels distant, it’s easy to withdraw, keep score, or assume the worst. In 1 Chronicles 11–12, people supported David before his story looked “successful.” In this episode, we translate that kind of loyalty into marriage: what it looks like to stay emotionally present, speak with honor, and keep choosing connection even when feelings are low. You’ll leave with simple ways to rebuild safety and closeness—one faithful moment at a time.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Hi friend,
Want to start the new year with a marriage reset that actually lasts? In this January 1 episode, David unpacks how 1 Chronicles 11–12 reveals the power of a strong support system—one built on loyalty, wisdom, unity, and practical reinforcement. You’ll be introduced to the C.I.R.C.L.E. framework, a simple approach to strengthening connection, protecting peace, and building rhythms that help your marriage grow closer all year long.
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👇 Let’s Stay Connected!
📖 Get your copy of our new book: A Couple’s First Ten Years
📧 Got questions or just want to say hi? Send an email to: [email protected]
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
From the publisher's feed
Are you feeling distant from your spouse while living under the same roof?
Frustrated by the misunderstandings or growing tension in your marriage?
Do you long to feel heard and understood but can’t seem to get through to your spouse?
Or maybe you simply miss feeling close, connected, and like you’re on the same team.
If you can relate, you’re not alone.
You can deeply love your spouse and still find yourselves caught in recurring conflict, misunderstandings, difficult conversations, or growing emotional distance. Add careers, parenting, responsibilities, major life transitions, and the pressures of everyday life, and staying connected can become harder than you imagined.
Welcome to Reconnected Marriage.
I’m David Haastrup, husband to my blessed and beautiful wife, Ebun, dad of three, co-author of A Couple’s First Ten Years, Christian Marriage Coach, and Conflict De-escalation Strategist.
Ebun and I have been married for more than 16 years, and we know what it’s like to feel disconnected while navigating work, parenting, relocation, and unexpected life challenges. We also know what it’s like to deepen our connection and intimacy over the years.
Through our marriage, my experience navigating conflict in high-pressure healthcare environments, and my work with couples, I’ve learned something important:
The argument you’re having isn’t always the real issue.
Sometimes, something deeper is happening beneath the words: unspoken expectations, emotional triggers, different perspectives, unresolved hurt, or patterns you may not even realize you’ve fallen into.
On Reconnected Marriage, I share practical tools, biblical wisdom, and real-life lessons to help you understand what’s happening beneath conflict, respond differently when things get difficult, and restore connection.
We’ll explore:
At the heart of the conversations we’ll have is this:
You don’t have to wait for your spouse to change before taking your next courageous step. You cannot control your spouse, but you can choose how you show up—and when one person chooses a new response, it can begin to change the way you relate to each other.
Maybe you’ve quietly thought:
“We love each other. So why do we keep ending up here?”
“I want us to understand each other better.”
“I want us to feel close again.”
If that’s where you are, join me as we explore practical, faith-rooted ways to deepen your connection, experience more peace and unity at home, and begin moving toward a stronger, more connected marriage.
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[Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy, psychological advice or professional medical care. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance].