There's no exact moment when you become disabled. It's more like you finally stop fighting something your body has been trying to tell you for decades—and suddenly you can breathe again. Actually breathe, not just survive.
I've lived with fibromyalgia since I was 20. I've had chronic pain my entire adult life. But I didn't accept I was disabled until six months ago—at 40 years old. In this episode, I share how acceptance came in waves, how my professional identity as an HR leader was built on masking, and why unmasking changed everything about my work. This isn't about finding silver linings in suffering—it's about finally telling the truth about what you need.
In This Episode:
- Why disability is a spectrum, not a binary you cross
- What internalized ableism actually sounds like (and how it kept me suffering for decades)
- How a decade in corporate HR taught me that accommodations work very differently in practice than on paper
- Why my work got better, not more productive, when I stopped masking
- A guided mudra meditation practice for when you're fighting reality
- The difference between acceptance and giving up
Includes: 3-minute guided Chin Mudra practice for nervous system regulation during identity shifts
If you're wondering if you're "disabled enough," exhausted from performing wellness, or realizing your professional identity was built on masking—this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned: Chin Mudra meditation practice (included in episode)
Connect with me:
- Instagram: @solejourneywellness
- Email: [email protected]
- Website: solejourneywellness.com
This is Episode 1 of The Lighthouse Series—four episodes exploring what it means to rebuild your life when the foundation keeps shifting.
