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The "Sacred" are those things we experience that make us more aligned with God's Best for our lives. Today, we talk about how to protect our spouse's "Sacred Time." If you are a couple with children or living a life of busyness, this episode is totally for you!

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Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do after listening to the podcast:

1. Talk to your spouse about the notion of Sacred Time.
   • Ask him or her what they would consider a great sacred time activity.
   • Talk about how to make this activity a part of your lifestyle.

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Are you interested in knowing how to become a thriving couple? If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about the Top 4 Things Thriving Couples Do. We will also describe what thriving couples look like. We believe our description will surprise you! 

So let's get started!

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do after listening to the podcast.

1. Listen to this episode with your spouse.
   • Have a discussion about our Top 4 Things Thriving Couples Do
     1. How can you be more intentional in these four areas?
     2. Ask your spouse what they would add to our list.
     3. Decide where you will start today in your pursuit of being a thriving couple.

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In today's episode we talk with Navy Seal, Capt. Lance Bach (Ret.) about how to navigate this current pandemic, why we should be vulnerable in marriage, ways to transform fear, what it means to include God in the mundane areas of life, and a whole host of other real-life topics. Lance even speaks of his struggles to reconnect with his wife, Gina, after deployments. 

One thing is for sure...  you will be encouraged as you meet a remarkable man who, like the rest of us, experiences the ups and downs of the authentic life. As a bonus, you will hear one of his many stories of the infamous Navy Seal "Hell Week" that he endured!   

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Identify those areas of RESISTANCE in your life that keep you from taking action. Perhaps areas such as:
   • Physical Health
   • Your Marriage 
   • Other Relationships
   • A Career Dream or Change
   • Your Spiritual Life
   • Or Maybe Even Your Dream Of Writing A Book
2. Write down those qualities you want expressed in your spouse towards you, and decide how to start BEING that person in your marriage. Characteristics such as:
   • Patient
   • Loving
   • Kind
   • Respectful
   • Vulnerable
3. Share this incredible episode with at least one other friend!
4. Drive the Red Truck in your marriage today!

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Has this current chapter of your life thrown you completely outside your Comfort Zone? If you are like the rest of humanity, the answer is "yes!" Although our world is changing right now by the minute, there is great hope during this time. Are you ready for a new perspective that will bear fruit for the rest of your life? One that you can give away to everyone you love? If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about how this pandemic can be a turning point towards living the "Good Life.” Although most of us are living outside our comfort zone right now. The truth is, it can be the opportunity of a lifetime for yourself, your marriage, and your family if you want it to be. That may sound crazy, but it's true! 

So let's get started!

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do after listening to the podcast.

1. Draw your Comfort Zone circle.
   • Identify and describe those areas in your life where you are on "auto-pilot."
     1. Physical Health
     2. Emotional Life
     3. Social Relationships
     4. Marriage/Family Relationships
     5. Spiritual Life
     6. Career
2. Identify and describe what it would mean to LIVE outside your Comfort Zone (Stretch Zone).
   • What would you need to do to live out there? Is it possible that you would encounter God outside your comfort zone like no other time in your life?
3. Have a conversation with your spouse about this new way to live your lives together.
   • Share what is in your comfort zone and what has kept you there.
   • Discuss what it would look like to step outside your comfort zones and live the "Good Life" in your marriage and family.
4. Share the Red Truck Marriage podcast with at least one friend!
   • Give others an opportunity to change their perspective during these challenging times!
   • Your friends also want to learn how to become the HEROES of their Marriage Story!
5. Join the RTM Facebook Group

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Are you like the rest of us right now who have moments of fear or anxiety in our daily lives? Is it possible to actually feel empowered in a world of uncertainty? We believe the answer is "yes!" In the words of Jesus...

... "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart (have courage)! I have overcome the world."  

Today, we will talk about what it means to "take heart" in the midst of difficult life circumstances. The 6 Ways To Live The Empowered Life episode will give you very specific and powerful steps to navigate every area of your life. You will feel inspired, confident, and empowered.

It's Your Story; Write It Well!

So let's get started!
 

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode:

What does Resiliency really mean? Surprisingly, it isn't about "bouncing back!"

6 Areas to Write Your Story

1. Physical
2. Emotional
3. Social 
4. Family
5. Spiritual 
6. Career

Outside Resources We Wholeheartedly Recommend:
*We are not affiliated with these resources


Physical:
Planet Fitness- Free Home Workout Videos on Facebook
Free Yoga Videos- Yoga With Adriene
Emotional:
Listen to our Red Truck Marriage EP #2 & #3               
Social:
How to Take Care of Yourself and Stay Socially Connected During Quarantine
Family:
Coronavirus Guide for Parents: 100's of Activities for Kids
Spiritual:
Song: The Blessing (Kari Jobe Carnes & Cody Carnes)
The Bible App
My Utmost For His Highest Daily Devotion
Career:
Dave Ramsey- 7 Things to Do When You Miss a Paycheck


Call To Action
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do:

1. Pick two areas of the Balance Wheel and write your Goals & Actions on paper.
   • Be Specific & Measurable!
   • The Empowered Life will begin!
2. Have a conversation with your spouse and children about their Balanced Wheel.
   • This will teach empowerment to those you love!
   • Don't forget the "Flip It" concept!
3. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group!

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Do you ever have difficulty remaining strong in the midst of hardship? Perhaps you feel discouraged, disempowered, afraid, or anxious? If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about the Top 5 Ways to Be Strong in A World of Uncertainty. We believe this episode will inspire you to STAND STRONG during difficult life situations. Much of the content we will share originates from the article, 5 Ways to Improve Your Mental Health in 2020, written by Sandee LaMotte of CNN. We take her ideas in the article and adjust them somewhat to match our core beliefs. We encourage you to read the original article by clicking this link: https://www.cnn.com/2020/01/03/health/mental-health-2020-wellness/index.html



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Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode: 

Top 5 Ways to Be Strong in A World of Uncertainty

1. Practice telling yourself the TRUTH
   • Your Narrative or Self-Talk is powerful.
   • Optimism is great, as long as it's true. 
2. Serve OTHERS
   • Looking outside of yourself cultivates hope and a strong sense of power within yourself.
   • Adds perspective to your circumstances.
3. Be GRATEFUL 
   • You have the POWER TO CHOOSE to feel gratitude for those people and things in your life that are good!
   •  Gratitude changes your narrative/self-talk.
4. Strengthen your PERSONAL CONNECTIONS
   • Your inner being needs CONNECTION with others.
   • Exercise your power to choose those who are GOOD FOR YOU!
   • Limit time with those who drain the LIFE out of you.
5. Realize your GREATER PURPOSE
   • Regardless of your roles, your life can IMPACT OTHERS for good!
   • Be mindful that your life has a purpose GREATER than yourself. 

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do:

1. Sit with these 5 points and decide which ones you resonate with.  
   • Strength will follow!
2. Have a conversation with your spouse and children about how to BE STRONG when uncertainty exists (during this time of the coronavirus spread, our children's "day job" has been impacted; they know something is up!). 
   • This will BREATHE LIFE into those you love!
3. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group!

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Does writing a Love Letter to your spouse seem like something only for newlyweds? Perhaps you think that your husband or wife already knows your love for him or her. Or maybe you think there is nothing you could possibly put on paper that would have a lasting impact. If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about how to write the “perfect” love letter for your spouse. That is, the letter which is "uniquely perfect" for him or her. The one that speaks to their soul!

So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode. 

1. Learn the difference between a letter "of thanks" vs. a letter of "who you are."
2. Discover where to find the vocabulary for a "Who You Are" love letter.
3. Learn what Meta-Messages are, and how we use them without knowing it.
4. Find out how to make the written word a breath of life for your spouse.
5. Learn why these principles are applicable in parenting.

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do:

1. Write a Love Letter to your spouse.  
   • Tell him or her those characteristics you admire most. 
   • Include examples of how you see those characteristics lived out daily towards others.
2. Give your letter to your spouse at the beginning of the day.
   • Keep a copy for yourself.
3. Set aside an uninterrupted time at the end of the day to read your letter to your spouse.
   • Remember to sit knee-to-knee!
4. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group!

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Have you ever been "stuck" in some area of your life that has brought significant pain? Perhaps there are areas in your marriage, business, or even inner-life that you know needs to change. If so, welcome to the Red Truck Marriage podcast!

Today, we will talk about those things that keep us stuck, and how to make real changes that matter. This episode is loaded with powerful and practical tools that will start you towards a life of freedom, joy, and happiness! We can't wait for you to hear it!! 

So let's get started!

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode. 

1. The Two Motivations In Our Lives:
   1. The Pursuit of Pleasure 
   2. The Avoidance of Pain
2. The 3 Necessary Steps For Change
   1. Motivation
   2. Strategy
   3. Will
3. Dr. Carlos DiClemente's Stages Of Change (We discuss how to practically apply this in Life & Marriage)
   1. Pre-contemplation
   2. Contemplation
   3. Preparation
   4. Action
   5. Maintenance

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Do a self-assessment.
   • Identify those areas in your life or marriage that cause significant pain. 
   • Identify areas in your life where more pleasure is waiting.
2. Decide to have a conversation with your spouse about those areas you believe need change.
   • No blaming! Own what you decide.
3. Put on paper what you want to accomplish and how you are going to do it.
   • The probability of experiencing great outcomes go way up!
4. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group

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This episode is Part 2 of the Top 5 Tips for How to Have Great Communication in Marriage. We will give you some of our best content on the topic of creating great communication in marriage. You will learn how to avoid those moments of high negative emotions and the disconnect that follows. We have all been there! Sit back and learn how to change those negative experiences into a greater sense of connection with your spouse. 

Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode. 

1. Tip #3:
   • Use Empathy 
     1. The choice to walk in your spouse's shoes.
     2. We must develop an emotions vocabulary (this episode explains how to do this).
2. Tip #4:
   • Use a Stop-Phrase
     1. Of all the tips, this may be the most valuable.
     2. The stop-phrase requires a mutual commitment, but it will save you from having major destruction in your marriage.
     3. Hear how to increase your Emotional IQ.
3. Tip #5:
   • Choose to Go First
     1. Perhaps the most difficult of all the tips!
     2. This begin a new story of joy, connection, and peace in your marriage.
     3. Involves the power of prayer in marriage. 
4. Bonus Tips:
   • Sarcasm is a huge marriage killer! 
     1. Learn how and why we should remove sarcasm and negative humor from your relationship.
   • Remove the "D" (Divorce) word from any interaction.

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Listen to this episode with your spouse so you will have a mutual understanding of this content and be able to use similar vocabulary.
   • Be sure to do the exercises! Repetition is the "mother of skill!"
   • Our lives are busy! Add fatigue, and we tend to put things off until tomorrow. Decide to be intentional with your spouse today! 
2. Have a conversation about the benefits of a stop-phrase in your marriage.
   • Decide today on what your stop-phrase will be.
3. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group

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This episode is Part 1 of the Top 5 Tips for How to Have Great Communication in Marriage. Have you ever left a conversation with your spouse feeling even more upset, discouraged, and disconnected? If so, join the club! This episode is loaded with strategies to help you turn those negative experiences into a true sense of connection!  

1. Great communication results in a great sense of connection:
   • Connection happens when each person knows he or she has been understood by the other. 
   • Being understood doesn't require being agreed with! 
2. Two main goals of communication:
   • Transmit and Receive 
     1. Generally, we are best at transmitting (talking), but receiving (listening) is by far the most difficult, yet important part of communication.
     2. Receiving (listening) brings a deep sense of connection.
3. Tip #1:
   • Ask open-ended questions
     1. Open-ended questions invite conversation.
     2. Gone are the one-word answers (even with teenagers!).
     3. Hear strategies on this podcast for being great at asking inviting questions!
4. Tip #2:
   • Paraphrase what you hear your spouse say
     1. This technique is a game changer!
     2. Allows for clarification.
     3. Communicates an understanding.
     4. Prevents the huge communication roadblock of interrupting. 
5. Bonus Tip:
   • Knee-to-knee time: Listen to find out how to experience greater connection with "knee-to-knee" time!

Call To ACTION
Any real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do.

1. Listen to this episode with your spouse so you will have a mutual understanding of this content and be able to use similar vocabulary.
   • Be sure to do the exercises! Repetition is the "mother of skill!"
   • Our lives are busy! Add fatigue, and we tend to put things off until tomorrow. Decide to be intentional with your spouse before you go to bed tonight! 
2. Be a part of serving others by sharing this podcast on your social media.
   • Help other couples become the heroes of their marriage story!
3. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Red Truck Marriage podcast and and write a REVIEW!
   • We don't want you to miss an episode!
4. Choose to drive the Red Truck in your marriage!
   • It will cause your spouse to RUN towards you.
   • Listen to the trailer if you don't know the story about the Red Truck!
5. Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!
   • You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!
   • We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!
   • Join the RTM Facebook Group