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Sara Brown (she/they) is a queer human, performer, actor, dancer, and director working in live performance, theatre, and cinema, based in Barcelona, Spain. 

She's the art director of the multidisciplinary platform IL MONSTRO (former PLEASUREisPOWER), exploring pleasure, desire, sexuality, and gender through different art forms and live events. As a part of it, she's currently producing and directing IL MONSTRO - A Freak Show!, a long-form performance combining contemporary dance and cabaret, theatre and acrobatics, on the conflictual relationship between “normals” and “queers” – is reconciliation even possible?  

Sara is also a writer interested in sexual politics, gender, and how these are told by the media. She advocates for a more positive and honest approach to sex, encouraging more porn literacy in schools and less stigma on sex workers’ work.

00:00:15 - Childhood, growing up. Good and bad experiences. 
00:22:00 - IG post discussion, LGBTQ label, abusive behaviour, what queer means for Sara, 
01:04:30 - Public talks in school and being outed in an Italian newspaper about her work in porn. 

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Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Sally F.B, a screenwriter and film director, diversity consultant for film and TV. Sally has written and directed a few films for Erika Lust Production (“Tinder taxi”, “Blind(ed) date”, “Another Sex Dimension”, “Touch Crimes”, and “A road to conquer"). Her films convey important messages that the current world must see and hear. For example, “SkinHearts” talks about the importance of touch and the change in the society that lack of it creates. This short film is so up-to-date, especially during the Covid pandemic, though Sally produced this film years before the pandemic hit us. Another of her creations, “Unburied”, portrays the effects of hostile migration policies and is a visual poem dedicated to thousands of Africans that have drowned in the sea while trying to migrate to Europe. She has a unique way of perceiving the world and I am glad that she can express it through her work; the work that is in a way weird and very authentic. 

Time codes:

00:02:15 - Citizen of the future 
00:07:50 - "SkinHearts" and predicting future ;), Importance of touch, unsuccessful Tinder dates as inspiration
00:19:00 - Childhood and career path, getting the first job on a film set, overcoming perfectionism 
00:50:10 - The start of an adventure with EL productions, working with intimacy on screen
 00:59:25 - Challenges for real sex scenes
01:18:25 - Meditation, observation of thoughts and reactions 

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Court Vox is a Somatic Sex Educator, Intimacy Consultant and the founder of The Body Vox, where he provides a fresh and unique form of therapy that helps individuals embrace their bodies and be more comfortable with intimacy. Unlike traditional therapy which is mainly through talk Vox uses hands-on body-based exercises. 

We had a conversation about vocalising and understanding pleasure, the importance of having honest and deep conversations with the partner and discovering intimate self. 

Dive into this fascinating conversation with "Introverted extrovert" Court Vox. 

00:03:20 - Intimacy when growing up, Somatic exercises that Vox's mum introduced into his life
00:08:50 - Coming out, being queer, intimate relationships
00:11:27 - Sex education, understanding our intimate side, vocalizing pleasure 
00:26:34 - First kiss, first experience with a man and a few other firsts 
00:36:43 - How to make "dirty talk" in the bedroom more authentic 
00:40:47 - Post-sex talks (aka "Processing")
00:47:23 - Too much intimacy 
00:49:23 - Ways to create novelty in monogamous long term relationships
00:55:38 - Getting into Somatic Education, Back to the body workshop
01:13:57 - Mental health and self-care

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

The woman that needs no introduction ... but here it is, just in case :). Maria Riot - a sex worker and sex workers’ activist with many years of experience. Maria was born in Argentina and currently, she is living in Spain. She does web-caming, online and in-person sex work, she is a porn performer and director. She is also a member of AMMAR - sex workers union in Argentina.

00:03:15 - Childhood and teenage years, approach toward religion, shame and guilt about sexuality, sex education, 
00:19:35 - The most significant sexual experience 
00:25:30 - Coming out with her sexuality and affection toward women
00:31:30 - Pivoting toward sex work and a guest appearance of Maria's cat :)
00:40:50 - Women who inspired Maria to try porn work
00:49:00 - Facing stigma and discrimination 
00:51:50 - Coming out to parents about the sex work
00:58:30 - Good and bad about sex work
01:07:38 - How people who don't do sex work can support sex workers
01:09:55 - Setting boundaries with clients or when performing on a porn set
01:16:20 - Values - Fair pay and diversity in Porn 
01:18:46 - Binary way of porn
01:25:30 - Finding the right company to work with
01:32:45 - Working with female clients 
01:37:35 - Influence of sex work and flexible hours on mental health
01:43:45 - Favourite book (Question from a fan)

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Cintia Taylor is a writer, director for film and theatre and storytelling specialist. In her work, she is driven by stories of women and womanhood and talks about important topics like depression or life after sexual assault (her latest film: Clinch). She also believes that the mainstream film industry can learn from the good practices of the porn industry. In the first part of the podcast, I explored Cintia's personal stories and stories that she tells through her work. In the second part, we focused on the production of intimate scenes - directing and ensuring the actors' safety. In this episode, Cintia shares a lot of wisdom on the topics of stereotypes of seduction, male gaze, feminism, crafting intimacy in a safe way, statistic about sexual assault and her thoughts on critical thinking. Cintia is a fantastic and creative woman with a very interesting background, if you want to know her a little bit more, have a listen to this podcast. 

00:02:08 - Start
00:05:30 - Cintia's story, starting with directing films
00:10:00 - Poetry as a way of making a meaningful change and creativity
00:23:25 - Critical thinking and ability to deal with feedback as a part of a self-learning process
00:39:39 - The citizens of the world - move between different countries and the feeling of belonging
00:48:40 - The importance of telling the stories of womanhood - the narrative Cintia has chosen to tell in her work (celebrating diversity and womanhood and talking about topics of taboo)
00:51:04 - Feminism, the importance of the study of female perspective and the male gaze
01:01:01 - Clinch - the story of a woman overcoming sexual violence, statistics for sexual assault
01:11:50 - "Wet" - Theatrical play about women sex and porn
01:16:06 - intimacy - Cintia's definition and ensuring actors' comfort in the play, tactics/exercises. Approach to consent.
01:26:00 - What mainstream film can learn from porn - Cintia's take on it

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Yasmeena Ali is a porn performer, BDSM lover and feminist. She was born in Afganistan and raised in an Islamic family who emigrated to the UK when she was nine years old. Right now, she is a strong and independent woman, exploring her sexuality and doing what she loves the most - being in front of the camera and sharing the beauty of her body and mind. We talked about how growing up in Islamic tradition impacted her sexual exploration. Yasmeena walked me through her life and the difficulties she faced when living with her family. We spoke about her mentors, sexual education, and the escape from home to a better and self-depended future, where she decides who to love, what to wear, or do. We discoursed what the adult media industry is missing and what we should be focusing on to make it a better place.  

00:03:12 - Start
00:08:50 - Introduction to Yasmeena's background and sex work
00:14:22 - Memories and key moments from life in Afganistan from the perspective of 9 years old girl
00:22:50 - Education in the UK
00:31:50 - The journey from Afganistan to the UK
00:38:50 - Living in the UK - adapting to different culture and lifestyle
00:47:27 - Mentors, people who helped to navigate in the new world
00:50:20 - Sex education in school and exploring intimacy
00:57:34 - First sexual experience
01:05:20 - Non-muslim relationship, first time falling in love, and running away from home 
01:26:10 - Discovering own sexuality and pleasure, BDSM
01:33:45 - Introduction to nude modelling and webcamming
01:44:15 - Rules in the relationship between her and her husband to ensure the relationship is growing, open relationship
01:48:15 - First porn shoot and boundaries
01:56:45 - Porn that is designed to please men' needs - Yasmeena's thoughts on this, and things that are missing in porn
02:10:25 - Being respected and in control in a porn shoot, Onlyfans experience and negative payment experience
02:21: 12 - Regrets
02:23:45 - Last question about family and their knowledge about Yasmeena's work

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Today's guest is Eva Oh, an international, professional dominatrix. She runs her slave training with carefully crafted courses that reveal who she is and how she wants her slaves to serve her. She also organizes something called #teakink, where she talks with BDSM community members to demystify BDSM and sexuality through the intimacy of tea ceremony. 

I don't know much about domination or the BDSM community, so I was really looking forward to our meeting, and I was very grateful to be able to talk with Eva. She is a cheerful and lovely person, and she did a great job of leading me through the mysteries of the BDSM world. I intended to focus on consent and pushing boundaries within BDSM practice, but naturally, we covered some other topics like work during the pandemic and her overcoming self-doubt.

00:03:30 - start and intro
00:05:40 - Growing up in a Christian and a female-dominated environment
00:13:50 - First sexual experience
00:15:30 - First contact with pornographic images/film
00:20:45  - Work in pandemic time
00:25:55 - Lifestyle vs Professional Dominatrix
00:27:40 - Consent and boundaries in domination (lifestyle part)
00:34:50 - The typical day of work
00:37:30 - Difference between sub and slave
00:40:10 - Slave position - what is it?
00:41:50 - What slaves learn during the training on youwillpleaseme.com / BDSM identities discovery 
00:45:04 - Physical vs psychological punishment
00:48:25 - Crossing boundaries in corporal punishment, where to draw the line. 
00:55:50 - Recruitment of slaves 
01:00:55 - Financial domination 
01:07:45 - Eva explains how she cares for her mental health in this emotionally demanding work
01:09:45 - Things that a professional dominatrix never does
01:11:40 - Kinks and fetishes that Eva enjoys the most
01:19:15 - Overcoming self-doubt 
01:22:45 - Tips for couples who would like to start practising dom and sub relationship
01:22:50 - Recommendations for any woman who would like to start working as a dominatrix 

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Today's podcast is the first one where a sex worker speaks in-depth on a selected topic. The person with whom I had a pleasure to talk with is Jason Domino. Jason is the sexual health and wellbeing lead for the UK Adult Professionals (UKAP) and a practising sex worker. Jason speaks from his own experience and he is very vested in and passionate about sexual health, specifically topics like HIV and PrEP. I have learned a lot from talking to him and he provided me with more information than I have gotten from anyone in the past few years on this topic. I hope you will find it useful and it will help you to ask further questions. The interview was focused around HIV prevention, function and use of PrEP and PeP, the importance of understanding different HIV tests and what is the window period, and how it works. 

This podcast contains a lot of detailed information, and at the end of it, you may have more questions. For this (and many other) reasons we have opened a comment section on http://redcheeks.org/jason. If you want to know more, need further clarification or have general feedback feel free to leave a comment. Please remember to be generous and constructive in your comments. Nasty and sarcastic behaviour will not be tolerated.  

A disclaimer: Neither of us is a licenced medical professional, so if you are considering to start on PrEP or have any concerns or questions about your health I recommend you consult with your GP (general practitioner) or any other licenced medical professional. Neither of us takes responsibility for your actions or health.


00:00:09 - start and intro
00:04:00 - sexual health - meaning 
0016:15 - PrEP and PeP - what's that, what's the abbreviation stands for 
00:24:46 - Jason's story on his first time having sex with a person who was HIV positive, and him not knowing it,
00:29:03 - ART (medication is taken by people who are positive on HIV) and U=U (Undetectable equals untransmittable) 
00:30:27 - Research about HIV 
00:36:20 - Window Period and HIV tests types - what is the window period and how it differed depending on different HIV test
00:58:13 - Where and how to get PeP in case of potential HIV exposure 
00:04:05 - Common misconceptions in sex industry about PrEP and HIV
01:05:43 - What are other health checks that people should be aware of/ do when on PrEP
01:11:33 - Pledge - Porn Professionals For Safety Against Discrimination 
01:28:31 - How to access PrEP

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Today I am talking with Richard Lawrence, the owner and funder of Feck.com the company that runs a few different platforms with erotic media. 

Richard started with an intention of humanising the idea of porn. He did not want to show it through the male gaze perspective and he thought that it would be more interesting to give a woman a camera and to let her express herself. This is how  I Shot Myself,  Beautiful Agony and I Feel Myself were created. 

In today's podcast, Richard told us different stories from his personal life, and one of them stood out for me the most, and it was the story of his first kiss with the babysitter. We also talked about more serious topics like socially responsible erotica and the importance of values that the porn portraits. 

I really enjoyed my conversation with Richard, and I hope you will enjoy this interview too. He is a very interesting person with a tone of experience to share. 

00:00:40 Start 
00:02:10 Teenage years 
00:18:20 First kiss (babysitter story)
00:20:50 Favorite sexy scene from a film (Fear and Donnie Darko)
00:23:10 Feck.com, ISM, BA and IFM - description of the company 
00:32:20 Why porn is taboo - Richards take on this
00:38:15 Confessions from Beautiful Agony 
00:46:20 Concept of socially responsible porn 
00:47:47 Ethical porn - Richards understanding of this concept and how Feck introduces ethics into their production 
00:50:20 Porn as a source of sex education for people 
01:01:40 Porn and "charmless rendering of human sexuality"
01:13:47 Situations where something did not go to the plan on the shoot day 

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.

Abigail Wiliams, a very intelligent, good-hearted activist and sex performer, who completed her degree in anthropology and sociology. Now she works toward her PhD that talks about regulation of online pornography in the UK and how this affects the people who produce it. She gives lectures on a university and she works together with National Ugly Mugs UK - a charity that works toward ending violence against sex workers. 

We talked about her personal experience as a porn performer, her attraction toward women and why it was hard at first for her to understand being attracted to anyone else than men. Abigaile talked about how she gained her first sexual experience in a threesome and how her abusive (past) relationship directed her toward porn. We dived deeper into talking about her favourite fetishes and how porn can help young people to explore their sexuality. 

I also would like to note small friction that went unnoticed during the recording of this podcast. We had some sound issues and sometimes the audio may go very low, sorry for this! Likely the audio problem is only on my side, and you can hear perfectly fine everything that Abigail says, and her message is the one that is powerful and must be heard! 

So If you are eager to hear from Abigail jump on this podcast and hopefully you will enjoy it as much as I did.


00:04:20 - The way Abigail came up with her stage name
00:06:18 - Abigaile's childhood and family 
00:08:48 - Discovering her sexuality 
00:10:31 - Sex education 
00:15:25 - Describes her attraction toward women 
00:19:40 - First sexual experience 
00:23:50 - The single moment that turned Abigail toward the porn industry 
00:29:10 - The first shoot experience 
00:33:52 - "The conversation" 
00:36:15 -  Disclosing to partners the nature of her work 
00:39:00 -  The PhD thesis on an idea called legal consciousness - how people interpret and interact with the law and how this presents itself in UK BDSM porn
00:42:50 - Fetishes 
00:46:39 - How else we can use porn
00:54:04 - Porn and sex work being stigmatised - Abigail's take on this. 
01:05:36 - Advice to someone who is getting into the industry 
01:07:31 - The biggest failure and the learnings 
01:11:55 - Things that Abigail wished to know before working in porn 
01:15:00 - "Before the shoot" rituals  

Support the show

Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.  

This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. 

If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way

🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics

🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set

👥 Gain confidence in your people skills

💼 Do more meaningful work

🔄 Change your mindset


Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅  5 weeks of intensive learning experience

✅  making meaningful connections

✅  1-on-1 coaching sessions

✅  Guest talks by industry experts

✅  Ongoing support after the workshop

Apply on RedCheeks Academy.