Ever had one of those days where everything goes wrong before the vacation even starts? In this real, raw, and (now) hilarious episode of Redesign Your Marriage, we’re sharing the unexpected emotions, high tension, and spiritual growth that came from a recent trip that didn’t go as planned.

After missing a flight to Cabo due to a series of delays (and misjudgments), Joe and Shelby found themselves tested—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. Instead of turning on each other, they learned to turn with each other. This episode is about how to handle the moments where life doesn’t follow your plan… and your relationship is on the line.

Whether you’ve had travel delays, emotional blowups, or unexpected setbacks, this episode will speak to you right where you are.

• The real story behind missing their flight to Cabo—and what they learned in the process
• Why practicing what you preach (literally) matters during moments of tension
• How to process emotion without camping out in blame, guilt, or regret
• Practical encouragement for responding to life's delays with grace and unity

1. Don’t Turn on Each Other—Turn with Each Other: Tension is inevitable. Unity is a choice.
2. Process the Emotion, But Don’t Camp There: Feel it. Talk about it. Then move forward together.
3. Look for the Breakthrough Behind the Breakdown: Delays often come right before something powerful—and worth the wait.

Have a delay story of your own? Head over to the Redesign Your Marriage Facebook group and share it—we’d love to hear it! And if you’re facing a season of miscommunication or emotional roadblocks, consider booking a coaching session at RedesignYourMarriage.com.

If this episode encouraged you, please share it with a friend, subscribe, rate the show, and leave a review. Your support helps other couples find hope when life (and flights) don’t go as planned.

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• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com
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• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• 0:00 Missed flight setup: what really happened on the way to Cabo
• 4:00 Leading a men's devotional while internally wrestling with frustration
• 8:00 Tears, tension, and a $250 overweight luggage fee
• 11:30 The turning point: choosing grace over blame
• 14:00 Delays continue… including forgotten bags and malfunctioning passport scans
• 23:00 The breakthrough behind the delay
• 26:00 Final reflections: choosing unity and humor when life doesn’t go as planned

As 2024 comes to a close, we’re taking a moment to reflect on what worked well for us this year. In this episode of Redesign Your Marriage, we dive into the practical changes and intentional actions that strengthened our marriage, family, and personal lives. From weekly check-ins to creating memorable moments with our kids, we share the wins and lessons that shaped this year.

If you’re looking for inspiration to kick off your 2025 with purpose, this episode is packed with ideas you can apply in your own life, marriage, and family.

• Vision Retreats: How taking time as a family to set goals for the year helped us build unity and stay aligned.
• One-on-One Getaways: Why carving out individual time with our kids created lifelong memories and deepened our relationships.
• Weekly Check-Ins: Our simple framework for discussing health, wealth, and relationships as a couple and as a family.
• Expanding Our Circle: The benefits of double dates with other couples and learning from those in different seasons of life.
• Personal Growth Highlights: Shelby’s journey to slowing down and resting, Joe’s decision to remove social media from his phone, and how these changes impacted our connection as a couple.

As you step into 2025, remember that God’s promises are faithful. Even when growth feels slow or progress seems delayed, trust that He’s working on the inside to bring transformation to the outside. Reflect on what worked well for you this past year, and don’t be afraid to leave behind what didn’t.

If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend or loved one who might benefit. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review our podcast! For more resources or to learn about our coaching services, visit redesignyourmarriage.com.

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• Website: http://redesignyourmarriage.com
• Facebook: Redesign Your Marriage
• Instagram: @‌redesign_your_marriage
• Instagram: @_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• 0:00 Reflecting on 2024: Opposition, growth, and God’s faithfulness
• 5:00 The power of a family vision retreat
• 10:00 Weekly check-ins: The key to small, consistent wins
• 12:30 Investing in new friendships and expanding your circle
• 14:00 Traveling together: Why a change of scenery can change your perspective
• 17:00 Shelby’s rest journey and Joe’s social media detox

In this episode, we explore the powerful impact of investing in your children’s education and the legacy you’re building through intentional parenting. We’ll unpack:

• Guiding your child’s path with wisdom: How to train up a child in the way they should go, focusing on their unique purpose (Proverbs 22:6).
• Balancing discipline and encouragement: The biblical approach to raising children without frustration but with love and instruction (Ephesians 6:4).
• The marriage connection: How a strong and unified marriage provides a solid foundation for your child's academic, emotional, and spiritual growth.
• Creating a lasting legacy: Practical steps to leave a legacy of faith, wisdom, and love that impacts future generations.

With relatable stories, practical advice, and biblical wisdom, we’ll dive into what it means to invest in your child’s future holistically. Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, this episode will inspire you to embrace your greatest investment with purpose and intention.

Hit play and join us as we explore the heart of parenting and the long-lasting impact of a love-filled legacy.

For more episodes and resources to help you raise children with purpose, visit us at redesignyourmarriage.com and join hundreds of other parents who are committed to leaving a legacy of love and faith.

Connect with us and book a free coaching call:

• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com
• Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage
• Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage
• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• Welcome back! Let’s talk about school - one of our FAQ! 
• What should you when it comes to your kids school? 
• Joe and Shelby’s experience with school and the ROI mindset 
• Why it’s critical to make your decisions of God’s will, not money. 
• The personal reasons why Joe and Shelby decided not to homeschool 
• How alternative school options set our kids up for success 
• God will lead you and will guide your kids success every step of the way

In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of marital communication by exploring the key pillars of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We’ll unpack:

• How to align and support each other’s physical health aspirations.
• The essential needs that fuel emotional fulfillment in your relationship.
• Ways to nurture and grow together spiritually, fostering a deeper bond.

With expert advice, relatable stories, and practical tips, "Redesign Your Marriage" guides you on a journey to meaningful conversations that enhance love, trust, and understanding. Whether you’re newlyweds or seasoned partners, this episode will inspire you to ask the right questions, listen with intention, and build a stronger, more intimate connection with your spouse.

Hit play and join us as we unpack this hot topic and discover the true secret to a lasting marriage.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us Redesign Your Marriage and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

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Quick Episode Summary

• Welcome back!: Discussing the importance of effective communication in marriage.
• Holistic Approach: Addressing physical, emotional, and spiritual needs in communication.
• Communication Challenges: Recognizing how attempts to connect can sometimes lead to conflict.
• Asking Better Questions: The need for meaningful questions to understand each other better.
• Deeper Conversations: Suggested questions for physical, emotional, and spiritual connection.
• Entryway Concept: Using the first 30 minutes after time apart to reconnect.
• Listening Without Judgment: Emphasizing the importance of listening without trying to solve problems.
• Avoiding Distractions: Removing distractions like phones during communication.
• Key Questions: Tips for discussing physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
• Practical Tips: Practice communication skills until they become a habit.
• Conclusion: Encouragement to apply the tools, share the podcast, and explore coaching services.

In this insightful episode of "Redesign Your Marriage," we dive deep into the vital role friendships play in a thriving marriage. We explore a unique perspective on categorizing relationships as leaf, branch, and root connections, each serving a distinct purpose in our lives.We discuss how leaf people represent casual acquaintances, branch people are those we've shared experiences with, and root people form our deepest friendships, all grounded in shared values and integrity centered on Christ. Our conversation highlights the importance of understanding these different levels of connection and how they impact marital harmony.Key topics include:

• The leaf-branch-root friendship model and its application in marriage
• Balancing different types of friendships while prioritizing your spouse
• Strengthening your marital bond through shared friendships
• Communication strategies for discussing friendships with your partner
• Maintaining unity in your marriage while nurturing outside relationships
• Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode offers valuable insights on cultivating a friendship-rich marriage without compromising your primary relationship. Tune in to learn how to branch out wisely and root your marriage in strong, Christ-centered connections.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us in our Facebook community at Redesign Your Marriage and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

​Connect with us:

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Episode Minute By Minute: 

• Welcome to Redesign Your Marriage Podcast Introduction and continuation of the friendship topic.

• Importance of Seasonal Friendships Discussing the concept of seasonal friends and how they differ from lifelong friends.

• Personal Experiences with Friendships Sharing personal stories about high school friendships and social connections.

• Testing of Friendships through Adversity How true friendships are tested and proven through difficult times.

• The Lord's Example of Friendship Biblical perspective on friendships and how pressure reveals true relationships.

• Leaf People Explanation of seasonal friends as leaf people and their role in our lives.

• Branch People Description of casual friends as branch people and how to manage expectations with them.

• Trunk and Root People Discussion on lifelong friends and the stability they provide.

• Pruning Friendships When and how to reassess and possibly let go of certain friendships.

• Unity and Communication in Relationships Importance of communication and unity in maintaining strong relationships.

• Encouraging Friends Encouragement to appreciate and communicate with friends at all levels.

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In this episode of "Redesign Your Marriage," we delve into the transformative power of friendship within marriage and how it serves as a cornerstone for a thriving relationship. Join us as we explore three insightful tips to help you identify the stage of friendship you are in with your spouse, and learn how to foster healthy friendships that enhance your marital bond. We'll also discuss the warning signs of unhealthy friendships that can undermine your relationship. Finally, we reflect on the profound truth that God is our ultimate best friend, guiding us in building stronger, more fulfilling marriages. Tune in for practical advice, heartfelt stories, and greater insights to enrich your journey together.

Hit play and join us as we unpack this hot topic and discover the true secret to a lasting marriage.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us at http://redesignyourmarriage.com/ and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

LINKS:

• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com

• Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage

• Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage

• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• The Importance of Friendships in Marriage

• Personal Stories of Friendship

• Friendship as a Foundation in Marriage

• Challenges and Efforts in Maintaining Friendships

• Intentionality in Building Friendships

• The Benefits of Friendships

• Defining and Modeling Friendships

• Phases of Friendship

• The Need for Friendship

• Final Thoughts and Call to Action

Welcome to Redesign Your Marriage, in this episode, we delve into actionable strategies to enhance empathy within marriage, drawing from timeless biblical principles and modern psychological insights. From active listening techniques to cultivating compassion and validation of emotions, "Empathy in Action" provides couples with the tools and guidance they need to navigate the complexities of married life with grace and understanding.

Join us as we embark on a journey of growth and transformation, learning to walk in each other's shoes and embrace the beauty of empathy in our relationships. Whether you're facing challenges or seeking to strengthen the bonds of love, "Empathy in Action" offers practical advice and encouragement to help you nurture a more empathetic and supportive marriage.

Subscribe now and join our community of couples committed to putting empathy into action in their marriages. Together, let's create a world where understanding, compassion, and love reign supreme in every aspect of our lives.

Hit play and join us as we unpack this hot topic and discover the true secret to a lasting marriage.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us on our Facebook community and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

LINKS:

• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com

• Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage

• Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage

• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• The Power of Words in Marriage

• Introducing Empathy: The Game-Changer

• Empathy Beyond the Surface

• Empathy's Role in Overcoming Challenges

• Practical Tips for Cultivating Empathy

• Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

Welcome to Redesign Your Marriage, where we dive deep into the intricacies of relationships and marriage. In this episode, we dive into the profound importance of authenticity and transparency in the sacred bond of marriage. Join us as we explore the transformative power of removing masks and embracing the flaws and imperfections that make each partnership unique.

Joe and Shelby passionately emphasize the creation of a safe haven within marriages, where both partners can courageously unveil their vulnerabilities without the looming fear of judgment or criticism. Drawing from their own experiences, Joe and Shelby shed light on the discomfort that often accompanies the journey towards greater transparency, emphasizing the necessity of self-awareness and a willingness to step outside one's comfort zone.

They interweave the element of prayer into the fabric of a healthy relationship, revealing a compelling statistic that underscores the positive impact of regular prayer on marital success. The episode unfolds with a powerful reminder of the significance of active listening when our significant other opens up, solidifying the foundation of trust and understanding.

Hit play and join us as we unpack this hot topic and discover the true secret to a lasting marriage.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us Redesign Your Marriage and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

LINKS:

• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com

• Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage

• Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage

• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• The Role of Makeup in Society

• Parenting and Makeup: A Personal Perspective

• The Pressure of Perfection: Makeup as a Metaphor

• The Impact of Peer Pressure and Criticism

• Unmasking the Hidden Truth: The Need for Authenticity

• Creating a Safe Space in Relationships

• The Importance of Transparency in Marriage

• The Power of Prayer in Strengthening Marriages

• Celebrating Each Other: The Key to a Healthy Marriage

• Conclusion: The Journey Towards Authenticity and Intimacy

On this podcast of Redesign Your Marriage, we explore the transformative journey of letting go, holding life with open hands, and navigating the various seasons of marriage and motherhood. In this episode, we delve into the art of releasing expectations, embracing change, and redesigning our relationships to thrive in every season. From the challenge of becoming empty nesters to the diverse experiences of motherhood, we share our stories, insights, and practical tips. Join us in this episode as we navigate the twists and turns of married life and embracing the beautiful ebb and flow of life's seasons.

Hit play and join us as we unpack this hot topic and discover the true secret to a lasting marriage.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us Redesign Your Marriage and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

LINKS:

• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com

• Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage

• Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage

• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• The Importance of Letting Go

• Personal Experiences with Letting Go

• The Pain of Holding On

• The Challenge of Letting Go of Loved Ones

• The Transition to Becoming Empty Nesters

• The Struggle of Letting Go of Roles

• The Power of Trusting God in Letting Go

• The Impact of Letting Go on Relationships

• The Role of Emotions in Letting Go

• Conclusion: The Beauty of Letting Go

In this episode on Redesign Your Marriage, we dive into the transformative concept that Focus is Power. In this dynamic podcast, we explore the profound impact of maintaining focus on our marriage, faith, and personal growth. We believe that the strength of our connection lies in our ability to remain focused on our shared goals and Christ-centered values. Together, we share insights, personal stories, and practical tips to help couples harness the incredible power that comes from unwavering focus. If you believe that staying on course is key to unlocking your fullest potential as a couple, this episode is your guide to navigating the journey of marriage with intention, purpose, and the strength that focus provides.

Hit play and join us as we unpack this hot topic and discover the true secret to a lasting marriage.

For additional episodes and more content to help you have a thriving marriage visit us Redesign Your Marriage and join the hundreds of other couples wanting to redesign their marriage and finally they have the marriage they have always dreamed of.

LINKS:

• Website: redesignyourmarriage.com

• Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage

• Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage

• instagram.com/_shelby_seeley

Quick Episode Summary: 

• The Importance of Focus in the New Year

• The Power of Setting Goals as a Family

• Celebrating Achievements and Progress

• Overcoming Distractions and Staying Focused

• The Role of God in Setting Goals

• The Importance of Action in Achieving Goals

• The Power of Vision in Achieving Goals

• The Importance of Prioritizing Goals

• Impacting Others Through Your Goals

• Modeling Goal Setting for Your Children

• Encouragement for 2024!