Welcome to the Redesign Your Marriage Family, this is part two of the podcast we are doing on the changing seasons of life. In this episode we discuss a place we have all found ourselves that messy middle. We provide some tools that help you get unstuck and move from that messy middle to the miracle on the other side of hard.

LINKS:

● www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• The season of the messy middle
• Messy seasons are like hallways
• God wants to turn your mess into your message
• God does not want you to stay in the middle, He wants to show you His plan
• Obedience and sacrifice are key
• Do not be in a hurry to skip steps, God works one step at a time

Welcome to the Redesign Your Marriage family. Today we are breaking down some ways we have discovered and relied on when experiencing some of the craziest, hardest seasons in our life and our marriage.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• Handling the changing seasons
• We are officially almost empty nesters
• Every season can come with mixed emotions
• Learning how to change throughout relationships
• Change is the only thing that you can guarantee
• God has a plan to bless you

In this episode, we take a deep dive into your office, which is where you spend your time and money. This is the most requested teaching we get because couples want to get it right and it seems to always be changing. We provide you practical tools and tips on how to finally get a shared vision with your time and money.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• Why we take money seriously in our marriage

• One way the polity mindset shows up

• How Joe and Shelby budgeted over the years

• The importance of shared vision in finances

• When we went into over $1M+ in debt

• The statistics behind divorce and money issues

If your marriage is falling apart look at the foundation. Are you living on a cracked or faulty foundation, can it be repaired or is it too late? In this episode you will learn to identify the cracks in your marriage and how you can build or rebuild your marriage on a solid foundation that will one day will outlast you.

Quick Episode Summary:

• What happens if we don't have a good foundation
• The story behind when Joe broke his foot
• Prophetic words from God in the hospital
• Sometimes it takes time to heal
• It's going to take work but it's worth it!
• You are not broken, because of Jesus!
• The dream marriage

Do you know what the #1 silent killer in marriage is? It's un-forgiveness, you not forgiving the offenses against your spouse, not forgiving those in your past and especially not forgiving yourself. This will kill your marriage from the inside out. Don't go another day living like this and we want to help you get free and finally live the marriage of your dreams.

Quick Episode Summary:

• God has designed your marriage intentionally
• The main reason you need to find forgiveness for your suppose
• Forgiveness is a process sometimes
• Get out of the un-forgiveness loop
• Only the Lord can heal your heart
• Your feelings are not your identity
• Why the blame game shouldn't happen in your marriage

When you have 2 visions, you have division. Are you and your spouse on the same page going in the same direction? This episode will reveal to you if you really do have the same vision in life or if you need to take the steps needed to finally have a shared vision. Don't waste another day or a lifetime living in division instead get shared vision.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• A look into our origins story pre-marriage
• Why had a cracked foundation been we got married
• What is your marriage origin story?
• Your marriage can always get better! (Even if it's great)
• Marriage is God's original idea (See Gen. 1)
• God has a plan for you and your marriage
• The importance of unity and a shared vision
• The three parts to growth in your marriage
• You are unstoppable when you work together
• What a genius chapter three marriage looks like

Have you ever felt like two ships just passing in the distance, or like you are living with a roommate and not your spouse? In this episode we are going to take a deep dive into why you feel that way and what you can do in order to get a shared purpose and vision. Stop living a life where you feel single, but you're married.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• Let's talk about the living room
• Stopping to catch up on life
• The original intent for marriage and living rooms
• Fighting to protect the living room
• Keep the focus on serving
• Home versus a house

Everything may look great on the outside but once you take an honest look at your marriage you realize that it is complete chaos and you have just learned to function in it. If you are sick and tired of living in utter chaos in your marriage this episode will expose what chaos looks like and what to do with it.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• Give each other credit for small wins/projects
• What the entryway says about you
• When things feel out of place
• Some issues don't go away
• Get organized and get direction
• Don't hand the chaos back and forth
• Setting the tone properly
• A lesson Joe's grandpa bought him

What do people see when they see you and your spouse do they see something that is magical or a hot mess of a relationship. Either one you can always get better and improve what you have with just a few easy tricks and we will show you how you can start applying them to your marriage today.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• Episode 3 recap
• Let's talk about curb appeal
• How you're feeling externally about your spouse
• Is your body your own?
• Considering how your spouse sees you
• Curb appeal: The cheapest and most valuable thing you can do
• Your action steps for today

Do you throw out your marriage and start over or do you get a new vision and a new design for your marriage? Don't let all the time, energy and effort you have put into your marriage go to waste. You can choose today to redesign and have the marriage you always thought possible and we will show you how.

LINKS:

• www.redesignyourmarriage.com

Quick Episode Summary:

• Let's talk about the "redesign" phase of marriage
• We want to help you not miss the little pieces
• The three-phase principles of marriage
• Optimizing the details of your marriage
• Taking what you have and making it better
• Is it time to tear down the walls?
• Your marriage is worth the investment
• You are going to need help, don't go it alone!
• Action steps for this episode
• How to connect for with Joe and Shelbey further