"I know what I need to do, but I don't trust that I'll do it when I need to do it."
If that sentence lands, this conversation is for you.
In this episode of Refined Leadership: ADHD Lens, I sit down with Dr. Russell Ramsay, one of the leading voices in adult ADHD and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. We talk about his new book, Once I Get Started, and the cognitive theme he believes runs beneath much of adult ADHD: self-mistrust.
This is not a productivity conversation. It is a conversation about what actually happens between knowing what to do and doing it — and why that gap shows up so often for capable, high-performing professionals.
This episode offers language for patterns that often go unnamed at work — and a more grounded way to think about why standard advice keeps falling short.
About Dr. Russell Ramsay: Dr. Russell Ramsay is a psychologist who specializes in the assessment and psychosocial treatment of adult ADHD. He has lectured internationally, published widely, and authored six books on adult ADHD, including his most recent, Once I Get Started. He is a CHADD Hall of Fame inductee.
Pre-order Once I Get Started by Russell Ramsay, Ph.D.: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/783710/once-i-get-started-by-russell-ramsay-phd/
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Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRS-v1.1) Symptom Checklist Instructions
https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnaire-ASRS111.pdf
🔖 Timestamps
0:00 — Introduction and grounding quotes from the book1:30 — Self-mistrust as a central cognitive theme4:15 — What makes Once I Get Started different, and ADHD as a performance problem6:30 — How CBT for ADHD differs from CBT for depression or anxiety11:00 — Beyond the DSM list: executive function and the lived reality of ADHD14:00 — Motivation as emotion, and the cost of running on adrenaline17:30 — Self-mistrust, self-efficacy, and self-regulatory efficacy21:00 — Thoughts, feelings, and behaviors as a braided cord23:00 — Permission-giving beliefs and avoidant automatic thoughts25:00 — Cognitive rehearsal and the pause that creates choice27:30 — Automatic compliance and the cost of saying yes too quickly28:30 — People-pleasing, social capital, and overestimating relational debts31:30 — Emotional impulsivity and the externalization of self-worth36:00 — Procrastination, procrastivity, and what makes some tasks easier to start40:30 — ADHD as an uncertainty generator41:30 — Taskidermy tasks and what to do with them42:30 — The SAP Method: Specific, Actionable, Pivot Points44:30 — CBT, masking, and intentional self-presentation48:30 — Closing reflection
