Reframing Perspectives with Payal Beri, PhD

What does it mean to belong when your history has been shaped by displacement, migration, and silence? In this deeply personal  episode, Dr. Payal Beri speaks with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Ammara Khalid about identity, migration, and the lasting psychological effects of the Partition of South Asia. Both third culture kids with mirrored family histories, they explore how generational trauma shapes our beliefs, mental health, and sense of belonging today.

In this episode:

 0:00 Intro – Belonging vs. Fitting In

 2:00 Parallel family histories of the Partition

 7:00 What it means to be a third culture kid

 12:00 Reclaiming community in individualistic cultures

 19:00 Why South Asians don’t talk about trauma

 26:00 Partition’s psychological legacy

 34:00 Capitalism, class, and cultural silence

 44:00 Reframing boundaries in immigrant families

 54:00 Final thoughts on breaking cycles of trauma

In the episode, Dr. Khalid shares her journey through multiple countries, cultures, and the complexities of assimilation versus authentic belonging. Together, they discuss how South Asian families pass down unspoken histories, how systemic oppression intersects with cultural silence, and why healing begins with honest conversations.

From generational trauma to the myth of the model minority, this episode unpacks big questions about healing, identity, and connection across communities. If you found value in this episode, please support the show by leaving a 5-star rating and review wherever you listen!

More from Dr. Ammara Khalid:

https://www.instagram.com/dr.ammarakhalid/ 

https://www.riapsychologicalservices.com/meet-our-team 

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Are assumptions quietly sabotaging your relationships? We all do it — we assume what others think, feel, or care about, before they ever get a chance to speak. In this solo episode, Dr. Payal Beri dives into how unspoken beliefs and mental shortcuts keep us disconnected, even when we crave closeness. 

Whether it's in friendships, the workplace, or family dynamics, assumptions are everywhere, and they might be doing more harm than you realize.

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction: The Power of Assumptions

00:59 A Personal Story: Challenging Assumptions

02:00 The Deeper Impact of Assumptions

02:46 Understanding the Root Causes

03:48 The Role of Assumptions in Relationships

05:52 Biological and Social Conditioning

07:38 Breaking Down Assumptions in Society

11:07 Creating Safe Spaces for Connection

13:37 The Cost of Avoidance and Miscommunication

18:59 Practical Steps to Overcome Assumptions

39:34 Conclusion: Building Better Relationships

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Joy is your birthright. It is that belief that underlies Tash Durkin's work as a bestselling author and founder of Fiercely Joyful. In this episode, Tash joins Dr. Payal Beri to explore the transformative power of joy, not only as an escape, but as a strategy for alignment, authenticity, and resistance. 

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction to Joy as a Birthright

01:14 Meet Tash Durkins: Advocate for Authentic Joy

03:16 The Journey from Grief to Joy

06:10 Choosing Joy Amidst Pain

08:27 Micro Steps to Embrace Joy

19:33 The Concept of Fiercely Joyful

22:02 Toxic Positivity vs. Authentic Joy

27:38 Addressing Masked Emotions

28:18 Cultural Perspectives on Vulnerability

28:56 The Importance of Support Systems

30:29 Acknowledging and Supporting Others

32:12 The Role of Joy in Difficult Times

37:56 Escapism and Joy in Media

44:37 Creating Joyful Work Environments

48:43 Leading with Humanity and Compassion

52:41 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In the episode, Tash shares how losing her mother at 20 set her on a journey to reframe grief, reclaim joy, and help high-achieving women reconnect to who they were before the world told them who to be. From dismantling toxic positivity to creating micro-moments of joy in the workplace, this episode is a masterclass in emotional freedom and fierce self-permission.

If you’ve ever felt the guilt of feeling good in a heavy world, or wondered how to protect your light when things get hard, this conversation is your permission slip to choose joy, boldly and unapologetically.

More from Tash:

https://www.fiercely-joyful.com/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tashdurkins/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@joyfultash

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What if compassion wasn’t just a feeling, but a powerful action? In this heart-opening episode, Payal sits down with Sara Schairer and Burrell Poe, the visionary leaders behind Compassion It, a movement and nonprofit focused on making compassion a daily habit.

In this episode:

00:00 The Power of Compassion

01:21 Introducing Sara and Burrell

03:45 Sara's Journey to Compassion

05:58 Burrell's Serendipitous Path

09:28 The Strength in Compassion

15:42 Compassion in a Divided World

27:33 Understanding Compassion vs. Empathy

29:40 The Dark Side of Empathy

33:15 Compassion in Institutions

41:11 Human Connection and Compassion

50:08 Practical Acts of Compassion

53:58 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Sara and Burrell they dive into the benefits of reframing compassion as a verb, and why people often mistake compassion for weakness instead of a radical strength. Together, they discuss how to bring compassion into leadership, organizations, and communities for maximum impact. 

Tune in for a refreshing, actionable roadmap for creating a more connected, humane world through daily compassion. And if the episode inspires you to engage in an act of compassion this week, make sure to let Payal know on Instagram!

More from Sara and Poe:

https://compassionit.com/

https://www.instagram.com/compassionit/

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In this powerful debut solo episode, Dr. Payal Beri explores a growing crisis that’s often ignored: the quiet unraveling of empathy in our modern world. From casual disengagement to emotional burnout, she unpacks how societal apathy and hyper-individualism are not just dividing us — they’re dismantling the very fabric of human connection.

Through deeply personal stories and thought-provoking insights, Dr. Beri challenges us to reflect on how avoidance, fear, and overload have made empathy feel optional. She asks the question: What happens when we stop caring? And more importantly, what can we do to reclaim our shared humanity?

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction to Empathy

00:53 A Personal Story of Disconnection

02:17 The Danger of Losing Empathy

04:14 The Impact of Individualism

06:32 Avoidance and Its Consequences

09:04 The Overwhelm of Modern Society

14:15 The Manipulation of Empathy

18:59 The Erosion of Community

21:16 The Misunderstanding of Empathy

22:12 Biological Hijacking and Fear

23:15 The Impact of Overstimulation

25:32 Short-Term Thinking and Its Consequences

28:05 The Danger of Apathy

30:19 Empathy as a Discipline

32:30 The Importance of Connection

38:37 A Call to Care and Understand

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Carlos Vasquez spent 17 years in prison, 3 of them in solitary confinement. In this episode, he joins Dr. Payal Beri for an empowering conversation on accountability, redemption, and purpose.

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction

 01:20 One decision that changed everything

 06:30 Life in solitary confinement and breaking point

 14:45 Rebuilding identity through books and faith

 23:00 Mentorship, trauma, and the path to redemption

 31:00 Why kids need connection, not correction

 41:10 From gang life to leadership and corporate work

 48:00 The long-term vision for How to Battle

In the episode, Carlos shares with Payal how one decision and one mentor altered his entire trajectory. From growing up in a loving, middle-class home to becoming a gang leader and prison shot-caller, Carlos walks through his path to self-destruction, awakening, and ultimately, transformation.

Now a motivational speaker and founder of How to Battle, Carlos is on a mission to guide youth, leaders, and communities toward healing, purpose, and accountability. He speaks candidly about identity, redemption, and the power of mentorship, offering hard-earned wisdom for anyone facing personal or systemic obstacles.

Tune in, and prepare to have your own perspectives reframed around true transformation and what it means to lead a life of purpose. Make sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen!

More from Carlos:

https://linktr.ee/howtobattle

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Think disability doesn’t affect you? Think again. The reality is that disability touches us all, and any one of us can become disabled at any time. In this powerful episode, disability rights advocate, activist, and Down to the Struts podcast host Qudisya Naqui joins Dr. Payal Beri to radically reframe how we understand disability. 

In this episode:

00:13 Universal Design Benefits Everyone

02:02 Guest Introduction: Advocate for Disability and Design

03:10 Personal Journey: Embracing Identity and Labels

04:36 The Universality of Disability

08:03 Discovering Community and Breaking Free

18:26 Disability Justice and Collective Access

22:07 Cultural Shifts and Normalizing Disability

32:24 Language, Labels, and Reclaiming Identity

46:16 Interdependence and Everyday Accessibility

54:07 Conclusion: Access is Love

In the episode, Qudisya shares deeply personal moments from her own story, including the turning point that redefined her relationship with disability and how embracing community set her free. Together, she and Payal discuss stigma, pride, and reclaiming identity. They also explore the need for interdependency among humans, and why accessibility should matter to us all. 

If you’ve ever thought “this doesn’t apply to me,” this conversation is sure to change your mind and your heart.

More from Qudisya:

https://www.downtothestruts.com/#page 

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Why do so many of us feel stuck when it comes to money—especially in mission-driven work? In this episode, nonprofit leadership coach Rhea Wong breaks down the hidden narratives we carry about wealth, value, and hustle culture, especially as women, people of color, and children of immigrants.

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction

01:07 Meet Rhea Wong: Nonprofit Fundraiser Extraordinaire

02:46 Personal Money Scarcity and Overcoming It

03:08 Intersectionality and Money: A Woman of Color's Perspective

04:06 Family Influence: Immigrant Mentality and Money

06:01 Philanthropy and Fundraising: A Career Path

09:57 The Reality of Work and Success

14:44 Nonprofit Sector: Financial Struggles and Misconceptions

18:51 Redefining Money: Freedom and Optionality

24:12 Adapting to Change: The Key to Success

27:32 Social Media and Mental Clarity

29:39 The Impact of Technology on Human Interaction

30:56 The Addiction to Instant Gratification

34:52 Family Influence on Money Perception

36:48 Tying Self-Worth to Financial Success

39:28 Overcoming Scarcity Mindset in Business

45:33 Challenges in the Nonprofit Sector

53:57 The Future of Fundraising

In the episode, Rhea and Payal dive deep into how our upbringing shapes our money stories, why nonprofit professionals are often conditioned to accept scarcity, and how to build both abundance and impact without selling out. They also share powerful reframes on manifestation, work ethic, and what it really takes to ask for (and receive) more. 

Whether you're running a nonprofit, leading a social enterprise, or simply trying to reset your relationship with money, this episode is a must-listen. Like what you hear? Make sure to leave a review and show your support of the podcast.

More from Rhea:

https://go.rheawong.com/big-ask-gifts-program

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rheawong

https://www.instagram.com/rheawongconsulting/

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Sometimes, walking away from perceived success is the best option for finding true fulfillment. In this powerful conversation, Goli Kalkhoran, host of Lessons from a Quitter, shares how quitting her legal career became the first step in reclaiming her identity, values, and joy. 

In this episode:

00:54 Introducing Goli

01:42 Goli's Journey to Helping Others

02:26 The Lawyer's Life: Expectations vs. Reality

04:33 Facing Uncertainty and Fear

07:58 Generational Perspectives and Technology's Role

10:45 The Struggle of Leaving a Prestigious Career

20:02 Identity and the Ego: Beyond the Legal Profession

23:48 The Long Road to Personal Transformation

26:18 The Myth of Perfection

27:08 The Journey of Self-Improvement

28:44 Mindset Matters

32:07 Privilege and Change

36:52 Small Steps to Big Changes

45:11 Embracing Aging and Self-Compassion

51:35 Final Thoughts and Resource

In the episode, Payal and Goli explore why quitting isn’t failing, and how scary change can actually lead to better clarity and a more fulfilling life. They discuss how immigrant narratives shape career pressure and identity, and how Goli reframed success on her own terms.

From working through shame, guilt, and the fear of disappointing others to how adopting self-compassion can radically shift your life and career, this episode outlines the process of becoming who you're meant to be. Tune in, and be sure to leave a rating and review to show your support!

More from Goli:

https://lessonsfromaquitter.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/golikalkhoran 

https://www.instagram.com/lessonsfromaquitter/ 

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Is the drive to change the world quietly burning you out? In this episode, Cait Ross Murphy joins Dr. Payal Beri to unpack why traditional mindset hacks often fall short for mission-driven leaders, and how somatic work can be the answer to healing. 

In this episode:

00:00 Why mindset alone isn’t enough for deep healing

 02:00 The myth of productivity and performance-based worth

 06:30 Cait’s chronic illness wake-up call & spiritual reckoning

 13:00 Nervous system states

 20:00 What is somatic discernment & how it builds resilience

 25:00 The impact of generational trauma on our present-day stress

 30:00 How slowing down increases clarity and impact

 38:00 Preparing for motherhood and the next chapter of legacy

In the episode, Cait and Payal explore the root causes of burnout, chronic illness, and emotional overwhelm, tracing them back to early childhood conditioning, intergenerational trauma, and the neglected wisdom of the body. Cait shares her personal story of healing from a debilitating chronic illness by tuning into the body’s command center: the nervous system. 

This episode is a must-listen for changemakers, nonprofit leaders, and high-capacity professionals looking to lead with more clarity, energy, and emotional resilience.

More from Cait:

https://www.instagram.com/caitmurphy.co/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/cait-ross 

https://bit.ly/NeuroSomatics-waitlist 

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