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Episode 107:
Healing a Sexless Relationship: Rebuilding Trust and Emotional Intimacy with Katie Ziskind

In this episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, I talk with holistic marriage and family therapist Katie Ziskind about the challenges and solutions for couples facing sexual avoidance and emotional disconnection. Katie, an expert in addressing high-conflict cycles and intimacy issues, shares insights into understanding attachment styles, the importance of emotional intimacy, and the role of inner child work in healing relationships. Through her experience, Katie provides couples hope and practical steps to rebuild trust and intimacy, even in cases of long-term sexual avoidance cycles, infidelity and emotional turmoil.

This was an amazing conversation and I learned so much from Katie’s wisdom.

Connect with Katie:

Website | Podcast “All Things Love and Intimacy on Spotify | Podcast “All Things Love and Intimacy on Apple Podcasts

00:00 Understanding Relationship Cycles

01:57 Meet Katie Ziskind: Holistic Marriage and Family Therapist

03:58 Exploring Sexual Avoidance in Long-Term Relationships

06:10 The Importance of Emotional Intimacy

08:30 Re-Education About Pleasure and Intimacy

22:13 Addressing Infidelity and Rebuilding Trust

29:41 Inner Child Work in Relationships

39:03 Katie Ziskind's Relationship Coaching

43:07 Conclusion and Resources

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Episode 107:
From Monogamish to Somatic Therapy: A 2024 Mid-Year Podcast Review

In this mid-year review episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, I provide a comprehensive overview of the first 25 episodes of 2024, covering a wide array of topics related to relationship diversity. These include somatic therapy, overcoming rejection, non-monogamous relationship structures, and the importance of community and authenticity in diverse relationships. I also reflect on key milestones, such as surpassing 10,000 downloads and publishing the 100th episode. The episode aims to make it easier for listeners to find specific episodes of interest, offering quick recaps and insights from various guest experts. 

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00:00 Introduction to Biannual Reviews

00:33 Welcome to the Relationship Diversity Podcast

01:23 Reflecting on 2024 Milestones

02:20 Mid-Year Episode Highlights

03:45 -27:56 Episodes 81-106 Recaps

27:57 Closing thoughts

Episode 28: Year-End Review: A GREAT 1st Episode to Introduce You to this Podcast

Episode 52: So Much to Listen To! Where to Start? A Mid-Year Review of the Relationship Diversity Podcast

Episode 80: Struggling with Your Relationship? Jump to Your Best Resource in this Year-End Review

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Episode 106:
Finding Tenderness While Facing Relationship Challenges with Molly Reagh

In this episode, I welcome relationship coach and associate social worker, Molly Reagh. We discuss the intricacies of how relationships act as mirrors and messengers for personal growth. Molly shares insights on differentiating between pain and suffering and emphasizes the importance of tenderness towards oneself during challenging periods. The conversation delves into the value of parts work, understanding and embodying personal values, and how to cultivate self-compassion. Molly also provides practical advice on how to navigate complex emotions and relationship dynamics consciously and intentionally.

00:00 Understanding Pain vs. Suffering

01:44 Meet Molly Reagh: Relationship Coach and Social Worker

03:09 Diving into Relationship Dynamics

07:03 Exploring Bonobo Relationships

13:06 Navigating Emotions and Relationships

27:33 Connecting Physical Sensations to Memories

28:08 Healing Through Self-Energy

28:35 Wisdom from Past Experiences

28:50 Acknowledging and Greeting Your Inner Child

29:48 No Bad Parts: Embracing All Aspects of Self

30:05 Humanizing Our Behaviors

30:27 Unshaming and Tenderizing Our Experiences

31:38 The Role of Safety in Our Actions

32:38 Internalizing Safety and Judgment

34:34 People Pleasing and Relationship Dynamics

37:29 Empowerment Through Self-Reflection

38:41 Cultivating Self-Compassion and Tenderness

40:43 Values Work: Guiding Principles for Authentic Living

43:59 Embodiment and Attunement to Values

45:07 The Importance of Quiet Time and Self-Care

47:57 Connecting with Molly and Her Work

49:46 Conclusion and Podcast Information

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Website | Instagram
 
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Episode 105:

Is Compersion Easier For Some More Than Others? Exploring How Social Positionality Influences Compersion with Dr. Marie Thouin

In this episode, I welcome back Dr. Marie Thouin, a leading expert on compersion, to discuss her most recent research and findings. We delve into the complexities of compersion and its intersection with social positionality, examining how factors like age, race, gender, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, and geographical location influence the experience of compersion in consensually non-monogamous relationships. 

Dr. Thouin shares insights from her new book, detailing the socio-psychological aspects of compersion, its broader applications beyond CNM, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also highlights future research directions and practical advice for those navigating non-monogamous relationships.

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Compersion Website | Website | Instagram

Buy Marie’s Book:

Roman and Littlefield | Amazon

Episode 51: Embracing Compersion: The Transformative Power of Joy in Non-Monogamous Relationships with Dr. Marie Thouin

00:00 Introduction and Hypothesis

00:22 Welcome to the Relationship Diversity Podcast

01:27 Introducing Dr. Marie Thouin

05:23 Defining Compersion

11:14 Social Positionality and Compersion

22:12 Age and Compersion

30:13 Geographical Location and Compersion

32:52 Socioeconomic Status and Compersion

36:09 Race and Compersion

40:20 Sexual Identity and Compersion

43:03 Future of Compersion Research

50:27 Conclusion and Resources

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Episode 104:
Advocacy and Support for Non-Monogamy with Brett Chamberlain, Executive Director for OPEN

In this episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, I talk with Brett Chamberlain, the executive director of OPEN, an advocacy nonprofit for polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. Brett shares his personal journey, the foundational values embedded in non-monogamy, and the significant impact it can have on society. We discuss the importance of visibility, community, and legal advocacy in advancing acceptance and rights for non-monogamous families. The conversation covers tangible steps for advocacy, OPEN's organizational strategies, and the upcoming Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy. Brett provides valuable insights for those interested in supporting diverse relationship structures and contributing to a more just and joyous future.

00:00 Introduction to Non-Monogamy Values

00:47 Welcome to the Relationship Diversity Podcast

01:49 Introducing Brett Chamberlain and OPEN

02:47 Brett's Journey into Activism

04:41 The Birth of OPEN

10:45 Strategies for Non-Monogamous Advocacy

17:45 The Importance of Community

22:42 Future Visions for OPEN

26:28 Steps for Legislative Change

32:49 Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy

32:58 Introduction to the Week of Visibility

33:55 Feedback and Expansion to a Week

34:36 Organizing Local and Online Events

36:03 Daily Themes for the Week of Visibility

38:27 Supporting Non-Monogamous Individuals

40:56 Volunteering and Donations

44:31 The Broader Vision for Non-Monogamy

47:03 Challenging Norms and Personal Growth

54:50 Final Thoughts and Resources

Join OPEN's email list: |  Week of Visibility |  OPEN’s Non-Monogamy Reading List | Join OPEN’s Community Discord

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Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

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Episode 103: 
From Monogamy to Monogamish: Reimagining Modern Relationships

In this episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, I dive into the concept of 'monogamish' relationships—a hybrid between monogamy and open relationships. 

Coined by Dan Savage, this term represents relationships that blend primary commitment with some degree of sexual or emotional openness. I explore the origins of the term, its benefits, and various examples of how monogamish arrangements can be personalized to fit unique partnership needs. 

I emphasize the importance of communication, trust, and flexibility, and offer practical advice for those considering this relationship structure. 

The episode also includes reflective questions to determine if a monogamish setup could be right for you and your partner, along with steps to navigate the transition from traditional monogamy.

00:00 Introduction to Monogamish Relationships

00:47 Welcome to the Relationship Diversity Podcast

01:38 Carrie Jeroslow's Personal Journey with Relationships

04:16 Exploring the Term 'Monogamish'

09:16 Examples of Monogamish Relationships

12:40 Characteristics for Thriving in a Monogamish Relationship

19:47 Steps to Transition to a Monogamish Relationship

24:06 Conclusion and Additional Resources

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Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

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Episode 102: 
The Art of Non-Monogamous Matchmaking: Insights from Matchmaker, Daniella Guimaraes

In this compelling episode, I dive deep into the world of non-monogamous matchmaking with pioneering matchmaker Daniella Guimaraes. Daniella, the founder of Velvet Ties, shares her unique journey from modeling to becoming a key figure in the non-monogamous community, driven by her passion for fostering honest and meaningful connections. 

Daniella shares her innovative approach to matchmaking, where transparency, openness, and intimacy are at the forefront. She discusses the complexities and nuances of non-monogamous relationships, offering valuable insights into her methods and strategies for helping clients find their ideal matches. From navigating different levels of openness to understanding intimate preferences and libidos, Daniella's expertise shines through in every aspect of her work. 

Learn about her offerings from hosting upscale, curated events that promote deep, respectful connections to full-service matchmaking, and discover the significant impact of thoughtful matchmaking in a world increasingly open to diverse relationship structures. 

Whether you're curious about non-monogamy, exploring it yourself, or simply interested in the art of modern matchmaking, this episode is a treasure trove of information and inspiration. 

00:00 Opening Thoughts

01:41 Conversation with Daniella Guimaraes: A Non-Monogamous Matchmaker

02:20 Daniella's Journey into Non-Monogamous Matchmaking

04:47 The Matchmaking Process and Importance of Honesty

06:03 Exploring Non-Monogamy Spectrum with Clients

06:34 The Role of Coaching in Matchmaking

13:54 Events and Social Club: Expanding the Non-Monogamy Community

19:25 The Future of Non-Monogamy and Closing Thoughts

25:44 Final Words and Resources

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Daniella’s Events | Matchmaking Services | Free WhatsApp Community | Instagram

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Episode 101
Exploring the World of Solo Polyamory
 

In this episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, I dive into the concept of solo polyamory. I discuss the integration of autonomy and independence in multiple romantic relationships, common misconceptions, and how the solo poly structure fosters personal growth and emotional fulfillment. 

Listeners will also learn how to determine if this unique relationship style aligns with their values and how to communicate it effectively to potential partners.

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Learn more about intentionally shifting your relationship structure by listening to these episodes:

Episode 24: Do these 3 Things Before Attempting to Open Up a Monogamous Relationship

Episode 48: Shifting Your Relationship Structure: How Timing Can Influence Your Decision

Episode 56: Opening Up Your Relationship – Part 1: When You Want to Open Your Relationship and Your Partner Doesn’t

Episode 58: Opening Up Your Relationship – Part 2 When Your Partner Wants to Open Your Relationship and You Don’t

00:00 Introduction to Solo Polyamory

00:34 Exploring Relationship Diversity

01:24 Personal Encounter with Solo Polyamory

04:02 Deep Dive into Solo Polyamory

09:35 Addressing Misconceptions and Judgments

14:13 Is Solo Polyamory Right for You?

16:50 Communicating Your Solo Poly Structure

19:00 Conclusion and Invitation to Explore Relationship Diversity

19:37 Announcements and Resources

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Episode 100
Celebrating 100 Episodes: Reflections, Intentions, and a Giveaway!

In the 100th episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, I reflect on the journey of the podcast and the exploration of relationship structure diversity. 

Marking a significant personal milestone, I delve into the evolution of relationship diversity (whether soloamory, monogamy, open relationships, non-monogamy or polyamory and everything in between), highlighting the concept's role in enabling people to create relationships that align with their identities. 

I also look at how the podcast started and how it’s going. I see if I am holding true to the vision and to all I spoke about in Episode 001 from September 2022.

Celebrating the growth and learning over 100 episodes, I announce a giveaway and invite you to enter a giveaway to win an energetic guidance session with me. 

To enter, leave a review for the podcast here or on your podcast streaming service. Take a screenshot and email it to me at [email protected]  

If you podcast service doesn’t allow reviews, you can email me a review to use on my website. The deadline is May 31, 2024 and a winner will be chosen on June 1, 2024 and notified on June 3, 2024.

The commitment to expanding the dialogue on relationship diversity and challenging conventional relationship paradigms remains strong, with anticipation for the next 100 episodes.

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00:00 Welcome to the Relationship Diversity Podcast

01:18 Celebrating 100 Episodes: Reflections and Future Visions

02:16 The Journey of Relationship Diversity Podcast

03:15 Exploring the Depths of Relationship Diversity

06:06 The Impact of Conversations and Connections

06:58 Navigating the Complexities of Relationships

08:51 The Power of Personal and Collective Evolution

12:08 A Special Giveaway: Engage and Win

15:03 Looking Ahead: The Future of Relationship Diversity

16:08 A Heartfelt Thank You and Invitation

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Episode 099:
The Intersectionality of Race and Non-Monogamy with Dr. Christopher Smith

This episode of the Relationship Diversity Podcast features a deep dive into the intersectionality of race and ethical non-monogamy with Dr. Christopher Smith. 

Dr. Smith, an equity advisor, and diversity expert, shares their journey and insights into supporting underrepresented relationship communities. The conversation covers the challenges African American non-monogamous individuals face, including racial, economic, and intergroup discrimination, as well as phobias around sexuality and gender identity. 

They emphasize the importance of being an ally and advocate for marginalized communities by being a disruptor in societal norms and legal systems. They highlight their academic studies on the lived experiences of consensual, non-monogamous African American college students and discuss future research and advocacy plans. 

We also touch on the history of non-monogamous structures, the impact of religious and societal programming, and the need for more inclusive support systems in academia, local and federal governments, and beyond.

Connect with Chris:
Instagram | Twitter
Email:  [email protected]
Advocacy and Support:
APA Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force
Chosen Family Law Center

00:00 Exploring the Intersection of Race and Non-Monogamy

01:27 Diving Deep with Dr. Christopher Smith: Race, Non-Monogamy, and Advocacy

04:55 Dr. Smith's Personal Journey into Non-Monogamy

09:26 The Historical Context of Monogamy and Non-Monogamy

18:29 The Impact of Non-Monogamy on African American College Students

25:52 Advocacy and Future Directions in Non-Monogamy Research

33:17 Becoming an Ally and Advocate for Marginalized Communities

44:18 Final Thoughts and Resources

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