Relationship Transformers

In this episode, Stacey will dive into step two of their 10-step planning and strategy day framework, and talk about the thing that keeps us from seeing the biggest version of ourselves and the reason why most goal-setting/strategy setting doesn't actually work.

The way most people do their goal setting does not work to create results and it eventually backfires which makes them feel bad, and ends up creating a very vicious cycle. There's actually a strategic reason for that, and Stacey will unravel it so that we can be well aware of it before we do our goal setting. One thing that is core to every goal-setting process is visualization. 

That basically entails looking back at the year that has already passed and writing down everything that we are grateful to have achieved. But that process is not as easy as it sounds because people actually do it in a way that does not work, and Stacey will share some strategies around how to do it properly.

She will reference a story by Steve Harvey about the flea in a jar where he talks about how a flea can jump as high as six feet, but if put in a covered mason jar can only jump as high as the point where it hits the jar’s lid. That refers to how we all have limitations instilled in us by the people around us who expect us to live life the way they think we should live it, and achieve what they think we can achieve. Stacey will dive deeper into that and quickly teach us how to actually do our goal setting so that we can get great results.

Key Points Discussed: 

• The one year later look back and what it’s all about (02:14)
• Take the lid off your jar and go do what you need to do (04:11)
• The four things that must be aligned and congruent in order to create and manifest what you want (06:24)
• “I hope I can” is not having it (08:25)

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• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the strategy and planning framework that they use in both their business and personal lives to get results that exceed their expectations every year. They just recently shared the framework with their Relationship U students and they got so much power from it to easily set achievable goals for this new year.

So many people do their annual goal setting, but it never actually works because they use the traditional kind of goal setting which is really counterproductive or counteractive to getting real results. That’s because with that kind of goal setting, one is always working against themselves. For example, you may say that you want to make $50,000 extra in cash by April 1st 2020, but there's a lot of things that will happen that will cause it to backfire, because what you’ll have done by setting that goal, is to focus on the lack of the $50,000 more that you want to have in cash.

And anytime you focus on the lack and believe in it, that’s what you’ll get in the end. It can be very daunting when you think about the year ahead, all the outcomes you want to create, and the achievements you want to have, but with Paul and Stacey’s framework, you’ll be able to avoid flying blind into 2020 and achieve all your goals for the year. Listen in for more on that.

Key Points Discussed:

• Either life is going to happen to you as you hope or you're going to do it (02:09)
• Happening to life instead of having it happening to us (03:23)
• Our beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions must be congruent for us to succeed in setting goals we can achieve (06:39)
• The Groundhog’s day process and how powerful it is in strategic planning for a year (09:25)
• Doing things differently in order to get the results that you really want (12:13)
• Taking our learning opportunities and baking them into our processes to always get the benefits our experiences (19:25)
• Creating a different dynamic by having the tools to show up differently in a way that creates peace and harmony (24:08)

Additional Resources:

• Get the 10-Step Framework now!
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• The 14-Day Boost Program
  • https://14dayboost.com/
• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the Yellow Brick Road, a tool that they created to help people learn how life works, and what is required to move from one level  of life to another. They teach the tool to all their students, and Stacey even taught an expanded version of it to 5,000 entrepreneurs at a Funnel Hacking Live.

In the movie, The Wizard of Oz, there is a yellow brick road that people follow to get to Oz, and that yellow brick road that Paul and Stacey created is somewhat similar in that when we are talking about life, everybody has an Oz. That Oz could be a goal, an outcome, or a purpose, and for every Oz, there is a yellow brick road that one must follow to achieve it or get to it.

The yellow brick road looks more like a video game with different levels, and it has all of the lessons, challenges, and experiences to prepare a person to be the version of themselves that they need to be in order to reach and hold their Oz. Like with every video game, when one fails at one level, they can’t go on to the next one until they’ve repeated the one they’ve failed at and succeeded. And that’s the exact same way that life works. Paul and Stacey will expound more on that in this episode, and if you listen in, you can expect that it will definitely change your life for the better. Enjoy!

Key Points Discussed: 

• We can’t compare ourselves to others because everyone is on their own unique yellow brick road (01:57)
• Understanding how life works by understanding the squares on your yellow brick road (02:54)
• Facing it, owning it, and solving it so you can qualify to move on (04:35)
• How to become the person that you need to be to go to the next and better level in life (07:16)
• Nobody else can resolve the issues for us (08:27)
• Knowing what the yellow brick ahead is like by reaching for the hand of Vlad (12:26)
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• Being the observer instead of judging or valuating or getting triggered by appreciating that everybody has their own yellow brick road. 

Additional Resources:

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• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will answer the question, “What are the strategies for being able to work with your spouse in a way that strengthens your marriage instead of weakening it?” This is something that they get asked a lot because most spouses who work together find it nearly impossible to separate their marriages from their businesses.

Most of those spouses end up failing at one of those things, and usually, it’s the marriage that loses out since it’s easier to do business than to do marriage. Why? Because there are plenty of easily accessible resources everywhere like books and courses about business to help people run their businesses much more easily, but similar resources for marriage are limited. 

Spouses working together is always a magnifier for their marriage relationship. If they have things in their marriage relationship that they can't talk about, it's always a hundred times that in their business relationship. That’s the dynamic that people need to understand, and Paul and Stacey will share the four main things that spouses who work together or wish to work together can do to ensure that they achieve the desired win-win in both their marriage and business relationships.

Key Points Discussed: 

• If there's something wrong in your relationship, it comes into the business, and vice versa (00:52)
• The ceiling on your business is the ceiling on your relationship (03:38)
• It’s a relationship deficit of what we don’t see that creates a loop (06:35)
• Investing in our relationship skills for ourselves pays off for a lifetime (14:39)
• The importance of the strategic reason for each of you to work in the same business (18:59)
• Don't try to solve personal problems with a business solution (22:59)
• You can’t win without systems and processes (27:51)
• Understanding the invisible assumptions that create problems (31:21)

Additional Resources:

• The 14-Day Boost Program
• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about triggers and how to go about them. We all have those moments where we get triggered by our partner, and unfortunately, people don’t know what to do in that moment, and it happens to the best of us.

The one thing that’s most important to know is that every single trigger is unique, and therefore requires a unique solution that only we ourselves can come up with and not our partners. There’s so much value in a person learning to solve their triggers instead of reacting to them because every piece of trigger one solves puts back a piece of themselves back into making them whole.

If your partner ever triggers and you need to know how to react better when they trigger you, then this episode is just for you, because Paul and Stacey will be sharing some very valuable action steps that you can take to start accomplishing that.

Key Points Discussed: 

• What to do when your spouse triggers you (01:31)
• The beauty of triggers and how to solve them (03:06)
• Mastering your state in the moment so that you can respond instead of react (04:04)
• How when we blame we put the power to fix things in someone else’s hands (06:06)

Additional Resources:

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• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the surprising answer they have to the popular questions, "Why do people make promises they don't keep?" and "What can I do when my partner keeps making promises they don't keep?"

These are two questions that plague a lot of relationships (including with family and friends) because people tend to award blame on the other person when in reality they too are party to the problem. 

Paul and Stacey will share a clip from their recent Relationship Breakthrough Retreat Live Event, where someone from the audience asked them about this issue, and Stacey dropped some life changing gold truth bombs in her answer, so stay tuned to find out more.

Key Points Discussed:

• It’s all about conditioning someone please you in the moment to get out of pain with you (02:49)
• Taking personal responsibility for our part in the dynamic (06:13)
• We shouldn’t have to let go and be okay with it (07:41)
• Using relationship development tools and strategies to collaborate with people in your world (09:02)

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• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Stacey will share a special video that she recorded where she shares the three secrets that can revolutionize the way any of us does relationships. She will talk about how we can implement the relationship development tools in our relationships in order to get the love and passion that we really want.

She will then dive into the three secrets and talk about each of them in detail while sharing the real life actionable steps we can take to turn our relationships around for the better. Stacey will also talk about their amazing Black Friday sale where they’re offering huge discounts on the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2020 tickets, and so much more. Listen, learn, and don’t forget to go get your Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2020 ticket now.

Key Points Discussed: 

• Asking your partner to change is actually killing your relationship (00:47)
• Removing your triggers so you can catapult forward and avoid getting hijacked by the people around you (03:43)
• Getting answers to real life, real family challenges that we assume there is no answer for (07:30)
• Committing and knowing that it only takes one person to transform a relationship (12:07)
• The relationship transformer guide and workbook, and the many other bonuses on offer (14:41)
• The biggest boost a relationship can have in just 14 days (20:28)
• Breaking down the relationship transformer Black Friday sale (23:10)

Additional Resources:

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• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com
• www.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a very powerful dynamic that keeps so many people stuck and miserable. It’s a dynamic that goes beyond marriages, and into all the relationships that people have in life, and it impacts us every single day, and yet it’s invisible to us.

Paul and Stacey will reveal what it is, how people have a lot of misconceptions about it, and how it always puts us in endless battles with the people that we are in relationships with. They will also share the action steps we can take right now to stop being victims of the dynamic, so we can start experiencing joy and fulfillment in all our relationships. Listen in and learn.

Key Points Discussed:

• Fairness is determined by the perspective of the person who is deciding whether it's fair or not (02:38)
• Our need for things to be fair only holds us back (03:46)
• Measuring what we get in exchange for what we’re giving (08:21)
• The concept of fairness in relationships is borne by measuring and keeping scores (10:20)
• The withdrawal and holding back that comes from expecting others to give in the same way we do (13:34)
• Accepting the unfairness of life without being bitter or negative (16:18)
• Be the one to take action in your relationship without depending on your partner (19:46)
• Making a decision and committing for 90 days (22:40)

Additional Resources:

• The 14-Day Boost Program
• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the biggest mistake people make with their relationship development method, mainly from misinterpreting it to mean that they should put up with things or just let things go. This comes from a deeply wired demand relationship thinking which only results in things staying the same or getting worse.

Paul and Stacey discovered that their students didn’t quite understand that implementing the relationship development tools and strategies is supposed to result in one’s partner changing in response to how they show up differently, and so this episode is geared towards teaching us how to implement relationship development properly, so we can get to experience the changes that we really want to see in our relationships.

Key Points Discussed:

• The huge misconception of what relationship development is (00:45)
• Creating our outcomes with the way we show up (03:49)
• Doing things that will actually generate the response that we totally want (06:01)
• Be the one to start nurturing that plant (11:54)
• Demand relationship thinking can run really deep (14:47)
• Following the relationship development yellow brick road (16:15)

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In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share some behind the scenes content from their recent relationship development parenting live event day and specifically focus on sharing one major nugget that we can all implement immediately in our parenting.

Listen in as they dive into the differences between demand parenting and relationship development parenting, and share some real-life parenting scenarios where relationship development parenting works perfectly so we can easily apply the same with our kids at home.

Key Points Discussed:

• The recent relationship development parenting live event (00:55)
• The reality of what the parenting job is and how to properly approach it (05:39)
• Empowering our kids by teaching them the skills and tools to navigate real-life (09:03)
• The two ways of getting the biggest building in town (15:27)
• Robbing our kids of the skillset that they need to be prepared for the world (19:31)
• Stop yourself, ask yourself, and reach out when you’re stuck (23:40)

Additional Resources:

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• www.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.com

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