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  • 18: Behind The Scenes of RBR 2019

    In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk all about the just concluded Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019. They will talk about what their favorite moments were, what the challenges were, how things went behind the scenes, and most importantly, the breakthroughs that different attendees experienced.

    Listen in to get that behind the scenes look at this life changing event, get a feel of what it would have been like to attend, and get some tools you can use to build better relationships in your life.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • The best delivery and breakthroughs at the RBR 2019 (01:00)
    • Delivering to the audience dynamically (03:07)
    • The five-step forgiveness process (05:06)
    • The four minute mile: From Can I? to How can I? (10:07)
    • The best event team in the world (15:10)
    • The breakthroughs that people share (18:16)
    • Walking in one way and walking out another (25:02)
    • Additional Resources:

      • RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com
      • You can find this episode and more at:

        RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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        28 min
      • 17: What If My Kid Wants To QUIT?

        In this episode, Paul and Stacey will answer a question about what to do when one’s kid wants to quit something. So many parents have struggled with this because no parent wants to raise a quitter, but whatever it is cannot be forced on them from a demand relationship approach.

        Tune in as Paul and Stacey share the relationship development tactics you can use to tackle this issue with your kid and make sure that they’re A-okay moving forward.

        Key Points Discussed:

        • It comes down to instilling values in our kids (02:46)
        • Looking at your trigger first (05:56)
        • Demand parenting brings up a conformer or a rebel (08:53)
        • Losing out is just as good a teacher (10:41)
        • Do not side with an authority figure over your kid’s life (14:47)
        • Supporting your kids to have their own life experiences (17:44)
        • You can find this episode and more at:

          • Learn about the next live event: http://bit.ly/rbr_podcast
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            20 min
          • 16: My Kid is Triggering Me (And Everyone In The House)

            In this episode, Paul and Stacey will be tackling the question of how to handle your kid when he or she triggers you. This is something that happens to every parent, and the biggest reason why parents can’t seem to find a solution to that problem is because they think that “fixing the kid” is the key, but its not.

            Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey dive into the issue of demand parenting, and learn how you can use relationship development parenting to get the results you want in your household and for your children.

            Key Points Discussed:

            • It’s all a demand relationship kind of parenting (03:11)
            • Mastering your emotions first before demanding the same of your kid (05:41)
            • The detriment of demand parenting (08:25)
            • People don’t trigger you, they just show you your own triggers (11:00)
            • Having a higher standard for ourselves as parents (17:29)
            • Allowing your kids to experience the natural consequences of life (27:53)
            • Teaching our kids how to navigate life (37:03)
            • You can find this episode and more at:

              • www.RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen
              • Get "The D.I.R.T." Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers http://martinopodcast.com/dirt
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                43 min
              • 15: Why Go To Live Events?

                In this episode, Paul and Stacey are going to talk about the power of immersion events in profoundly changing a person’s life versus just general learning. Learning is important and can be resourceful, but people usually tend to forget whatever they learn with time, but when they attend an event on what is important to them, they get to both learn and experience, and it’s the experience that sticks with them their entire lives.

                Paul and Stacey will also share the kind of action steps you can start doing now in regard to getting into beneficial live events to really start walking towards making that lasting change that you so desperately need in your relationship.

                Key Points Discussed:

                • The hustle of doing live events (00:49)
                • Immersion versus learning (01:48)
                • There's a big difference between learning it and living it (03:46)
                • The power of focus time on one thing (08:22)
                • A good distraction with no lasting change (13:47)
                • Getting to the next level by willingly getting resourceful (19:00)
                • Additional Resources:

                  • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
                  • You can find this episode and more at:

                    RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                    26 min
                  • 14: Fights Every Couple Will Have

                    In this episode, Paul and Stacey are going to dive into the most common fights that all couples have. When it comes to real life issues like parenting, money, work, family of origin, religion, spirituality, health, education, and others, most couples think that they share similar opinions until they get confronted by their differences on the same.

                    That brings about conflicts between them, and because they lack the tools to tackle that, the conflicts become frequent and eventually lead them to a worse place than they would have intended. Paul and Stacey will teach you what you need to know to overcome all that and build the relationship that your family deserves.

                    Key Points Discussed:

                    • The accidental alignment predicament (01:12)
                    • The next evolution of freedom (04:27)
                    • The invincible assumptions will bite you in the ass (07:03)
                    • Coordinating and working together to be successful (12:41)
                    • Men’s assumptions on different issues (16:25)
                    • A true authentic alignment design (23:12)
                    • We all have gifts to bring every time (30:55)
                    • When you design alignment, the accidental alignment predicament disappears (39:54)
                    • Additional Resources:

                      • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat
                      • You can find this episode and more at:

                        RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                        44 min
                      • 13: What Women Think About Men

                        In this episode, Stacey is going to talk about the feminine, and how women unknowingly get stuck in a dynamic that exhausts them, makes them feel miserable, causes kerfuffle, and zaps the passion right out of their marriage.

                        Most women don’t understand how the masculine is wired, and so they tend to expect their men to react like women to different situations, and when they don’t, they get upset about it which causes a rift between them.

                        Stacey will teach you how to stop looking at your man from a feminine lens, so that you can relate to him in a way that builds your relationship instead of breaking it down.

                        Key Points Discussed:

                        • The feminine does not understand the masculine (01:17)
                        • Women judging men through the filter of what other women would do (04:06)
                        • The masculine is not wired for connection and support (05:46)
                        • Emotional spikes trigger a fight or flight reactive need in men for order (10:08)
                        • Stacking and how it causes unnecessarily higher levels of reaction (15:53)
                        • Judgement doesn’t build relationships (19:05)
                        • Additional Resources:

                          • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
                          • You can find this episode and more at:

                            RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                            25 min
                          • 12: Paul Speaks To The Men

                            In this episode, Paul, with Stacey’s support, will be speaking directly to men, and women too, about how men see relationships. Men tend to view the topic of relationships and marriage as a feminine topic when in reality they need to know what makes a relationship work because they relate with so many different people in their lives.

                            This episode will help in having men’s voice heard and understood, by giving women an inside look at the masculine perspective. Paul and Stacey will also share some insights on the steps men can take to become their masculine selves authentically and really understand relationship dynamics.

                            Key Points Discussed:

                            • A man’s thought process around relationships and marriage (01:02)
                            • Masculine energy has been wired for freedom and autonomy (03:15)
                            • Relationship is a human topic (08:22)
                            • Misunderstanding relationship dynamics equals the 50% to 80% divorce rate (12:18)
                            • We’re equal but there are differences (15:27)
                            • Reacting and trying to run away from it won’t fix it (21:57)
                            • The gift is for the person who takes the action (25:32)
                            • Additional Resources:

                              • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
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                                You can find this episode and more at:

                                RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                                31 min
                              • 11: STOP Being A Pleaser, It’s Not Helping!

                                In this episode, Paul and Stacey will take on one of the most common and pervasive relationship killers, and it's called pleasing. This isn't just about love relationships, because when a person is a pleaser in any of their relationships, they are most likely pleasing in many of their relationships, and that actually causes way more damage than good.

                                Paul and Stacey will talk extensively about it and share some very effective tools that we can use to stop being pleasers and embrace the relationship development practices that will help us achieve true happiness in all our relationships.

                                Key Points Discussed:

                                • The difference between giving and pleasing (01:02)
                                • Giving feels good but pleasing will always feel not so great (02:33)
                                • A culture conditioned to be pleasers (04:32)
                                • The emotional guidance scale (05:47)
                                • The result of pleasing is resentment (07:52)
                                • The dangers of demand parenting (10:28)
                                • How to authentically show up in any situation (16:24)
                                • The blame-sides-compromise dynamic is very broken (20:48)
                                • Pleasing doesn’t actually create happiness (27:51)
                                • How to stop being a pleaser (30:44)
                                • Additional Resources:

                                  • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
                                  • Ask and It Is Given by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks
                                  • You can find this episode and more at:

                                    RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                                    33 min
                                  • 10: Reignite Your Passion (Part Two)

                                    In this episode, Paul and Stacey will continue with part two of their reignite the passion series, and talk about what actually kills the passion in long-term relationships.

                                    It is something that impacts almost everyone at some point in their long-term relationship, and yet it remains invisible to almost everyone. They are going to expose that passion killer today to empower you to reignite the passion.

                                    Key Points Discussed:

                                    • Passion organically fades in a long-term relationship (01:20)
                                    • Loves goes deeper with sameness (02:30)
                                    • Breaking the belief that something is wrong with you (03:33)
                                    • You have to create that hotter and more amazing passion (08:56)
                                    • Feminine core energy and masculine core energy (10:01)
                                    • Being a nice guy mutes who you are authentically (13:24)
                                    • Suppressing our natural core energy makes us unhappy (16:32)
                                    • Focusing on yourself instead of your partner (23:12)
                                    • Additional Resources:

                                      • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
                                      • You can find this episode and more at:

                                        RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                                        29 min
                                      • 09: Reignite Your Passion (Part 1)

                                        In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share the truth about why passion fizzles in long-term relationships and what we can do to reignite it!

                                        They will dive into the two most common phases of a relationship where people need help in creating an unleashed passion that is hotter than it's ever been. Paul and Stacey will be very detailed about this so it can help you get the kind of relationship you deserve.

                                        If you are looking to reignite the passion in your relationship, don’t miss out on this value-packed episode!

                                        Key Points Discussed:

                                        • The hanging-by-a-thread and the passionless (01:00)
                                        • The salad versus garbage concept (02:29)
                                        • Passion is not meant to fade (05:27)
                                        • Building up walls of resentments (08:12)
                                        • It’s not your fault and you’re not alone (11:30)
                                        • Breaking the chains for the sake of future generations (15:02)
                                        • A height of passion that matches the depth of love is possible (16:10)
                                        • Additional Resources:

                                          • The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
                                          • You can find this episode and more at:

                                            RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen

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                                            19 min

                                          About Relationship Transformers

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                                          Paul & Stacey Martino have proven that it only takes ONE partner to transform a relationship…ANY relationship! The question is - “How does ONE person do that?” This podcast is the answer! The…