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Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier spa based in Asheville, North Carolina that offers first-class services such as Salt Water Floatation (a.k.a. sensory deprivation), Esalen Massage, and Cranial Sacral Therapy. Having a very intimate relationship with stress and anxiety, Corey studied Somatic Psychology and acquired a master's degree in Clinical Psychology. Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and music therapist.

Corey joins me today to share how understanding your body and being aware of what happens to it when you're stressed can affect your personal and professional relationships. We discuss where to look and what to do to the body when you're stressed and explain the gravity of destressing and taking care of your ownanxiety so you can take care of others. We also share techniques that you can use to help you improve relaxation and decrease stress and explain why self-care is not simply a luxury, but a necessity for achieving a harmonious relationship with others.

"There's always going to be anxiety. There's always going to be stressful things. It's how we deal with those things and what tools we can use in the present moment to be able to work with that energy of stress." - Corey Costanzo

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

• How stress affects the physical body according to science.
• What the Zen Breath technique is and how to do it.
• Why yoga, meditation, and mindfulness are popular de-stressing activities.
• The first step to unlocking the door to stress and anxiety.
• The benefits of being aware of your stress.
• A technique to avoid the stress blame-game.
• The importance of giving your partner some space when managing stress.
• The benefits of doing physical activities instead of rationalizing your stress.
• The difference between shallow-breath reactions versus deep-breath responses.
• How deep breathing affects your body and influences your connection with others.
• Regulation versus dysregulation of the nervous system.
• The reason Corey began working the field of healing arts.
• How he learned to beat depression and anxiety.
• The paradox of holding stress as a badge of honor in some communities.
• How your family background affects the way youhandle stress and anxiety.
• How addiction in the family affects the next generation.
• How parents' suppressing stress or anger transfers to their kids and the results.
• The link between indecisiveness and anxiety.
• Why you should give yourself permission to be wrong.
• The unselfish aspect of taking care of yourself so you can take care of your relationships.
• How you can choose to break the stress cycle and habit.
• What the habit of stress looks like and the biological markers and symptoms to watch out for.
• The number one go-to stress buster and stress reliever.
• What the Curious Paradox is and how it helps you accept what's going on in your body.
• How Epsom salt and Esalen Massage help reduce stress and anxiety.

Connect with Corey Costanzo:

• Still Point Wellness

Sponsored by Still Point Wellness

StillPoint Wellness is Asheville's premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point's world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!

Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.

Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don't forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let's Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

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Moe Bruce is passionate about investing in deep and meaningful connections and intimacy, engaging with others, building relationships, and being present in the moment. For 20 years, she has been a coach and consultant for CEOs and global leaders in large and small international organizations and has built profound connections with strangers throughout America and Europe. She's always had a deep curiosity about how people live their lives as well as what she can learn from them. Moe joins me today to discuss how to take risks with strangers by going beyond the regular chitchat our society is so used to. We discuss the inspiring experiments she conducted throughout New York and Europe while building connections with strangers as well as how the workplace is hungry for vulnerability, transparency, and truth. We discuss an observation she had about me and how my answer revealed something enlightening and personal as we experience the magic that comes from being open and present in the moment.

"If you want a connection, you can have it. If you're willing to be vulnerable and revealing and curious, you can make it your world. You don't have to suffer chitchat." - Moe Bruce

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

• What Moe does while in contact with strangers.
• How her 3-phrase experiment in New York impacted her.
• The impact that her "Being Loved" experiment in Berlin had on her and the people around her.
• Why she doesn't allow 'chit chat' in her conversations and connections with strangers.
• How she leads conversations with strangers to make them feel comfortable, connected, and open.
• How being open and willing to share things about yourself in conversations helps you build deep connections with others.
• What the Modality of Circling is.
• How to make the conversation "your world" as well.
• When it's okay not to put limits on what to reveal and how to make distinctions about things to share.
• The effect of being vulnerable and having closer connections in the workplace.
• What the courage to be vulnerable requires.
• Strategies she used to connect with strangers in Atlanta during an experiment.
• The impact that being present can have on those around you.
• How she makes a game out of connecting and communicating with others to relieve the pressure of "doing it right" or doing it a certain way.
• How building meaningful connections with strangers helps builds hope for humanity.
• How she discovered the Strategy of Circling.
• The backstory of circling and how to do it.
• How circling can help parents in their relationship with their children.
• How she felt reborn after a circling session.
• How her curiosity about my openness led us to the most transformational moment of my life

Sponsored by Still Point Wellness

StillPoint Wellness is Asheville's premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point's world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!

Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.

Mention the code:Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don't forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling and Relationships! Let's Talk About It, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

There's a common expression that says, "You wouldn't want to marry yourself!" This expression sounds funny to many, but if you look closely, it expresses a deeper issue people face in relationships. Having differences is inevitable, but whether you choose to be accepting or critical, curious or judgmental, interested or disrespectful towards the other person makes the difference in the status of your relationships.

On this episode, I discuss the differences in people's relationships and how to navigate them through real-life stories and examples. I emphasize the importance of the "how" versus the "what" when negotiating differences, the difference among needs, wants, and preferences as well as how to effectively communicate using these. I also explain how to train your mind to see traits you can like and appreciate about the other person and discuss the difference between a complaint and criticism as well as ways of dealing with differences in money, expectations, and non-negotiables.

"Differences call for understanding and negotiating." - Pripo Teplitsky

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

• The wrong notion about compatibility being synonymous with similarity
• The role that differences play in relationships
• Why we choose somebody that's different from us
• The essence of choosing well and carefully in partnerships
• How women typically choose men
• What to do when projecting expectations towards your partner
• The role that the foundational aspects of communication and connection play in your relationship
• Two vital learner type questions to ask yourself as you assess your response to your partner
• A story of a couple who didn't think alike but loved alike
• The antidote to relationships who are facing problems regarding their differences
• Why disgust is one of the major poisons in relationships and examples of how we show it
• Redefining self-esteem in relationship negotiations
• The mystery of the wine colored French beret
• How the differences can be a tremendous gift in a person's growth
• Examples of basic commonalities you don't need to negotiate
• Questions to ask yourself when assessing your relationships
• Facing challenges regarding non-negotiables
• The power of appreciating somebody for who they are
• The difference between a complaint and a criticism
• Dealing with differences in money
• How to work through expectations

Sponsored by Still Point Wellness

StillPoint Wellness is Asheville's premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point's world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!

Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.

Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don't forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

Gregg Levoy is an accomplished author, speaker, and seminar leader who regularly holds workshops and keynote presentations in the business, governmental, educational, faith-based and human-potential industries. He has presented on stages such as the Smithsonian Institution, the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), Microsoft, the National Career Development Association, and the International Association of Career Management Professionals as well as countless lectures for colleges and universities across the country. He is a regular contributor for Psychology Today and has made frequent guest appearances on CNN, PBS, NPR, andABC-TV.Additionally, he is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life- the latter of which is rated as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by Workforce Information Group.

Gregg joins me today to discuss what makes our friendship as men unique and the challenges men often have regarding maintaining and deepening their relationships. We discuss the different ways men can show their vulnerability and humanity and how men's behaviors can often be attributed to the cultural stigmas they've learned throughout their childhood. Gregg shares some of his fondest memories with his twin brother, father, and friend that illustrate the reality of men's outlook on life and the way they view relationships as well as how honesty and the power of conversation can impact your friendships and relationships.

"The more we are real men with one another, I think we'll bring that into our relationships with our partners." - Gregg Levoy

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

• How boys are raised with many taboos and stigmas on behavior and how it affects men's struggles with forming trusting friendships.
• How men are conditioned for competition and to act and behave a certain way.
• Gregg's unique experiences as a twin brother.
• How men who feel pressured to compete with other men can overcome and get past it.
• How men bond over activities and entertainment.
• How communicating, being vulnerable, and practicing generous listening can help deepen men's friendships with other men.
• How his father's heart attack led them to reach a new dimension in their relationship.
• Why men struggle with asking for help.
• My story on vulnerability, the challenge of asking for help, and the importance of loyalty.
• The criteria that make up strong, healthy friendships with other men.
• How having well-defined relationships from a young age has a positive impact on developing long-term, healthy male relationships.
• Why humor and laughter are important in healthy relationships with men.
• The similarities and difference between men's friendships with other men versus their relationships with their partners.
• The importance of keeping in touch and connecting with other men.
• How the reality of death enables men to be more vulnerable and open about their relationships.
• Gregg's advice for building deeper friendships with other men.

Related Content:

• Men's Work: Having Healthy Male Relationships

Connect with Gregg Levoy:

• Gregg Levoy website
• Gregg Levoy on Facebook

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don't forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

Lee Warren is the co-founder, designer, and builder of a sustainability co-housing community at Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as the co-founder of the 5-acre cooperative farm, Imani Farm. She is an herbalist, writer, teacher, and food activist with an avid interest in rural wisdom, alternative relationships, sustainable economics, and women's issues. She is the Managing Partner of the organic food production learning institute, School of Integrated Living(SOIL). Additionally, she is the Executive Director of the Organic Growers Schoolin Asheville, NC.

Lee joins me today to discuss the multi-faceted concept of consent and the importance of communicating consent and boundaries to build stronger andhealthier relationships. She explains the "wheel of consent," the crucial role consent plays in your personal and professional relationships, and the importance of communicating your preferences. She also shares why it's important to reframe 'no' as an act of liberation instead of a rejection.

"When you say 'no,' you're saying 'yes' to something else. And that's your sovereignty." - Lee Warren

This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It:

• Understanding the concept and full scope of consent.
• The different realms of abuse and why consent transcends sexuality.
• How restrictions imposed upon us during childhood affect our perceptions ofintimacy as adults
• Why saying 'yes' or 'no' has everything to do with you and nothing to do with the other person.
• Reframing 'no' from rejection to liberation.
• The importance of being able to trust responses from others.
• Why consent doesn't take the sexiness and appeal out of things, despite what most people may think.
• How consent changes things for the better, especially when it comes to intimacy.
• The importance of communicating your preferences and how the overall experience is for you.
• Consent outside of the sexual realm.
• Coercion and co-dependency, and why we need to move away from them.
• The value of listening.
• How adults "play," and how consent figures into that need.
• Tackling the barriers of intimacy.
• How consent opens new pathways for showing adoration and communicating warmth.
• The need for different ways to say 'no'.
• Why saying 'no' is actuallysaying 'yes' to something else.
• How you can learn what's 'yes' and what's 'no' for you.

Connect with Lee Warren:

• Imani Farm
• School of Integrated Living website
• Organic Growers School website
• Email: [email protected]

Sponsored by Still Point Wellness

StillPoint Wellness is Asheville's premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point's world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!

Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.

Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don't forget to visit our website, join with us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let's Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Relationships! Let's Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com