RelationShit Happens

Olivia and KC have been quarrelling over differences in political opinions for the past few weeks.  During their trip to Vermont this past weekend, the couple had to get off of their SHIT in order to overcome a potential relationship BREAKER.  This episode recaps everything Olivia and KC had to see and own-up-to about THEMSELVES in order to get back to a free, fun, and powerful relationship.  You don't wanna miss this one!

What is the secret truth behind why some partners end up cheating on their significant other?  is it because one partner is just stressed out? They're just not committed to eachother?  While a quick google search will provide these results, the answer we have isn't listed anywhere that we could find.  So, the truth might not be the answer you are looking for, it probably won't be what you expect, but we promise it will offer you new insights into this behavior.  Check out the episode to find out more.

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Utilizing their personal experience, Olivia and KC break down what being in a weak (powerless) relationship looks like, what a powerful relationship looks like, and they offer a couple pointers on how to create a powerful relationship with your partner and what it looks like.

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Olivia's abuelo just passed away and KC is there to comfort her, but what is there to say or do? How do you help your partner when they are grieving? How do you be there for them? Listen to our quick epi on the topic or check us out with a video component on YouTube!

Olivia and KC discuss the strongest tool they use which has solved every single breakdown, problem, or disagreement in their relationship.  The key is simple, but it's implementation requires a commitment to the long-term success of the relationship and a lot of humility. No, it's not admitting when you're WRONG! It is far more empowering than that, leaving your relationship with your partner full of freedom, lightness, and fun.  Check out this video to see what it is!

KC and I do it and the majority of couples we know ALSO do it. Make sure you catch it before it's too late!
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When I was 17yo, I was a thick-thighed, vibrant, loud, Latina-type of girl and always wanted to be wanted by the reserved, cool, white-lacrosse-boy-type because they were never into ME ("and if they were into me, THEN I'd finally be sexy" - my story/internal dialogue) but, they were into no-thigh-touching, blonde haired Kristins (Kristin, if you're reading this, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the other Kristins). 
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We carry baggage around with us and it can be heavy. Baggage is our past relationships or our past experiences and instead of leaving it in the past, we unknowingly and readily bring it to our present life, in many areas, too! But the most come out with our partners. 
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Check out how this episode unfolds and how this "story" and baggage that I've carried around shows up in OUR relationship!

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Indian Matchmaking is Netflix's newest hit and KC and Olivia have something to say about Aparna and her relationship (or lack thereof). We're not here to be dicks - we're here to tell it how it is and sometimes, the truth may hurt #lizzo. This isn't exactly a roast, but more of some pro-tips for Aparna, or any other Aparna out there, that if implemented, could really change the gameeee for them!
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https://www.oprahmag.com/entertainment/a33370336/where-is-aparna-now-indian-matchmaking/
Oprah Mag goes into the deets here: 
Aparna Shewakramani of Indian Matchmaking Doesn't Want to Change for Love: The Netflix star opens up about the truth behind those memes.
Aparna Shewakramani, a 35-year-old lawyer from Houston, is a stand-out cast member of the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking.
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She worked with with Sima Taparia, a Mumbai-based matchmaker, to find love. In an interview with OprahMag.com, Aparna opens up about Indian Matchmaking, her ongoing search for love, and her life as a reluctant Netflix star.
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It's fair to say that Aparna Shewakramani of Netflix's Indian Matchmaking didn't exactly know what she was getting into when, standing in line to board an airplane, she filled out an application to be on a dating show.
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"I saw on Facebook that a friend of a friend had posted the casting. Are you South Asian? Are you looking still for your spouse? And I was like, Well, I am both of those things. I applied in line. Didn't even think about it," Aparna tells OprahMag.com.

Two weeks later, a casting agent got in touch with Aparna. And two years later, that show, Indian Matchmaking, landed on Netflix, rendering Aparna a near-instant internet star.

Since Indian Matchmaking's release, Aparna and her sound bites—instant memes, every single one—have become a major fixture of coverage. She's blatant about her likes (traveling abroad, not needing to see her future husband all the time) and dislikes (beach vacations, spectator sports, children at weddings). While working with matchmaker Simi Taparia, Aparna is similarly unapologetic about her standards and specific desires—men with senses of humor or podcasts need not apply. And when faced with Sima's ever-present suggestion to compromise, change, or contort entirely to find a husband, Aparna has a ready response: She'd rather not, thank you.
Aparna's strong sense of self has garnered her admirers, including fellow Indian Matchmaking cast member Nadia Jagessar, who called her a "boss babe" on Instagram. Similarly, Indian Matchmaking's Ankita Bansal recently expressed a feeling of camaraderie with her co-star. "She reached out to me and was like, 'I loved how you and I are both working toward breaking down a stereotypical South Asian expectation of what women need to sound like in this process,'" Aparna says. But in an unexpected twist—at least for Aparna—it's also rendered her the target of online vitriol and criticism.Essentially, Aparna has become a living litmus test, allowing viewers to evaluate their own beliefs on how a woman should approach the search for a partner. Is she, as Sima implies, a stubborn, picky woman whose high expectations will leave her lonely? Or is she the show's unexpected hero, someone who would rather be true to herself than be instantly likable to suitors? Or, is there some middle ground? The 35-year-old lawyer, who moved to the U.S. from India as a child, tells OprahMag.com that she agreed to Indian Matchmaking for one reason—and it wasn't to be crowned with online notoriety, or to spark debates, or to be an emissary of the arranged marriage process for Netflix viewers.

KC and Olivia talk about sex and men while in a relationship - what's normal? What isn't? We found this article from Psychology Today that may be helpful in addition to our video!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...

1. Sex begins in the body. 

While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men desire is physical. Men have massive amounts of testosterone coursing through their bodies, pushing and driving them toward sexual expression. Erections spring at the slightest provocation in young men. And for an adult man, seeing his wife or partner coming out of the shower naked causes his body to react. It is hard to overestimate the way his body chemistry directs his mind’s psychology toward the sexual.

2. For men, sex is a hunger.

Yes, he wants to be full. But his craving for sex is like a craving for chocolates: Each sexual episode holds the exquisite possibility of a surprise-filled confection — maybe creamy smooth, or buttery rich, perhaps a little raw and bittersweet, or silky sweet. His mind is captivated by the thought of an opportunity to feel delighted and surprised. A day is hardly complete without dessert. Yet, the context of the relationship — for instance, a fight with his wife — can still spoil his appetite.

3. Sex is energy. 

Sexuality infuses a man’s intimate relationships with potential and excitement. The hormonal energy gives him the drive and aggression to pursue his life’s purpose and work and to pursue his partner. He pushes through daily monotony, tantalized by the fantasy of a sexual reward at the end of a hard day.

4. Sex is excitement. 

It’s life most thrilling adventure. His body is a great pleasure machine that he’d like to enjoy at full throttle. Since orgasm is usually reliable and easy, a variety of sexual acts, positions, and rhythms seem to be a fantastic way to explore and elevate his gratification. Every flirtation, smile, innuendo, shapely figure, or sexual image, whether fantasized or real, is a hit on the male brain. His brainwaves spike with elation just at the hint of something or someone reminding him of sex.

5. Sex is the way he gives love. 

The moment his partner gets turned on is often the moment men describe as most sexually satisfying. It’s baffling to men when they are called selfish because of their preference for sexual connection. In their hearts, there is an expectation of mutual, exquisite bodily pleasure. He often concocts and fantasizes about how to make it better for her, begging for information about her erotic desires, just so he can improve as a lover.

6. Sex is love. 

Sexual release makes men feel like they are finally home. After the world’s hurts and challenges, sex embodies love and care and provides soothing and support. While he may be accused of “only wanting sex,” most men want and feel a much more emotional connection than a simple bodily release. Making love literally creates a deep feeling of attachment to his partner and spurs relational generosity, faith, and optimism. Being desired by his partner can be the single most reassuring part of his relationship.

While most women may wish for an emotional connection before having a physical connection, for men sexual connection is often necessary to feel safe enough for emotional vulnerability. Ultimately, male sexual drive in a relationship is a gift — it’s another path toward love.

KC and Olivia are at Trader Joe's and Olivia sees a hot girl, points it out to KC, and then gets upset. Does this sound familiar? Does your boyfriend look at other girls? Do your girlfriend get upset whenever your eye naturally wanders? Why is this? Is it from insecurities? Check out our episode today about why you're not feeling 100%, you'll be taking it out on your partner.

KC and Olivia are judging each other because they are feeling some type of way about their 3 new subscribers (*insert LMAO emoji here*). And now that we're YouTube Famous, we're freaking the fuck out. We're each trying too hard for you (our viewers) and trying to be the coolest we can be but in reality, we're being fake AF. Don't get roped into our bull shit (if you can smell it) but even more importantly, don't get pulled into YOUR own bull shit. Keep it real, keep it authentic. Own up (take responsibility) for your small behavior and how you've been acting and hold yourself to a standard you can be proud of.