Relax with Meditation

Inspired by Jay Shetty
We can create a great relationship when we ask the right questions. Forget the fantasy of finding a “perfect partner.” A relationship’s quality depends on what we make of it.
When dating, we should enjoy ourselves and ask meaningful questions to understand what the other person wants.
0. Why Ask the Scary Questions?If you’re afraid to ask hard questions, deep down you might already know the answer. Avoiding the truth only delays the pain — and it will always backfire.
We often live in lies, and that keeps us from moving forward.A healthy relationship is not only about chemistry — it’s about clarity.If you want real connection, you need real conversations.
People who hide from uncomfortable topics often face a bigger crash when the truth comes out. In my experience, speaking honestly reveals true friends, and those who don’t belong will leave — saving time and energy.
If you change yourself just to fit in with people who aren’t right for you, it isolates you, damages your well-being, and can lead to deep despair. Rejection is scary, but pretending is worse.
1. What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like for You?A healthy relationship:
Gives you space to grow (unhealthy: forces you to shrink to fit)
Holds you through hard times (unhealthy: makes you feel like a burden)
Brings you peace (unhealthy: keeps you addicted to chaos)
Challenges you with kindness (unhealthy: criticizes you into silence)
Helps you trust your voice (unhealthy: makes you doubt it)
Reminds you of your worth (unhealthy: makes you fight to prove it)
Ask: What are your terms and conditions for a healthy relationship?Even better, explore their family relationship patterns — these often shape how they love.
2. What Does Commitment Mean for You?Wishful thinking doesn’t create a healthy relationship. Commitment does.
Commitment is:
Showing up on boring days
Talking things out instead of running away
Feeling safe, even when you disagree
Accepting differences without disrespect
Knowing you’re valued, even on your worst day
Respecting each other’s space while staying connected
Choosing each other again and again, not just when it’s easy
This conversation isn’t about forcing commitment immediately — it’s about understanding values before a crisis.
3. How Do You Handle Conflict?Do you:A. Take time to process? (Hiding)B. Want to solve it immediately? (Venting)C. Explode emotionally? (Exploding)
Healthy couples address conflicts early and calmly — not through avoidance, disrespect, or fighting.
Ask: What are your long-term intentions? Are we going in the same direction?
4. What Does Emotional Availability Mean to You?Are you emotionally open and vulnerable with your partner? Can they handle it?Emotionally available people share and respect emotions.Emotionally unavailable people hide feelings, punish honesty, or block connection.
If your partner can’t sit with your emotions, the relationship’s depth will be limited.
5. How Do You Recharge — Alone or With People?Introverts often recharge alone.Extroverts recharge through social interaction.
Knowing this prevents misunderstandings when one person needs space and the other wants connection.
Ask: What helps you during stress — space, talking, or distraction?
6. What Does Being Ready for a Relationship Mean to You?Readiness often means:
Emotional healing
Financial stability
Clarity on what you want
You can’t force a casual relationship into a committed one if the other person doesn’t want it.
7. What Does Independence Look Like in a Relationship?Some feel safe with space, others with closeness.Independence is about boundaries — and boundaries build security, not distance.
8. What Are You Still Healing From?Deep, healthy relationships require emotional work and often therapy. Without it, many people can’t truly be emotionally available.
Final ThoughtIf you want a lasting, meaningful relationship, you must:
Ask real questions early
Keep your heart open
Work through your own traumas
Practice honesty, even when uncomfortable
Without this, the relationship will stay on the surface — and surface connections break easily in hard times.

My Video:  How to Get the Perfect Relationship? https://youtu.be/K9WIi04UiQMMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast5/How-to-Get-the-Perfect-Relationship.mp3

 Is a good learner more critical than a teacher?
Without a student, you can’t teach! 
All these overpraising of a teacher crumbles if there is no learner who is surrendering to the teaching!
Imagine you give a seminar over a meaningful topic, and after 1 month you ask the participating students what they have learned… 
It will crumble your ego… 
When you teach, expect that not more than 5% of your students will do what you have said or understand, or memorize the essence …
Again, what is more critical the student or the teacher?  
For what is good, to give a seminar? 
1.) to make money.2.) to build up your ego.3.) to build up self-esteem.4.) to become arrogant.
Mostly what I have learned, I have learned by myself.
And Seminars are the worst place to learn something for me.
Why? 
1.) I can’t stop the teacher when I have not understood anything.2.) I can’t repeat the sentence that was important for me when I have heard it.3.) I get overwhelmed to memorize the most important things.4.) I can’t learn at my pace.5.) If I am tired, I can’t stop the teacher.6.) And I have to go somewhere else, and lose time and energy to travel to the seminar!7.) Most of the seminars are overwhelming for the students…8.) Long seminars over 6 hours are the worst…because usually, we don’t learn for such a long time.  9.) And even I have to spend huge money on seminars…
 I bought Photographs courses from the best photographs (Michael Melfort, Joel Sartore, Bob Christ… ) of this galaxy for a penny… because I waited until the price went down from $1000$ to $50.  I never would exchange these priceless video courses for a seminar with these photographs… 
Because the photograph teachers want to make you happy and present you with excellent arranged photo opportunities and when you come home, you didn’t have learned much… You can’t repeat your success…
If you go to a famous Guru and even he/she is a fake guru if you surrender, your life will change tremendously for your best… 
How many people surrender? Not more than 1 %!!! 
For what should the Gurus be real… for 1 %? 
When I started my inner journey, I learned, and I acted on that…. Bhagwan wanted that we surrender to every guru…
Through an insane Guru, who nobody would surrender, I got my Kundalini. 
When I went to the concert of Nusrat Fathe Ali Khan, I got a Samadhi, and my life changed dramatically. Even I didn’t have known this very fat Nusrat or liked his music… But I surrendered totally when I saw him. I thought I could die because through Nusrat’s energy my heart ached a lot and my heart was beating irregularly and strong.


My Video: A good Learner is more important… https://youtu.be/DpyV0Z5VRr0My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/A-good-Learner-is-more-important….mp3

 The devil was struggling. His devils asked him, what should we do, the people help each other and caring lovely for each other…
MAKE AN ORGANIZATION OUT OF IT!
Yes, and it worked and works everywhere!

The problem is if the LOVE is missing everything will capsize. 
The love should be our driving force for everything…
Why doesn’t the public therapy for drug addiction, or depression is not working?
Why are these so famous Indian spiritual Ashrams have an issue with suicide?
Why are all the Religions failing to give the people the faith and care that they need? 
Why are the people drug addicted?
Why are the people social media addicted? 
Why do people choose FaceBook or Instagram over love? 
Why people choose an unhealthy lifestyle?
Why the NATO countries are choosing Sanction and war to make the world better?
I was in many Ashrams and spiritual growing communities…
And even in Ashrams that were caring for the poor people…
Still, there was no love but cruelty in daily life to function!
For instance in the Ashram of the “Mother of immortal love”, a mother needed milk for her baby and she was willing to pay for it… She got rejected … Yes, every organization is cruel… The cook in the kitchen could not give her the milk, this was permitted!  How to get in a huge Ashram milk that had even cows? Not possible! Even so, I tried my best and then I bought the milk outside of the Ashram.
In the same Ashram happened this … 
A mother and a baby were playing on the beach and the mother left the baby to get a ticket to visit “the mother of immortal love”… The baby went into the water and was drown… 100 of devotees of that Ashram did not do anything to rescue that baby, they just watched it. Even the sea was calm and easy to enter with a perfect sand beach. I swam just 20 minutes before that incident in the Ocean. A roommate of mine came too late to rescue the baby and the devotees abused him, that he dared to enter the sea.
And then they put a signboard in English that the people should not swim there, but the issue was that the Indians can’t swim… and most of them could not read English. For what reasons were the signboards even before that accident, that the Western People should not communicate with the Indians?
This was too much for me, and I left the Ashram, even it was Christmas! Afterward, the book “Holy Hell”  about that Ashram was published from one of the dearest devotees of this “Holy Guru” of that Ashram! Read it!
I have seen only one Ashram where love was the driving force! And that was the Ashram of Osho in Oregon/USA… 
Osho said: You only can help or transform people if you do have a loving heart!
There is only one remedy. LOVE!!!
Kindle love in your heart and the world will change!
If you have love in your heart the world becomes amazing.
The morning will be inspiring and so awesome beautiful …
Just only through love…

My Video: Something about love https://youtu.be/2S1F7Z-73gQMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Something-about-love.mp3

 Even you think bad about me… Still, I like to motivate you to become an egoist… Be open to that!
1. How can you love others if you don’t love yourself?
2. If we don’t value ourselves, how can we value other people?  3. If we don’t appreciate ourselves, how can we appreciate other people?
4. If we don’t compliment ourselves how can we compliment other people?
5. If we are not honest with ourselves, how can we honest with other people?
6. If we don’t adore ourselves, how can we adore other people?
7. If we are not kind to ourselves, how can we be kind to other people?
8. When we do not appreciate and thankful for what we have accomplished in our life, how can we appreciate and thankful to other people?
9. When we can’t forgive ourselves for our failures, mistakes, how can we forgive other people?
10. If we see ourselves as negative or as a failure… then we will see also the other people negative!
11. If we see ourselves as successful, then we can also appreciate other people's success.  
12. When you don’t do what you like, how can you appreciate when people do what they like?
13. When we are jealous about things that other people do, why we don’t do them by ourselves?
14. When we don’t tolerate ourselves, what we are, then we never tolerate and accept other people! Because every person has to fit in our template or Jail… How is it if we break out of our Jail, that we have constructed by ourselves?
15. When we allow ourselves only to think positive, how can we accept other people's negativity, or even speak to them? After the law of polarity, if there is something negative then there must be the same amount something positive… regardless of what we think we are cached in the prison of polarity… There is only one solution: to accept and welcome everything and then the thinking will stop… The problem is judging… 

What is bad to think first on ourselves? 
My Video: The Art to be an egoist! https://youtu.be/QFLpWRBaH9oMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-Art-to-be-an-egoist.mp3

 

How can intelligent, educated people fervently believe demonstrable falsehoods simply because a leader—a known liar, cheat, and failed opportunist—declares them? We all recognize the type: the charismatic demagogue who sells dreams but delivers only betrayal.
Common sense ceases to function when it’s not applied. Yet so many suspend critical thinking to embrace blatant nonsense. Why?
The Cult of the Chronic LiarBlind faith in pathological dishonesty isn’t just irrational—it’s tribal.
People don’t follow such leaders despite the lies but because of them. The lies are loyalty tests.
To question the leader is to betray the tribe. This is how cults operate—whether political or religious.
The High Cost of Independent ThoughtI’ve paid for my skepticism:
Spiritual groups (like Osho’s) were accused of “brainwashing,” yet they encouraged more critical thinking than mainstream society. The irony? It’s the masses who are truly brainwashed.
Politics everywhere is a rigged duopoly:
Germany’s CDU/SPD, America’s Democrats/Republicans, Britain’s Labour/Tories—all serve the same masters: wealth and war.
Every new U.S. president starts 2 wars on average; every system funnels money upward while pretending to debate “left vs. right.”
Why Don’t "Smart" People See This?Cowardice
Most fear isolation more than deception. It’s safer to chant slogans than to stand alone.
Comfort in Illusion
Believing “your side” is virtuous—despite identical outcomes—is easier than admitting the game is fixed.
Manufactured Division
The elite want us fighting over pronouns or tax cuts while they loot the treasury.
Democracy? Or Theater of Compliance?We call this system “democracy,” but it’s really a rotation of masks on the same face. The majority choose their own oppressors because:
Critical thinking is punished (bullying, ostracism).
Conformity is rewarded (social approval, false belonging).
The curse of awareness is loneliness. But the alternative—complicity in collective delusion—is far worse.


My Video:  What is happening  https://youtu.be/Qv0K8gaYrGIMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/What-is-happening.mp3

 Nearly 40 years ago, my friend and I were climbing in the Italian Dolomite… The Eldorado for mountain climbing and skying… 
It is so awesome and exciting to climb the vertical rock walls with a fixed steal robe… 
We climbed through the cave tunnels, constructed in WWI to kill the enemies… my grandfather was one of them… 
And then we climbed the Cristallo Cortina, slept on 3400m in an icy hut, and drinking tea… 
In the morning, we like to climb down….The first snow was coming down…
It was very slippery, slowly we climbed down… Suddenly the weather changed, and it was snowing like crazy… For that, the Dolomite is famous, that from a blue sky, the weather can change to snowing within 15 minutes…
Still, we kept climbing … the massive rock wall was very steep and also the track … we had to go along this wall, the path was 50cm wide, and you could look directly down 500m, one small step wrong … your life is over…
And then an avalanche dropped down, the path was destroyed, and we are desperate…. My Grandfather, a great mountain climber, died through that! 
We were pressing our body against the rock, not to get hit by an avalanche… It was terrible…
My friend said we have only one chance to climb immediately up to the hut… That means 3 hours up… We returned and tried our best to go up as fast as possible without risking to slip down ….
After 2 hours, I got the infamous mountain sickness … I didn’t mention anything, and I was climbing in a total trance, one step after the next… I knew I had the power to overcome everything… Don’t care, just go… Even I was getting so dizzy that I puke, my heart was pounding like crazy…
The last 500m was the worst … My friend saw me and said stop, you have to go down immediately… Never, I can’t … we reached the hut, and I cried… and could not stop crying, it was too much… Quite a lot of mountaineers were sitting in front of the door, and I was crying, and it was so humiliating… They didn’t care, many accidents happened … 
2days ago, we had celebrated our 2.5-hour climb of the big 1000m wall, it was a record… even done by people from a flat area…  now I was crying and mountain sick…
The defeat can come every moment in our life without any warning… Be prepared, and bragging makes everything worse!


My Video: Episode 6, remain humble https://youtu.be/i0J0uGRgEfoMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Episode-6-remain-humble.mp3

 The 3 most important thing for a long-lasting marriage is:
Money: If an overspender is together with a saver…. The marriage is finished… 
Communication: For every intimacy relationship we need to address honestly our problems and to look honestly for a solution… Every couple needs to speak openly overall kind of relationship problems… Otherwise it will not last…
SexIf sex is not working out then one partner starts to cheat…This means both have to fulfill the sexual desires of each other…
What else?
If you are together with a spouse that doesn’t like the parents …If your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t have a lovely relationship with his mother or her father … You will get the same… This means, check whether your boyfriend or girlfriend has a lovely relationship to his mother or her father… If yes, you will get the same if you act accordingly … Look. That they love and respect their parents! After the 75 years research of Harvard University, people with a loving relationship are the happiest, have the best health, and most extended longevity.

Intimacy means you should be vulnerable.  Both should be honest, share their positive as negative emotions. Otherwise, you don’t have an intimacy relationship…
Without total honesty no relationship will work out long-term. 
Both should be loyal in every aspect.
Trust: So more, you trust each other, so better is the relationship.
A couple who can’t enjoy silence can’t enjoy their time!
Forgiveness is a must… If you recognize that your partner doesn’t forgive you and even is blackmailing you with a bad consciousness, separate… With B. S people we don’t want to be together!

A female has to respect his boyfriend and will never expose him in front of other people… Otherwise let her go because every person needs that!
Selfish love doesn’t work out… You don’t want to be together with somebody who is egocentric, like most of all artists… At the end of the day, if you don’t fulfill every desire they treat you badly…. 
You deserve more….
People who love to take selfies everywhere are unable to love! They look for attention, let these creepy guys go… 
Party girls and Gold diggers can’t match a good relationship… For sex they might be good because they remain what they are and will not change to a loyal, trustworthy person! 

My Video: What is the must for a spouse…https://youtu.be/1IO0-A5BlhQ.My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/What-is-the-must-for-a-spouse…..mp3

 

(Based on Chris Lonsdale’s TEDx Talk)
Debunking 2 MythsYou don’t need "talent."
Immersion abroad isn’t required.
"A drowning man can’t learn to swim." Forced immersion without support causes stress, not fluency.
The 5 Principles of Rapid Language AcquisitionRelevance is Key
Focus on content that matters to you (e.g., job, hobbies, survival phrases).
Example: A chef prioritizes kitchen vocabulary over sports terms.
Use It Immediately.
Communicate from Day 1, like a child.
Tool analogy: You master a hammer by hammering, not studying manuals.
Comprehension Before Perfection
Understand messages first → subconscious acquisition follows.
"Comprehensible input" (listening/reading slightly above your level) is the engine.
Physiological Training
Language is muscle memory. Train your mouth/ears to recognize and produce sounds.
Example: Mimic native speakers’ facial movements to nail pronunciation.
Psych State Matters
Learn best when happy, curious, and tolerant of ambiguity.
Rule: Embrace not understanding every word. Focus on what you do grasp.
The 7 Actions to Fluency in 6 Months1. Brain SoakingListen to the language constantly (even passively).
Absorb rhythms, patterns, and repeated phrases.
2. Meaning FirstDecipher messages through context, tone, and body language (like babies do).
3. Mix & CreateCombine known words creatively (*10 verbs + 10 nouns = 1,000+ phrases*).
Example: Baby Okay "Me bath now" → communicates clearly despite "bad" grammar.
4. Master the CoreHigh-frequency words deliver 85% coverage (1,000 words) in most languages.
Week 1: Survival phrases ("What’s this?", "Repeat please").
Week 2: Pronouns + basics ("you," "give," "hot").
Week 4: "Glue" words ("but," "though").
5. Find a "Language Parent"A supportive speaker who:
Understands you without correcting mistakes.
Models correct language naturally.
Avoid: Critical spouses/teachers.
6. Copy the FaceObserve and mimic native speakers’ mouth/tongue movements to perfect sounds.
7. Direct ConnectionLink words to mental images/senses—not translations.
Example: "Fire" → smell smoke, hear crackling, see flames.
Ditch flashcards; build visceral associations.
Key TakeawaysPrioritize comprehension over grammar rules.
Speak immediately—perfection comes later.
Learn like a child: Playful, curious, and unafraid of mistakes.
Quality > quantity: 1,000 relevant words beat 5,000 random ones.
Final Tip: Spend 30+ minutes daily on comprehensible input (e.g., YouTube videos, simple books) + 15 minutes speaking.
Why This WorksBacked by language acquisition research (e.g., Stephen Krashen’s theories).
Mimics how humans learn first languages naturally.
Used by polyglots and military rapid-language programs.

My Video:  How to Learn Any Language in Six Months https://youtu.be/m_hgFPBnDFEMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/How-to-Learn-Any-Language-in-Six-Months.mp3

 Fear is essential! 
Try out to go beyond your imaginations, rules, moralities and try out something entirely new.
Jimmy Rogers, the legendary hedge fund manager has done this again and again… Still, he was the most successful hedge fund manager… Maybe that is why!
We have imprisoned ourselves by our assumption, moralities… and can’t get what we want… 
Even we don’t know what we want…  
Life is too short to wait for that magic moment that everything will change in our favor…
But what is in our favor?
To get rich and successful and to function like a clock or better like the Movie “Clockwork Orange” (Stanley Kubrick) One of the greatest movies!
In this movie, they press the people to fit in the society for every price! 
But we don’t need that, we have done it already by ourselves and locked ourselves in a prison and threw away the key…
But where is the key… 
In a madhouse?  
I read now the roman “Veronika decides to die!” By the famous author Paulo Coelho
Veronika has only a few days to live after her suicide attempt … and she is in a madhouse… 
She discovers her genius talent as a pianist…
She goes beyond her sexual imaginations …
She tries out again and again what she never has tried out before…
And then she started to enjoy her life!!!!

We stop our thinking on the border of our morality…
Morality doesn't understand life... because it is a shortcut to rationalize…
What is beyond our self-imposed rules? 
I got as an Atheist from Bhagwan the spiritual name Ghanshyam. The Meaning is: “This is a name for God and to be unconditionally is an answer of God.”
So what, I experienced as an Atheist through a deep love with my darling God. We both applied the wild sexual Tantra and through that our heart opened to God…For sure, making love in the right way is the path to God… (Read, “The conference of the birds” by the greatest Sufi Atar) Where is love there is God!
I was abused for my wrong writing by my parents as dyslexia and stutterer … I could/can not learn German grammar… And I could not be creative…
Nearly all of my German girlfriend hindered me to speak out what I was thinking. When I forced them to stop their bad behavior and separated I became a creative writer and my stuttering stopped !!! 
Don’t let other people stop you, just leave them alone;- I do always so!!!
I was abused by my father (he was a great musician) for my inability to make music… Guess, I learned to make music on the Sitar, Keyboard, Tabla and singing! 
I suffered from incurable diseases and no doctor could heal them, even our so “great doctors”  killed me (clinical dead) two times … 
Today I am totally healthy because I cured my diseases by myself self and I don’t trust doctors!
A Sufi can keep every rule and break every rule…
Because every rule is a veil in front of God … We should go beyond our rules to discover God.
When a Phoenix dies he burns himself and a new Phoenix is born.
The old Phoenix has to die… until we burn our old ego with all of these rules, assumptions nothing new can happen to us!
So you don’t need to make suicide to discover what is beyond your imagination…
Life can be amazing so why not try out something entirely new? 

My Video: Hey babe, take a walk on the wild side… https://youtu.be/cJeOfBX0InkMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Hey-babe-take-a-walk-on-the-wild-side….mp3

Then miracles will happen. 
Why?  
If we know, what we are making wrong, only then we can change. This makes sense,… Mostly of all people think that they know themselves. 
Oscar Wild said I am by myself the greatest mystery… 
Actually, we don’t even know our self…  
And if we make mistakes then we blemish the other people…. 
In relationships, other people see us much better, than we see ourselves… Because we are blind by our mistakes, short longings, bad habits and …
I had a girlfriend in Munich and I was living in Bremen (800km distance). On a beautiful day in Munich, I visited her. Before that, I recognize that mainly all Munich citizens had been in a bad mood, because of the Foehn wind (the Foehn is changing the people's moods when they live in such area). 
I arrived and she was nagging on me like crazy, I could not bear that and escaped to the English Garden… After some time I realized, she was the embodiment of my inner child, that was nagging like her… 
I came back to her, and without saying anything; she said, that she had been stroked from a cognition, that she was treating me badly because of her bad mood… 
The Sufis are saying, that the spouse is a reflection of ourselves; so all that we see on bad habits, mistakes that we have also somehow inside of us…. 
The Saint Krishnamurty said, you are the world, what you see that you are. 
or Goethe said, your own sins you find first on other…  And it is really magic, if we recognize in the right moment our mistake then the outcome will change…. 
Self-knowledge is the first step for improvement….
My Video: Learn to criticize yourself! https://youtu.be/pLPlsI0df9wMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Learn-to-criticize-yourself.mp3