Relax with Meditation

The Statistic is just like a bikini, the most interesting things are hidden! If we look at the online dating, we discover a lot of wrongs or funny interpretation… The Question: How important is that your boyfriend has the same race… Most of all western women will say… Not important. But this is contrary to the reality. Now we look at a real statistic. If we assume that women with smaller breasts than average are married to smaller guys than average. The logic tells us that tall women or women with big breasts prefer big men. That is nonsense. The reality is that all women preferring big guys because their inherent nature wants big babies and they want protection. Is for women the appearance or wealth of their mate more important? The reality, if all male has the same attractive appearance, the guy who earns $60000 is chosen 9 times more over the man who makes only XDollar.  For men is it not important whether the female is in the lower or upper 10% of income. If a guy is unattractive (10% bottom of appearance) and earns more than $268.000 a year and the handsome (10% top of appearance) man makes $60000 the unattractive guy is the top favorite… Again logic tells us that women care about money more than appearance. The difference between $60000 and $268000 is huge. If you earn $1000 more than the other guy, you will not be the top favorite!!! My Video: What is right in the Statistic? https://youtu.be/HU3hh1o3OdM My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/What+is+right+on+the+Statistic..mp3

Where is a negative mind there is also a positive mind. Watch the movement of a pendulum. If the pendulum is going slowly upwards to the left side it collects the energy for the movement to the right side. The pendulum reaches its highest point and then it turns its direction and accelerated to the downside and over the middle it reaches its highest speed. The pendulum doesn’t like to stay in the middle or without any movement. And exactly so is our thinking. We don’t think when we are whether be positive or negative, we stay in the middle. And not thinking to connect us with the divine. Not thinking is superior to any thinking. At first, we have to accept our negative mind. Example, a visitor came to a meditation master and asked how can I gain peace of mind. The meditation master replied, never think of rats… The visitor thought, why?  I normally don’t think of rats. And the meditation master elaborated why he should not think of rats. At home, the visitor went to meditation and always thought on rats.  We attract what we don’t want or what is forbidden. If I demand to drop the thinking, for sure I will think more. This over stupid concept in positive thinking results in more negative thinking or even worse in suppressing our negative feelings and thoughts. If we suppress our negative emotions and thoughts we attract diseases, like cancer or negative situations.  We learn to accept our negative emotions and thoughts. The world and our life have always a positive and negative pole. And so it comes that we gain a negative mind and a positive mind… Still, we focus our life on the positive things and we see the negative side, too. It is to 100% proofed that the feelings creating the thoughts. 80% of our thoughts are fear driven. Because our mind wants to protect us, and so we think always how we can avoid suffering. Only 20% of our thinking is for our benefit, pleasure. If we get rid of our fears, we get peace in the mind! Make a fear lists with the worst case scenery, prioritize them, and the fears are gone. Learn to meditate! My video: How to get rid of a negative mind? https://youtu.be/xzB3zwjwUVA My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/How+to+get+rid+of+a+negative+mind.mp3

It is a direction, not a destination. If we want a healthy life, we should focus on the here and now. This moment is the most precious moment in our life. All this goal setting should not prevent us to be in the here and now. What is more important than to live an extraordinary life in the here and now? This process starts now, and it ends in the now! Is really the destination relevant when we are not happy and fulfilled? If we are happy, healthy and fulfilled is the goal important? All our dreams end in a disaster if we can’t enjoy the journey. When I see again and again in my life the most important things didn’t contribute to happiness, fulfillment, and health… The most important things are just like a Fata Morgana. How would it be if we make the step in the direction to enjoy now, to see the purpose of life to learn… Then every experience would be a life worth because we can learn from that. We focus our life on our goals, and every experience would enhance our lives as learning. Our primary focus should be the here and now. I had learned to write with 10 fingers for my orthography program, when I was 10 years old and a dyslexic. And today I see the purpose … My previous goal was to write without errors, that will never happen for a dyslexic. And today I write books with an automatic correction. Go through your life and see this madness to get the most important things, that today are meaningless. All our passions are needed. Still, is suffering from trivial things necessary? If we have no passions, we have no life… Or we live a spiritual life where passions are not important. Our desires are nightmares….And at the same time, they give us the purpose to live, to hope,… My Video: The good life is a process, not a state of being.   https://youtu.be/4z9OVelaCnw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/the+good+life+is+a+process.mp3

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself, Franklin d. Roosevelt. Most people live in a constant state of fear and worry without even knowing it. We can easily see that other people are fear-driven, but we can’t see it by ourselves. Your own sins you see at first with others. (Goethe) Our fear is driven by external or internal influences The politician, the companies, are living from our fears. We think terrorist are dangerous… for instance in Germany are getting every year 44000 people killed by doctors… The pharmaceutical industry sells us vaccines or drugs that make our health even worse, and we buy them because we are afraid to get ill or to die… Inside of us, we have many fears from our childhood and these fears are our decision maker, even we don’t notice it. Every decision we make is fear or pleasure driven. 80% of our decisions are made to avoid pain. 20% of our decisions are made to gain pleasure. The first step of our solution is, we should be aware of our fears. If we are not aware of our fears, our fears dictate our life. How can we find our hidden fears? Ask yourself these Questions to find your hidden fears! Why we have the concerns, fears when we like to do new things? What will the people think about me? Do I need really this thing does it makes me safer? Why are we not doing our things differently instead to follow our old strategies?  Why don't we like to change our comfortable life? Why we can’t approach different people? Maybe we have the fear won't be accepted? Fear is a bad guide! We should face our fears, get rid of them and life becomes amazing. Make your fear lists with the worst outcome that you can imagine… Prioritize your worst scenarios… Find solutions for every fear…. And you will see that your fears are gone! Is it not better to go earlier in bed instead of seeing this crime or horror movie? My Video: How to manage our fears? https://youtu.be/ZEI1q_c9XjY My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/How+to+manage+our+fears.mp3

When I attended the Seminars with T. Harv Eker and J. T. Fox they told us to delegate all the labor that we don’t like, that we are too qualified for and that we are not good enough… When I heard that, I thought that is nonsense… I went to the Seminar from Brendon Burchard and he told us that he is making more money in the Seminar Business than T. Harv Eker because he is making nearly everything by himself. Still, he takes 3 months off from his work every year… The same told me. my father, who was, again and again, entrepreneur of the year… He said no big firm can beat a good running small firm in revenue! Because of so bigger the firm or the team so more ineffective. With a small team where everybody does everything to get the things done, where the communication is good, the work is done fast and good. When I was working in a small firm as a designing engineer for automation, I had also to make the contracts with the firms, to make the best deals and to repair everything, like milking machines, sawmills, harbor cranes, color factories,… My boss trained me to bargain like crazy so that we could make good profits… But is that engineering work? Robert Kiyosaki from Rich Dad, Poor Dad… What I can’t, I have to learn to become better… So more we outsource, so more we lose the control and our money. We are human beings, and if we concentrate mainly on one subject and skip all of our other abilities our mind becomes distorted, we attract severe brain diseases … Because we have also to do the very simple tasks to relax our mind… be it to play with kids, to paint the walls, to iron our shirts, to work in the garden, to clean the house, to wash the car… I remember when I was in India and we had to do the pot washing for 20000 people… In one of my night shifts, there had been 3 Professors, 1 Doctor and me as the “unqualified engineer” was in charge… Be flexible and try to learn from everybody!!! My video: I am too qualified for that  https://youtu.be/LM5lC45Toxk My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/I+am+too+qualified+for+thatmp3.mp3

I struggled quite a lot when I heard that the best alternative Doctor who was also spiritual from my hometown died in the Tsunami. How can that be, it doesn’t make sense! She helped so many sick people, why she had to die and not me in the Tsunami? I faced also the Tsunami and could prevent to get hurt from the Tsunami. When seeing a good dad dying too early, we think he doesn’t have deserved that? His family is helpless without him, and maybe we blemish God that God didn’t have prevented his death. Everybody has to care for his own body and should live a healthy lifestyle. There is enough information out, to prevent severe diseases. And this is also true for every good guy!!!! The great saints like Ramakrishna and Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan died in their 40th…  Are we may be wondering, why God could not prevent their early death? For what is God good? And maybe, we wonder why the Chinese saints are getting so old (above 100)? Is maybe something wrong with our ideology or the saints ideology? – Our body is God’s temple and we have to respect our temple and to live a healthy life!!! God gives us to the right time from inside tips to prevent catastrophes, death, struggles or diseases. When we are ignorant and don’t want to hear that tips coming from inside, or our gut-feelings, then we have deserved the punishment!!! And that is true for everybody. The Bible tells us: “Not knowing doesn’t prevent us for punishment.” This means we have to get informed and to act on the right information, regardless how holly or good we are. It is so easy and common to blemish God for our own mistakes. How would it be that we learn to hear on our Gut-feelings and to act on that? It never existed a human being, be it a saint or genius, who had been always right in every area of his life. We all make mistakes and we have to learn from them. Instead to ignore our mistakes!!!! And when we read that the pope can’t fail or other proclamation from these so great holly saints, we should laugh about their vanity or ignorance. Because these holly guys don’t want to learn and want to be always right!!! My video: Why ignorance hurt us so much? https://youtu.be/4gznWvIhTio My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/why+ignorance+hurt+us+so+much.mp3

Now I like to help to improve your relationships! 1) Giving advice without permission… That stinks. We all have some problems, and we want just to speak about our problems… We need somebody for hearing and not someone for some good advice. Before we even have finished speaking about our worries, comes advice…. This blocks us to tell something personal. If this happens again and again with a friend, we need another friend where we can tell personally about something… Many people don’t like to hear about other problems because they are full of own problems or want just enjoy their times. And these people are not the right spouse or friend for us. When we like to give feedback, we should ask for permission… 2.) Ignoring or neglecting their feelings If we are in a close relationship, we should expect that our partner is honest and showing his or her feelings as they are. We don’t want that (s)he is pretending that everything is okay when (s)he feels bad, is stressed, angry, sad… We want to build up intimacy, and so we care for our partner. At first, we check how (s)he is feeling, and if we feel something is not okay we ask … Are you all right, … And again when our partner is telling us what happens, we don’t give any advice or feedback. Only when we are asked, we provide feedback. We are present and listen; nothing more or we ask for more details that we can understand him or her better. And through that, our partner will unburden his/her problems. 3.) We fail to give feedback when it is needed. Our spouse wants to solve his/her problems and need our help. For instance, (s)he is desperate how to solve a problem… And we say; I don’t know; it doesn’t matter; I’ll be fine whatever you chose… In these cases, we show that we have no interests….. If we don’t know a solution, we ask smart questions to find a solution. If we think that doesn’t matter, we explain that all the solutions can have the same outcome, and we can’t forecast the future. If we are fine whatever (s)he chose, we need to find together the solution, or we decide for our spouse. My video: How to worsen every relationship? https://youtu.be/rRoHQJ1XbGI My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/How+to+worsen+every+relationship.mp3

If we follow the rules, we never will have enough… If we go on vacation, we see how less we need. When we were 18, we were happy to stay in our tent during the rain, and loved to be free… We traveled on a minimum and could easily connect to the people, met awesome, funny people and today? If you have never done so, do it! And then we started our career and never got satisfied, we didn’t had enough and were in the rate race… Why we want more? When we are satisfied, we are happy with any outcome. When I was learning sitar, my teacher gave me a very bad sitar, and I complained. Then he took the sitar and played beautifully on her.  The reality was that I could not play well and this goes to everything...  Be it the better photo camera, better sports equipment, tools, the designer cloth,  ... What missing is that we are not satisfied and want a surrogate satisfaction. Instead, to become better, we are looking outside for the better equipment. We have to work much harder to get the better things and suffer for that. When our friend, the neighbor has the new better smartphone, car we want that too... For what? Life is more complicated, we take a loan from the bank to afford these items.   What would happen if we would be happy and thankful for the things we already have? Would we prostitute us for the consume things anymore? All these consumer pressure our must to upgrade will lead to a misery life. If we would try to downscale our life to enjoy more our free time, and to quit TV, our stressful job, life; life would be marvelous. We can’t buy happiness. We lose our freedom our time for meaningless things that we must to have. How does it comes that we have been happier with fewer things when we were 18 or 20? People call me crazy, why I travel so cheap? I never was happy when I traveled in luxury. My greatest travel experiences were always when I stayed cheap… And you say I can’t get the same experience when I today live cheap as I was before. I ask you why? Now I am at the K.L. Airport sitting on the ground and writing on my Laptop, before I was in the rest area ate my fruits on the ground and meditated before… Why we should not do what we like? Or is it better to do what the society is dictating us?  We should work hard, and become wealthy, with a fancy car and a beautiful house, with kids … I can’t see that this will make us happy. My Video: Less is much more.  https://youtu.be/ibC44P1R-a0 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/less+is+much+more.mp3

“Only a man who knows what it is like to be defeated can reach down to the bottom of his soul and come up with the extra ounce of power it takes to win when the match is even.”(Mohamed Ali) Our life is for learning and not for accomplishments! We learn much more if we get defeated than if we win. Inside of a ring or out, ain’t nothing wrong with going down. It’s staying down that’s wrong.”   (Mohamed Ali) All the power struggle in life can make us strong, resilient or weak and frustrated. This is our choice, or it depends on our childhood. The people who give up easily have learned that in their childhood. The smooth and lovely youth will backfire later. The hardships in the childhood can make the people strong or addicted. Most of all high achiever had a very tough childhood. Because of their struggles in their infancy, they become these extraordinary people… “Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them – a desire, a dream, a vision.”(Mohamed Ali) If we don’t have that deep desire or that felt mission we can’t accomplish that huge goal. For instance, I can’t get wealthy, because I don’t have that deep desire, that must…! And other great things I could accomplish because it was a must… Should our life be tough to get what we want? Or should we are tough to get what we want? Is it mandatory to reach to the top to enjoy our life? If we can’t enjoy the small things in life, we can’t enjoy the big things in our life! If we enjoy our life and don’t get what we want we didn’t have passed out in our life. If we can’t accomplish the big goals, we still can enjoy our life. The big goals are mainly ego trips. The big goals are for the people who can suffer hard to get them fulfilled or for the individuals who attract the right circumstances to get them. Our choice are: to enjoy our life and to attract the things or to suffer hard to get what we want. What is your choice?   My Video: Why should be defeated to be bad? https://youtu.be/9-NTZd2sSn8 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/Why+should+be+defeated+be+bad.mp3

Every effort, money, energy and time, I invested in my health and spirituality I got many times back. The Dalai Lama said when a man is old or thick, he thinks on health. Maybe then it is too late! What is the most expensive bed? The deathbed! Think about what is useful when you terminal ill? Maybe your health? If I would offer the terminal ill people a chance to get cured through an alternative healing, most of them are too stingy and say they can not afford it!! What can they risk? Instead to use everything to get cured.  What is the second most expensive bed? The sick bed! Can you get another guy paid to be sick for you? How many days you suffer and can’t follow your agenda or to have fun? Your health is not granted.  We have to step back to protect our body. Stress, Suppressing of negative feelings and an Unhealthy lifestyle cause all diseases. The health is connected with the spirituality. In a healthy body is also a healthy Spirit. Our spirituality is intertwined with our health. If we want to be healthy, we need to purify us from the reasons to be sick. Your body is God’s own temple! How can we torment our body for meaningless things or ego trips? We got this body to live our dreams and should not torture our body with diseases we could prevent. Prevention is the best doctor: If we are aware of our negative feelings and intention; we can avoid many diseases. With Qigong, we can protect us against diseases. Why is spirituality so important? It gives us peace of the mind and bliss to every time. We can free us from the worldly struggle and identification. It shows us to be happier and fulfilled with less. It is the path to health. Imagine you have everything that you want. Still, your ego wants more recognition, money, position, girls, boys, … With the spiritual path, we lessen us from the grip of our ego and enjoy so more our life.  My video: What is the best investment? https://youtu.be/4lGodnhXo0c My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/what+is+the+best+investment.mp3