Relax with Meditation

 

We need a connection to people.

The Loneliness epidemic or better isolation is happening right now. 
Loneliness is a killer it is like smoking 15 cigarettes a day and can shorten our lives by 20%.
Poor or insufficient social connection is the cause.Premature death, 29% more heart attack, stroke and 30%Increase risk for depression, anxiety, and dementia.
One statistic shows if you had with the age 40 to 45 years, twice as many meaningful relationships then you would live 20% longer.
How do we form connections?
Through meaningful conversation, we enjoy the conversation with our new friends.
On the other hand, speaking is silver and silence is gold.
We know superficial conversations are just time fillers and a waste of our time.
People don’t like to get uncomfortable, or anxious when they talk… In the end, they even forgot what was the purpose.
For what are Superficial talks good? 
Only when we enjoy them.Just to talk doesn’t make sense!
I go straight to the point to get things done or speak about the things that concern me instead of blah, blah. 
And that is meaningful. 

Vulnerability tends to be the loudest expression we can make...If you are vulnerable, people will listen to you much more. 
Supercommunicators ask 10 to 20 times more questions than the average.Everybody can become a super communicator. These are just skills.
What is a supercommunicator?If we talk to them it makes us happy, or we profit from that.

Is a super communicator also a super connector?
Communication is when I have a feeling that I communicate, and you describe it in your brain, so we feel. Then the other person feels understood and so stronger becomes the connection. The opposite is also true the other person doesn’t feel aligned with you… and can’t do things with you.
The first skill is he proves that he listens and understands. 1.  Ask a question.2. He repeats what you have said in his own words.3. Ask if you got it right.
So then the other person feels understood.
To build relationships is asking questions, so that you can understand the person and the other feels understood, closer to you.
You must be curious to be someone so the other person feels interested.
How does communication work?
1. In Different discussions, we want to solve something or want to understand the person.
First, we ask deep questions about what the other wants to converse about.Our values, and beliefs, or both...
For instance, What are your beliefs, and values that convinced you to become a lawyer?
Oh, you are a lawyer, what makes you study law… They match the person and want the other match to them back.
And then you understand what are his motivations… so you can connect.
And the next conversation will be much easier and we can connect...

2. Emotional communication, you don’t want a solution...
You want to share how you feel or other people feel.Ask do you want to solve that or do you want me to listen to get understood.
Then I can match emotionally this person.Our breathing synchronizes with our brain waves.

Do you want to be heard, helped, or?Hugged?

3. Social conversation how we see ourselves in society and how society sees us. And how we get along with people.

All conversations are negotiation.
First quiet negotiation here is the goal not to win, simply to understand what the other person wants.
We signal to each other that we like us and that we can interrupt.So that we work out the rules, when we say how we want to talk, with or without interruption
Every experiment is a success. If you want to succeed with failure, then you win. 
If we share our vulnerability and the other does the same, we feel closer. If the other person doesn’t do so, at least empathy.
My Video: Master the Art of Communication https://youtu.be/TNkwvpA9qjMMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Master-the-Art-of-Communication.mp3

 After the American Statistic, every 4th American women are taking anti-depression medicaments, and every 3rd American have a mental disorder!  Many medicaments are increasing or causing depression, like all psychopharmaceutic, blood, and cholesterol lowering medicaments... Please look up the side effects, for every medicament that you take. (See link at the end).
The best things that are working against depression, sadness, instability are a sport ( physical workouts if possible outside) combined with gratitude. This formula was developed in London, and it worked for everybody! 
Why? 
Emotions are feelings in motion. If we suppress our feelings (positive thinking supports suppressing of feelings), our feelings getting blocked and causing such depression and diseases; piling up and can erupt at our worst time, can even cause suicide. This means we should feel our emotions!
Every insane person has less or no contact with his body. After WW2 they put the traumatized people from the war in a Gym … After a strong workout, the insane people calmed down and could speak normally... This means, sport is calming down everybody and give us stability, so it works against depression.The depressed and sad people are complaining about their life, other people, and the world. They can’t see what is good for them or what is good in their life. How is it, that the depressed person is making every day a gratitude list and focuses his/her mind on what is good in his/her life?How would it be, if we exchange/share honesty our feelings and thoughts with a friend, our spouse or a family member? In that case, depression has not anymore the power over us.
Stop seeing negative movies, hearing negative music, reading negative media or books. Mainly all depressive people hearing, seeing negative reading things, how would it be to stop that?  
All kind of drugs causing and increasing our depression. The same is true for using the smartphone, TV, Video games, computer as a device to suppress our feelings;. Beware of that!
 Instead of the sport we can also choose to dance wild at home or in a disco. For instant: See the great movie: “Zorba The Greek” with Antonie Queen or Bhagwan/Osho had to recommend dancing for depression/ sadness.
When we have depression or tendency to get easy depression, we choose to make strong workouts or dance every day for at least 1 hour. Even without depression, we should choose to do these workouts for the sake of our body and emotional health. I by myself do more workouts, 1 hour is too less for me! 
Also, it is for everybody the best to make a gratitude list and/or think “thank you” for everything that happens to us… In everything bad is also the same amount of good. 
If we want to connect to people, we choose, to be honest, and to share our feelings and thoughts. Please make no show!!!!
We choose to feel more, instead of to suppress our feelings.

My video: What to do with depression?   https://youtu.be/x9ZnDBsslDMMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/What-to-do-with-depression.mp3

 For sure not, if we compare how much time we lose on our smartphone, tablet or PC...
If we want to gain faith in God or even better to connect to God, we have to do much more. Without surrendering to God, we can’t achieve that.
For instance, I have decided for myself to live a religious life, this means, to be honest, to care for people and to surrender my life to God. 
On the other hand, the great religious leaders have total failed, remember the sex scandals from the Catholic Church...The pastors sexual abused the kids and no punishment so that 50% of the American Catholics left the church...(Pope Benedict resigned because he was facing criminal charges by the People's Common Law for crimes against humanity perpetrated by the Vatican church. Slaughter of innocent Native children in Canada, poisoning of populations, human trafficking, child torture, and many more things.) 
For the Dalai Lama, everything is good,… Chögyam Trungpa for instance, the famous Meditation Master, died from liver cirrhoses because of his alcohol consume!!! 
Wealthy families are buying a Lama title for their first child; Rinpoches (high religious leaders) procreate secretly or openly their own kids, and for sure their children are Rinpoches, or you can buy this title… Today after a 6-week meditation course you can teach meditation… I can't understand that the monks eat animals, beat children who like to become monks; and at the same time saying, they have compassion for every being. The sex and corruption scandals of the Thai monks are normal. 
The Hindu Guru sex and corruption scandals are devastating, read the books: “Holly Hell” (over Mata Amritananda Mai Devi)  or “Cartwheels in a Sari” (over Sri Chinmoy). India is the biggest slaughterhouse in the world. And even for the Indian Hindus, it is forbidden to eat and kill animals. 
For the Muslim in the Turkey, it is recently allowed to marry girls under 16 and to have sex with them and why death penalty for girls who had approached a man in Iran without sex...? The German’s young girls are afraid to go alone out, because of the Syrian refugees in Germany who are raping them. For the Muslim men in worse Muslim Countries, women/girls have no rights, no soul...
Why are the religious leaders against SEX, even they have SEX secretly and abuse us when we enjoy SEX? SEX has nothing to do with GOD, Religion!!!! 
The basic fundamentals of any Religion are, to be honest, to care for the divine/God/Allah and to care for the people. 
If we see the whole picture:
With all these abusing of God, Religion, Sex (double moral). Enjoying brutal, rude movies. Making wars just out of fun. Printing money like crazy…  What can we expect for our future? Do you really think that God will help and protect us under these circumstances? 

If God would have created a perfect world, who would think any more of God. (Attar)?


My video: Are 5 times praying enough? https://youtu.be/CgPfS0_ub1kMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/Is-5-times-praying-enough.mp3

 

Our friend became so ill that she should undergo a gallbladder surgery to remove her gallbladder. We decided against that!!! Because the operation harms more than it helps.Instead, we made with her a Liver Cleanse… Problem solved!

The liver and gallbladder are so crucial for our well being:
1.) Fatigue, lack of appetite, loss of energy, weight loss.2.) Jaundice.3.) After Chinese Medicine, the Liver is emotionally anger and compassion. 

How to do a Liver Cleanse?  Olive Oil: half cup (120 ml)(light olive oil is easier to get down),FRESH pink or yellow GRAPEFRUIT: 1 large or 2 small, enough to squeeze 1/2 (120 ml) cup juice. Wash the fruit in hot water two times first and dry well each time.Epson Salt 60g mix it with 720ml water.

Take no medicines, vitamins, or pills that you can do without; they could prevent the treatment’s success. Eat a no-fat breakfast and lunch such as cooked cereal, fruit, fruit juice, green Smoothy, vegetable with rice. (no butter or milk).
2:00 PM. Do not eat or drink after 2 o'clock. If you break this rule, you could feel quite ill later. Get your Epsom salts ready. Mix 4 tbs. (60 gr) in 3 cups (720 ml) water and pour this into a jar. This makes four servings, ¾ (180 ml) cup each. 
6:00 PM. Drink one serving (¾ cup - 180 ml ) of the  Epsom salts with water. Afterward, drink a little bit water to get that Epsom salt out of your mouth. 8:00 PM. Repeat by drinking another ¾ cup (180 ml)of Epsom salts.
9:45 PM. Pour ½ cup (120 ml) (measured) olive oil into the pint jar.  Wash grapefruit twice in hot water and dry; squeeze by hand into the measuring cup. Remove pulp with a fork. You should have at least ½ cup (120 ml), or more (up to ¾ cup- (180 ml) is best. Add this to the olive oil. Close the jar tightly with the lid and shake hard or do it in an electric blender. It must be perfectly blended!!!
Now visit the bathroom one or more times, even if it makes you late for your ten o'clock drink. Don't be more than 15 minutes late. You will get fewer stones.10:00 PM. Stand up, drink the olive oil with the grapefruit juice you have mixed. Get it down as fast as possible regardless of what…  (within 5 minutes for patience 15minutes) 
You might fail to get stones out if you don't get it down. 
The sooner you lie down, the more stones you will get out. Be ready for bed ahead of time. As soon as you have finished the drink, walk to your bed and lie down flat on your back with your head up high on the pillow. Try to think about what is happening in the liver. Try to keep perfectly still for at least 20 minutes. You may feel a train of stones traveling along the bile ducts like marbles. There is no pain because the bile duct valves are open (thank you Epsom salts!). Go to sleep, you may fail to get stones out if you don't.
Next morning. Upon awakening take your third dose (180 ml)of Epsom salts. If you have indigestion or nausea wait until it is gone before drinking the Epsom salts. You may go back to bed. Don't take this potion before 6:00 am.
2 Hours Later. Take your fourth (the last) dose of Epsom salts. You may go back to bed again.


My Video: How to do a Liver Cleanse? https://youtu.be/JhQr_tFIY4Q
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/How-to-do-a-Liver-Cleanse.mp3

 

I am not a version, I am not a car... For me, the best version is ego-related. I don't want to be identified with any version or ego...
Identification is sorrow, said Krishna. 
If we want to improve, then we do that without growing our ego. 
For every "I", we have to suffer (quote Sufis).If we brag or tell how better we are. Then after some time, our vanity will be punished…
Because in this world nobody wants to see that other people advance… Be humble.
How do I do it? Do your best, regardless of where! When you fail, you can’t regret of misdoing because you have done your best. 
We are the spirit and not a worldly version... 
Next year we will not become a new version of the BMW MX? 
We don’t want to sacrifice our lives, health, and relationships for success! 
We don’t want to become a robot, we want to enjoy our life.-
Regardless of what our worldly or spiritual goals are. 
If I learn a new skill, then I don't become a better version because I don't want to have a bigger ego. 
If you can watch your thoughts and emotions without identifying with them, then there must be something greater than your thoughts and emotions…We call that the witness. We are rather more the witness, than our thoughts, emotions, and body… 
To watch the body unidentified is for most people difficult.You need for that a spiritual awakening or the Kundalini. 
My Video:  The best version of you?  https://youtu.be/CmwGZlS3sXIMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/The-best-version-of-you.mp3

 Or how to connect with people

What to do?
Observation: When we want to speak about anything we should tell neutral, without judging what we have seen/heard, in any case, don’t judge people. So the auditorium can understand us. If the auditorium responds emotionally with blaming, still, we remain neutral and ask:         Why or what had hurt his/her feelings?          What is the hurting component?          If we do so, we connect with the other person!  
Feelings:  We tell how we feel about that subject so that we can connect. If we get a negative feedback with abusing (we remain neutral), again we ask:          What has the other person understood?          How he/she had interpreted what we have said?          So that we can understand the other person.
Needs: We communicate what we need at that moment, on information, feedback from the other person,- clear and concise.
Request: We say what we want from that other person, make it Clear! For instance, please help me… If the other person saying: No to our request, we accept that. Maybe we can ask if he/she can do something else for us? 


For instance: I applied for a job as a student at a big Coffee producer. We had been about 50 students (females and males). The job description was just to pack the coffee and Cocoa packages. The supervisor addressed me and said; you look very strong, for you is the best to work in the production (this means tough work). I didn’t like that and was complaining that this is not after the description of the job. This means, I was hurt and my needs were to work together with these cute female students and have fun with them... The supervisor just embraced me, could understand my feelings and console me. This was the perfect response from a natural human being … 
Many times discussing doesn’t work out, when feelings are hurt; just this loving embracing from a hard, strong looking guy made everything easy. All we need is love and compassion. His needs was a strong guy, so he explained my work to mix the Nesquik chocolate powder (18 tons/every day) and that I get the highest salary. He requested my help, and my request was to earn big money and not to work 3 shifts like the other students... Everything was solved within minutes. That is non-violent communication.
If we apply these non-violent communications, we should never use the words… You should, or I deserve… Because then we are not neutral and don’t let the other person a choice. We don’t force the other person to our outcome; nor we will give any advice, without the permission of the other person. If the other person is getting emotional, -angry, sad… We just breathe deep in and out, relax and look what the other person really wants. Even the other person doesn't want to fulfill our request we remain neutral...
Our goal is always to connect with people and not to manipulate or misuse a person for our desires. 
If we together with our spouse/friends/kids/parents, look in the eyes and just embrace, give a lovely kiss when the other person is hurt, instead of discussing…!!!!! Even better we can do that always... So the world becomes better!!!!


My Video: Non-violent communication  https://youtu.be/theKluFmEZc  My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. 
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A\Non-violent-communication.mp3

 It is much easier than you think.  You think I am not beautiful enough… 
I have seen so many times handsome guys are together with unattractive or fat girls… The average beautiful girls are more attractive than the super sexy, beautiful girls… After research. The most beautiful girls even think that they are unattractive.
Don’t be a feminist. Boys don't like or rather more hating feminists… If boys detect a feminist attitude in the girl they want, it is the biggest turndown. Men have a network if a girl is known as a feminist… She doesn’t have any chance anymore to get a man. 
Men love to speak openly about everything with their girlfriend.  Love to do their sport, hobbies with their girlfriend. 
For sure a girl who likes only to go shopping, makeup and sit behind a TV or making smartphone are not attractive…
How to get your handsome guy?
Go where are more boys than girls…
Be around and in front of him as much as possible. 
Be shy and make this hiding and in the eye looking game. Smile at him… 
Men like to be a hero or a problem solver….
Get a problem and ask…
Get involved with him, flat him, smile and say how attractive he is for you, and in the end say… I love you… 
Men love sex… If you are not super attractive, get him in your bed, and the man is lost in his lust to you… 
If you are beautiful, don’t do so, only when you want a one-night stand… Because you don’t want to be only a sex attractor… 
You want that the guy has an interest in you, that he is a man and not such a lousy wimp or coward you see everywhere… If so, you must accept that the guy is deciding for you and that he is an integer. Test him!!!   
My video: How to Date Boys? https://youtu.be/6wBrpqxZk18My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/How-to-Date-Boys.mp3

 

Arnold Schwarzenegger
I am not a fan of Arnold Schwarzenegger,...
Still, if people want to become successful they find great value in his 7 tools for life.For the spiritual and religious path, we can successfully apply also his tools.
The best times are the worst times…
We find God on the battlefield of our life…
Or in the bible, book of Job, and Hindu scripture we find enough support for his 7 tools!If you have to suffer to accomplish worldly things that are minor to spirituality, then you suffer even more for advancement on the inner path!
And that confirms my episodes…
“It’s all about hard work… there’s no shortcut and you have to put the work in.”
“You can only strengthen your character and become a powerful person inside if you have resistance if you fail if you get up again and if you work hard and if you work your ass off and if you struggle.”
If you train your biceps, so more resistance you give them, so more pain there is, so the more it grow. The same is true with the human mind.
The Human mind can only grow, through resistance, you can strengthen your character and become a strong person inside if you have resistance, if you fail and get up again and you work hard and you work your ass up, you struggle… So the more you struggle so further you go and so stronger you get.
“Anyone that tries to Baby themselves and pamper themselves and trying to protect themselves… I don’t to feel bad, …you’re never going to get there.”
“You have to be able to struggle… accept pain, misery, and discomfort… the more you experience the things that you don’t like, the more you can grow and the tougher you get and so more you can handle”
And today the younger generation is avoiding pain, struggle… They want to feel good,“This country was built by ballsy women and men who struggled, fought, and worked their butts off.”
And today society/ politicians are building up a generation of wimps and weak people...
Their concern is how I feel today, I don’t want to be hurt.Instead of teaching how to become strong, and tough.

My Video: Be useful seven tools for life  https://youtu.be/jgI7pmgaze0My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Be-useful-seven-tools-for-life.mp3

 Make two lists: Why you can’t change your habit? Why do you want to change your habit? Feel your feelings that are in the way to change your habit.Learn the right habit.Repeat the right habit again and again until your subconsciousness is reprogrammed.
One example, there was a time in my life, dogs were barking angrily on me and attacked me (it might be spiritual connected…) My friend told me, just snap with one hand the snout of the dog, so that he can’t open it anymore, and with the other hand the neck. When I just left his home, I went straight to the place with the mad dogs. I faced my fears… (Zen: feel your fears and don’t be your fears); three big hunting dogs attacked me. What I made was my friend told me, and the dog was whimpering,- the other dogs run away. Afterward, I went to the dog-owner and charged money for my sweatshirt, that was torn from the dog. I never had fear again of dogs.
Next example, I as a shy, innocent, introvert boy had fear to approach girls. What to do?
I attended groups related to that (Sexual awareness… ). In these groups, I faced and released my traumas, and then it was much easier with girls…Still, I was afraid to date girls. This means the girls dated me. I overtook the strategy of the girls...
 When I saw a sweet, lovely girl, I looked into her eyes from a distance, smiled and approached her… I felt my feelings and read her emotions. When I saw, that she like to have me, I embraced her and we went to bed. Easy to do for everybody, even without saying anything...
Why is this concept to change a habit working?
We perceive our environment or situations through our past memories... This means if strong emotions occur through a case, we repeat that situation from our past. The emotion of our past memories are showing up, even this has nothing to do directly with our situation now. 
For instance fear of dogs, fear of dating as I described before. 
We all have feelings, and our feelings should not be the decision maker in our life! Suppression of feelings doesn’t work because we decide unaware through our suppressed feelings. Zen makes it so clear and straightforward: Feel your feelings and don’t be your feelings.
If we are lazy, don’t like to do a task, ask yourself why… 
Make a list why you can’t do the task and a list why you want to do that task... Face that feeling that is in your way. And do it! 
My video: How to change a habit?  https://youtu.be/wKoYMu6Ob20My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/How-to-change-a-habit.mp3

 If men want to date women, they experience fears of rejection, not to be good enough and fear to fail to get her… And their own fears reject the women they like to get… If we have fear or negative feelings harbor inside of us, that are against or desire, then these negative feelings will sabotage our outcome!!! Our inner child is afraid to get punished from that girl, and so we will get tension, and the inner child will do everything not to get that girl!!!  
If we deny our negative feelings, they grow and resist to the things that we want… And that is true for everything in our life… We should feel our negative emotions to get rid of them, instead of just doing it in any way without to feel our negative emotion. (Just breath deep in your negative emotions until they are gone) 
Imagine somebody is approaching you, is forced to speak in a calm, relaxed way to you, - to get you… Do you think that is fun? It is rather more disgusting. Everybody can detect that lousy attitude, the tension of that guy, the wrong body posture, the shallow eye contact, the artificial voice, the fake smile, or the drugs he had taken.   Get rid of our fears. 
This cute girl that we must have can be the worst witch in the Galaxy… Who knows? How would it be if we change our mind and think without to want to get her: (Don’t put yourself under pressure!)
let see what kind of girl that is, how to entertain that girl,how to have fun with that girl.
Or just go to her and say for instance: You are the most beautiful girl I have seen, my heart is running like crazy, and I love to get in touch with you…   
What is if that girl is engaged in a conversation, busy, reading a book and you are scared to contact her?Approach her, and say sorry that I disturb you…  I am so attracted to you, I want to get in touch with you… Is it possible to speak with you … 
The next stupid thing is to talk like a machine gun, to know for everything an answer… The speaking too much indicates our fear.  Still, you say what you like about her. Speak less, feel much and look for the right moment to approach her when she is getting weak, - touch her, embrace her, kiss her, and….  I was with so many girls in the bed without knowing her name or had spoken many words…
When I was in my twenties, I was shy, scared to stutter, afraid that the girl sees my paralyzed face, low self-esteem…I build up my self-esteem with therapy, Chi- Gong, and meditation. I went to self-experience groups, and there were at least 75% girls and only 25% boys… Easy to get there a girl!
On a party, for instance, I looked in the eyes of an attractive girl, when she looked back, I smiled, she smiled … I approached her and then I embraced her without speaking anything. I was just checking always her signs… And this I could do everywhere. 
 My video: How to Date Girls?  https://youtu.be/yCa5eowdcqUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/How-to-Date-Girls.mp3