205: Have you ever found yourself in a partnership where it felt like the other person spoke an entirely different language? Do they run when you are begging for more affection or vice versa? Well, first of all, you’re not crazy. You have different attachment styles.

When it comes to my career, friendships, and other aspects of my life, I feel very secure and confident. But, for reasons we will get into today, dating and relationships have always been a sore spot that garnered a lot of shame. If you see yourself in that familiar shame spiral - this episode is for you.

Today, my attachment coach, Sarah Cohan, joins us for a deep dive into Attachment Theory. We’re breaking down each type. We’ll take you through why certain things trigger one attachment style and not the other to how different styles can move towards a more secure attachment. This episode will prompt deep reflection and provide a way forward that doesn’t look like a constant repeat of old patterns, but instead, one full of clarity and relief.

Sarah is kindly offering a free list of scripts to use during difficult moments to communicate needs in any type of relationship. They are based on the five love languages and will help listeners show up securely in their relationships. Check them out here!

Check out Sarah’s podcast LIT AF to continue the conversation! Catch me on her podcast diving more into this topic HERE.

We discuss:

• The foundations of Attachment Theory
• How past experiences with caregivers affect patterns through adulthood
• The “Anxious-Avoidant” Trap - can it ever really work?
• Why awareness is key in moving beyond your attachment style
• Identifying your needs and effectively communicating them in relationships, without being scared

Full Transcript HERE

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