Resilience and Relationships (R&R)

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This episode features a deep and uncomfortable analysis of a controversial interview involving Mary Kay Letourneau, exploring themes of grooming, abuse, and societal double standards. Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders dissect the interview to shed light on the dynamics of manipulation and the importance of boundaries.

Sound Bites

"She’s deflecting around the question."
"His body language shifts noticeably."
"He looks very sad because it's trauma."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Mary Kay Letourneau's Story
02:32 Deflecting Responsibility: Analyzing the Interview
05:45 The Complexity of Consent and Grooming
09:25 Body Language and Truth in Testimonies
11:23 Denial and Responsibility in Abusive Relationships
15:41 Understanding Grooming and Child Perception
17:18 The Impact of Boundaries in Teacher-Student Relationships
21:27 The Emotional Toll of Trauma on Relationships
27:47 The Complexity of Consent and Legal Boundaries
42:38 The Long-Term Effects of Abusive Relationships

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Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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This episode features a collaborative effort with Creighton University's Students Against Trafficking to educate college students about human trafficking. We explore vulnerabilities, signs, and how to take action against trafficking in Nebraska and beyond.

 key  topics

Vulnerable populations to trafficking (women, children, males, seniors)
Signs of trafficking and traffickers (control, nervousness, relationships)
How trafficking occurs in Nebraska and rural areas (online, transportation, familial)
Resources and hotlines for reporting trafficking (National and Nebraska-specific)

 action  items

Contact [email protected] to get involved in student anti-trafficking initiatives.
Learn the signs of trafficking and how to report it.
Share hotline numbers with friends and family.

 sound  bites

"Trafficking can happen to anyone, anywhere."
"Signs include controlling behavior and nervousness."
"Join us in the fight against human trafficking."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Human Trafficking Awareness
03:25 Understanding Vulnerability to Human Trafficking
03:37 Defining Human Trafficking
05:08 The Reality of Human Trafficking in Nebraska
05:14 NEWCHAPTER
05:34 Misconceptions and Awareness of Human Trafficking
06:30 The Role of Geography in Human Trafficking
06:39 Concluding Thoughts on Human Trafficking Awareness
07:31 Understanding Human Trafficking in Nebraska
10:41 The Role of Social Media in Trafficking
11:58 Identifying Warning Signs of Trafficking
14:43 Common Methods of Trafficking
20:21 Getting Involved in Anti-Trafficking Efforts
21:04 R&R Outro.mp4

 resources

National Human Trafficking Hotline - 888-373-7888

https://humantraffickinghotline.org

Nebraska Human Trafficking Hotline - 1-833-PLS-LOOK (1-833-757-5665)

The Set Me Free Project - https://setmefreeproject.net

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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A heartfelt conversation with survivors Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders about healing from sexual assault, emphasizing that it is not the survivor's fault, the importance of support, and pathways to recovery.

 key  topics

Myth of self-blame in sexual assault
The importance of support systems
Navigating relationships with abusers
Healing and self-care strategies
Resources and next steps for survivors

 takeaways

What happened to you is not your fault.
Find at least one trusted person to share your story.
You don't have to tell everyone, just one safe person.
Healing takes time; be patient with yourself.
Your worth is inherent and unchangeable.

 sound  bites

"What happened to you is not your fault."
"It's not your fault and we believe you."
"You have intrinsic value that cannot be changed."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Survivor Perspectives
01:12 The Impact of Self-Blame and Misconceptions
03:07 Understanding the Complexity of Abuse from Trusted People
03:58 Confusion and Emotional Responses Post-Abuse
04:58 The Power of Disclosure and When to Share Your Story
07:11 The Importance of Finding Support and Not Isolating
08:06 Debunking Victim Blaming and Personal Responsibility
08:59 Recognizing and Overcoming Self-Blame
09:37 Self-Compassion and Doing the Best You Could
10:43 The Role of External and Internal Victim Blaming
11:31 Healing Requires Readiness and Emotional Preparation
12:20 When and How to Share Your Story Safely
13:23 The Power of Survivor Voices in Support Roles
14:36 Avoiding Identity as a Survivor and Focusing on Strengths
15:04 Normalizing the Long and Non-Linear Healing Process
18:48 Challenges of Co-Parenting with an Abuser
21:02 Prioritizing Safety and Making Empowered Choices
26:10 Decision-Making and Support During Trauma Recovery
27:19 Reaffirming That It’s Not Your Fault
28:35 Healing Is a Lifelong Journey and Self-Care
29:39 Closing Remarks and Resources for Survivors

resources

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) - https://www.rainn.org/
National Sexual Assault Hotline - https://www.rainn.org/resources/national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline
Therapists and Support Groups - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
Books on Healing from Sexual Trauma - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=healing+from+sexual+trauma

https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1862413/episodes/9379928-let-s-talk-the-fiji-house-sexual-assault-and-value-resilience-in-life-and-leadership-episode-005

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Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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In this engaging episode, Dylan Yeomans, the new Director of Communications for The Set Me Free project, joins Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders to discuss human trafficking myths, misconceptions, and prevention strategies. They explore how trafficking often involves relationship building rather than kidnapping, the role of online platforms, and the importance of awareness and education.

key  topics

Myths about human trafficking and misconceptions
Relationship building as a trafficking tactic
Impact of online gaming and social media
High-profile cases and their influence on perception
Prevention tools and warning signs

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Dylan Yeomans and His Role
02:59 Dylan's Journey into Understanding Human Trafficking
05:33 Debunking Myths: Human Trafficking Misconceptions
08:11 The Role of Influence and Wealth in Trafficking
10:36 Local Stories: The Impact of Human Trafficking
12:27 Understanding Vulnerabilities and Recruitment Tactics
15:02 The Role of Online Platforms in Trafficking
17:48 Addiction and Coercion in Trafficking Scenarios
20:28 Recognizing Warning Signs of Trafficking
23:58 Empowerment and Safety Measures for Individuals
25:27 Innovative Safety Solutions: Noonlight App
28:13 Understanding Traffickers: Their Tactics and Intelligence
30:45 The Impact of Online Platforms on Trafficking
36:06 Conspiracy Theories: Truths and Misconceptions
39:44 Hollywood and Human Trafficking: A Dark Connection
46:22 R&R Outro.mp4

resources

The Set Me Free Project - https://setmefreeproject.net/
Noonlight App - https://www.noonlight.com/
The Goonies (Movie) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/
Backpage and online trafficking platforms - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Backpage
Epstein Case - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeffrey_Epstein
Justin Bieber and Hollywood influence - https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-53057416

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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In this insightful interview, Hannah Munn from Love Justice International shares her organization's impactful work in combating human trafficking through transit monitoring, culturally sensitive trauma-informed care, and strategic prevention efforts both globally and domestically. Discover how data-driven approaches and faith-based values drive effective solutions to one of the world's greatest injustices.

Hannah Munn
Senior Director of International Installation & Compliance

Hannah hails from Kearney, Nebraska, and graduated from Nebraska Wesleyan University with a dual degree in political science and communication. Hannah first heard about modern-day slavery and human trafficking at the 2013 Passion Conference. After a convicting session led by International Justice Mission's Gary Haugen, she knew God was leading her to pursue the work of justice. The following summer she embarked on a summer trip to Nepal with Love Justice International where she caught God's vision and heart for the least of these. Hannah has been with the team in Nepal since 2016 and is energized by sharing the vision of Love Justice International with anyone willing to listen. Hannah met her husband, Austin, in Nepal through the work of Love Justice and they decided to tie the knot in June 2019. Together, they feel compelled by God's great love to continue working with Love Justice and fighting the world's greatest injustices with their God-given gifts and talents. 

https://www.lovejustice.ngo/

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

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In this conversation, Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders delve into the controversial topic of ethical pedophilia, exploring the distinction between feelings and actions, the role of shame, and the societal implications of normalizing harmful desires. They discuss the importance of support systems for individuals struggling with these feelings while emphasizing the need for safeguards to protect children. The conversation highlights the complexities of identity and the dangers of acceptance in a context that could lead to harm.

 takeaways

Ethical pedophilia is a controversial term that distinguishes between attraction and action.
There is a significant difference between having harmful desires and acting on them.
Shame can play a role in recognizing and addressing harmful desires.
Normalizing harmful desires can lead to dangerous societal implications.
Support systems should focus on preventing harm while acknowledging intrinsic value.
Desires should not define a person's identity; actions do.
Removing obstacles is crucial for individuals seeking help.
The push for acceptance can lead to normalization of harmful behaviors.
Children cannot consent, and their protection is paramount.
Conversations about these topics are necessary but must be approached with caution.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Ethical Pedophilia
04:26 The Distinction Between Feelings and Actions
07:09 The Role of Shame in Human Behavior
12:32 The Push for Acceptance of Minor Attracted Persons
15:45 The Growth of Identity and Its Implications
16:50 Understanding the Complexity of Attraction
18:02 The Role of Art and Expression in Attraction
20:02 The Debate on Control and Responsibility
21:03 Navigating Language and Terminology
22:28 The Importance of Support and Prevention
24:29 Safeguards and Professional Boundaries
25:31 The Challenge of Identity Labels
27:19 Minor Attracted Persons and Support Groups
30:06 The Spectrum of Beliefs within the MAP Community
34:17 Concluding Thoughts on Protection and Prevention
35:12 R&R Outro.mp4

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

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In this engaging conversation, Stephanie Olson, Dr. Jen Fry, and Rebecca Saunders explore the critical themes of resilience and relationships, focusing on the importance of conflict, healthy communication, and setting boundaries. They discuss how to navigate difficult conversations, the role of apologies, and the necessity of teaching children about consent and self-advocacy. The discussion emphasizes that healthy conflict is essential for strong relationships and that individuals must be willing to engage in hard conversations to foster growth and understanding.

Takeaways

Conflict is not inherently negative; it's how we handle it that matters.
Healthy conflict can strengthen relationships and build trust.
Setting boundaries is crucial for personal well-being and healthy interactions.
Teaching kids about consent and self-advocacy is essential.
Apologizing can be a powerful tool for healing relationships.
There is no time limit on a genuine apology.
Navigating conflict requires emotional regulation and understanding.
People often avoid conflict due to fear of negative outcomes.
The absence of conflict does not equate to harmony in relationships.
Relationships are worth the effort of engaging in difficult conversations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Resilience and Relationships
00:54 The Journey of Dr. Jen Fry
02:25 Understanding Conflict as a Tool for Growth
04:59 Navigating Difficult Conversations
08:46 Setting Boundaries in Relationships
11:57 Healthy Conflict: A Path to Better Communication
15:15 The Power of Apology in Parenting
16:47 Teaching Consent and Healthy Conflict
17:40 Navigating Online Conflict and Apologies
20:13 Self-Advocacy and Emotional Regulation in Kids
23:48 The Timelessness of Apologies
26:05 The Importance of Healthy Conflict in Relationships
29:43 R&R Outro.mp4

Dr. Jen Fry is a Sports Geographer, speaker, and founder of JenFryTalks, where she helps teams navigate conflict and culture. A former collegiate volleyball coach, Jen brings lived experience into leadership and communication work. She holds a PhD from Michigan State University and is the founder of Coordle, a tech platform simplifying youth sports travel.

https://jenfrytalks.com/

https://www.facebook.com/jenfrytalks

https://x.com/jenfrytalks

https://www.instagram.com/jenfrytalks

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenfry13/

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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In this conversation, Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders explore the themes of thoughtfulness in communication, the impact of our words, and the complexities of sharing personal stories. They discuss the importance of being mindful of how our words can affect others, especially in sensitive situations. The conversation also delves into the motivations behind sharing stories and the challenges of navigating cancel culture. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for empathy, reflection, and responsible communication in our interactions with others.

Takeaways

Thoughtfulness in communication can prevent misunderstandings.
Our words can have a significant impact on others' feelings.
It's important to consider the context before sharing personal stories.
Navigating what is appropriate to share requires sensitivity.
Motivation behind sharing stories can influence the outcome of conversations.
Cancel culture lacks grace and understanding for personal growth.
Public apologies should match the nature of the offense.
Civility in discussions is increasingly difficult to maintain.
Everyone has intrinsic value, regardless of their actions.
We must be mindful of the information we share about others.

Sound Bites

"What is your story to share?"
"We don't ever allow that for other people."
"We cannot dehumanize anyone."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Context
01:45 The Importance of Thoughtfulness
05:14 Navigating Conversations in a Divisive Society
09:36 Understanding What is Yours to Share
19:05 Addressing Abuses in Public Organizations
19:45 Navigating Anger and Communication
21:15 The Ethics of Speaking Out
22:22 The Complexity of Public Figures and Hypocrisy
27:18 The Importance of Public Apologies
29:18 Recognizing Intrinsic Value in All Individuals
33:05 R&R Outro.mp4

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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In this conversation, Stephanie Olson speaks with Kimberly Haley Coleman, the founder and executive director of Globe Aware, about the organization's mission to provide meaningful volunteer experiences through service vacations in various countries. They discuss the evolution of volunteerism, the importance of understanding local needs, and the impact of volunteers on communities. Kimberly shares insights on navigating safety, cultural immersion, and the empowerment of women in global communities. The conversation emphasizes the value of global service while addressing criticism and the broader impact of volunteerism on local communities.

Takeaways

Kimberly Haley Coleman founded Globe Aware to provide meaningful volunteer experiences.
Volunteers pay to participate, which supports local staff and projects.
The vocabulary around volunteerism has evolved due to past unethical practices.
It's essential to engage with local communities to understand their needs.
Volunteers often come with preconceived notions but learn through experience.
Safety assessments are crucial for project management and volunteer safety.
Cultural immersion is a key aspect of the volunteer experience.
Women play a vital role in local communities and leadership.
Volunteering abroad can inspire individuals to make a difference at home.
Criticism of global service often overlooks the importance of cultural understanding.

Bio of Kimberly Haley-Coleman

Kimberly Haley-Coleman is the founder and Executive Director of Globe Aware, a US & Canada-based nonprofit that leads and mobilizes volunteers for short-term service projects in over 25 countries (since the year 2000). With a background in international business development and finance, she previously held leadership roles at global firms including CNBC.com, Space Services International, and Investtools. Kimberly holds an MBA in International Business, an MA in Art History, and a BA from Emory University. A multiple patent holder, SMU Guest Lecturer, and recipient of the Texas Business Hall of Fame Award and long-time Hall of Fame member, Chairman of the Executive Board for the International Volunteer Programs Association (IVPA) and actively engaged with organizations like the Building Bridges Coalition and United Nations ESOC Consultative Status Committee and variety of other nonprofit boards focused on international service, community development, and environmental improvement.

Selected press about Globe Aware:

·         ABC: More Americans Take Volunteer Vacations

·         BBC: BBC Travel Show - Passengers with a Purpose

·         CNN: Giving back while on vacation

·         WSJ: Voluntour at Home and Abroad

·         Globe Aware: Featured in WSJ 'Voluntour' at Home and Abroad

·         TODAY SHOW: Feature on Globe Aware Volunteer Vacations

·         Travel + Leisure: How to Volunteer While Traveling With Your Kids

           NYT: 

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/

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In this podcast episode, Stephanie Olson introduces the conversation with Dylan Yeomans from United Insurance Agency, sharing insights and experiences in the insurance industry.

Takeaways

Stephanie Olson hosts a podcast with Dylan Yeomans.
The conversation revolves around the insurance industry.
Dylan Yeomans shares his experiences at United Insurance Agency.
The podcast aims to engage listeners with informative content.
Listeners can expect valuable insights from the discussion.
The introduction sets a positive tone for the episode.
Dylan's expertise in insurance is highlighted.
The podcast format allows for an engaging dialogue.
Stephanie expresses her enjoyment of the recording process.
The episode serves as an introduction to the insurance field.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:49 Engaging with Dylan Yeomans
01:05 Overview of United Insurance Agency

Support the show

Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/