Resilient Dad Show

TIME LOST IS A CHUNK OF LIFE LOST

Welcome to another solo episode with Pat as he talks about limits and time. Pat explains that as humans our growth is limited by the amount of attention and time we have. He also discusses the importance of really spending time with your kids. Learn more about Pat’s insights in this latest episode of The Resilient Dad.

RESILIENT HIGHLIGHTS:

• The grass is greener wherever we water
• When we don’t fully invest ourselves into something, we don't get the maximum rewards
• The importance of spending time with your kids
• When we’re distracted, we don’t get to experience the moment

WORDS OF RESILIENCE

Pat - Time is all that matters

“Spending time with my kids, especially when they were younger, I was so focused on work, and being able to provide and, and doing the things that I thought were really important, but the thing that was most important is the actual time.”

Pat - Focus your time and don’t get distracted

“When I'm with him, I'm just focusing purely on him at the times that I do get to spend time because when we are distracted, we can easily be not really present and we don't get to experience the moment.”

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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CLOSE YOUR EYES. BREATHE DEEP. LET IT GO.

In this episode of The Resilient Dad, Pat is back with Chris Decker. Things will be a bit different as Pat and Chris will be reflecting on a documentary entitled “The Work”, where they unpack the importance of being able to be open and let out frustrations and pain.

RESILIENT HIGHLIGHTS:

• We are all more alike than we are different
• Everyone has the desire and the need to be loved
• How to get angry without doing anything illegal
• The best thing we can do is to be open
• The solution is remarkably simple. It’s myself that is getting in the way
• The longer you live outside of integrity, the worse your life’s gonna get
• Being your authentic self is a lot more training than trying to please

WORDS OF RESILIENCE

Chris - Main takeaway from “The Work”:

“If you really understand the root of what they went through, and you would understand how they were driven to those things, and you might even see how you yourself could have been driven to those things to and behind bars outside in the “real world”, what is the real world anyway, we are all more alike than we are different.”

Pat - Don’t keep it inside, let it out in the open:

“I realized that rage is due to a buildup of not releasing all these frustrations and, and these emotions and being able to let these emotions out. Like that's the best thing we can actually do.”

Chris - The simple secret of becoming a great father:

“It's remarkably simple. It's myself that's getting in the way, I'm in the way, I am in the way of becoming a great father, and if I can learn to, “die to self”, if I can go and have the courage to go deal with those traumas and those hurts, and I can learn to forgive, and I can learn to stay in a state of gratitude.”

Connect with Chris and check out what more inspiring things he’s doing:

• About Chris
• About Salescast
• Salescast.co

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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YOU WILL LEARN FROM YOUR PARENTS, ONE WAY OR ANOTHER.

Nick McGowan, the host of The Mindset & Self-Mastery podcast, is no father at all, but what he has to share about his upbringing from his father, or both parents for that matter, is a unique way of looking at resiliency as a parent. Tune in and join Nick as he shares his life story with Pat and how his upbringing gives him the light on fatherhood.

RESILIENT HIGHLIGHTS:

• Introducing Nick McGowan
• Understanding the different paths that parents take
• Changing perspective while growing up
• Parent's own upbringing can affect their own parenting
• The importance of internal communication
• Getting trouble with bad decisions
• The power of communication and how to deal with trauma

WORDS OF RESILIENCE

Nick - You learn from your parents in one way or another

“It's interesting how we all learn from our parents what to do and what not to do. It's really up to us to figure out, does it make sense and without turning this thing completely upside down. That's really how we should live life.”

Nick - Start communicating internally

“This all gets back to communication, and you've got to start internally. You know, as you ask yourself questions, you can't just write it off.”

Nick - All you need to do is start

“I feel like there's a momentum that goes along with that once you start to do the work, and then you get this once you start to do the work, you start to do it, it starts to open up things.”

Connect with Nick and check out what more inspiring things he’s doing:

• About Nick
• NickMcGowan.com
• The Mindset and Self-Mastery Show

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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“You say you’re ‘depressed’ – all I see is resilience.” ― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas

In today’s episode of Resilient Dad, Pat talks about how depression brings toxic habits, and how you can get out by focusing on what you want and who you want to be.

RESILIENT HIGHLIGHTS:

• Pat's own struggle with depression
• Developing toxic habits
• Our response to life is the only thing we control
• Pain will give you growth
• Focusing on becoming a role model
• Stick to what you want and who you want to be

WORDS OF RESILIENCE

Pat - How depression is defined:

“Depression is the inability to move forward from the past, and they always say a brighter future.”

Pat - Pain is growth:

“The pain is actually going to give me growth. So every time I'm struggling, or there's a time where I feel uncomfortable, it's like ‘ ‘this is growth’ ’, this is great, this is beautiful, this is me becoming better than what I am prior.”

Pat - There is a choice every day:

“We all have a choice every day, when we wake up, that I'm going to make the most of this day, regardless of my circumstances, I have the ability to control how I respond to the things that have happened in my life.”

Pat - Focus on what you want:

“If we just stick and focus on the things that we want, and the outcomes, and who we want to be, the journey and the experience are going to be far, far greater.”

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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In one of our previous episodes, Chris Decker told us about being inspired by Pat’s 75 hard challenge and decided to take it on. Today, Pat will be taking Chris’ insights on his journey throughout the challenge and how it impacted him physically, mentally, and in relationships. So tune in with The Resilient Dad show.

RESILIENT HIGHLIGHTS:

• Chris Decker's experience in the 75 hard challenge
• Chris's greatest insights from the challenge
• What lies ahead after the 75-hard challenge?
• It's about having a goal + accountability

WORDS OF RESILIENCE

Chris - The strange way of having more time:

“I was initially hesitant. I'm like, ‘Wow, this is a lot of activity. How am I going to have time for it?’ I've not only found the time, but I've taken on a lot of additional projects because I found myself having more time somehow which has been kind of strange.”

Chris - What’s next after the 75 hard challenge:

“Part of the next hurdle that I think I'm going to need to overcome is what happens afterward. Am I going to go back to pizza and doughnuts and sitting on the couch? Or am I going to continue with this same lifestyle adjustment moving forward? And can I do that outside of the challenge?”

Chris - Accountability for doing things with others:

“I think where a lot of people miss is having some accountability, because it's way easier to do things with others than it is to do them alone.”

Connect with Chris and check out what more inspiring things he’s doing:

• About Chris
• About Salescast
• Salescast.co

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST, BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO.

Pat is back with an inspiring story in this solo episode of The Resilient Dad. As a father, it is important to teach our kids about resilience at an early age, and that’s exactly what Pat did as he shares the lesson he taught his own son on weekends they spent together.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• The clash on the battle beam
• Getting tangled with anger and frustration
• You didn't lose, you learned
• You only lose if you give up
• Compete with yourself, not with others

QUOTES:

Pat - You never lose until you give up:

“Being able to even just say that vocally to my son really sort of reminded me of that. I never actually lose until I actually give up.”

Pat - Giving up out of fear:

“The only thing, that reason why I do give up, is fear. The fear of failure and the fear of rejection. But do I really fail if I learn? No. Can I really be rejected? No, not really.”

Pat - Keep going, keep battling:

“Keep going, stay on that battle beam and learn, and see what you're doing and where you could be improving on areas that you just don't actually see because you’re not focusing on that.”

Pat - Focus and compete with yourself:

“Stop focusing on what the other person has, whether they're stronger or they have other resources, whether it's money, or wherever it may be. Just focus on proving yourself and competing against yourself.”

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• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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”My strength is made perfect in weakness” - 2 Corinthians 12:9

Chris Decker is back in another wisdom-filled episode here in The Resilient Dad. In this outing, Chris talks to Pat about the value of vulnerability, what makes it important in fathers’ journeys, how it is more of a strength than a weakness, and how accountability comes into play in your strive for getting better.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• Chris Decker is back!
• The vulnerability that leads to resilience
• The challenges a father faces with the court
• Stop the blame game
• Don't live by shame, you are not worth less
• Accountability is a gift to yourself

QUOTES:

Chris - Share your story and it sets you free:

“There are probably some hurts or some things from your past that you've never shared with anybody. If you share that with a trusted person wants, even if it's clunky, even if it's like really hard to do, and you have to share that through tears, whatever it takes, you share that one time, then it starts to loosen its grip on you a little bit.”

Pat - Face your demons, you have the power:

“When you finally stand up and face those demons as such, your kryptonite becomes a superpower, and has the ability to not let it choke on you anymore.”

Pat - Vulnerability is true strength:

“Being vulnerable was actual strength. It's not a weakness. And I think that's where real power comes from.”

Connect with Chris and find out more about his work:

• About Chris
• About Salescast
• Salescast Community

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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There are times when we feel lost especially in the downward spirals of our lives, but it will always be our choice to keep losing our sight, or we choose where we want to be and take action to go there.

Tune in and be inspired once more by Pat’s personal story of being lost and finally deciding to choose where he wants to be and going for it. So make a choice today and discover more about this in this latest episode of The Resilient Dad.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• Where are you now?
• The incident that changed everything
• The downward spiral of loneliness
• You have the choice of where you want to be

QUOTES:

You can’t control what people do:

“I can't control what other people do. Are people going to make judgments? Are people going to do things that are against their own values and beliefs? Yes, they will.”

The downward spiral of loneliness:

“I got myself in such a rut, where I was purely focused on all the pain and the suffering, that I completely forgot about everything else that was happening in my life, and the things that are also important to me.”

It’s your decision, it’s your choice to make:

“There are choices that we make, and we wake up every day and have the ability to make, to have those choices. So it's our decision.”

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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From the hardships of his upbringing to the challenges of becoming a man fit to be a father, Michael Curcio is not a stranger to the difficulties in life.

Michael joins Pat in this latest episode of The Resilient Dad to share his story of hailing from a merged family, growing up being different from others, and his quest to be the father he always wanted to be.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• Michael's upbringing in a merged family
• The hardships of being different
• The story of marriage and divorce
• It's not about you two, it's the kids
• It's not too late to make a change

QUOTES:

Michael - Growing up in a merged family:

“Being in a merged family is one of the toughest things to do. I speak from experience as well.”

Michael - It’s about the kids, not you two:

“What people don't realize when they get into a marriage and decide to have a relationship. It's not just about you two anymore because it's great in the beginning when there are no kids and life is good, and you're dating and you're traveling and everything's good, then you had kids, and then personalities change.”

Michael - You’re poor if you don’t have time for your family:

“If you work your life away, and focus just on business, and not spend time at home, you're poor. You can be the richest man in the world, but I promise you are poor.”

Michael - It’s never too late for change:

“Guys, we get better with age, and the other thing too is just because we're aging, it doesn't mean it's too late. It's never too late to make a change.”

Michael - Life is a gift, don’t waste it:

“This life is a gift. Like I said, one day you're above the ground, next day, you're below it, the dirt on top of you.”

Connect with Michael and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Michael
• Michael on Facebook

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• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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Pat is back with another inspiring solo episode where he encourages everyone to look within for your power is inside you, and only you can unleash it and achieve your breakthrough. 

Tune in and learn about the 6 basic human needs and why it is important to always think about your actions before doing something you will regret. All these, are only here in the latest episode of The Resilient Dad.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• Pat's breakthroughs
• The 6 basic human needs
• What causes addiction
• Don't jump, don't attack
• Don't make a decision you will regret

QUOTES:

Pat enumerates the 6 basic human needs:

“We have four, human basic human needs the native certainty, the need for uncertainty, or variety, the need for significance, and the need of love and connection, and then we've got our two higher needs, which are growth and contribution.”

Pat says, attacking is never the answer:

“I definitely encourage everyone to have a look at not to jump to conclusions, and not always to look at attack being the first option.”

Pat stops you from making decisions you will regret:

“I definitely would encourage everyone just to have a think about in terms of before we act, before making a decision that we can't take back.”

Connect with Pat and check out what more inspiring things he’s up to:

• About Pat
• About Resilient Dad

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