✨ Episode Summary:

This one’s part pep talk, part prayer, part soul-hug.

If you’ve been moving through some tough stuff or just need a reminder that life is on your side — this episode is your call back to truth, love, and presence.

Perfect for your morning walk, your drive across town, or while folding laundry with the windows open — this is your invitation to breathe deeper, release the noise, and remember who the hell you are.

We’ll ground into the here and now, speak to your bigness, and remind your nervous system (and your soul) that…

You are not behind.

You’re doing better than you think.

And there’s so much good still ahead.

Heads up: there’s a little swearing — and a lot of love. 🌿

🔥 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

A grounding practice to return to presence and peace

Why nothing is wrong even when everything feels hard

A fiery spoken word moment to shake off doubt and reclaim your strength

A reminder that love, truth, and beauty are right here — and you’re allowed to let them in

A declaration you’ll want to repeat out loud (spoiler: “I am [first name] fucking [last name]…” 🫶)

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You never know who needs to hear that they're doing better than they think.

In this deeply supportive and transformational episode of Resource Yourself, I’m sharing one of my favorite tools—something that’s been powerful for me, for my clients, and for the students in my programs. It’s a process I’m calling the Spell of Remembering—and yes, it comes with a magical word: DRACO.

This isn’t just another mindset trick. It’s a way to intervene in the exact moment you feel stuck, shift the unconscious loops you’ve been living inside of, and reconnect with something that’s been waiting beneath the surface of your life.

I’ll walk you through how to use the DRACO spell to move from old, limiting decisions into new states of being—states that invite ease, support, love, and joy into your relationships, your work, and your world. You'll also hear how I use this process to reframe even the heaviest beliefs—whether they’re personal, ancestral, or political—and reclaim a sense of agency in the face of them.

Whether you’re working through anxious attachment, burnout, scarcity, heartbreak, or existential despair—this spell is here to bring you home to something powerful, ancient, and alive inside you.

This episode is full of personal examples, practical prompts, and poetic inspiration—and I truly hope it sparks something inside you.

Why the beliefs running your life might actually be decisions your brain made to keep you safe

How every decision cuts off a different possibility—and how to remember what got left behind

How to spiral up using new, empowering associations

The five-part DRACO spell for interrupting patterns and reconnecting to truth:

D — Decision: Identify the core belief as a decision you made (or inherited)

R — Remember: Name what truth got cut off in that moment

A — Allow: Spiral up by allowing in new ideas, new evidence, and new possibilities

C — Connect: Bring the experience into your body and your emotional field

O — Open: Expand into action, openness, and embodiment of your new state

How this tool can be used for love, work, creative resistance, spiritual alignment—and even for reframing political despair

So many of us walk around with unconscious beliefs like:

“I’m fundamentally alone.”

“I have to work really hard to be loved.”

“Support isn’t available to me.”

“Work is supposed to be exhausting.”

“The world is broken, and I’m powerless to change it.”

And while we may know those beliefs aren’t serving us…
sometimes we don’t know how to get out of them.

This episode offers a concrete, heartfelt tool to do just that—by helping you access the wisdom that’s been cut off, the possibility you forgot to imagine, and the embodiment of a life that feels way more aligned with who you truly are.

“What if the beliefs in your life weren’t beliefs… but actually decisions?”

“The root of the word decide is -cide. It means: to cut off. So what got cut off when you made that decision?”

“Your brain is associative. You are associative in being. Which means you can spiral into fear—or spiral up into something new.”

“DRACO is not about bypassing pain. It’s about reclaiming power.”

“Open to this truth being yours. Let it take up space. Let it shift what you do next.”

If you resonated with this episode—especially the parts about anxious attachment, core beliefs, or creating a new emotional reality—then I would love to invite you into my full program, From Anxious to Secure.

Enrollment is open this week only, and this is the only time I’ll be offering it at this level of live support for a while.

Inside the program, we go even deeper into:

Nervous system work

Healing insecure attachment

Building emotional safety

Receiving love instead of chasing it

And learning how to resource yourself every day

Learn more and join us here

Join From Anxious to Secure 

Connect with me on Instagram → @seforaray

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Rate & review the show if it supported you 💖

You’re feeling stuck in old patterns and want a fresh way out

You’ve been carrying beliefs that don’t serve you, and you’re ready to lay them down

You’ve done all the self-help things, but still feel stuck

You want a tool that blends psychology, magic, and nervous system regulation

You’re craving a sense of possibility, hope, and creative power in your life

Thanks for being here, friend.
Your remembering is powerful.
And you’re never alone in it.

With love,
Sefora 💫

The Two Trees Visualization: Returning to Togetherness 🧘‍♀️ Episode Summary: In today’s special solo episode, I’m sharing something close to my heart — a calming, grounding visualization from my upcoming Secure Attachment 3-Day Challenge. It's called The Two Trees, and it's more than just a soothing practice. It’s an invitation. This visualization is designed to reconnect you with a deep sense of togetherness — the feeling of being accompanied, supported, and not alone as you move through life. Whether you're facing challenges in love, navigating uncertainty, or simply needing to feel more held and rooted in your body, this episode is a soft landing. I’ll guide you into a space where you can feel what it’s like to belong — not just in romantic relationships, but in a bigger, soulful way that affects how you live, love, and take action in the world. 🌿 What You’ll Experience: A gentle, guided visualization practice A reminder that you are not alone The energetic blueprint of secure attachment How togetherness can be a resource — especially in hard times 🧡 Perfect For You If: You’re craving connection You want to feel more emotionally grounded You're exploring or healing your attachment style You need a nervous system reset and don’t want to do it alone

5 Beliefs That Keep You Stuck in Insecure Attachment (and How to Shift Them)

📝 Show Notes: Hey there, and welcome back to the Resource Yourself Podcast with Sefora Janel Ray.

In today’s episode, we’re digging deep into the five sneaky beliefs that keep people trapped in patterns of insecure attachment — even after years of therapy, personal growth, or trying to “do the work.”

Whether you identify with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment (or just feel like love is a struggle), these beliefs might sound painfully familiar: “I can’t get enough support.” “I’m fundamentally alone in life.” “Something’s wrong with me — that’s why love doesn’t work out.” “If I let myself hope, I’ll just be disappointed.” “Being in relationship is stressful and hard.”

These beliefs often form in childhood or through painful adult relationships — and without realizing it, you may still be living by them. In this episode, Sefora breaks each one down, explaining:

✨ Where it comes from

✨ How it impacts your nervous system and relationships

✨ Why it creates a self-fulfilling cycle of stress, disconnection, and self-blame

✨ And how to begin shifting out of the primal state that keeps you stuck

You’ll also hear a powerful reframe: Secure attachment isn’t just something you have — it’s something you can practice. It’s a state of being that’s available to you, and it starts with learning to receive support.

If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I feel like I’m always chasing love?” “Why is it so hard to trust people will show up?” “Maybe I’m just too much…” — then this episode is for you.

🔗 Sign up for the FREE Secure Attachment Challenge

Learn how to stop repeating old patterns and start cultivating secure love — from the inside out.

Challenge begins April 4th. [Link in the show notes] —

🔖 Resources & Links: • Join the Secure Attachment Challenge →

•Explore more about attachment styles →  •

Want the replay of the VIP Energetics Call? Reach out via email or DM — 💌

Stay Connected IG: @seforaray

Website: www.therapytothrive.com

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend, leave a review, or tag Sefora on Instagram — she loves hearing what’s shifting for you. This episode is your invitation to let go of old survival patterns… And start building love that actually feels good. 🤍

The Power of Secure Attachment (Plus a Sneak Peek of the Secure Attachment Challenge!)

Episode Summary:

Understanding secure attachment is powerful enough to transform not just your relationships, but your entire life—your career, your finances, even global issues like political division and war. In this episode, I share why relational skills are the missing piece in our culture and how learning secure attachment can help us build healthier, more connected lives.

Plus, I’m giving you an exclusive sneak peek into my Secure Attachment Challenge, where you’ll learn how secure people create stable, fulfilling relationships—and how you can too.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why secure attachment is the foundation for healthy relationships and a better world

The 4 attachment styles and how they shape your relationships How practicing secure behaviors can rewire your attachment style Why teamwork is a key trait of securely attached relationships

The science of co-regulation, eye contact, and nervous system synchronization

How humor and playfulness strengthen secure relationships

Sneak Peek of the Secure Attachment Challenge:

Clip 1: How practicing secure behaviors helps you become more secure

Clip 2: The team mindset of securely attached relationships

Clip 3: The power of co-regulation in deepening connection

Clip 4: Why eye contact and facial mirroring create emotional safety

Clip 5: The role of humor in secure relationships

Join the Secure Attachment Challenge! This 3-day free challenge is designed to help you understand attachment at a deep level and start embodying secure behaviors in your relationships.

✨ It’s free for a limited time! Sign up here: www.therapytothrive.com Resources & Links: Learn more about attachment styles: www.therapytothrive.com Follow me on Instagram for more relationship tips: @seforaray If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear this! 💛

Episode Title: You Were Made for These Times

Host: Sefora Janel Ray Episode Summary: In today’s episode, we explore the idea that the challenges you’re facing right now aren’t mistakes or random obstacles—they might be exactly what you came here for.

What if your struggles aren’t just inconveniences but invitations to step into your power? What if you already have the wisdom and resilience to navigate this moment?

Sefora shares a powerful perspective on how life’s difficulties shape us, drawing from ancient hero stories, reincarnation concepts, and the deep knowing that we are built for these times. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired, or questioning why things feel so hard—this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This

Episode: ✨ Why heroes are forged through challenge—not ease

✨ The idea that life on Earth is a training ground for soul evolution

✨ How to reframe your current struggles as a call to step into your strength

✨ The power of taking on a new perspective: What if you were born for this?

✨ Why you might already have everything you need to navigate this moment

Resources & Mentions: 📖 A book on past lives and reincarnation (referenced but not named)

💡 Reflection questions: What if this challenge isn’t a mistake, but part of my path? What if my gifts and skills are exactly what the world needs right now? How would I show up if I believed I was made for this moment? Listener Takeaway: You are not in the wrong place. You are not unprepared. Everything in your life has led you to this moment. And if you were born for this, you also have the strength to move through it.

Connect with Sefora:

📲 Instagram: @seforaray

📩 Website: www.therapytothrive.com for deeper insights and resources

💬 Share this episode: If this spoke to you, send it to a friend who needs to hear it.

✨ Thank you for listening! You were made for this. ✨

Episode Summary: What you resist, persists.

But what if resistance wasn’t something to fight against—but a doorway into clarity, healing, and action?

In this episode, I explore how resistance can be a portal to resourcing yourself and share six practical steps to work with it instead of pushing it away. Whether you’re resisting a tough conversation, avoiding self-care, feeling overwhelmed by world events, or procrastinating on something important, this episode will help you shift from stuckness to inspired action. I

n This Episode, You’ll Learn:

✅ Why resistance isn’t just avoidance—it’s revealing something deeper

✅ How to identify what you’re resisting and why

✅ The hidden benefits of resistance (yes, there’s always a reason!)

✅ How to uncover what you truly need beneath the resistance

✅ A step-by-step process to shift into inspired, aligned action

✅ A personal story about how leaning into resistance changed my life .

The 6 Steps to Work With Resistance:

1️⃣ Identify the Thing You’re Resisting – Name it and get curious.

2️⃣ Recognize the Benefit of Resisting – What is this resistance protecting you from?

3️⃣ Acknowledge the Cost of Resisting – What are you missing out on?

4️⃣ Understand What You Truly Need – What is the deeper need beneath this?

5️⃣ Feel Into What You Want – Imagine the version of reality where this is easy and fulfilling.

6️⃣ Take Inspired Action – Not forced action—aligned, nourishing action. Examples

We Cover:

💡 Avoiding dating → Feeling into what secure love would feel like

💡 Resisting a hard conversation → Realizing you actually want closeness and understanding

💡 Feeling too overwhelmed to engage with the world → Recognizing your deep desire for a supportive, just society

💡 Procrastinating self-care → Noticing your longing for ease and nourishment

💡 Holding back in business → Understanding your fear and stepping into expansion

Take Action: ✨ Pick one thing you’re resisting and get curious about it. ✨ Ask yourself: What do I actually want on the other side of this resistance? ✨ What’s one small, inspired action I can take today? Resistance isn’t just a block—it’s a signpost to something that deeply matters to you. Lean in.

See what shifts. 🎧 Listen

🔔 If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend and tag me on social media! I’d love to hear what resonated with you.

📩 Want more support? Find more at www.therapytothrive.com or follow me @seforaray

Let’s break through resistance—together. 🚀💛

Host: Sefora Janel Ray

Episode Overview:

Welcome to the Resource Yourself Podcast—the space where I remind you of the goodness that surrounds you, so you can move through life’s challenges with wisdom, resilience, and grace. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a peptalk about how you are a creator and how life supports you in all things. If you ever find yourself needing a reminder of your power, your purpose, and the support that is always available to you, this episode is for you.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

✨ Why remembering who you are as a creator can shift your perspective

✨ How resistance, frustration, and even jealousy can guide you toward your next creation

✨ A series of affirmations to awaken your sense of connection, purpose, and trust in life

✨ How to recognize and receive the support that is already available to you This is an invitation to let these words wash over you, strengthen you, and support you throughout your day.

Key Affirmations from This Episode:

💫 I am connected to all of life, and life supports me in all things.

💫 My desires, my resistance, and my emotions all guide me toward what I am meant to create.

💫 It is safe for me to love myself, to adore myself, and to embrace the beauty of life.

💫 I am built for these times, and every challenge bolsters my commitment to the world I am fostering.

💫 My ancestors and allies support me in my love for life and my creations.

Take This With You: You are not alone in your creation. Life is working with you, not against you. And you, my friend, are deeply loved and supported in all things.

Connect & Share: If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need these reminders today. Tag me on Instagram @seforaray and let me know what resonated with you. Look up www.therapytothrive.com for more resources!

💛 Until next time, keep creating, keep believing, and keep receiving all the goodness life has to offer.

-Sefora

Host: Sefora Janel Ray

Episode Summary: In this episode, Sefora guides you through a powerful meditation designed to connect you with your future self—the version of you who has already stepped into the life, love, and security you desire.

Drawing from the wisdom of various healing traditions, she helps you ground into possibility, move beyond fear, and embody the future you want to create.

What You'll Hear in This Episode:

A reflection on how easy it is to imagine endings—of relationships, systems, or the world as we know it—but how much harder it is to envision a thriving, healthy, and emotionally mature future.

Why grounding yourself in your desired future is essential for bringing it into reality. The inspiration behind this meditation, including insights from Post Capitalist Philanthropy by Lynn Murphy, and teachings from Joanna Macy, Elizabeth Purvis, and EMDR practices. A guided visualization to connect with your future self, receive wisdom, and embody the version of you that has already arrived.

The importance of calling your energy back to yourself before stepping into an expansive vision. How to integrate the feelings, insights, and wisdom of your future self into your present life. Why This Matters: It’s easy to dwell in frustration about what’s not working—whether in love, work, or the world at large. But what if, instead of just resisting what is, you started living in alignment with the future you actually want?

This meditation is a tool to help you do just that.

Resources & Mentions: Post Capitalist Philanthropy: Healing Wealth in a Time of Collapse – Lynn Murphy Joanna Macy’s Work on Deep Ecology & The Great Turning Elizabeth Purvis’ Manifestation Teachings EMDR & Future Self Visualization

Connect with Sefora: www.therapytothrive.com

@seforaray

✨ If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review! Let’s build a more secure, resourced, and connected future together. 💛

Welcome to the Resource Yourself Podcast with Sefora!

🌟 In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the fascinating and transformative world of shadow work. Shadow work isn’t just about dealing with your inner gremlins—it’s about reclaiming your wholeness and seeing yourself (and others) with more compassion and clarity.

From understanding Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow to exploring the bright shadow (the Beyoncé of your psyche!), this episode will help you navigate your inner world and relationships with wisdom, resilience, and maybe even a bit of humor.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Key Takeaways: Shadow Work Basics The shadow includes parts of yourself you’ve suppressed and project onto others.

Owning these parts helps you become more whole, less reactive, and more compassionate.

Shadow Work in Relationships Emotional triggers are often tied to disowned traits.

By recognizing your projections, you can improve communication, set healthier boundaries, and experience deeper connections.

The Bright Shadow The bright shadow represents your hidden talents, strengths, and potential.

The qualities you admire in others often reflect traits you have but haven’t fully expressed.

Practical Exercises Identify traits in others that trigger or inspire you.

Ask yourself: How do these traits reflect something in me? Practice affirmations like, “I have the courage to shine,” and take small actions to embody these traits.

Sefora’s Stories: Childhood experiences with being nicknamed "Lobotomy" and how it shaped her need to seem smart. Living in an eco-village and navigating community dynamics with shadow work. How growing up in a divorced family influenced her ability to see multiple perspectives—and her shadow desire for conviction and certainty. Resources Mentioned: Book:

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford.

Visit www.therapytothrive.com for more resources and support.

Challenge for This Week: Think of one person who really annoys you and one person you admire. What traits are you noticing in them? How might those traits reflect something about you? Journal about it or try the shadow work exercises shared in this episode.

Closing Inspiration: “As Rumi says, ‘Welcome every part of yourself in. Sit with them, have tea.’ Because when we do this, we become better—not just for ourselves but for the world around us.” Thank you for tuning in! If you loved this episode, please share it with a friend and leave a review to help others discover the show.

For more tips, resources, and support, visit www.therapytothrive.com. Let’s keep exploring this powerful work together! 🌟