What do you do when an important conversation doesn't go your way?

Do you give up, get angry, or tell yourself the issue isn't that important? Or, do you figure out what went wrong and try something different?

In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing how to recover from a difficult conversation, which is an important aspect of avoiding unproductive arguments and resolving ongoing conflict. Listen to learn more about how you can reflect on what happened and try something different.

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More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x

It's easy to get sucked into an unproductive argument if you aren't prepared for it.

Learn the two big mistakes that lead to unproductive arguments and how to navigate around them so you can work through your challenges without losing your cool or getting shut down.

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Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-88

More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x

It's becoming more and more common that the standard for a good marriage is intimacy, not longevity.

How do you make the shift to a more intimate marriage after you've been hurt, rejected, or just slipped into the daily monotony of life, kids, and careers?

Listen to this episode for three tips to increase intimacy in your marriage and the one truth about intimacy that will help you move forward even when you aren't sure what your next step should be.

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Get the full show notes, podcast transcript, and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-87

More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x

How do you maintain intimacy in a long-term relationship?

This can be such a loaded question. But it's an important question. Because now, more than ever, couples want more than just a relationship based on sharing the responsibilities of taking care of a family plus sex in acceptable intervals.

Family life educator Amberly Lambertson joins us on the podcast to talk about some natural and comfortable ways to enhance your physical and emotional connection with your partner.

I ask her:

• How do you define intimacy and why is it important to know what it means?
• How do physical and emotional intimacy work together? 
• What can couples do to improve their physical and emotional connection?
• How can couples work on their physical intimacy outside the bedroom?
• What advice do you have for women who feel like all physical affection comes with an expectation for sex?

Follow Amberly Lamberston on Instagram at @aprioritizedmarriage and @daviscountydates

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Get the full show notes, podcast transcript, and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-86

More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x

Following up on last week's episode on differentiation, Sharon talks about some of her experiences working through mismatched expectations and conflict over household responsibilities in her marriage.

She shares:

• How being the "golden child" set her up for a habit of over-functioning in marriage
• How she focused on her own growth and personal work, even when Mario's behavior was unacceptable
• What's on the other side of the long and painful journey of making room for yourself in a marriage where you once felt exploited and unappreciated

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Get the full show notes, podcast transcript, and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-84

More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x
• Get the book "Everything Isn't Terrible" https://amzn.to/3JqpzHM

Not all couples therapists agree on the right way to resolve marital conflict​

Traditionally the idea has been that taking a more accommodating stance will improve the relationship. But often, the pressure to accommodate each other can limit our growth and get in the way of true intimacy and satisfaction. 

If you want a relationship where you feel truly seen, heard, and valued as an individual first you have to become a whole person. And then you have to have the courage to be that whole person in the face of someone who might not like or agree with you.

That's the basis of differentiation.

MFT student Brooke Rasmussen joins us on the Keep Talking Revolution podcast to talk about:

• What differentiation means in marriage and family systems
• Why a relatively peaceful marriage can feel stale or dead
• How facing your anxiety in your relationships and becoming stronger from it is the key to a satisfying and fulfilling marriage

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Get the full show notes, podcast transcript, and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-84

More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x

If I were to give you my best advice about relationships and whether or not now is the time to put a lot of effort into your relationship development, this is the main question I would ask… “Would you be able to continue with how things are right now indefinitely?”

If the answer is no (which it has been for me several times over the course of my 10-year marriage) this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Keep Talking Revolution Podcast, we're talking about how to set practical and inspiring relationship goals. We discuss...

• Why you might hesitate to set a goal, especially a relationship goal.
• Three questions to help you discover a goal that is both practical and inspiring.
• What to consider when you're making a plan that will keep you moving forward in a positive direction.
• Two big mistakes to avoid when you're working on goals that involve people who matter the most.
• What might get in the way of your goal and how to recognize your "competing commitments."

Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-83

More about Sharon:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
• Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution
• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x

 

A year end wrap up for the Keep Talking Revolution Podcast. We talk about the Respected + Connected program, what I’ve learned in my business and how it impacts my personal life, popular episodes and posts, and what’s coming in 2023.

 

Schedule a 15-minute call to apply to join Respected + Connected by January 6th: respectedanconnected.com

 

Listen to this year’s most popular episode: keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-65

 

Join the conversation about why we need to stop blaming moms for raising entitled sons: https://www.instagram.com/p/CYUTnODr4ht/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link 

 

Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-82

More about Sharon:

Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements

Schedule a Relationship Reset Session: keeptalkingrevolution.com/resetsession

Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution

Have you ever read a marriage book that came highly recommended to you and it just fell flat?

Maybe you start to wonder “what’s wrong with me…or what’s wrong with us that this thing that has been so helpful for someone else isn’t working for us?”

Today on the podcast I’m talking about a very popular and often misused marriage book.

I’m going to tell you why I think it’s so popular, when I think it’s useful, how it can be misused, and most importantly – how to love your partner better even if you don’t know their love language. 

 

Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-81

More about Sharon:

Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements

Schedule a Relationship Reset Session: keeptalkingrevolution.com/resetsession

Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution

RESPECTED AND CONNECTED IS CURRENTLY OPEN FOR ENROLLMENT. Find out more and schedule a free 15-minute call to apply at respectedanconnected.com.

This week on the podcast, Sarah George shares her experience participating in the Respected + Connected program and how it’s changed her marriage.

 

Sarah shares:

• How she’s learned how to communicate with her husband in a more honest and unscripted way
• How the weight of having to know the right thing to say and the right time to bring things up has been lifted off her shoulders
• How having a target to shoot for makes it easier to stay on course, and get back on track
• How letting go of the need to control the conversation has helped her feel more validated and connected

We can assume so much about our people, especially when we have known them for a long time. But it can be so helpful to to let go of what we expect, speak up honestly, and let a conversation unfold naturally.

 

Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-80

More about Sharon:

Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements

Schedule a Relationship Reset Session: keeptalkingrevolution.com/resetsession

Follow Keep Talking Revolution on Instagram: instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution