When your partner responds negatively in a tough conversation, do you assume it's your fault or get blamed for "making things worse"?

Are you compelled to backpedal, smooth things over, or even withdraw your complaint or request?

In this episode, I break down the fear many women have when speaking up - the fear of making things worse.

We talk about:

• Where the fear of making things worse comes from.

• How to recognize that it's time to make a change.

• Three things you can do to overcome your fear.

Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/podcast/b/ep-98

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Walking on eggshells in a marriage is more common than you might think. And the best part is, when you stop doing it, your marriage can get a lot better.

If you've been walking on eggshells for way too long listen to learn:

• A simple formula for being more honest (and human) in your relationships 
• How to deal with the inevitable fallout of disrupting the status quo
• Pitfalls to avoid when you stop taking responsibility for managing others' reactivity

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https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/podcast/b/ep-96As a coach who specializes in working with high-achieving men, Rhonda Farr has some great insight on how to help driven people have more satisfying relationships. Rhonda believes that the key to more connection and intimacy is a greater level of self-intimacy.

In this episode of the Keep Talking Revolution podcast, we discuss:

• Why it's so much easier to blame our partner for a lack of connection than to see our part in our struggles.
• The power of self-awareness ("self-intimacy") in opening the door to more relational intimacy.
• How to take radical responsibility for your emotions without becoming cold or aloof.

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Connect with Rhonda Farr: 

• Rhonda’s website
• Rhonda on Instagram

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https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/podcast/b/ep-96Everyone knows that ultimatums are bad right? Not necessarily.

In today's episode, we're exploring when an ultimatum can be just what's needed to move a relationship forward and how you can know if you're communicating in a way that will damage your relationship or make it better.

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We've all heard that boundaries are important, but it can be confusing to know where to start.

Our guest Sherralynn offers a great tool to get started - your boundary bill of rights.

We talk about:

• What a bill of rights is and how it helps you know what boundaries to set
• How knowing your "rules of engagement" helps you say "no" more easily and deal with boundary crossers and manipulators
• A few ideas to get you started creating your own bill of rights 

Connect with Sherralynn Arnold & buy her book at deardreamer.com

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Join me on June 16th for "The Needy No More Workshop: How to communicate your needs without being needy or demanding." This workshop is about transforming how we discuss and fulfill our needs in our marriages. It's not a transaction; it's an opportunity to demonstrate generosity and support each other's well-being.

Sign up by June 15th at needynomore.com

One thing all good problem solvers do well is this: they know which problem to focus on to get the most out of their problem-solving efforts.

But, how do you know what the "right" problem is to solve? 

In this episode of the Keep Talking Revolution podcast, we discuss:

1. What kinds of problems are always a problem
2. The difference between shame-based problems and dream-based problems
3. The importance of focus and celebrating small wins when you're tackling tough relationship issues

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Have you ever looked at your partner and wondered if you missed something important when you started your relationship? Did you miss a red flag, and if so what now?

Dr. Yael Dubin offers a different perspective on these common "red flags" and instead offers the perspective that this may just be the trailhead of your healing journey.

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Connect with Dr. Yael Dubin

• Your Personality and You Workbook: Exercises to Better Understand Yourself and Who You Want to Be
• Bechira Coaching Website
• Social Media Links
• Five Keys To Finding Lasting Love free pdf
• Mindful Dating Women’s Group

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Do you often feel overwhelmed with everything on your plate? Your spouse wants to help, but deciding what needs to be done, when it happens, and how to do it is still your job.

In this episode, I'm talking about how to overcome this dynamic of parenting your spouse so that the help you're getting is actually helpful.

We talk about:

• How to recognize when you're parenting your spouse
• Two things to stop doing, and two things to start doing to move toward a more equitable partnership
• How to respond when you've been playing to your partner's demands for too long and you're ready to create a more equitable & intimate relationship

Resources Mentioned:

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzn.to/3KKWUMK

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Nobody talks about what to do when you love your partner, but you don't really like him. And when they do, the advice they offer is not particularly helpful.

In this episode of the podcast, I want to normalize the idea that it's OK to not like your partner all the time. And, there are things that you can do to not stay stuck in that state of what Terry Real calls "normal marital hatred."

If you don't relate to the idea of not always liking your partner, this episode is not for you. But, if you find yourself feeling like you're a little bit happier when he's not around listen below for some ideas of how to get out of your funk and back to a more peaceful coexistence.

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Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-90

More Resources from the Keep Talking Revolution podcast:

• Free Guide, “Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation”: keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements
• Schedule a free consult call: keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
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• Buy the Respected and Connected workbook on Amazon (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/3WHNV3x