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In this episode we continue with part 2 of our book review of the new memoir by Cait West called RIFT. We pick up with discussing the views both in the book and in our former congregation around singleness, courtship, and marriage.

If you are needing resources related to mental health and/or spiritual trauma, find links below that have been personally helpful to us:

RIFT by Cait West

Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves

Podcast: The Allender Center

Book: A Church Called Tov

Book: When Narcissism Comes to Church

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In this episode we discuss a new spiritual trauma memoir called RIFT.  The author grew up in the same denomination that we left and therefore we each find her book insightful and relatable. 

RIFT by Cait West purchasing link

Cait's Instagram page

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I'm going solo in this episode, sharing the story of my life that led me to join a high control religious (HCR) community. Our stories always lead the way and to attune to them and their power over our choices is to gain clarity.

Here are the links mentioned in this episode:

Rift by Cait West
All.Things.New Instagram page

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This is the final installment of my conversation with a former member of the same church we left. In the past two episodes she has shared some of the reasons they were attracted to the church in the first place as well as  aspects of her childhood story of religious trauma that she was beginning to see in this church’s culture.

In this last chapter my guest shares the final red flags and events that drove them to leave the congregation.  As always, we welcome your comments and feedback: [email protected]

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In this episode I continue my conversation with another former member of the same church community we left.  She shares in particular how she suffered under religious trauma as a child in a patriarchal home and how it both impacted and clarified her experience in this rigid faith community.

Here are links to the resources mentioned in the episode:

⁠Cultivating Kids, Enriching Parents⁠

⁠Thy Rod and Staff They Comfort Me⁠

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In this episode I am joined by a guest who was also a member of the same high- control church. She shares her family's attraction to the community in the first place and what were some of the initial red flags that ultimately led to their departure.

This episode does discuss spanking and other sensitive topics so may not be appropriate for small children.

Link mentioned in episode:

G.R.A.C.E.: Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment

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In this episode we discuss the uncomfortable feeling of cognitive dissonance we experienced in our high control religious culture. Intense self doubt and feelings of confusion characterized many of our years there as the black-and-white teaching collided with what our gut was telling us. We had a choice to make, and it wasn't easy. 

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In this episode we discuss the roles of men and women in the church as well as the presence of patriarchy. As always, we welcome your comments and feedback at: [email protected]

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In this episode we pick up where we left off from Episode 4 discussing Education & Homeschooling (Part 1) . The perspective of a child raised in a high control church culture is again insightful, rare, and essential. 

We would love to hear your stories of being homeschooled, good or bad. You can contact us  at: [email protected] 

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In this episode we will be discussing how our church's high control culture affected how families educated their children.  The perspective of a child growing up in this environment is particularly critical to know, as it is often overlooked when considering educational choices.  We will continue this story in Part 2 ~Episode 5.

We would love to hear your stories of growing up under the influence of homeschooling. You can reach us by email :  [email protected]